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Finally: Professional nannies won't allow the whole seduction routine to even happen. On the whole, good nannies are professionals, trained to do a job and are not there to break up families. Have faith that most nannies won't be attempting to lure away your husband.
Consider getting different nannies doing different shifts. A morning nanny and an afternoon nanny or a weekday and weeknight nanny might work for you and be enough of a change in dynamics to keep everything very professional. However, you'll need to think about how this impacts your children, as it's potentially very disruptive, although probably no more so than day care centers.
Hire a nanny you know your husband could never be attracted to, such as a woman in her sixties if your husband is in his thirties

http://www.wikihow.com/Hire-a-Nanny-Who-Won't-Hit-On-Your-Spouse

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If you do hire a nanny, select with care. While it's important to get along with your nanny, she is not your friend. She is an employee. Don't be lured into a false sense of security by her friendly ways. Look for good references, unbroken attendance at other people's places as a nanny and exemplary ability with children. Preferably, look for specific nanny or child care training, especially for newly started nannies. Her ability to care for children in a fun, responsible and caring way all she is in your home for, not to sit about chatting with you or anyone else.

If you see provocative or sexy pictures accompanying the nanny advertisement in an online or printed advertisement, click or flick to the next nanny. Such a nanny hasn't got the professionalism needed to sell her services as a trustworthy nanny and has failed to target her sales pitch to the women who hire, so she doesn't deserve a second thought.
For your own sake, strive to keep the relationship with a nanny professional. There may come a time where you have to tell her she isn't doing her job well enough and this is so much harder if you've taken her into your confidences too much as a "friend".
Be especially careful of new, young nannies without training. They can be vulnerable to wanting to "be taken care of" and the family environment they witness around them might cause them to imagine that this is something they want for themselves, leading to all sorts of silly but real attempts at getting it for themselves.
Check references by calling. Don't go by her word alone and don't accept written references. Ask the referees clear questions about her propriety, attitude and household behavior. Unfortunately, if something untoward has happened in the past, her former employer may be too ashamed to say anything but if you're careful and kind, they might speak up about something if they think you need to know. On the whole though, be prepared to take the referee at their word; if you speak to more than one referee, you should get a good feel for the nanny's past behavior and be reassured by what you're told.

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Talk to the nanny about boundaries and expectations. Tell her that you welcome her into the household with trust and respect for her childcare qualification. Yet, make it clear that she will be dismissed immediately if you feel that this respect and trust has been breached in any way.

Inform her that she must come to you for all questions and changes in routine. This will prevent her from having "two masters", making her life easier and also removes one major reason for spending time with your husband.

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Have other people drop into the household intermittently and unexpectedly. It is difficult to carry on a clandestine affair if the household is constantly subject to the presence of others doing their tasks. A regular cleaner, a children's tutor in music, a neighbor dropping off supplies, a cook preparing the week's meals, etc. are all possible people you could hire or ask to drop by at different times of the week. Have the nanny be responsible for ensuring these people are let in and have what they need to complete their tasks, as this will mean that she has a professional responsibility to attend to.
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Take note of any strange happenings in the household. If your husband suddenly starts coming home earlier or is about when he didn't used to be, and you find him talking to the nanny a lot, be alert. Rather than waiting too long, raise your concerns with him early on. Avoid accusing him of anything initially - couch it in terms of being concerned that he is taking up the nanny's time and possibly giving her mixed messages about the childcare routine you've already cleared with her. It's a delicate subject that requires balancing your trust with your suspicions but it's your relationship and family at stake, so don't be too shy to raise concerns.

Busy parents often need a hand in running the household and caring for the children and sometimes the answer is to get a nanny. But letting a younger woman into your home can bring about unexpected complications if she draws a bit too much attention from your spouse! True stories about husbands falling for the nanny abound, from Arnold Schwarzenegger and Ethan Hawke dallying with the nanny to many a tale of the average family being faced with the same issue. The best solution to this problem is to prevent it from happening in the first place. Here are some things to consider.


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Be honest with yourself about your level of trust in your husband. If you're truly concerned that he might succumb to weakness in the presence of an admiring, bright-eyed nanny, don't dismiss your hesitation. The worst thing you can do is pretend to trust him completely when you don't.

