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That kind of prayer that my mum prays, seems Peter Obi’s wife prays that too, wherever they gang up against us, they shall scatter…

Why una use that kind red eyed pic of Tinubu? Lol

Wahala…

Nigeria shouldn’t be a country, see how they kidnap people and everyone just move on

The northern educated elites need to step up, most of the ones that speak on their behalf are the dumb once

Hope they aren’t the ones given guns to fight during election?

Imagine he didn’t add Zamfara? Lmao

The so called govt have not been condemned it. Smh

Regex:
Bro you did the right thing. Don't listen to crook of a woman whom is trying to gaslight you for something you didn't do. For the fact she gave you a reason not to trust her, she's cheating bro. You don't have to catch her red handed.

I know a girl currently seeing her boyfriend. I do visit her mostly for her food, and each time I am over, she let's the guy know I'm there. Now I do not have any intention of going above just being friends as we work together at my place of work. However, she's gone on a date with another man and her boyfriend's knew about it. What am I saying, she's not hiding anything from him and has not given him a reason to doubt her. Your babe is cheating hoohaa!

Exactly, current update is that she went to the movies with a man and they did nothing. Someone I dropped at work? Weekend movies that she goes to when I have trainings and I also go with her when free. Is it that she hates my company? I allow her do her stuffs. She can’t have it both ways

topeluvu:
just 1 and done. Did she know about your HIV status?

Yes, 100 percent

mmsen:
No disrespect to your parents OP but you really don't know what your parents marriage was like from the inside, you know it from the outside looking in.

Men and women have always cheated but women are more likely to do so nowadays with fewer restrictions on their conduct and greater financial freedom.

At least from the time I knew a thing or two, their marriage flourished in my eyes, my dad isn’t as liberal as I am. I don’t think my dad will allow my mum go on a vacation on her own, I did so for my ex. So they flourished and I’ve seen other relationships that worked well

Emaprince:
You are in US...you didn't see all the home grown ladies from across the world over there, you were still hoping to wife a woman that came from Naija. You get sense so?

Naija women that abuses any lift in status? If they can be highly promiscuous here where men has control over them, imagine what they can do in US where they have power over men.

To make matters worst, you seem to trust her. Lol. Worst thing a man can do to himself is to trust and believe that his woman isn't admiring and crushing on other men. Don't you see what both the married ones do on social medias? Your eyes ought to be open by now to the rot in the society.

Dealing with a woman should be to fulfil all righteousness...stop going the extra length of trust and falling in love. No woman loves you, except your mom. These hoes loves what you bring to the table. A

And always assure yourself that every lover of yours is dispensable. Stop putting too much hopes in women. That's why you are lamenting.

It can work with anyone, regardless of country or race, it’s just for us to understand ourselves, cheating isn’t peculiar to females or Nigerians only. Moreover I’m more traditional and family oriented. Will be hard for me to marry outside of Nigerians

JeffreyJunior:
Few takeaways from your post.

1. She might or might not have visited another man for sex. No evidence to support that she cheated on you. Everybody knows the plight of undocumented Nigerians in America especially ladies. It's not always easy for them. They meet all kinds of people for help and it seems you don't offer much to her except free housing.

2. You are full of pride as a man and you are controlling too. You want her to worship you but don't bother to see what it feels like to be in her shoes. You think she is in America to serve you and be a good girlfriend? Bros, she has people at home calling her everyday for one thing or the other. She needs to get that green card by hook or by crook which is what you too would do in her shoes. I'm not saying she should be a prostitute while at it.

3. You don't love that girl, you are only using her simply because she is currently vulnerable and available to you. This is why you quickly pushed her away without listening to her side of the story even if it was a lie.

4. She may be cheating but you sef have plenty other problems to work on as a person.

Shalom

Let me clear your points from ;

1. I’m right to conclude she cheated, she lied about her whereabouts and moreover we’ve talked about her answering a video call and later said it’s her elder brother only for us to find out her elder bro in Naija doesn’t know how to use WhatsApp. So there is a light there but I don’t like choking people in relationship so I let us just move on and keep trying

2. This second one doesn’t make sense, I have class and I have prestige, I don’t disrespect people and I want same for myself.

3. Lol, love her? You are probably right, I like her and we have to work things out, I’m not buried in love, I’m one of those that believe that likeness and understanding is enough to actually live together. I’ve never loved someone like the “if not you I’ll die”…I guard my heart jealously. You are prolly right

4. You pointed nothing on number 4, you don’t know me so you can’t suggest that but ok

luminouz:
Exactly!!!

