brosci:

when i was in delta state, i had a friend who was far older than me and was married to a beautiful lady. he did everything he could for this woman, supported her finacially and even started a business for her.
unfortunately the man was dischared from the army and was no longer finacially competent. his beautiful angel decided to show her true colours; she cheated publicly with every guy she found desirable, insulted the man and even stayed away from home for days......

so pls op do you know what the average nigeria man go through from women alone?
may feminism not kill you.

danwilliams4u:
The answers here paint a rosy picture. But all that is a big fat lie.

Nigerian women are treated like TRASH.

Nigerian women have to live in a society where they are treated as second class citizens.

No matter what you have achieved, people are going to question when you are going to get married because that's apparently all you're good for.

As a woman, if you have to report a case to the police, they will ask you to call your husband/brother/father or boyfriend because apparently you as an adult woman, you can't be trusted to report something that happened to you. How are you going to report domestic abuse to the same police asking you to come with your husband? Even if you did, you would be told “it's a family matter”.

Let me ask those painting a picture of a life they know nothing about some questions. Do you even know what the average Nigerian woman faces?

What about people blaming you for the crash of your marriage? Not your husband, you.

What about being blamed for your husband hitting you? And when you open up to talk about it, you are blamed some more.

What about servicemen asking for your husband, boyfriend, father or brother when things need to be repaired in your house?

What about people blaming you for sexual assaults? Not your attacker, you. Telling you things like “why did you wear that?”, “It's your fault for tempting him” and many more.

What about male compatriots telling you to shut up because you're a woman & shouldn't be talking where men are?

What about getting married off before you're ready? Getting pulled out of school to become a wife? Getting VVF while giving birth?

What about your husband treating you like a second class human being because you had the audacity to give birth via C-section?

What about being sexually assaulted and harassed with your attacker telling you that you ought to be pleased because you're beautiful?

What about being treated like you don't matter because you're female and would end up bearing another man's surname? Being educated last because your brother(s) are more useful to the family than you are?

What about everyone believing that every material thing you have acquired is as a result of you laying on your back & opening your legs for it?

What about being slut shamed, single shamed because you're a woman who wouldn't conform to the nonsense patriarchial nature of your society?

What about men calling you a “man hater” because you dare to demand better treatment for yourself and other women?

What about men raping women, female children as young as 2/3 years old?

What about you Nigerian men labelling any woman or girl who refuses your advances, a prostitute aka ashewo?

What about believing all a woman is good for is cooking your food & bearing your children?

Before you come here [right][/right]and preach what you don't know, ask your sisters, mothers and aunts. They will tell you because your privilege blinds you to most of it.

Daeylar:


I love this,
But is this really from a male on nairalander?
That's good. Anytime The usual male nairalanders and even some brain dead female nairalanders have anything to say about a woman, it's the usual misogynistic ridiculous nonsense that comes out of their empty heads.

Nice.

Blueberrie:


Wow just wow. You took one example of an unfaithful wife to invalidate what thousands of women and little girls go through.

RuthDaniels:
Dont know about you honey, but when Im talking about Female gender, I mean Women and Ladies. The smart ones who knows what they want and where they are headed and not "girls. Nah nah! There is a difference between those two are!

With my folks getting more oriented, educated, independent, wiser, outspoken, and knowledgeable I think you have to upgrade your mentality because we are getting there.

The point is things are no longer the way they are before, women are still being treated unfairly in some places but not as worse as before.You know it, but just don't want to admit it

brosci:


invalidate?
i never tried to invalidate anything. i simply pointed out that both sexes are dealt a major blow in our society and it's in no way pecuilar to only female folks.
have you seen some typical nigeria home where the woman is the financial commando? you will feel so sorry for the man. i've seen it happened on different ocassions and about sexual assault men have their own share. i was a victim, i was 7 then

YelloweWest:

Atimes a wonder if they fell out of the sky and not through a woman.

gloria34:
regrets being a Nigerian girl. some assholes in d form of guys will still come here to spill rubbish

danwilliams4u:
The answers here paint a rosy picture. But all that is a big fat lie.

Nigerian women are treated like TRASH.

Nigerian women have to live in a society where they are treated as second class citizens.

No matter what you have achieved, people are going to question when you are going to get married because that's apparently all you're good for.

As a woman, if you have to report a case to the police, they will ask you to call your husband/brother/father or boyfriend because apparently you as an adult woman, you can't be trusted to report something that happened to you. How are you going to report domestic abuse to the same police asking you to come with your husband? Even if you did, you would be told “it's a family matter”.

Let me ask those painting a picture of a life they know nothing about some questions. Do you even know what the average Nigerian woman faces?

What about people blaming you for the crash of your marriage? Not your husband, you.

What about being blamed for your husband hitting you? And when you open up to talk about it, you are blamed some more.

What about servicemen asking for your husband, boyfriend, father or brother when things need to be repaired in your house?

What about people blaming you for sexual assaults? Not your attacker, you. Telling you things like “why did you wear that?”, “It's your fault for tempting him” and many more.

What about male compatriots telling you to shut up because you're a woman & shouldn't be talking where men are?

What about getting married off before you're ready? Getting pulled out of school to become a wife? Getting VVF while giving birth?

What about your husband treating you like a second class human being because you had the audacity to give birth via C-section?

What about being sexually assaulted and harassed with your attacker telling you that you ought to be pleased because you're beautiful?

What about being treated like you don't matter because you're female and would end up bearing another man's surname? Being educated last because your brother(s) are more useful to the family than you are?