If there is any marital conflict or unresolved issue going on in your relationship, it's wise to avoid getting a nanny until both of you are on more solid ground again.
Think carefully about your husband's personality. A household that can afford a nanny generally means that the husband is earning good money. And if that is the case, it's possible that your husband is someone who is used to giving orders and getting what he wants. Does he use that kind of charisma and power with thoughtfulness for others or is he someone whose appetites are given free rein and sometimes that results in being selfish and unmindful about how getting what he wants might hurt another? Only you know your husband well enough to answer this; sure, it's a balance between trust in your primary relationship but it's also about being honest about his personality and not throwing temptation in his path.
Think about your own personality and how your husband sees you. Are you strong, assertive and clear about your role as a mother, career woman and wife? Does your husband show you all due respect? If you are certain that your husband respects you and would never do anything to hurt you, then you have less reason to worry about having a nanny in the household because you have made your boundaries and expectations absolutely clear.

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Have an honest heart-to-heart with your husband about your worries involved in bringing an attractive nanny into your personal home life. Be careful not to sound like you're accusing him of a crime he hasn't committed. The way you approach the topic can make the difference between shaking the foundation of your relationship, and strengthening it. Practice nonviolent communication.

Have you ever had a discussion or aired your feelings about how you feel about infidelity? If he knows you're someone who won't tolerate any straying and will walk out on him if he cheated, then he'll be unlikely to ever risk losing you. Don't assume that he already knows this; many a cheating man assumed that their spouse would be forgiving or understanding!
It helps a lot to emphasize that there's nothing wrong with being tempted, it's acting on such temptation that's the danger. Admitting that you'd be tempted, too, if there was a young, handsome and flirtatious man floating around the house will go a long way to having an honest conversation about what may happen in a moment of weakness.
Remind your husband that you want to be the object of his attention! Affirming that you welcome and value his affection (and meaning it) will go a long way.

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Decide together whether the nanny option is your best option by considering the alternatives. Before you even get a nanny, sit down with your husband and go through all the possibilities for child care and household management. Some other options include:

Day care, child care center, in-home care at a registered carer's premises, etc.
Juggling care between the two of you, with the help of a babysitter for occasional evening care or the odd afternoon. Supplement this with a cleaner, a gardener and even a student cook to help out with meal preparation, all people whose presence is only needed intermittently rather than daily.
Taking a sabbatical, break or semi-retirement from work until the children are older. Sure, there will be an income dip but the rewards from this can be priceless if one parent is willing.
Convincing one of your bosses to let you work from home.
Asking the children's grandparent(s) if they can care for them for a while. Not every baby boomer parent wants to take on a full-time care role for the grand kids and not every family wants their parents in the home daily. However, if this is an option that works both ways, it's ideal.

BETTER PREPARED THAN UNPREPARED

BeastAmbition:
Who wan meet animal in the form of baby mama. iranu

9. She Has a Negative Relationship With Her Own Father

If your woman has a negative relationship with her own father, or none at all, there’s a chance she may view all men as no-good deadbeats who are not worthy of her respect. If her mother didn’t have a civil relationship with her father and gave him hell, she’ll follow in her mother’s footsteps because she’s seen nothing else as an example on how parents should interact. Listen carefully to how she talks about her father and men in general, because if she has your child, you’ll be lumped in with every other no-good dude she knows or associates with her father.

8. She’s Jealous

This is a problem whether a child is involved or not, but if she’s not your woman, her jealousy will reach epic levels if you get another girlfriend or marry someone else and you start a family. Man listen, y[b]our life will be a living hell because jealous women who feel scorned are a force to be reckoned with.[/b] She’ll make your life miserable just so no other woman will want to deal with you, and if any little thing sets her off, you and the child will have to run for cover.

7. She Just Acts Crazy

So maybe she isn’t already a crazy baby mama, but she’s just crazy in general. She cusses you out in public, busts windows out of cars when she’s angry, calls your mother names and is basically a vindictive Tazmanian Devil. She will whirl around looking to wreak havoc on anyone and anything in her path. If you get this woman pregnant, you deserve everything that comes your way.


BE WISE GUYS

6. She Can’t Take Care of Herself

Most women who are not self-sufficient are in no position to take care of a baby so she will look to you to do everything for her. There’s nothing wrong with that if you’re in a solid relationship and have no objections to being the sole provider for your family. But if she’s living in her parents’ basement, has no job, no goals and no life, she could try to get pregnant so that you can save her from herself and rescue her. Again, if you plan on being with her, then maybe having a baby will give her something to do. But if you don’t plan on having a future with her, your life will be miserable because she’ll be looking to you do everything for her that she should be able to do herself – most of it financial. If you’re not prepared to take care of a bum chick for as long as she has your child, be careful who you lay down with.