I pity any man who brings over a naija lady to America, untested

Actually didn’t bring her though

jackcanfield:
She said she is suicidal, shouldn't you be happy she missed going to work on that day, what if she was gun down ... Everyone should have right to be angry but not to stay angry forever.

I’m not angry, I’m glad she didn’t get caught in the situation but where did she go though?
Anyways the elder bro knows who she’s cheating with. He already mentioned so I’m right

Staywithbina:
And for the last part ,I will advice u to grow up,I was once like you ,but I worked on myself ,you bringing this here shows u re still a baby and no lady wants to be with a baby,the only reason you brought this here on nairaland is because u probably know she will see it , be a man and be in control of your emotions ,no be everything wey hungry you to do ,u must do ! And Finally my man ,before going into a new relationship ,try and heal of your past ,forgive yourself and stop blaming anyone ,forgive also those that have hurt u and become a better version of yourself ,no de carry hate for your heart ,drop that sense of entitlement and live a free life

Ok

Staywithbina:
I don't wanna sound like a saint,this is a girl u re probably living with ,have u had any suspicions earlier ,both of you come home late ,have u noticed her making some cunny moves ,has she Gotten calls u weren't sure of ,now am a man that doesn't give a shit about a woman but then it doesn't feel like u give a damn about this girl,first to me it feels like she is going through something and probably doesn't want u to know cos she doesn't know how u will react to it,it could be that she was another man or not ,it could be she was where she she doesn't want u to know,what if she got pregnant and met with a doctor to see if she could abort it ,the only obvious thing here is that she was not at her work place ,which u did know because of the shooting ,what if she was at her work place at initial time and left after sometime ,omo u don't just quit people especially when u have not been suspecting them or when they have not given u the reason to suspect foul play ,I think you are the one with the problem here,you have not healed yet ,try to convince her to open up to you ,this is what ladies need,a man to share their plight and pains with , writing this ,am not a saint myself but omo it doesn't feel like you love the girl self ,you have been waiting for something like this to happen and it just did

Yes quite a lot, we’ve dated for 6 months and she’s travel alone twice to other cities for vacation and I didn’t go with her. Relationships aren’t meant to choke people. But I think she’s not the type that can handle her business

chatinent:
You are only talking about the relationship. Idi sure no bi she kill the person?

Haba, lol… person wey come shoot people them arrest am

Kriss216:
This what happens when you try to personalize community project.


By now, your beloved hoe has prepared and garnish lies to tell you hence she's asking to see you so you guys can talk.

You'll be the greatest fool on earth to give a Hoe listening ears.

Ah, I no deserve this one naw, I don’t waste my time. I’ve moved on

EriMma1:
So, she can't go anywhere else when she's off duty? It has to be your place? I'm not understanding....
How are you sure she went to see a man just because she was not at work nor your place on that day? The way you men conclude some times enh?

She may just want time alone but didn't know how to tell you and then seized the opportunity to do so during her off duty. Maybe you're the clingy type of boyfriend that always wants her to be around. No time for herself or don't you know we sometimes need a break from too much gum body?

I remember I used to do it to my guy then. I'll just run and go to my elder sisters place and spend a month. if you see the way he'll be calling me to come back to area ( we lived in the same area while my sister was in faraway Okoko) like I've been gone for a year. Those alone moments is usually refreshing abeg. Free the girl and stop overeacting.

No worry, the elder bro already told me who she’s cheating with, a man with a daughter. My instinct didn’t confuse me, I saw red flags when she usually make calls and I think it’s her other elder bro not knowing that one doesn’t know how to use WhatsApp. But it’s all good

koladata:
sorry about your experience bro, going by what you described about her, i think there's something she's not comfortable with about you and she's trying to way her options, she might not be as bad as you think, sit her down, you guys can't be friends again but you don't have to block each other, once in a while hello and hi is not bad.. most of them are the same, learn to remember them for the few good they did and move on without hard feelings.

There is nothing, the elder bro knows who she’s cheating with, the man has a daughter and divorced. He disclosed that to me and asked me to just move on. So it’s not me, it’s her… I was sad they didn’t tell me earlier

WantsandMore:
. Dude you lose guard, the signs are always there,you probably ignored hoping she improves because it's what you would've wanted, you should have asked her what she wants & bargain a balance in the relationship because it seems obvious you both love each other but relationship no easy to build buddy. No be straight jackets, there r times you'll tolerate things you'll be ashamed to talk about. Lv & Light...Happy Easter.

