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[quote author=obiorathesubtle post=40710773][/quote]not until lalasticlala and co-moderators moved the thread that subtly encourages the notion.

Decker:
As for me, I can never marry someone who I haven't had sex with before, it just doesn't make any sense.

Sexual compatibility is key for me when choosing my partner, and there is no way I can know if we are sexually compatible or not, when I haven't had sex with her.

will she qualify you to be compatible with her sexually after she had met your compatibilty test. Hope it won't take you too long before you find one

This article will is the other side to the coin of yesterdays article brought to front-page. Hope you do the needful.

CC:

lalasticlala
seun

I want to take some time out to elucidate on some points i have put forward earlier in this article:

www.nairaland.com/2389449/7-reasons-why-test-sexual

To correct the mindset that corroborate the belief of having sex before going down the aisle.

It's bewildering when we paint a picture and explain a different scenario,in order for the practice of pre-marital sex to be encouraged. That you gave away something precious doesn't make those that still have theirs visionless or outdated.

Many marriages in this our 21st century are ending in divorce and countless unfaithfulness because of what we see as challenges - which we should have seen as what we must grow upon.

This percieved challenges can only be remedied if truly those in this relationship are truly in it's for love and not lust. Let's look into this challenges.

1. Your Future sexual satisfaction is not guaranteed, but your marriage is guaranteed if you can't do without each other.

What's your definition of sexual satisfaction? Are you considering that they are two sides to a coin? If you're satisfied,is your partner satisfied ? How long will you have this sexual encounters with your partner and others after him/her before you say he/she can satisfy your expectations sexually - you may end up single for life doing this - because you may be blocking the room for that man/woman that want you not only because of sex, but because you compliments each other in all other areas of marriage. Some partner may even bring up conditions that condom cannot be used, that's a sure way of destroying one's future with STD or HIV/AIDS. I wouldn't say sex can be done away with in marriage,but pre-marital sex to guarantee for maximum satisfaction is a deceit,that is preposterous. A partner can satisfy you with sexual enhancers,only to step when married. Other factors - psychologically, mentally, physically, emotionally, and neorologically may set in,are you going to call it quit after a Kid? Or you go out for one? Then why are we in marriage if we can get all this outside and remain single mothers and fathers,marriage should Be about companionship, patnership and love.

2.Insatiable crave for sex in marriage leads to Infidelity

Majority have been in relationship before and have explored different sexual encounters with various partners all in the guise of looking for whom to finally go down the aisle, this is the major cause why infidelity can exist,sooner it becomes a part of the man/woman.

You can't be satisfied if you are not contented - you will soon look outside. No man/woman has it all,if one is not given 100% in one of the pillars of marriage, he/she may be good in others and if truly it's love you won't let go.

When you are in marriage the thoughts of looking for alternatives is erased completely,this is when satisfaction can be reached. That he/she has unbelievable energy in bed before marriage also doesn't guarantee,that he/she will be the same in marriage.

3. Sexual chemistry is more guaranteed grow in marriage.

Sexual chemistry can also come by from a relationship born out of physical attraction - lust. What happens if the veil is removed after the end - sex - is had. If it is in marriage, were the two lovebirds crave for more of themselves, sharing all - physically, emotionally, and socially, and growing in understanding even to the slightest gestures,what other better place apart from marriage can sexual chemistry be greatly improved and kept. Sexual chemistry can fade in a relationship once sex is involved and doubts or consideration for unsatisfaction is being thought of.

4. Sex before marriage does not erase the risk of impotency.

Impotency has a long list of causes and can vary according to once definition. There are test that can be conducted to know if your partner is fertile or potent. If a relationship is built on love, partners reveal some of this flaws,and can decide to hide them. That once potent man can become impotent due to some medication, Endocrine disease i.e diabetes,Condition that affect the hearts and it's ability to pump blood well and some emotional causes.

Marriage in itself are meant for true lovers, that will see flaws in one area and find Joy in many other areas, that only want each other because that's when the world will be complete.

