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Gooday folks,please i need your help/advice.As far back as 2004, when i was still in the polytechnic,i observed my head was heavy.9yrs after,am still feeling it.Pls what could be the problem and what should i do.thanks

Thanks @efemena,sory,i realy dnt think i need all those.tanks

@bellong,i really get the "gist".thanks alot

byvan: If she has never lied to you before,she is doing it now.People will always play the "You don't trust me "card when they are lying.Sweeping under the carpet solves nothing for all the dirts will start creeping up when beneath the carpet can't hold them anymore.

Tanks ma

House,thanks for all the contributions,i sincerely apreciate everybody.
I spoke with my wife yesday.concerning what they discussed for over 10mins,she said it was "all about us",ie they discussed me and her.I tried to know more about the "us" discussion,precisely when the relatnshp startd and the essence of the relatnshp.well,despite the friendly atmosphere,mywife insinuated i "no longer" trust her and she isnt happy about that.I called her attentn to the fact that this is the 1st time,after almost 3yrs of marriage,that i will be asking her these questions.Also,drawing frm sombody's advice here(NL),I reminded her of our no-opposite-sex-friendship.She became unwilling to continue the discussion,she said she wish we just "laugh it off".
Well,just as another person adviced here,i decided to just let the sleeping dog continue its sleep,knowing she can easily get provoked,though i feel this is just sweeping the dirt under the capet.
my people,thanks once more.

Still meticulously going through the various advices,i really apreciate evry body,nagode!!!.am still here...

armyofone: I don't like it when ladies call another guy 'uncle' when he is not related to you. Just say Amos, a friend of mine.

OP, you don't speak to your female friends?

You should have said, who is Amos? Let's invite him to dinner.
I think you should apologize to your wife. I'm sorry Alleri for what happened yesterday. Please let's invite him over for dinner.

I tink i need to clerify somtin here.when we were about to marry,i and my wife actualy agreed no opposit-sex-friend,ie i willnt keep female friends and mywife willnt keep male friends.my concience can confirm it that i have no female friend

yellowpawpaw: Poster,I went tru ur replies.nobody is supportin ur wife.any response u got was as a result of ur post.it was too commanding and possessive.
It seems u r in grip of ur emotions again. U can sleep over d matter cos any thing u say now ur wife might be on d defensive.
If its disturbin u so much,do ur investigation but I tell u,it might backfire if wifey is not guilty as charged.
Nagode

Tank you so much

FineBro: Go make Us proud.

Yea,and return to coach super igo.good 4 nigerian football

Tanks mrs efemena_xy.just read ur second post.i really apreciate.we will definatly talk dis evenin.tanks ma

Pataki: Please don't play semantics with me. You clearly mentioned divorce in your post. Why would you think to such an extreme end of an issue you don't have a full comprehension on?

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

OK,now i understand wat u min.pls am so sory if u feel insulted,sincerely am sory

maclatunji: There is a problem when married people still cite "freedom".

Yes, you are not a slave to your spouse but you have serious commitments and a great part of those your "freedoms" have to give way.
I think it is insultive for the wife to say it is just "platonic".

OP, I am hoping you married a decent woman. Let her know that she devalues herself with such behaviour and if she has any sense of responsibility should cut such relationships to only those absolutely necessary for her to get things done.

Hmm,anoda beautiful one.tanks senior.
i observ guys see it d way i see it but ladies are making me feel somhw wrong.well,am getin encoraged to meet her so dat we totalyy resolv it.THATS WHY I LV NL.am stil listening...

bellong: If you love football, invite Uncle Amos for dinner and discuss about the transfer window over peppersoup. The discussion will be good for both parties.

Be careful how you police madam oo, do not let insecurity get a better of you.