I hate monitoring people,I believe a relationships is not meant to choke us,but maybe I loose guard much.she has gone on vacation to Florida and Ohio and I didn’t follow cos of work again because we should live our lives even while I’m relationship. Aren’t we all adults abeg?

cocolacec:
I think you jumped into conclusions,she was never caught red handed with another man.She could be afraid of opening up somethings to you for fear of being dumped.There is no guarantee sge went to a man's place unless you caught her in the act.She could be at a friend's place.
Communication is the key.

What exactly did she go then? I mean she travelled twice on vacation already without me because I’m busy with work. I made sure a relationship shouldn’t stop us from living our life’s. I can bet my penis it’s a man, she was on a video call in the bedroom once and when I walked it she ended the call, I didn’t ask who was that and she said her elder bro called on video. The elder bro she referenced i understand recently do no know how to use social media. I just moved on from the conversation so we don’t stress it all. So why lie?

EastAlchemist:
Abeg if you be the girlfriend way him dump
And you’re reading this
I love you
Which part of America you Dey Biko

Drop your email address so she can reach out to you, she’s actually calm. May be the right partner for you

Ingriid:
Please check urself again and again and again.
This lady is never the problem u are!

Tutor me, I dropped someone off at work and she didn’t go to work? And not aware of what happened at work same day I dropped her, alright run along

motionarena:
Mumu man.
Instead u should be grateful she missed work as she may have been gone down.

You are here crying because ur male ego is shattered

You are unwell, I should be grateful she cheated and lied? What ego are you talking about you clown

seguno2:
Was your partner aware of your HIV status, which you talked about on another thread

Of course, she’s aware I’m undetectable. I actually didn’t bother about her status since we both came back negative on other diseases.

Is something wrong with this our generation because I saw how my parents had a great marriage just like most of their friends.


I think relationships are not meant for some people and we have to all understand that it’s ok to be single for the rest of your lives.
Why put so much pressure to get hooked with someone when you know your mind is probably somewhere else, is it desperation, greed or the insatiable nature of the human life?

So I dropped my ex at the Chinese cuisine (yes I have to be specific because she will read this and should know I wrote it)she works at on Tuesday,this is usually our routine since she starts work at 8am and I start at 9am to end at 5pm,she gets home late at 9pm sometime depending on her shift.
On Wednesday,we drove as usual and on getting to her workplace, there were 3 police cars and yellow ribbons crossed over there with some people in front of it.This colleague of hers immediately seeing us trying to park there said “there is no need y’all,some 14 year old came to the store and shoot up the whole place around 5pm yesterday”.
I was shocked because she should be at work too and how come she’s not aware of what we both are seeing and she tried shutting the lady up and I then further asked the lady why she also showed up since it happen yesterday and she ought to have known,she said because she’s scheduled to work today just like my babe and she was just looking at my ex,you know when you look at someone like “ hope everything is ok”?

My ex didn’t exit the car and I had to ask her where she was the previous day because I dropped her there at work,she started stammering that she went to see her lawyer,I then had to ask,so after seeing your lawyer at 5pm(which is obviously a lie because corporate mostly close at 5pm),you didn’t return to work because you ought to have known that someone was killed at your job, she then said she went home, then how did I get home before her because I close at 5pm and gets home before 6pm, I didn’t want her to keep blabbing,I immediately called her lawyers office and guess what guys?Her next appointment is June 12(Again,I wrote this so she can see it’s me).
I immediately started recording a video with my camera faced down and repeated every question and she answered just in case she goes to court and I’ll nail the devil.
I sha took my key from the evil,cashapped her money to take a train to her brothers place.Till today she never reach her bros place because he called and said she’s not picking and she is constantly texting.

This is a girl that got to America two years ago(I didn’t bring her)and just doing menial job for now while she work on getting her documents and also,she’s not paying rent(In todays America),I was even planning on doing something serious before the year runs out because normally,she seem homely, peaceful and seem quite calm unlike most party-prone babes we have around(E be like na this one’s worst).

What shocked me most was that I didn’t even get angry, I was just disappointed that I wasted my time but it didn’t seem like I lost something(why is that?).

Another trust shattered… smh

Lol, his mum didn’t say she worked for Pete Edochie, but people just said he “looked” like Pete Edochie.

He should go and find his father, he didn’t pass the face test and didn’t also pass the voice test.

No de embarrass Pete ejoor

He actually mentioned Jesus Christ…. These guys are clowns

An exiled clown keeps yarning dust, can he gather his thoughts together and find an actual job?

The question should be, what is your intention of moving to US?

I moved because I needed peace of mind. I wanted to enjoy a service I paid for, work and get paid and choose how to live my life.


You are missing your point and don’t know why you are going to the US.