GUYS NOTE

3. She’s the Jump-Off

If you accidentally knock up the side chick, that doesn’t mean that she will be a crazy baby mama but the chances are high considering you probably don’t know her well enough to know if she’s sane or not. After all, who takes time to get to know the jump-off since her sole purpose is to…jump off? If she has dreams and aspirations of becoming your main chick (assuming she knows she’s the side chick), then all hell might break loose once she realizes that either 1) she was never the main chick or 2) she thinks having your baby will elevate her to main chick status. When that doesn’t happen, watch out because you’re about to catch it! And that’s what you get for having sex without a condom with the jump-off to begin with. That’s just F-Buddy etiquette 101.

2. She’s a Bird

I didn’t want to use the word “hood” here, because you can be “hood” without being ratchet. But if she’s vulgar, immature, curses and is just an overall bird chick, why would you want to possibly have to explain to anyone that this bird chick approaching you for some money is your child’s mother? What else was she going to be?

1. She’s Already a Crazy Baby Mama

This is a no-brainer, which is why I feel no sympathy for men who complain that their child’s mother is a lunatic. She already showed you she was a lunatic with the child she already had with someone else in the first place. If you see this woman playing games and acting a fool with her current child(ren)’s father, what makes you think she’d be any different if she had a child with you? If you’re dating a woman with kids, pay attention to her interactions with their father. Not only will this tell you if she’s crazy or not, you’ll also be able to determine if the reason she’s crazy is because she’s still bitter over their breakup or not quite over him. Whatever the case if you witness suspect behavior, either leave her alone or practice safe sex if you MUST hit that first.

Most men with baby mama drama are baffled when they procreate with the bride of Satan, claiming they had no idea she was crazy and deranged. Just like us, men can be blind to the crazy when they’re in love or most likely, lust. Maybe he would notice the red flags if he wasn’t so busy looking at the big butt and a smile. If you’re seeing a woman who has any of the following traits, make sure to wrap it up because she just might turn out to be a crazy baby mama.







source:http://madamenoire.com/260528/fellas-you-better-be-careful-9-signs-your-woman-might-make-a-crazy-baby-mama/

vows are vows bae you're bonded and bounded.

halfricanadian:
This is d kind of story u tell a baby mama not me

and we will KILL em all in Ekiti.

mysteryman2014:
The Fulanis, descendants of Othman Dan Fodio, have nothing to fear since the itinerant killers have been identified as immigrant Libyans.

kill all the rampaging libyans....they are not fulani herdsmen.

The former governor of Jigawa before Lamido did worse.... he only VISITED the State Capital...scattered the ministries to avoid conspiracy....the only real governor that State had is Lamido.

olatunji21:
Baba Fear God...A sitting Governor applied for 6Months leave(One hundred and eighty days)....And u think he will ever come back to that sit for this Nigeria....Impossible is an understatement sir...

leave that guy stop dignifying him with a response.... Fayose works like a horse....sometimes till daybreak.... he knows nothing about leadership or else he would not be jubilating over PMB a man who added nothing absolutely nothing to his CV after he was overthrown in the early 80's...nothing even a book!

PhockPhockMan:
Clap for yourself, so Buhari have to spend two years budget before we start to expect visible improvement Abi?
I believe Buhari and Nyesom Wike was sworn in the same day,come to Rivers state and see what he has achieved within the same period.

Buhari is a born failure, take it or leave it

being a sluttt as you said maybe a sign of a bigger problems....be careful not to judge peeps until you wear their shoes.

NwaNimo1:
Something fishy about the story - I remember when I was in JS3 and a classmate got pregnant and left school for a year.

But we all knew she was a sluttt.......very promiscuous and flirty with the SS boys.

back from work....ma engagement with u is soooo private....that I go into places you can not see...and I never used the bolded...

halfricanadian:
U never used it bt u did worse

Especially wen u said u not like any oda guy

Dude u did worse dan everyoda guy i kno and met .

Eze indeed...

I never used any of these lines on you.

halfricanadian:
funny

assuming he has any....no wonder Tinubu was comfortable with PMB talk about birds of a feather,

VulgarVulvas:
Now that he is CnC can't he order for his certificate?

doin great we r killin kwarruption and the economy together

far more biuriful....and makes lots of sense too

emmasege:
Do you really think she's m more beautiful than Toyin? I don't know how you assess beauty, but I think Toyin is far more beautiful than this girl, sentiment apart.