It is well with you

lol@ pp sop.Tanks bro,but uncle is in nasarawa state while we recide in kaduna.nagode mallam

@efemena_xy tanks tanks tanks.u know,somtimes emotns deprives one of simple logic.tanks for opening my eyes.but note,i didnt say d call lasted for 3mins,i said 3mins after d call.d duratn was even one of d tins dat made me unconfortable,over 10mins.also,y couldnt she explain til d folowin monin?buy time?uptil now she doesnt even hav an xplanatn to y she couldnt xplain til nxt monin.we not just hus n wife,we also like frnds.i waited 4 almost 10mins yet she couldnt xplain

dayleke: To all of you saying this is not infidelity( not that I'm saying it is),
the man knows his wife more than y'all.They have been together for quite some time
and if he asks his wife a question and she says something and the body language is saying something else,
he should be able to know.This is sixth sense working now.
And before you all crucify me,I don't know the man neither the wife but we don't wanna hear
some months down the line that she moved out.
@OP,please keep an open mind and suggest meeting "Uncle Amos" and let's see what happens.
Please keep us updated.
May Peace be in your home.

I realy apreciate mybro

yellowpawpaw: I wonder.divorce is naw ewedu and okro soup with poundy.
Poster let me ask u,don't u hv female friends? No aunty in ur phone? Common,let sleeping dog lie!
Did ur wife give u reason not to trust her? Chille abeg.
I hv many uncles and bros in my phone.even daddys.
Mr YP has uncountable aunties and sis them for his phone.
There is life outside marriage naw. Its not prison abeg.

LOL @ ewedu n okro.ma/sir,i didnt say i like divorce,i said i dislike it.weda i hv antis or nt my wife is very much aware of all d numbers in my fone because shes always wit my fone.tanks

slimyem: There's more to Uncle Amos than your wife has told you. Simply tell her you want to meet Uncle Amos. Ordinarily,she shouldn't have friends you don't know about or who don't know about you.

Exactly wat i told her.she knows virtualy evry number in my fone

taryour: Hmmm this uncle amos nawa o,wetin dem dey discuss for 3 min Looks fishy to me and I don't like the idea one bit. Your wife should sure have her boundaries and know when to short her door. Hmm why did she wait till the next morning before giving you an explanation That's even enough reason to give room for funny thoughts.

Yea,waitin til d folowin monin was my headach.on our wedin day i promisd myself never to suspect her over flimsy tins.but she waited a whole nit.tanks

Pataki: Invite the so-called Uncle Amos for dinner na!

But more seriously, why are you requesting that your wife should delete his number? That smacks of a possessive, insecured jealous husband.

If you sincerely love your wife, divorce should not be the first thing on your mind!

Tanks 4d advice.i didnt say am tinkin divorc,i said i DETEST(dislike)divorc.tanks again

Gooday folks,please i need your candid advice.
on sunday evening,while i was playing football with my two yrs old son in the sitting room,i overheard my wife making a call at the other end of our sitting room.About three minutes after the call i asked her who was on the line,she looked slightly ruffled, "uncle Amos",she said.I expected her to explain further,but she said nothing more,so i demanded who uncle amos is,she only said "you wouldnt know him".since i observed she wasnt ready to talk,i told her i was going to sleep.
The following morning she told me "uncle Amos" teaches in her sister's school,her elder sister has a school in keffi,we reside in kaduna.
The most shoking aspect of the whole drama was when i suggested she delete the number and stop all form of communications,mywife told me she doesnt like the idea,except if i want her to lie to me.she said she can guaranty its just platonic.
I try explaining but she remained adamant.folks,pleas what should i do?I detest divorce and infidelity.

Dis naija movis n its atificial love it promotes is realy nt helpin our young ladies,it has stopd dem frm tinkin wit their heads.dey watch a movie where a guy falls in love wit a lady n begins to take her to diffrent places like beach,eatris,shows etc, dis girls tends to blv d best way/sign dat a guy is in lov is wen he takes dem(always)to all dis places.dats y play boys are realy havin their ways.smh

recide in kaduna.d gov n gej r birds of same colours, i.e no motn talk more of movmnt

Jarus: Tell me who's more likely to be right:

Humans that just sit down and fix a specific date (e.g December 25), when you and I know time changes (6:15 pm today, you may have sun still full, same 6:15 pm next month, it's dawn already)

or

Humans that follow the dictate of sun and moon (which are natural)?

Which one is more subject to human volition/desire?

