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ariesbull:
Don't speak for them...let them decide. So in your mid the Uche from Asaba would leave Uche from Anambra for Funke in Ilorin


Don't worry

Oga it seems u are confused whenever u hear a an Igbo name or come across someone speaking igbo u conclude that the bearer of the name must be an Igbo person which is a very wrong way of thinking. Let me tell u the truth, ur ideology is totally wrong. Let me just give a brief analysis on things here; For example

If a cross river man from Calabar south who speaks efik marries an Anambra lady(Igbo speaking) who bears children for him. He eventually decides to give his kids Igbo names because of his love for d wife. Maybe the father is so accommodating n comfortable such that he allows his wives people(igbo in laws n relatives ). Now the children as well grow up to speak Igbo Language very well. So now u come across one of the man's children, does it mean that the child is Igbo because he/she speaks Igbo and has an Igbo name?
Oga pls calm down, people speaking igbo in south south states doesn't mean that any of those States are own by igbos. Thank u

[quote author=milemimi93 post=71878203][/quote]The truth is that no South south state will even join South east for anything. They South East are on their own.

simplebb:
Your point is quite true though, I have lost count of the number of firms have applied to online that am clearly qualified for, but I won't even hear or get any mail to that effect from them. Nigeria Labour Market is so messed up and it is the survival of the fittest so people use that networking means, Quite painful to say It is not about how much you know but more about who you know (that doesn't mean one should not be sound upstairs though but sometimes this ain't enough). A lot of all these online Job adverts are just for PR sake, just for them to also be in d open. So u are correct (at least 85% of this so called advert).

That last part input of yours, how can one go about it? Getting information on when a company wants to recruit, I believe that method will really work to a great extent.

As for the firm that put me in d waiting list, It is Seplat Petroleum DC, my own regret mail was different from all the rest who made it to the finals stage (the fourth stage of a 9 Months recruitment process), I was just thinking maybe if I had someone to help push on my strong performances, I will have gotten the job but I only hold on to Hope and have moved on. The country ain't easy but Man has got to keep pushing and hoping rain falls one day on one's path.

To get information, u have to source for information. Sometimes I go as far as paying a visit to the environment where most of these contracts are executed. As a very social guy and good mixer I easily interact with some workers and the locals around(who surprisingly have a lot of infor on the current happenings in regards to new jobs n employment). These people call n inform me of every opportunity they see on regards to my discipline. This year alone I have had few job offers but they are all offshore jobs which I don't currently have the permit(DPR-290k, Boseit-300k) as they are quite expensive. Well if u are offered employment in new contracts then most companies will do the permit for u but the offers I had were for already existing jobs.

simplebb:
Great input here, all the points you have outlayed is correct. That number two is quite a concern to me, why is it that the oil and gas sector in Nigeria doesn't contribute so much to employment like other good paying sectors e.g.banking industry despite all d money, all d activities, I do know they pay far better for entry level anyways, but coming across job advert for Oil companies graduate Trainee is so rare. Even the one that I saw and passed through, I wasn't selected at d final stage despite a great performance due to a number of factors which I believe to be not being from the host community, connection and no one to lobby for me (at least in my rejection mail, d Performance was strongly acknowledged and I was placed on 24 Months awaiting list during which I can be considered), was shocked some days ago when I read that Chevron hasn't converted 2013 employed casual workers engineers to full time and they had to go on protest.

As much as it is a lucrative sector, it seems it is far above the means of the ordinary man in d society and only for those who are connected.

Deep sigh.

My brother one of the main reasons why I don't apply for online jobs is the fact that most of them are not credible. U will be surprised that some companies u applied for jobs online won't invite u for an interview or test, even after ur c.v and credentials proves u are highly qualified for the job. What I have learnt is that most jobs advertised online are just for formality sake as people have already been picked b4 putting it online. The reason some big companies put d fake adverts online is so they have facts to defend themselves in case of accusations or protest as well as the claims of maintaining their repution. What I do is to have information on when a company wants to recruit, then I go there directly to submit my c.v and it has worked for some people.

which of the companies did put in 24 months awaiting list?

simplebb:
That's good. One can't afford to be idle till when that dream job comes. But staying in a town where crude oil is being drilled should make getting a job easier for you as an engineering graduate. Just my view though.

Well I think ur View is very wrong in the sense that
1. There are so many engineering graduates based in the same town, let's also add up those who had graduated before and after me and u will be shocked at the total number who are still jobless.

