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ubunja:
no one said mistreat a slut. who said so?? me? OP?? only you.
do you see how ITS YOU who has a problem?

I have a problem? I think there's been some miscommunication here but it's all good. My point still stands.

Jagermeister:
Man I won't lie to you, a lot of guys are pussies and wussies!

I have nothing against treating people right, including women, but some dudes take it too far. Smh. Lol.

A typical example is how much guys 'like' the profile picture of girls on social media including Nairaland even if it's just a random animated picture. All for pussy.

I never ever like a females picture on social media and it's not because I hate them but I find it unnecessary especially if they have a lot already.

Manginas.. Lol

Bro I've given up on that 'like' issue. I can never understand how a guy will click on a girl's profile and the next thing he will do is like her pictures, meanwhile check his own profile, no single 'like'. Not even 'half-like' because girls in their self-obsessed nature will never like a guy's photo on a typical day. Obviously for the guys, it's their preek that does the thinking.

But what pisses me off is when I see an ugly or very basic girl with upwards of 200 likes. I just put my hands on my head with tears in my eyes and be like "NAIRALAND GUYS HAVE FINISHED ME!"

ubunja:
if you need a survey i pity you

I follow you pity am join. ALL WOMEN ARE SLUTS! Comman beat me

The truth is that once you adopt this mindset and treat them accordingly you will be surprised how many ladies will be dying to have a piece of you. Especially when you got your sh!t together as a man. Of course, you should never tell her to her face that she's a slut. What you should do however, is let her know that you have a very low tolerance for bullsh!t. After all, who takes a slut seriously?

harry2sexy:
I read stories like this and i remember THE MANIPULATED MAN.
ever woman why a woman has no pockets on most of her clothes but a man has at least 4 pockets on his jeans?

Why?

Perfectnumber6:
Dear I have sat her down several times, she keeps promising to change, but yet she won't, what pains me most is when she said no intimacy with me anymore for no just reasons, but she wants me to be spending money on her needs can you imagine such a heartlesss girl.

She stopped sleeping with you cos she's sleeping with someone else now. You can take this statement to the bank and cash it. As for me I have given up on them. They are all useless. I only spend for myself and my family. Bought new clothes, a car, upgraded my skills and increased my streams of income. I know it's hard but just bury your heart for one side and take these demons at face value before they wreck you cos that's what they are - demons. If you do mistake come my side cos you're feeling the boy's package and swag, I go just chop you and discard you. Fvck you and your fake love.

That money you gave her to learn make up, is she now using the make up skills to make an income for herself? I am very sure that the answer is NO which means that you just wasted your money. Please learn from this I beg you, it's gonna be hard so i'd suggest you delete her number, messages, pictures and unfriend her on all social media platforms. I give you two months maximum and you would have forgotten all about the witch. Guy don't dull yourself o, 2018 is trickling away already. Put your ears to the ground and look out for opportunities to keep growing and improving yourself and you will find that you are even beginning to attract better quality women.

As for my and my house, 2018 is my year of ELEVATION!

I scored 69 on this. I guess I've really lived

Blonchilli:
On the contrary Aquaman is one of DC's primary characters. Jason Mamoa's Aquaman wasn't the Aquaman I know. If he had been a Khal Drogo kind of character it would have made sense. Aquaman is a warrior, a king, a brute and he's mean and blunt. Jason Mamoa should have been better as Lobo (I've said it before) than Aquaman because his Aquaman talks too much. Watch the Justice League series 2002-2004, Justice Leage: War, Flashpoint Paradox, Aquaman and any other DC animation Aquaman appears in. I would have preferred the guy that plays Tarzan and that vampire in True Blood as Aquaman. He has that snub in him that Aquaman has, Jason is a pain in the arse, Lobo.

You're so on point with this! Aquaman is ideally a snob not a loud mouth. That True Blood actor would make a great Aquaman with the height and all. He'd only need to seriously bulk up.

The most annoying part be say she go still open mouth ask u make u give am head

Some guys dey try sha

Lol this sounds really personal bro, like you've experienced this. In any case we've all been there before, one way or another. Thank God we don't look like what we've been through. Shalom!

Saintmary:
you are so on point. As much as I recognise the challenges facing our women in this country and in this world, I believe the best way to fight the darkness of ignorance is to shine the light of knowledge. I intend to be a woman well admired by the coming generation and to leave the world better than I met it.
I believe I am born into the world at a time like this to first live free of stereotypes then teach others how to.

Preach it sister!

Saintmary:
you do not need outside opinion to determine your self worth. Your post shows that a good percentage of males live by pack mentality. How can you head a home if you cannot uphold good and right principles without needing the approval of friends and acquaintances? It is well with our men.