What about everyone believing that every material thing you have acquired is as a result of you laying on your back & opening your legs for it?

What about being slut shamed, single shamed because you're a woman who wouldn't conform to the nonsense patriarchial nature of your society?

What about men calling you a “man hater” because you dare to demand better treatment for yourself and other women?

What about men raping women, female children as young as 2/3 years old?

What about you Nigerian men labelling any woman or girl who refuses your advances, a prostitute aka ashewo?

What about believing all a woman is good for is cooking your food & bearing your children?

Before you come here [right][/right]and preach what you don't know, ask your sisters, mothers and aunts. They will tell you because your privilege blinds you to most of it.

brosci:

when i was in delta state, i had a friend who was far older than me and was married to a beautiful lady. he did everything he could for this woman, supported her finacially and even started a business for her.
unfortunately the man was dischared from the army and was no longer finacially competent. his beautiful angel decided to show her true colours; she cheated publicly with every guy she found desirable, insulted the man and even stayed away from home for days......

so pls op do you know what the average nigeria man go through from women alone?
may feminism not kill you.

saggis:
This may surprise most 'Akata' feminists, but most Nigerian women prefer things the way they are in Nigeria. Even educated ones. Nigerian women are the second most pampered women in the whole world. second only to Arabian women.

Most do not have to do any serious work, but has everything paid for and provided for by Nigerian men. This applies to both stinking rich Nigerians and the okada men, brick layers, bus drivers and conductors.

Ask the Alaye bus drivers and conductors in Nigeria how many of them their wife WORKS. Not very many I can assure you. The small scale biz most of them run were set up and funded by their husbands.

In the west the financial loads are shared almost equally between man and wife.

greiboy:
The problem with this kind of write up is that it encourages self pity and neglects the root cause of the problems.

Many of the issues the op raised are as a result of what some terrible ladies have done or have said to men i.e. A guy broke shamed can decide to retaliate by slut shamming the lady etc.



A bold writer will have addressed both sides of the coin

winnar:
You said it all. If we countinue lamenting without working towards a change, we will still be treated like second class from generation to generation. The change begins with us "women".

Women learn to teach your sons how to respect women. Let them understand women are also humans just like them.

I will raise a wonderful son.
A son that will walk away no matter the provocation.
A son that will not see it a big deal to help in house chores.
A son that will respect and keep his marriage vows.
A son that sees his wife as a partner not a slave.

So help me God.

uckennety:




Go to Libya,afghanistan,Pakistan,Indian,northern African and south African countries!


We men are tired of your dramas!

Or we can leave for you species!

You lie,your manipulative,your selfish, your wicked, you live fake lives yet you will be the first to shout foul play!!!!

gloria34:
regrets being a Nigerian girl. some assholes in d form of guys will still come here to spill rubbish

YelloweWest:

You are dead wrong!

The cause of the issues raised by the op are because Nigeria is a patriarchal backward society! Typical of most African countries!

We born in this generation are even lucky. Ask your mother or older aunts what they went through growing up.

You enlightened young men need to stop blaming women for the mistakes of our ancestors.

The problem is not women.

The problem is how society is hardwired to think of women!

Back in the day it was acceptable because there was nothing like equal rights.
A woman was sub human period!

Things has since changed but we still hold on to our backward way of thinking

gloria34:
go vent ur anger on d babe who broke ur hrt, and speak 4 ur self, not all guys think like u

schurley:
Nigeria woman suffer dis nigeria woman suffer dat..... I endeavor u to go to Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, UAE, Iran, even Egypt here in Africa u ladies will tank u stars u ar from nigeria

Thegamingorca:




admit...lol have you visited instamessenger or badoo or codedruns lately?

Are you being serious about your folk's claim to be independent? Cos your folks are now hustling for customers and competing with upcoming sluts in the ashewo ministry.

The amount of sluts waiting to be slaughtered of which to select from has more than doubled since 2017.

Money is a powerful thing. No matter how much you think you have, you will eventually need more.

Girls are hungry.

It pains me to admit it but the economy is in shambles, girls are hungry but the land(ever unyielding) is barren so who do dey run to?! That's right, the shepherds

Girls are treated like pigs cos of economic status...It will stay this way till amadioha returns

Nasarawaboy:

You regret, why?
A guy broke your heart or what?
90% of the things the op stated has in existence since time immemorial.
So babe chill

Tozara:
Generally, we males have it far better than the females.

It's not only about what you see, or mere perceptions and appearances. They know what they experience and feel, and you'll be shocked were they to open up to you and pour out the ocean of emotions they've been bottling up.

Besides, this is a thread about women. Don't make it about men.

uckennety:




No babe break my heart

I don't associate with mad people!

Once i see your mad i walk away

There are alot of babes around!
But i hate girls shouting foul play
When they are the problem

gloria34:
d fact that it has been in existence doesn't mean I should accept it. I reject that life

Adamh:


Actually, Cs birth is more likely to result in the baby having a weaker immune system and developing infections like asthma. So, you can't really blame the guy, though I doubt he knew of these specific consequences of the procedure

luckyogor:
Wait for an utopian world till the earth cease to exist,nothing is fair for all species,the strong preys on the weak and thats how the earth will be till the ending,that aside we need to be as fair as possible to the women folk,but do the women folk want to be treated equally.....the ans is NO,they want to be superior,which they already are but they dont know,i know my sweetie pulls the strings,but i just pretend as if i dont know just to make her comfortable and she is wise enough not to paste it on my face.love life and be good and respectable to all our women folks cause they are the salt of the earth.