2. The work strength(number of workers) in Oil and gas sector of Nigeria isn't as much as u might assume. If I sum up together all the crude oil companies including NNPC, and all other companies that run contracts like maintenance, project etc, They don't have up to 30,000 workers in total. And remember when adding up new staffs(recruitment) they pick very few which most times are hired after lobbying. These companies posses the highest paying jobs in the country so everyone including Europeans hustle to work for some of this companies. Am just trying to educate u on how competitive and difficult it can be to get employed in this sector.

3. Staying in a town where an oil company is based doesn't mean u have the right connections that will get u employed. If u are smart, then u can have a lot of information but knowing people at the top who has the needed profile(influence) to push the right button for u is very difficult. And u know only very few have people in such positions. So most times its all about who u know and not all about where u base.

simplebb:
U have said it all. This sums up everything. It is just a case of every Man fighting for himself and his family. It is truly the survival of the fittest and in Nigeria nobody cares about anyone, so if you don't have anyone to help you, just turn to God squarely and don't let go of Him.

It pains me a lot though. After finishing with good grades and armed with the knowledge, one will still find it tough to get a very well paying job in one desired industry because of lot of glitches. Anyway, we press on.

Well when there is life, there is always hope so never give up bro. Most times perseverance breeds success. Hopefully u will succeed in one of the companies pretty soon...

simplebb:
Very discrete, a lot of factors go into the decision making, connection, oil community preference and few slots left for merit. You are so much right. One can only pray and do one's best. I did one oil firm recruitment recently, got to the final stage d fourth stage, put in my best in it only to be sent a mail that I wasn't picked but due to my performance, they will place me on 24 Months awaiting list and call me once there is a suitable opportunity, the thing weak my bones ooooooo. But we press on. BTW you are so much knowledgeable about the industry. Do you work there??

Hahhahahaha no, I don't work there but I am based in one of the towns drilling crude oil. I occasionally do make findings on the availability of jobs based on my field(mechanical Engr). I am currently doing a government job to keep things ticking till I can get a job that befits my discipline.

simplebb:
It amazes me how we can't have a 100% Merit driven recruitment in this country. It is a total shambles.

Hahahhahaha when there is so much poverty and lawlessness in a country, people are liable to compromise. A man who feeds his family and his extended family will jump at the opportunity to lobby for his bro/sis(qualified or not) the next available vacant position so as to be relieved of the burden. Nobody seems to care abt d proficiency of a staff which will give the company the best result anymore. Its always let's fill our stomach first. It all started from our leaders bro.

simplebb:
Alright, thanks for your input.

Any idea of their recruitment process?

No idea bro but I guess it is very similar with the way other oil and gas companies conduct their recruitment process discretely. Actually nobody really knows what happens behind the scene except u are part of the team behind the scene. As an applicant the best thing to do is pray and give it ur best shot.

simplebb:
Thanks bro. But is their recruitment process fair enough, cos have applied. Since the job is for Graduate Engineer and it is a programme where one will be trained and developed, does this theory of preference for practical skills holds, cos I don't have oil and gas industry experience. Just want to know my chances.

Yea it is 50% fair. What I mean is that 50% of people will be pick purely on merit while the other 50% will solely be based on connections(This is the Nigerian way). So u have a 50% chance depending on the population of Nigeria that will apply for that single post! Maybe like over 50,000 Nigerians will likely apply since it is online. Secondly if the job offer says graduate trainee, then definitely u will be trained and placed somewhere to work. It doesn't require any practical skill but only ur educational qualification for u to apply. So goodluck bro.

simplebb:
Have you applied for the graduate Engineer position? Any idea of their recruitment process and pay for Graduate Engineer?

Seems it is a Multinational oil servicing firm.

No, I haven't applied yet. Yes it is a multinational oil servicing firm and they currently have a very big contract with ExxonMobil nig. In terms of payment since their contract is a big project, someone with the position of graduate won't end less than 300k monthly.
Note: mostly of this companies prefer individuals with skills, certification than university n polytechnic degrees. It is a practical(70%) world with less theory(30%). Am telling u this from experience.

simplebb:
Have you applied for the graduate Engineer position? Any idea of their recruitment process and pay for Graduate Engineer?

Seems it is a Multinational oil servicing firm.

No, I haven't applied yet. Yes it is a multinational oil servicing firm and they currently have a very big contract with ExxonMobil nig.

[quote author=joberplanet post=71097570][/quote]?

I am referring to Nigerstar 7 known before as Subsea 7 and Globstar. I am a mechanical Engineering graduate. I just have a feeling u can be of good help.

Good afternoon Op, I know the company and would love to work there. Is there anyway u can help?