I quite understand your point dear. My own point is that women should learn to do away with victim mentality. All the things the OP listed (of which most are valid) will not change the way the people in our society act and behave. These beliefs and values have been passed down from generation to generation on the basis of religion, ethnicity and our values as a people. I don't believe this will change any time soon.

My point is, how does this stop a woman from achieving her full potential? IT DOESN'T! She can still go to school, graduate, make her own money and be the change she wishes to see within her circle of influence. This whole thing of bemoaning how women have it bad and men have it good is quite tiring because quite frankly life is kicking all our asses both men and women.

Ever wondered why men die quicker? It's hard on both sides.

Just wanna engage in a simple discourse o, no insults if you can manage that lol

Tozara:
Lol. I told YOU to fück off.

All this lol wey you just dey type. Better calm down, I can tell you're on edge

Tozara:
But you didn't listen when I sent you off the first time...... bruh. Don't be a morön.

You win kid. You win

Tozara:
You talk too much.

kk

Tozara:
LMAO. You were waiting for me to 'insult' you because you knew calling YOU a fool is NOT an insult.

Lol I hear you kid. You won hands down. Now run along...

Tozara:
Lol! I offered that card first, fool!

Don't burst an artery because of me o. Better calm the fvck down. I know you need to look cool in front of everybody lol

Tozara:
Lol! I offered that card first, fool!

Yeah I was waiting for you to insult me. Wasn't disappointed. Now run along!

Tozara:
Men Going Their Own Way. Nigga, don't lose focus because of me.

March on, bruh. And, please, don't look back.

Nigga swerve. Take ur own advice.

Tozara:
I think you should ask aunty Lizzy how she feels. I no get time for back-and-forths on feminist threads these days. I see it as a waste of precious time.

Sorry.

Yet you commented on the thread. Sorry for yourself.

luckyogor:
Wait for an utopian world till the earth cease to exist,nothing is fair for all species,the strong preys on the weak and thats how the earth will be till the ending,that aside we need to be as fair as possible to the women folk,but do the women folk want to be treated equally.....the ans is NO,they want to be superior,which they already are but they dont know,i know my sweetie pulls the strings,but i just pretend as if i dont know just to make her comfortable and she is wise enough not to paste it on my face.love life and be good and respectable to all our women folks cause they are the salt of the earth.

That's just it. For all their talk they really just want to be superior. Leave all the long talk. Currently they are superior in the USA and what is the end result - a high number of disenfranchised and successful women, the dissolution of marriage as an institution, more and more disgruntled men who'd rather be on their own than have their lives derailed by these devious creatures.

Now there is an epidemic on older women preying on small small boys for sex. Why? They can't find a man. The men all flee so they prey on a young innocent boys with raging hormones and lure him in with sex to fulfil their emotional void.

I'll never understand why this women continue to envy men. Very soon now they will want to have preek like us. George Orwell's Animal Farm all over again.


"All Human Beings are Equal but Women are more Equal than others."

Na their motto be that

Tozara:
Generally, we males have it far better than the females.

It's not only about what you see, or mere perceptions and appearances. They know what they experience and feel, and you'll be shocked were they to open up to you and pour out the ocean of emotions they've been bottling up.

Besides, this is a thread about women. Don't make it about men.

Please bro, I beg you in the name of God, tell me what they feel. I really want to know how they have been repressed and enslaved because from where I sit women have it good and easy especially when they know what they're doing so when I see threads like this I really don't get it.

I dey wait.

fayded:
She ain't interested in you.
Stop giving her too much attention and start talking to other girls and hanging out with em.
If she is feeling you, she'd come bk, if not, then forget her.
She ain't the only intelligent girl in d world or in your vicinity for that matter.
Chances are that your "love" for her is making you hype her. Oga give her space, snub her and live ur life. She'd come bk eventually, but if not, then she ain't yours

Do what this guy said. It's a win-win either way. You literally have nothing to lose. See ehn, when a babe loves you she fit even forget that education ma sef because of you, she could turn against her parents because of you, she would want to do anything for you, because that's what love does to people. Now is the time to find out how she really feels about you. I see no reason why she can't love her boyfriend and still kick ass in her academics. The key is to strike a balance. If she loves you enough she should be able to do this, especially after you make yourself scarce like this dude I've quoted surmised. Now go get your balls back.

Win-Win.

Belafonte:
Women are incapable of violence. Didn't you know this?

I've always known this bro. Na today?

BigBashiru:
The crux of the matter is if a woman told a man she can't date him becos he is over 30, the woman risks losing her life from violence from the man.

It's obviously a double standard but is a women's issue.... so I will post it in a women only forum and the thread is now closed.

And all the girls that reject men on a daily basis because he is broke, too short, too handsome, too dark, too ugly, too skinny, etc., why haven't they all been killed or treated to violence? You are obviously very stewpid.