Sincerely,i dnt know y u occatnaly sound like an ilitrate(sory,nt insult).d hijra calendar folows d revolutn of d moon round d earth while d gregorian/scientific(pls not xtian as som want us 2 blv)alighns wit d revolutn of d earth round d sun.so, which one is "natural" n which is man made?if u ask me i tink d gregorian is FAR beta because it can b used in predictin weather.today ramadan falls in rainy season/summer(norhern hemisphere),ten yrs time ramadan will fall in dry season/winter.to follow d hijra calendar is to folow confutn

tank goodnes 4 science,religion is so naiv abt earth n cosmology.instead of being "flexible"(as stated above) d "omniscience God" should have known that there are places(durin certain seasons of d yr)dat wil xperienc 24hs sunshine/darkness n tel its folowers ahead of time.dis reminds one of d quranic verse dat tels muslims 2 pray durin comon-eclips of d moon,som fanatics even interprets it as d result of d sin of "infidels".d govt had 2 deploy soldiers on d streets durin d last lunar eclips in kaduna.religion,especially xtianity n islam,is such a huge contraptn.

Seriously,d govt should do somtin abt dis roamin vampires.dis is 21st century,wanderin has long been abolishd.internatnal borders has been drawn.fulanis must be told to stay within their region.nothin stops dem 4m takin trailers down south n purchase fresh grass durin dry season

brownlord: Nonsence, let them bring out the donors of this project if u find any female among them, mk she talk wetin she do for those men before them sponsor this project, am a servin call member and i knw what am talking about, am presently servin in one of the local govt. In osun, in the whole of this LGA no good place to eat, except some useless buka where u be served, one nonsence soup with 2 cups of stew, u cant find anywhere to eat jollof/fried rice or other varieties thereby making it difficult for non yourubas to cope even the place is close to their state capital, i told a girl of my intention to try a little restaurant or fast food joint and she told me not to bother, that she a batch B, tried a laundering service, after several warnings from one person doin same bizness, shes been battling wit health issue since she commenced, another girl told me of one ibo woman who opened a restaurant and a while some restaurant owner gang up and they told her is she love her life she shld flee from the community so make them park well, all the big project for nysc scheme na only girls dey always execute am, shebi na dem dedicate to the programme pass abi?

after readin tru ur irratnal n illogical xplanatn am tempted 2 ask again:ARE U SURE U ARE A CORP MEMBER/GRADUATE or...

midetinz: Hoping it won't be bombed soon

no,chikun LG is on d xtian portn of d state

okpara ugo: He is saying the truth is a looser's way. Why didnt he say such truth under Abacha? Smh

You sef go look person before you tell am truth. I dont balme him, he has placed them there to protect his a55, yet he turns to insult him.

I never knew OBJ could be so unintelligent. With protruding orifice....

bros,d last time i checkd,abacha accused obj of plotin a coup because obj was constantly against his govt.i stil hate obj sha

Am nt a muslim.if it were nt 4 religious bigotry/hatret most of us cryin against dis machin/law would hav supportd it,even prescribin it 4 naijiria.pls dnt get it twisted,am never an advocate of capital punishmen,if u ask me,d best way to fight crime in d society is by adresin poverty.i strongly feel d best way to treath a criminal is to 1st mentaly REHABILITATE him/her while his movement is restricted(call it prison) and later economicaly rehabilitate him/her

jamal230: Wat wil be wil be

alhaji,since "wat wil b wil b" no need of even trainin/preparin 4d match den

Jarus: I am from Offa and spent the first 18 years of my life there.

I grew up hearing and reading about the Offa-Erin Ile communal clash of late 1970's, and remember seeing a picture [in Pa James Olafimihan's book, Iwe Itan Offa (history of Offa)which I read many years ago] of then Head of state, Obasanjo, with the traditional rulers of the two communities signing peace accord in 1979.

Too bad, 34 years on, the hostility hasn't ended. There were similar clashes in 2005 or thereabout before then Governor Bukola Saraki settled it for them, after many lives had been lost.

News reaching me from home say the Erin people started the offensive again. This is not the time to trade blames. I hope our elders will come to their senses and end thsi hostility. Too bad.

bros u said "dis isnt d time to trade blame" yet "news" reachin u 4rm ur home says "erin ppl started it".WHAT AN IRONY.lol