Sex for the purpose of erasing all doubts you may have before going down the aisle may only lead to many heart-breaks and lost time. He/she may satisfy you, but may not have eggs or sperm that can produce kids, what then will you do? Our fathers and mothers would not even be married if there were not virgins,and yet their marriage lasted up until their death - why can't ours work. We are not ready to be patient, we want quick fix, we aren't content, we want it the way it is in the movies and novels.

I don't expect every body to say YES, but we should not make people that are ready to stand make a U-turn,with lies.

No relationship survives when conditions of sending nude pictures are brought up.

naughtynaughty:
yes boo, gdaf2nun

bien cordialments, naughty(don't know what else to call You), permit me to replace it with...

naughtynaughty:
bros dt one nah OYO oo, ntin lyk trust. Der r plenty leaked pix shey u knw? Trust nobody, snd nude pix @ur own peril

you could not have said it better!

1. Nowadays, Love in the night, may become hate in the morning.

Yes! he's staying far from where i stay, I want him to think about me when he sleeps, case 2- she's probably missing me, want her to have a glimpse of me for the Night, I don't want to kill this burgeoning and tender relationship. No, bro. yeah, lady, the long distance is one of those test. He or She may wake up the Next day and decide to call it off. During the orientation camp for corps members in a state in Nigeria, a married Lady was caught with two guys in the bush, so what does that tell us? It's not about distance, Its about self-control and the strong-will to remain faithful to that one and only. More disturbing is some scenario were one is being pilloried or forced into sending his/her nude pictures so as to keep a relationship,in my own POV, any relationship built on this has already crashed. It's a clear indication of low self-esteem and lack of self-worth.

2. The relationship may end but the pictures May be kept

A partner may feel like keeping some of the images to always remember those memorable moments he/she would love to scan through when it calls - All relationship don't always end with fights and quarrels, some loving relationship may end due to some reasons beyond man's control. this picture get into the wrong hands, who may post it on social media and before you could say 'stop' it has spread like wildfire.

3. You May be in Lust

Lust can blind one not to be thinking before doing anything for a relationship. I can die for my Fiancée/wife but Lust must not be involved. The question you should answer is that are we really in love. is it always about the six packs, the curls and curves, the Eyeballs like the largest star in the sky, or the pink succulent lips. YOU may be trapped and hoodwinked if you are acting under the influence of lust, because sometimes it seems stronger than love in the short-term

4. Technology has some demerits

I would even suggest that one should not even have his/her nude pictures in the phone or any gadgets or even saved on any online platform. It can be hacked and shared by those with evil intent. your friend might fall prey to one of this demerits and this may be irreparably damaging.

5. What's the Need for Marriage?

If unmarried people can have both offline and online pictures of their girlfriend to behold without paying a penny in the dowry, what then is marriage for. Its safer for one to share with husband or wife's, the risk of being blackmailed in future is greatly reduced, though we know the days are evil and people are steered by the love of money. Inasmuch as what differentiate a married person and most people in relationship is that one has the ring and the other don't- what else is left to practice, since being single mother/father is now welcomed and encouraged in our society, when relationship end - sometimes abruptly, people who suffer the most long-lasting trauma are those that tried to do even what married people are yet to practice or intend doing as married people. Give what you can always forgo in any relationship.

Don't fall prey, if he/she misses you, his/her inability to have a picture of your smile alone and long till he/she meets you to hold those your lovely hands is a sign of lust and lack of commitment to that relationship. Avoid sending naked pictures in whatever guise.