If you wanna pass a message please do so without adding unnecessary maggi and spice. Maybe some clueless guy will take pity on your old self and marry you.

marvin902:
nothing my brother ..
nat a single thing

Therein lies the answer you seek.

marvin902:
kinda in your position right now..
don they post am since august last year..
would have bought her the phone before the end of the year..
buh she won come dey choose on top my money..
am now contemplating putting her out of her misery

Your instinct is trying to tell you something. Listen to it. Whenever I'm beginning to feel used, I can always feel it. It is more of a feeling.

Tell me though, what is the most expensive thing she has ever bought for you?

Amadaz:
Lol... No be small thing bro. She says if I truly love her there should be no limit to what I can do for her. I've admitted to her I'll buy her a phone and a laptop but inside me I know I won't do any of those.

You see that love of a thing? That's what they use to scam guys.

"If you really love me, you will..."

Be wise!

idu1:
Run away from broke and demanding leeches (girls).
Use your money to enrich and setup your life and marry a highly matured lady later.

My friend op what you need now fuvkmate. Look for smallie for your area and be fuvking her and be giving her small small change like 1k make e no pass 2k o I warn u Don't keep anyone say na your girlfriend.

Don't fvck small small girls in your area learn to keep your business private. Besides they can't take care of themselves so could very easily accidentally get pregnant and she could be so stewpid to point a finger at you. Who is going to believe your cries that you always used protection?

Pay as you go, is the way to go.

My biggest problem with women is their hypergamous nature and as such, I never go above and beyond for anyone. If pursuing a babe is going to stress me unduly financially, emotionally and pschologically, I cut my losses and run. Nigerian guys need to be better at doing a cost benefit analysis when it comes to women. If the cost of the undertaking is worth more than whatever benefit you feel might accrue to you, then it is not worth it. Most of the time what is the man's benefit? To thrust back and forth between the thighs of a woman before spilling forth seed. Some men pass through hoops and unspeakable ordeals (to the detriment of their own dignity and self respect) to achieve this aim which begs the question: Is it really worth it?

TIPS:

1. Never go for a girl if she shows zero interest in you. Go for the ones who "innocently and unassumingly" orbit around you. She messages you randomly, compliments you, calls you to just say hi, etc. We all have admirers but most guys are blind to green light or as I have come to discover lately, they don't even bother to decode the subtle signals that these ladies are passing because like me, they have decided that it's really not worth the stress.

2. If she calls you 3 to 4 times, make sure you only call her once or twice.

3. Never be the first one to say I love you. It makes you appear needy and clingy. If she says it reply. If she doesn't, don't bring it up.

4. If a woman tries to use her pvssy to exert some form of control over you, disqualify her immediately. For instance if she says "Hmm if you don't buy me that Peruvian hair I asked for you're not touching me tonight. You'll never get a piece of this." Reply with: "Who wants to touch a ugly baboon like you? Keep dreaming, mumu!" Always let her know she can't control or manipulate you by dangling her pvssy in front of you like a carrot. Invalidate her and put her in place. Wreck her self esteem. They know deep down that they are all hoes, and in their quiet moments they feel bad about it. Use this knowledge to your advantage..

5. If you are in a relationship and you notice her slipping away or changing in front of you, resist your impulses to MAN UP. What do I mean by manning up? Don't start giving her more attention or start calling her more or showering her with gifts, you will lose her faster because she is already on her way out and will see you as a beta male who can't get something better if or when she leaves. If you notice her slipping away - DO NOTHING. Act like you don't even notice. Preferably, stop making any effort altogether. JUST STOP. Assume a siddon-look disposition and she will think twice before leaving you. If she does, good riddance. What you are doing is valuing and respecting yourself above all else.



The media has brainwashed men in thinking they need to jump through hoops or pass through the jaws of the tiger to win the affection of a lady you love. The result of this is an overabundance of supplicating men and a bunch of females with an over-exaggerated and over-inflated sense of worth. Refuse to be part of the crowd. Stand up tall and proud, which is what a real man should be. You will discover that the women that want to be in your life will jump through hoops and do whatever it takes to be in your life. I'm speaking from experience.

I took the time to write this because the dating game is stacked against men and most times we end up the losers, holding the short end of the stick. However this phenomenon is not new. The dissatisfaction has spread from Asia down to the West, as more and more men are feeling more alienated and deciding altogether that relationships and marriage aren't worth it any more. And how can it be worth it? Over there the woman you have married and invested in can destroy your life on a whim by taking away almost everything you have ever worked for. The white girls aren't any better guys. No where is safe. In the near future women will begin to complain about a real scarcity of men and it will be obvious for all to see, especially as they grow older and options begin to dwindle. Shebi wen you don flash green light tire and nobody gree respond you go dey run go shiloh? Contunu!

The major problems of woman have always been their unrealistic expectations. Nothing is ever enough. Once you realize this you won't even stress yourself no more. Life is eazi mehn!