₦airaland Forum

EmekaA125:
4 more years of development and sustainable economic progress.

Do something about prostitution among Ghana girls.

hustler2828:
From gambling to olosho after borrowing from loan app. Na generational poverty grave you dey dig so!!! You better throw away that shovel before it becomes too late.

Sunnybay7:
His gang have already fled to Lagos

paramakina202:
Why are they giving a non gay their gay rainbow color band?

pocohantas:
I must commend your wife.
You want her to go fight your battles and when she is caught, the narrative would be how women were not created to handle power.


The police is there for civil cases.
Go call them.

franchasofficia:
I am waiting for Putin to use his acclaimed nuclear weapon on Ukraine since Ukraine has started pounding Russian cities with western made weapons.



Putin is just a notorious circus

Factcheck0001:
your country of less than 48 hours don Dey suspend people

SMOGnow:
yu no put some for fridge?

budaatum:
The sad irony is, Apart from the distressing fact the fire brigade took an hour to arrive, the security he installed to keep people out prevented his neighbours from entering to help.

Kelklein:
Not 'failed healthcare system..'.. more like 'Lack of Standard Healthcare system'..

An average Nigerian governor would rather use 10bn to 'buy' furniture in government House than use a quarter of that to put together a standard Healthcare facility in his state. One is in the news currently from NorthEast..

It's an unfortunate situation. You can't be a Nigerian leader and be normal. The system is rigged to make you abnormal. One of them told us recently that Nigeria doesn't need Engineers but Bricklayers and Carpenters.🤔🤔

OceanEye:
Would like to relocate to afganistan

EmptyGarden:
Anything that puts food on the table at the end of the day is most important. No shame at all.
Of what use was his chambers without paying clients? And what happens when he’s unable to renew rent?

Nukilia:
Nigerians will survive this traumatic experience before showing the exit door to APC in 2027.

jbreezy:
So I'm currently liking this girl, and with all things being equal, I am ready to marry her. But my fear is the age difference, I will be 33 next year while she is currently 24. She likes me too, but I'm still playing safe as I am still skeptical. Should I go on or just cut off the relationship before it becomes serious.

Capillary88:
Stop making senseless comments pls. I don't know what your intentions are, but it appears you're only trying to make a mockery

ibechris:
Now that u know what crippled ur father financially,be careful not to t start financing his lifestyle again.

It would hurt u.

Wise up brother.

Karleb:
Don't do more than you are already doing for him.

I'd advice you withdraw the cash and set it on fire rather than giving it to an irresponsible adult.

Don't reward bad behavior, please I'm begging you.

People will guilt trip you here but don't panic.

When you needed him most, he made the decision not to support you his child in his right senses, which simply means he doesn't love you. Now that he needs you, reciprocate the gesture.

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?