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Oxasbi:
Can celeron processor be used for playing heavy games. I don't mind changing graphic card if needed.

Tbillz:
can the computer gurus in the forum kindly recommend any laptop within the range of 50-60k with good specs. your positive response will be appreciated. thanks

Vincent000:
Am interested in the Dell @ Gusau, Zamfara 07032460238

gylint:
I had to use a new moniker to do this. Pardon me .
I have been married for 9 years now. By any standard, i have had a very good marriage . Great husband and kids.
I married my husband as a divorcee which produced a daughter. He told me all these while we were dating. He never hid any neccessary information from me.
The child has been living with the mother while my husband has been up and doing in the chilld's welfare. He pays the school fees, gives monthly allowance, medical bills and still visits the child at intervals, spends holidays with us and he has a good rapport with the child's mother. Though the woman still complains he doesn't do enough. That's by the way.
I never wanted to marry a man with a child/children as i saw it as a baggage i will not be able to handle.
But my husband was different and I had to marry him with this imperfection cos i am too.
The issue now is, the child does not want to live with the mother again but us( don't know if the mother planned it) because 2 years ago , the child lived with us but the mother's interfernce was too much.
The mother comes to my house at any time to pick the child for one thing or the other and will even miss school atimes. Calls at any time , discusses with my neighbours and so on.
Now the child is back to my house for a permanent stay on the ground of no interference from the mum since i implored my husband that there will not be repeat of any of the previous incidence.
I do all these because of the love i have for my husband but I am not coming to terms with it.
I find it very difficult to love and accept this child as my own. Whenever she is around me, there is this reverberation of negative energy and feelings towards her.
I have never abused her in any sort.
Please i would need matured contributions on how to deal with this situation, loving and accepting her because it is really affecting my emotions which translates to affecting my sex life, business and relationships etc.

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

searching4lovee:


TYPICAL ATTITUDE OF THE AVERAGE NIGERIAN GIRL WILL FOLLOW THEM INTO MARITAL HOMES. MOST NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE COMMERCIAL SEX WORKERS HIDING UNDER THE UMBRELLA OF RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE TO SCAM INNOCENT MEN OF THEIR HARD EARNED MONEY. THEY ARE USED TO DATING MULTIPLE MEN FOR MONEY AND THE THEORY OF MONEY FOR HAND BACK FOR GROUND. THEY HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER INTELLECTUALLY IN RELATIONSHIPS OR MARRIAGES THAN TO OPEN THEIR SMELLY PUSSSIES AND EXPECT TO GET PAID IN RETURN. SHOW ME A NIGERIAN GIRL WITH ONE BOYFRIEND AND I WILL SHOW YOU A PREGNANT VIRGIN. THEY ARE SO MONEY HUNGRY THAT THEY FORGET WHAT MARRIAGE ENTAILS AND STILL CONTINUE DEMANDING FOR MONEY IN MARRIAGE BEFORE GETTING LAID. NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE THE WORST SET OF WOMEN I EVER CAME ACROSS. THIS IS WHY I KEEP ADVOCATING THAT SINGLE MEN WHO CAN AFFORD TO LEAVE THE SHORES OF NIGERIA SHOULD FIND THEIR WIVES ELSEWHERE. SAY NO TO NIGERIAN GIRLS.

#team foreign girls

emooo:
guy please let me pay 15k serious buyer.

byteHead:
APC-Armoured personnel carrier

ademega:
You must be talking from experience . exactly the issue

qbd2:
Be sincere with her and keep off anything dat can bring suspicion.

ademega:
How do you resolve issues with a woman that doesn't want anybody around you and as a man that people are always earger to be with .
Sensible contribution please

tukurmubarak:
hw fa?? i want d dell....08093795650... i liv in zaria/gusau.

charles009:
Hey folks,

I have a preety fiancee, I love her to bits and we are all set to enjoy our lives together. but she is too worrisome.

Can you believe a girl of 24 literally lives on me. Once am back from work. i am being attacked with kisses, jumping, crawling all over me like if she is 3.
i cant focus to do anything, Baby kiss me, Do you know I love you, Baby i missed you,Baby let me remove something from your teeth. jisos

At night we sleep scissors style, with her legs caging mine. The moment i decide to use the toilet, she screams baby where are you going to? hia abi this girl no dey sleep.

If i stay 5 mins, then she must come into the toilet to stay with me.

Na love be this abi na wetin?

taebode:
Hello Nairalanders,
I do souvenir and an old schoolmate contracted me to make some for her on behalf of her client.I usually ask for 7 days but because of the old school ties I take up the job,terms were to finish and deliver in surulere Lagos on Thursday.
Along the line she calls to tell me I'll need to send the souvenirs via bus to onitsha when they are ready because the recipient in surulere has already left for onitsha (apparently she's also in onitsha), she instructs that I should send from Jibowu and that I shouldn't pay more than N1,000.
I finished the souvenirs on Thursday and proceeded to Jibowu to send. She'll take delivery in Onistsha.The driver loading for Port-Harcourt,onitsha etal...demands for N2,000 which I obliged,just wanted to send the souvenirs so that it will get to Onitsha in due time.
I pay ,got the driver's details and number,gave him the recipients Number and I head home relieved.
On Friday, by 10 am I call the driver and he says he is at Agbor. She calls about that time and he tells her the same thing. After that time, The driver goes incommunicado.
Around evening of Friday,The driver picks again pleading that I should bear with him that his car was impounded by some authorities and that he'll soon get to onitsha. And that when he's there, he'll call the recipient.
The driver didn't pick my call till about noon time on saturday. He told me he called the recipient late on Friday night to tell her the souvenirs were at Chisco Park in Onitsha.
I called the recipient to tell her and she told me the driver didn't call her and that the souvenirs where already late, and that she wants a refund.
As I type this,the souvenirs are in Onitsha,the driver whenever he picks his call still insists he called her on friday,she still insists he didn't. she's on my neck for a refund. She's gone to my facebook pack to write stuff that's not palatable. She screams and curses when she calls and I hear he husband cursing too.
I'm always mute when they call.
Does she deserve a refund?
I took the job based on the impression that the job will be delivered to surulere lagos on Thursday.
Please Nairalanders, I need your opinion on this.