Those of you in stream 2, you need to do a lot of prayers,cos majority of 15B stream 1 were rejected by their PPA especially ministries.

stayceeL:
thanks.

sure you are good to go right about now? Statements of R ready?

ceinfoco:
PHYSICS

quantized. Well, if u can confirm dat d result summary comprising of ur CGPA has been sent to exams and records then u will get it this week.

stayceeL:
yea.. M going to school tomorrow so I can get mine on Monday. POT, school of health

kk. Get back with good tidings. Rememner to Go with your clearance form and ID card.

stayceeL:
which department? We had to put pressure on ours to release the results few weeks ago

PMT. Wats ur dept.? Have the result been sent to exams and records?

ceinfoco:
my dpt neva stil release our statement of result

our's was released last week. What's your department

IamHUGO:
Camp opens on wednesday baba, Nothign wud happen dia till Wednesday early momo. speaking from experience.

my fellow futoite corpers,i will be coming from lagos and i may even go there after taking my lauch. What's the hurry for,there will always be crowd,its nothing new.

goldenceo1:
Bros, Camp would b open that Wednesday n corpers would still b allowed into d camp till 31st or 5 days time or there about. going on Tuesday might only take away the stress of late registration n provide gud accommodation. Camps open on Wednesday so going on Wednesday is not too late.

is it not more apt,that you make people follow laid down regulations. The camp opens on wednesday,and people can also come in on thursday,as stipulated and directed,on the call up letter.

over here:
sam
FUTO, B15
ogun corper


to whom it may concern,do the needful.
We Taking over

my only worry is for people that are expecting too much from this screening

who do you think will make the list and will the women be well represented?

Details shortly...

The list was received by the President of the Senate, Dr.
Abubakar Bukola Saraki President Muhammadu Buhari on Monday submitted the list of the second batch of ministerial nominees to the Senate.

The list was received by the
President of the Senate, Dr. Abubakar Bukola Saraki.
Saraki tweeted after receiving
the list: “Few minutes ago, on behalf of @NGRSenate I received the 2nd batch of #Thelist of
#MinisterialNominees.”
Among those who were at the
National Assembly for the
submission of the list were Abba
Kyari, Ita Enang and Ismaila Kawu.

Source:
theeagleonline.com.ng/buhari-submits-second-batch-of-ministerial-nominees-to-senate/

OCTAVO:
Thanks for your patronage Sir, we will appreciate referrals from you.

you can count on me, only, keep the goodwill and trust going unencumbered. It was a pleasure.

OCTAVO:
Good morning all..

I want to believe that Airtel 1GB is ₦1000 as indicated by your earlier post, also, when will i get the data, if i send the money to you today,oct. 1st(public holiday) and perhaps? Can i trust you? If all the above question is yes,can i get ur account no. And phone no.

ayexcel100:
send 1000 to this account Abe Ayotunde 0106701293 Gtbank after which u send ur number for data

I want to believe that Airtel 1GB is ₦1000 as indicated by your reply, and also, when would i get the data, if i send the money to you now and perhaps, can i send voucher in-lieu of bank payment? Can i trust you?

ayexcel100, i want an airtel bundle of about 1GB. How do you recieve ur payment.

i reserve my comment till after the posting of B15 PCM, then, i will know if their posting will be based on their prefered states.

ABUJA – The Director General of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), Brig-Gen. Johnson Olawumi, Monday, revealed that 71 out of 222 corps members shortlisted for the forthcoming NYSC President’s Award were automatically disqualified, because they sought concessional positing.

Olawumi, who made the revelation at the opening ceremony of the 2015 President’s NYSC Honours Award National Selection Committee meeting in Abuja, noted that to qualify, corps members must distinguished him or herself in the four cardinal areas of NYSC operational programme.

“To win a President’s NYSC Honours Award, corps members must distinguish him or herself in the four cardinal areas of NYSC operation namely; Orientation programme, Primary assignment, Community Development Service (CDS) and the winding up programme.

“For the selection process to be transparent, there are criteria but there also people that can be disqualified, even if they have made tangible contribution.

“These are people who sought for concessional deployment to state of their choice, these are people who sought for relocation to change from one place to the other, these are people who served in their own state of origin, these are people who used their personal money or sought money from their family members to carry out project, and people who have disciplinary case, even if they do well, they will not be considered, because they have falling short of the selection criteria,” he said.