Op how can u date a girl for 2yrs and fail to discover that she doesn't love u. I guess the babe has been with u solely for the benefits. Its very easy to spot out the difference btw a girl that loves u and the one that is there for the benefits no matter how she pretends. She was and is still in love with her ex that's why she doesn't mind if he is married or not. That's how crazy women are when they love a particular man. A lady who loves do not mind taking numerous kind of risk and sacrifice for a guy so u need to be very observant in ur next relationship. goodluck...

DONADAMS:
thanks bro..I really appreciate...I'll try this..BTW,,this one you're saying it's strange...I hope you're not thinking it's spiritual sha? :Dthanks bro..I really appreciate...I'll try this..BTW,,this one you're saying it's strange...I hope you're not thinking it's spiritual sha?

Hahahhaha no its not spiritual. D fact that u experienced this with every girl u have sex with makes it look strange to me. Just follow d instruction on my previous post, then come and thank me later.

DONADAMS:
under 19...ehrmm..no..slightly above 19...I don't understand the "comfortable around me" please expatiate...cos they love me dearly that's why they wanna satisfy me with the s*x not that they enjoy it which makes me feel bad

Seriously ur situation is quite strange to me because u pointed out that d size of ur manhood should accommodate most girls. I think d problem is ur method of having sex. It could that u go too hardcore on those girls during sex instead of going at a slower but steady pace. One thing abt sex is that u have to observe the body of ur partner and know what works for her. If ur prick is bigger than her vee, u need to penetrate at a slow but steady pace. Size n method of sex among diff partners varies, so u need to be very observant during ur first time of sexing a girl. Let me stop here. Awaiting ur reply

I was once broke but now am rich. There was a girl who loved me deeply and supported me throughout the struggle. She never disrespected, hurt or looked down on me all through d broke times. Right now she is the only lady and will always be the only lady apart from my sis and mom that will enjoy my love and money. So stop deceiving the good girls out there to share ur same kind of negative mentality because it ain't good at all. Alot of guys who are made today will always go back to n pick that babe(except there was none) that supported them in their years of suffering but will bleep and dump most of the babes they meet after they are made. This is because most men don't trust ladies they know after they are made.

kollinzgee:
Oga madam if a girl loves a guy she will stay with him broke or rich a woman never jokes with a man she loves if she loves him she will help him Stand on his feet.

That's absolutely true. When a girl loves a man, she doesn't care abt anything in the world except being with the man in good and in bad times, rich or poor. And she supports him in the best way she can to make him better. That's how natural love of a woman is. That's how the theme "love is blind" existed. In our society today there still exist alot of these kind of ladies baut the ones with negative mentality o
ershadows them, so it now looks as if almost all our girl are like that but its not.

The fact is when a girl starts making comparison btw a broke and rich guy, then first of all the word love is out of it. Her relationship with d man is strictly based on interest and not Love. It could be interest based on financial status, fame(popularity) etc. That's the main reason we have a lot of broken homes today, that's why there is infidelity everywhere because a woman will at d rate of 70% never be faithful to a man she doesn't love. That is what happens when a lady is married to a man on interest.

DONADAMS:
see as hypocrites full NL...only one person has come up with a reasonable answer...well na the same boat carry us bro....I've never enjoyed s*x...any girl I get down with always complain of pain..the thing go just discourage me... it's not that my kini is even too big( at least to me)...though they say it's big buh compared to others I've seen it isn't... the thing just taya me sef....there's nothing have not done...pre-intimacy, romance et all..still same pain ish...

Ur case is kinda strange based on d fact that all d ladies u had sex with experienced pains and u also said ur cassava isn't that big. First of all I hope all these ladies u had sex with aren't Under 19yrs because girls introduced to sex early tend to be very tight and another point is if they aren't comfortable around u, there is no way she won't feel pains. I can suggest a solution if I understand where ur problem lies.

Divay22:
What's your real name?

Hahahahaha dear, I wouldn't want to drop my name here public forum. Hope u understand. Anyways u can pm me. Thanks

Divay22:

Yep! I can bleep d pussy for 2 straight weeks on daily basis, just that I did be taking lots of milk, fruits n vegetables such as water melon, cucumber, coconut, garlic etc for immediate recovery of energy.

Johnchase56:
I have a girlfriend of about 9 months. She was a virgin when I met her and I was the one who dis-virgin her..but since I have been having sexual intercourse with her neither of us have ever enjoyed the sex because she also complains of pain whenever I penetrate her ...

