Nice one o, nairaland people be actually human beings like this? Op oil dey ur head. Well I get excess beans oil nd kpokpo garri for hz,so my own go be. Beans+oil+garri. I can transfer 2k to one person wey no get make e for use buy food.
My location na Okada, edo state

Parker6:

Mensah007, I have learnt a lot from this thread. I'll like to know how it finally ended. Abeg, yarn us.

She broke up

I have been seeing threads and posts about Masturbation leading to low libido or weak erection, so I decided to praticalize it by researching with myself.

I decided to masturbate at least 3 times a week for one month and then have sex and see the result. So last month i started, i jacked off thrice a week, sometimes 5 times sef for the past 4 wks.

After jacking off this afternoon which is the last day, So this evening, i decided to have sex. I ended up lasting 26 minutes in the first round, with condom. Second round was 39 minutes with condom too. I made sure to note the time.

P.S : This is the normal average time for me during sex on a regular day. So i noticed nothing changed. No weak erection, no low libido, no loss of concentration, the semen was still of normal quantity. I'm 24 yrs and healthy with no medical history what's over.


Rocktation , farano , mynd44, ishilove , lalasticala, seun , ubunja ,

Please move to front page, i intend for this to be educative.

jeesprecy:
Op I'm a lady but I don't think the condition she's giving you is right. She's only trying to play safe. The reason she's giving you a condition is to measure your stance with who she's thinking about already.
Your coming to Abuja will be the only reason she'll choose you above her incoming guy. I've done this before yea and I know just exactly what is playing out. She has broken up with you already, move on, get yourself together, forget whatever kindness she must have shown you in the past. Try to make her reason along with you and if she doesn't just call the bluff.
Get yourself together and make a better life for yourself. She's only being selfish, even if if you go to Abuja you'll just end up being frustrated as she doesnt have feelings for you anymore. She's only trying to see if your being around her can rekindle whatever you guys shared in the past.
I might not be absolutely right but I'm sure you'll definitely have something to learn from my contribution. Daalu �

You were actually correct. This life eh

You should be arrested for teaching homosexuality in Nigeria, uneducated graduated that doesn't know what is crime and not.

but this car don park for this New Planet Hotel Ojo since early this yr nah, PS: This is Akpororo's hood

.meanwhile this is the 3rd time an ibo boy will swindle me.as a matter of fact, nothing will make me not believe many of them are not fraudsters and dubious characters[/quote]

but you are female in real life and a male on Nairaland. isn't that dubious?

Hello, I'm a fresh anatomy graduate undergoing nysc in Lagos, pls I need experienced advice on which certifications and trainings i can acquire to have an edge in job hunting.











1forall , CrazyMan , mynd44 lalasticala seun

crackhouse:
...really? But u have been claiming that you are the one that supported yourself in university and now u are saying she supported you, which one do I believe now? I think that's why she said u are a lazy boy. And u are here shouting Abuja Abuja, u need to come to Abuja with money otherwise na for berger bustop u fit end as agbero. TAKE note.

supportive emotionally bro, tho financially at times but i have been clearly the MAN in the rship , well until i came bk to Lagos.

Poorboy:
Abuja no be for children 40k accommodation na for maraba be that, the suffer you go subject yourself to will be enormous.


The only thing she can say is that she wants to take you to someone that will give you a Federal Government Job informing the person that you're the husband to be that it's job that is remaining for you people to get married.


My girlfriend turn fiancee told me to come over after my nysc I wasted 4 years at home with a little job of 12k..

I left went to Abuja she introduced me to a big man long story short I got a Federal Government job with a starting pay of 103k.

We nearly broke up before the job came because I became a complete burden to her fianancially.

Let me not forget when once the job comes through her your respect is gone... Don't ask me how I knew..

But the good thing is you have said good bye to poverty and you start living your life and settling bills.