However, Olawumi explained that married women or those who sought for concessional posting based on health and granted by the scheme would be considered for the award, if they meet the requirements.

“Women policy gives concession to married women, and NYSC will not be an exception,” the DG who was represented by the Director of Corps Welfare and Inspectorate, Mr Michael Ahile clarified.

On this year award, Olawumi disclosed that “222 corps members have been brought forward for consideration, and out of this numbers, we have checked our computer system and we have discovered that 71 of them got concessional deployment. So, those one is automatically knocked out.”

NYSC Boss therefore charged the 13-man committee on transparency as they carry out their assignment, adding that the scheme had never doubts their “ability to approach the task with high sense of patriotism, transparency, responsibility and diligence.

“Though we have never experienced any case of undue interference, I feel obliged to implore you to shun whatever form of overture that could arise anywhere to interfere with your assignment.”

Responding the Chairman of the committee, Dr Kevin Ihenetu promised to justify the confidence repose in them by the scheme.

“We know that the task ahead of us is not an easy one. We promise to handle it with utmost sense of diligence and patriotism and come up with a result that would gladden the hearts of all and thereby justify the confidence reposed in us,” he said.

source;http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/09/2015-nysc-presidents-award-why-71-out-of-222-corps-members-were-disqualified-dg/

Medley:
The way this thread is flying, soon we will be in the future.
A friend paid ₦3k for the print out of call-up numbers and green card, but he was exempted due to his age- he was above 30, when will he print the exemption certificate, she paid the 3k, and thought she can print the exemption letter immediately.

Cc. All B15 PCM's

Thanks for your anticipated assistance.

The way this thread is flying, soon we will be in the future.
A friend paid ₦3k for the print out of call-up numbers and green card, but he was exempted due to his age- he was above 30, when will he print the exemption certificate, she paid the 3k, and thought she can print the exemption letter immediately.

Cc. Xcozee
gazaliah
2el
hilsocial
B15 PCM's

elmisti:
Ur friend should bone that look up button....if his data is dere nd he verified...he should simply input in the boxes and the site will bring up his data....then he continues with his reg.....#let him try that and tell us what hapnd nxt

after ignoring to 'click on look up senate list', and haven filled the spaces provided for jamb reg. No, matric. No., phone no., and password, the page did not provide any link or tab to continue with the registration.

Walspring:
You and your friend are just looking for what is not lost...

Is better your friend go ahead and register now before his preferred state will be yobe, maduiguri

The way you presented your advise made it seem that you've first hand experience on how to resolve the situation, but i tried to continue the registration without me clicking the 'look of senate list',cos of the 'no record found' ish. The page did not provide a link or space to continue the reg.

ShareTheMoney:
I was a victim of "No record found" last batch so i couldn't register and therefore wasn't deployed. What happened in my case, after thorough investigation, was what i called "1 digit mistake" in my reg no (instead of 38[b]5[/b]99, what was on the senate list was 38[b]3[/b]99...that's how i missed last batch).
Still on your matter...try to know if there was a mistake in your reg. no/ mat. no., surname, or even date of birth (im not so sure DOB is inclusive cos even during my registration i noticed errors in my dob, state of origin and grade). If you discover where the mistake/ error is, just go ahead and register with the wrong reg. no/ mat. no or surname. (you may need to check with your schools list to know where/ what the mistake is.

With this few points of mine, i hope i'v been able to convince you that 'al iz well...even in the well...weda water de inside or not'.

I'm believing you will join me in thanking God soon...i did my registration on thursday...its Lagos. Abuja or Akwaibom.

oluwa gozie you

Walspring:
You and your friend are just looking for what is not lost...

Is better your friend go ahead and register now before his preferred state will be yobe, maduiguri

thanks. But do you know anyone that went ahead with the registration after experiening 'no record found' when he clicked look up senate list.

hilsocial:
He shd go to Sidmach in Lagos or send sbd asap dat is if he cannot register, if he details pops out after putting his matric no den no p.

kk. Merci, for ur efforts