I have given her head countless times to make her very wet and even used baby lotion for easy entrance but still the same...she complains my d**k is too big and she's scared..I don't want to cheat on her by getting good sex outside..I want to work it out with her

Any remedy

First of all don't mind those immature people spitting thrash instead of giving the advice u seeked for. I wonder why people comment when they don't have any sensible thing to say.
About ur gf having pains during sex because ur dick(too big) and pussy(too tight n painful) is incompatible, try to buy vagina gel which u will have to be applying inside her vagina b4 penetration. Also b4 having sex, try to involve pre-intimacy(romance) until she is really wet b4 penetrating. Then finally try having sex a bit often to ease of d tightness of her vagina. Let's say try hitting d spot for straight 7 days then give her a break. Pls if u don't have d energy to run it for a week, just do it at ur own pace so u won't end up fainting pls

Johnchase56:
I have a girlfriend of about 9 months. She was a virgin when I met her and I was the one who dis-virgin her..but since I have been having sexual intercourse with her neither of us have ever enjoyed the sex because she also complains of pain whenever I penetrate her ...

I have given her head countless times to make her very wet and even used baby lotion for easy entrance but still the same...she complains my d**k is too big and she's scared..I don't want to cheat on her by getting good sex outside..I want to work it out with her

Any remedy

First of all don't mind those immature people spitting thrash instead of giving the advice u seeked for. I wonder why people comment when they don't have any sensible thing to say.
About ur gf having pains during sex because ur dick(too big) and pussy(too tight n painful) is incompatible, try to buy vagina gel which u will have to be applying inside her vagina b4 penetration. Also b4 having sex, try to involve pre-intimacy(romance) until she is really wet b4 penetrating. Then finally try having sex a bit often to ease of d tightness of her vagina. Let's say try hitting d spot for straight 7 days then give her a break. Pls if u don't have d energy to run it for a week, just do it at ur own pace so u won't end up fainting pls

SEONaijaExpert:
She was a betrayal

She was a free giver

She can be easily manipulated

The last is not even the problem but the first two.

Miracle could have covered her national shame by not coming out bluntly. Even as things dies naturally between them.

But you know, karma they say is sexy!

As done unto others, the same also shall be melted out unto you.

Why wouldn't he come out bluntly to state his position on their relationship when most people keep talking and writing trash abt him whenever he post a pix showing him and another female. The guy must be tired of d unnecessary ranting as if he has ever announced publicly that he is in a serious relationship with Nina. Seems some people cannot differentiate the difference btw a game(BBN) and a real life relationship.

Dear OP, I am have been in a distance relationship for over 2yrs now and our love has been growing stronger and stronger. We have even agreed to get married in a year's time or 2yrs time at most due to her education. The first thing that bonds a relationship either close or distant is LOVE. Don't let anyone deceive u against d power of true love. The truth is that when there is genuine/true love, nothing else comes first. A Professor can marry a stark illiterate because of Love. A Queen can marry a hunter because of Love. What am saying is that if u and ur bf truly loves(not a love of interest) each other, then U guys are 80% safe to keep d relationship. Other important factors that will keep u guys are regular communication, trust, commitment. I wish ur relationship d best.

miracle956:
My gf messaged me on Friday on WhatsApp. Then we were enjoying the chat then all of a sudden she fails to reply even after the blue ticks. I resent another message to her again asking her whether I sent anything wrong, she read it again and failed to reply. I got angry because we have been chatting for a hour and I decided not message or call her again. Cos she's the beautiful and curvy type and she likes forming a lot. throughout d next Day I failed to talk to her. I was even expecting her message but to no avail, which is very unusual. Now am feeling so lonely without her. what do you think is wrong cos she does not ignore me like dis.

Baba how market na! Have u resolved the issue with ur babe or u have ended d relationship!

Saff:
Thats why sex was initially created for marriage, because only a husband can stimulate his women mentally and physically to reach an orgasm. So in the end, both parties enjoy sex. But each to their own.

My dear, let me correct u on something. Sex was forever created by God for marriage okay. The fact that people fornicate this days and some societies accept it as normal doesn't mean God accepts it that way. On the topic I really agree with ur point. Sex involves mental and physical stimulation. Mental has to do with emotional feelings (love) while the physical has to do with just physical attraction. In terms of orgasm in a woman there is a high probability that she gets orgasm faster for someone she loves(mental stimulation) than someone she is just likes through physical looks.

Samuelharry798:
Thank you very much @Maxlev1 to be honest I totally agree with you. Things are not done this way, i feel there are better ways to address this issue than how they've chosen to go about it.

Don't mind them, they are just playing the victim card. Well this is a good lesson for all parties to be careful as well as considering all possibilities that might pop up in all their dealings.

This kind of situation discourages foreign investors from doing business in Nigeria. I believe there are better ways to address this situation other than picketing the company's facilities around the country.

These people are going to be paid huge compensation running into millions and yet have chosen to set up camp in the company's facility!