Seems you have been in this shoes bfore bros. Hmmmmm

izibili44:
Give me till the end of today.I will get you a place to stay.

thanks

sinola:
Bros, I must advice you to move on with your life without her advise at this point.Her advise may sound convincing and good but I must tell you for free that she doesn't mean well for you. If you must know, she has already broken up with you 'teh teh' perhaps maybe that was why she kept giving you this rather difficult conditions.Women could be funny sometimes!
Who said you can't make it in Lagos,a whole biggest commercial nerve of Nigeria,where many opportunities lies. If I were you, I will insist on staying in Lagos and look for something doing since she doesn't have already made job for you in Abuja.
Accommodation is the key for a starter, if you don't have one, it will be extremely difficult for you to cope or even think right talkless of securing a job and that is when depression will set in. Remember 3rd Mainland Bridge stories... lol
Follow your heart and make your own decisions as a man and stand on it no matter what. God will definitely bless you someday and she will crawl back in your arms singing endless praises to you but only if she hasn't left you for someone else.
Goodluck bro

The accommodation issue is just another story. I have a very bad experience of that already. I couldn't tink straight for over 2 weeks because i was sleeping around in pple's houses.

King44:
true, what would be would be my guy don't rush ur sef because of the fact that u love her if she wants to break up let the words come out of her mouth but before then make yourself clear n let her know she doesn't have to go to that length of giving you a deadline plus you need some time to figure out things for yourself at your own pace

if she can't wait brother don't use ur own to hold her back or rush your life because of love so u won't leave for abj after sometime come back disappointed to start over again in lag

besides like a guy asked when last did u f...k her she is surely missing you take some time out to pay her a visit find cheap hotel at most 4k a night two days is OK then back to lag to continue ur life who knows she might change her mind when you explain things to her over there plus it would be better if you explain things to her face to face rather than explaining over a phone call

I can't afford to go nd see her in a hotel currently.

JayPeeOham:


This is a serious matter that needs to be handled wisely.
Rationally speaking, you need to be sure of the kinda strings she's tryna pull on you, like, does she have a surprise job, accomodation for you in Abuja? Kindly, ask her those questions.

Secondly, hope she is not the kinda girl that will want to be the man in her relationship simply because she's been the "financial pillar" in the relationship right from school days. Hence, will want to make decisions for you not minding if you're comfortable with it or not thereby leaving you optionless and without choice.

Her motive for you might be right but she shouldn't be pushy about it. And forcing you to do it under duress!!

My brother, you are a man and whatever you accept in your relationship you should be ready to accept it forever (that's if you guys end up together).

You are at a point in your life where you need to evaluate your decisions critically before you choose and when you eventually go for a particular option, you do it intentionally and not out of compulsion from a girlfriend/Lover/Friend/Family member and so on. Mind you, I'm not saying all the aforementioned cannot advise but las las the decision is solely for you to make. Any decision you make at this point imn your life will definitely have a turn on you tomorrow!

Lastly, I will submit by this pidgin phrase that says: "Na Sleep We Dey Use No How Death Be!!!"

Hmmmmm, thanks boss. But actually i fended for myself in sch nd fended for her too at times.

Born2winnx:


Obob you nor know the way the thing pain me for body.


Read him write up na


Him papa and mama when suffer train am go school de there.. Him never reason make I try hustle straight.. Take care of them

Na to run follow Toto him de think about

CRaze boy


If I be elder brother I repeat I go beat am die.

This guy noe get sense at all

egbon no vex, she is aware of my parents condition too and is using it to blast me on d need to make money immediately and help them. Bottom line is that she wants to make money asap. She feels I'm wasting away in Lagos nd shud go over to abuja asap, not minding the nysc situation

cenaman:
OP answer me, where in abuja is ur babe?

She stays in Gwarimpa. Y do u ask pls

Guest007:


There are 2 people in this relationship! What have you drummed into her ears

Bruv, stop this she said mantra... You might be fighting for your destruction if you're not careful...

God, life or whatever you call it might be pushing something out of your life and you are here busy fighting for it...

You need a break to reevaluate your relationship, this could be your answer to switch the tables and have her convince you why she's the right person for you. Self respect is attractive.

I have prayed and left it to God to do his will. I seriously love her and will like to marry cos she is a very nice person. We ve had our ups and downs but this is now too much of a test.

AfroKnight:
Don’t subject yourself to the goodwill of your girlfriend.

One day it will come back to haunt you.

