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Capillary88:
Stop making senseless comments pls. I don't know what your intentions are, but it appears you're only trying to make a mockery

ibechris:
Now that u know what crippled ur father financially,be careful not to t start financing his lifestyle again.

It would hurt u.

Wise up brother.

Karleb:
Don't do more than you are already doing for him.

I'd advice you withdraw the cash and set it on fire rather than giving it to an irresponsible adult.

Don't reward bad behavior, please I'm begging you.

People will guilt trip you here but don't panic.

When you needed him most, he made the decision not to support you his child in his right senses, which simply means he doesn't love you. Now that he needs you, reciprocate the gesture.

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

Clairvoyancy:
By your last paragraph, you sure say you no kolo true true?

Capillary88:
Paying of Tithes isn't the challenge but the way these so-called men of God threaten you to pay is what I am never comfortable with.

Tithing has never been the prerequisite for making Heaven. But these pastors continue to dwell so much on the topic instead of focusing on members salvation. They even tell you that, "if you pay your tithe, things will be tight for you". They are scammers. Corporate thieves.

Abeg someone should kindly help me with something before I die of hunger. Haven't eaten for days now. It's hell here. 🙏🙏

TimiofAbuja:
Maybe you no dey tithe

Izuchukwu70:
Do you people wonder how British High Commission and American Embassy will continue to give Portable and this Riff Raff chicken visas and deny intellectuals and people that really need it? These people travel and continue to embarrass Nigerians. They are not our representatives

Bouncingbabyboy:
After all the stories you still knack her oooo

techbro1:
Make I go chop free rice

pyyxxaro:
The level of looting in Nigeria is too high

Zonefree:
Na overfeeding dey cause all this rubbish

NuCypher:
Saying a lot, but saying nothing. Yes, it's true noodles aren't a great option for kids, but would you mind actually going into specific details about the kind of chemicals present in the spices and why they are bad for kids. This isn't a good way to present a great message.

Infact, it's very likely there are even worse chemicals in other food options. What food do you want to give kids these days that don't have horrible chemicals in them? Even the cerelac that's often given to little babies have horrible preservatives that are not good to consume in excess. I wouldn't say to rule out noodles completely. I would rather say to consume these foods in great moderation, but to favour veggies above all because they provide the best nutrients for human growth.

uunwanaobong3:
Hm, RUSSIA IS WARNING UKRAINE AND THE WEST BUT EVERYONE THINK THAT PUTIN IS BLUFFING.......

ONE THING THE WEST DOES NOT UNDERSTAND IS THAT THEY ARE THREATENING RUSSIA SECURITY....... IF AMERICA THINK THAT THEY ARE IMMUNE FROM NUCLEAR HOLOCAUST, THEY SHOULD KEEP PLAYING WITH FIRE AND THEY WILL SOON FIND OUT.

THROUGHOUT THIS WAR, PUTIN CLEARLY STATES ONLY 2 RUSSIA RED LINES, THEY ARE;

1. IN JANUARY 2O22, PUTIN SAYS THAT UKRAINE MUST NO JOIN NATO ELSE THERE WILL BE WAR.... UKRAINE WAS DRAFTED TO JOIN NATO AND RUSSIA INVADE UKRAINE.

2. IN 2024, PUTIN SAYS THAT IF UKRAINE ATTACK RUSSIA WITH WESTERN SUPPLIED LONG RANG MISSILES, RUSSIA WILL VIEW IT AS NATO ATTACKING RUSSIA IN COLLABORATION WITH UKRAINE AND ALL OPTIONS ARE ON THE TABLE INCLUDING NUCLEAR WEAPONS....... WELL THROUGHOUT YESTERDAY AMERICA/BRITISH AND UKRAINE HAVE ATTACK RUSSIA WITH WESTERN LONG RANGE MISSILE AND TODAY RUSSIA HAS STARTED USING ICBM WITH CONVENTIONAL WAR HEAD AS WARN, BUT TOMORROW IT MIGHT BE NUCLEAR WAR HEAD.

THIS IS NOT A JOKE.

THE WEST DOESN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY ARE DEALING WITH. THEY ALL THINK THAT THEY CAN SURVIVE NUCLEAR WAR, THIS IS WRONG.


RUSSIA OWES THE WORLD A DEMONSTRATION OF WHAT NUCLEAR WEAPONS CAN DO BY CARRYING OUT A SURFACE TESTING OF THE BIGGEST NUKES ON THEIR TEST SITE FOR THE WORLD TO SEE, MAYBE IT WILL INSTILL FEAR IN HUMANITY ONCE AGAIN.

izubext007:
I challenge the our so called DSS to track them .

MTCLimited:
Hmmm. Just the response alone would give you that rest of mind that the company would look into the matter.

I don’t think this happened in 9ja o, due to the response. A 9ja company would have denied it immediately instead of apologising and reassuring the client.

My opinion though …..

jUeLiZ:
Make Putin do him worse now....

Everytime Nuclear threat like say na only Russia get nuclear weapons.... make Putin press the button if him get mind...