There are better opportunities in Lagos for a stranger then anywhere in Nigeria. If you hustle in lagos, you will eat.

This is basically my greatest fear, living off her goodwill

Guest007:
In life there's only so much you could do... If its impossible for you to join her then you can't join her. You have tried your hardest but you Must prioritise your future above any relationship. You have to do service, you need accommodation...

The only option I see is you forsaking your future for this relationship and that doesn't sound healthy or right.

I think you should call her bluff and let her know that you have tried and you have no options. If she wants to end the relationship over this then you will have to live with that.

I'm thinking she doesn't believe that you are trying so she's putting pressure on you to make you move. But, she needs to understand that you have tried and that the ball is in her court now.

If she truly loves you, trust me, she will come back, and if she doesn't then she had a better option and opportunity for herself and there's not much you could do about that.

she literally thinks I'm doing nothing here, saying I have gotten lazy.

elmagnifico411:
I no dey like this kain thing. Oga corner, u need to stand your grounds oh. If moving to Abuja is the only way she can accept u back, tell her to go her way. Which kain control be this nah? Can’t she see you’re trying so hard to make things work? No try yourself o! If you don’t have a sure job and a place to stay, Abuja to frustrate u die! Round up your Nysc and see how ways will open here in Lagos. I know u love her, but you’ve gotta use your head. She can’t just be calling the shots and you sef go dey move like turkey.

If eventually u land a good job in Lagos I don’t think that lady wee even leave Abuja to be with u. Oga use your tongue count your teeth. Collect the remote for her hand and move on with your life.

She has always drummed it in my ears that nothing will make her move to Lagos not even a good paying job

Blackivy29:
op. Dont break up with her. She obviously loves you. Maybe its the distance thats making her persistent. She might be worried about the effects of the long distance on the relationship. The fact that shes willing to invest on your being closer with her and the fact that you are making the effort says alot.
But she shouldnt be immature and consider your situation. Thats sacrifice. Let her know how dicey the situation is. She should use simple logic cause times are hard. If she wants to settle down, as a wife, she should learn how to cope. Try to assure her too.

You are very correct, I really do appreciate her efforts but i don't know how rational this is

nuelsam:
Mah no lie.... This matter confused me a bit...... But lemme ask u some few questions.....
Peradventure u relocate to Abj, did she promise to get u a job or a meaningful source of income?
Do u have any relative in Abuja?
How are u sure Abj is more lucrative than lag?
Judging from your write up, if u eventually relocate to abj on her request even tho she meant well for u two......... Shes definitely going to dictate things to u as in shes definitely the one thats going to be in charge as far as ur relationship is concerned.
Bottom line: she loves u, no doubt....she meant well, no doubts but her emotion is giving her away, she needs to face reality.
Think deep

no..

no....

I honestly don't know....

this might true..

Very very true boss

cooooooks:
She seems quite assertive which is usually a good thing.

Can't she just you? She also sounds like she's from a relatively middle class home, can she find you an accommodation or at least a job?

If it's teaching job, depending on the subject there is ALWAYS a job available.

The sad thing is that your Lagos job isn't paying you well si I completely see her point. If your lagos job was much better, then I would have said she's being unreasonable.

Could you do other side gigs in Abj?

Tanks for replying bro.
She is from a middle class home,

She had initially said she can budget 40k for me to find a room in abj. Honestly, i don't tink she can raise 50k for lobbying and also 40k for hz. She is insisting I can find sth to do in abuja by myself immediately because I'm a very dogged person. I hustled in Uniben and she was seeing and enjoying d profits.

You truly understand her point and I understand too, but d main issue now is nysc. If I was done with nysc already, I won't tink abt this twice

kowema:



I'm here wondering how Abuja is more lucrative than Lagos.
The most available job in Abj in Civil service job. You can say Abuja is a lot more peaceful, but definitely not more lucrative.

my brother same here o. Its just cos of peace . I think I feel lighter now I poured out my heart out tho

lilmax:
She recently became more aggressive about the abuja move and gave me few days to come over or forget about her.



Don't go, all I see is DANGER

Break up with her immediately

I meant persistent not aggressive sorry