₦airaland Forum

tosyne2much:
All na the same jawe

Chai see as these nairalanders don dey cast D'ija.Na wah o most times when u go hear of gals with flat tits dem go just go mention Di'ja upandan.Di'ja don suffer o

tosyne2much:
All na the same jawe

Chai see as these nairalanders don dey cast D'ija.Na wah o most times when u go hear of gals with flat tits dem go just go mention Di'ja upandan.Di'ja don suffer o

trustyshoess:
The pronunciation is irrelevant to the meaning. What does feminism mean? That's what's more important. People are just too quick to make judgements because of the way a word sounds, rather than learning about it's meaning
Well if you haven't noticed, feminism is hated by ignorant people and Nairaland is so full of ignorant people. I would love to have an intelligent and mature debate/discussion about feminism without someone insulting me, calling me a bitter lonely and depressed woman, making assumptions on my sexuality, and other blatant display of ignorance. So, I join discussions on better regulated websites and offline too.

Well the truth is that some of your fellow feminists are actually bitter and specialize in fault finding.Also when i talked about being active,i meant advancing the cause and 'winning more souls'.

trustyshoess:
Not exactly. It just seems like people react badly to it. Once you calm down and study it, feminism is a good thing. I was once on the anti feminism bandwagon until I decided to learn rather than castigate

F-E-M-I-N-I-S-T pronounce it and tell me what you get.
Note; i ain't people and don't get it twisted I'm not against feminism i simply don't like way some certain people go about it(am sure you'll understand) and besides one problem i have with you feminists iz that you guys are not very active especially on NL.

trustyshoess:
You seem to be mixing up the term female with feminist. Female doesn't = Feminist. There doesn't seem to be a lot of feminists in Nigeria tho. Men can be feminists too! Maybe we need a better term so men feel more comfortable being associated with it

Exactly my thoughts!!!! the term itself is quite misleading.

QueenSekxy:
alright cool.

Ah ah QueenSekxy i used to think u were a feminist o.

makydebbie:
It's one of our nl boys stupid assumptions since we need men to be happy. Fvck! Is it sex? I'll get a dild© and feel happy.

And you're the same girl that opened a thread on feminism and Christianity

tosyne2much:
GLO haters will lash out to you

Tosyne2much free that one glo iz slow

tosyne2much:
I've always maintained that feminism is STUPIDITY in this part of the world. It promotes evil and violence. I'm yet to see a feminist without an unbiased mind and irrational judgment towards matters

There are some partial ones like that Reina gal

Tozara:
Not in any SIGNIFICANT way. So, talking about the victim is not important. The BABOONS commiting these crimes, and the people encouraging them are the problem!

In your previous post you mentioned tightening security around your place if you were to be in such a situation.
What would you call that if not a preventive measure.
Also don't think that in any way i'm trying to blame the cases of rape on the victim.We can not change the minds of everyone as to the view towards rape.As someone once posted,some peeps are bleeped up and can't control their urges.
Another thing is that dressing in a non flaunting way isn't the only preventive measure;many cases of rape wouldn't have occurred if the victims knew how to engage in self defense.

Tozara:
I would live my life like I used to and tighten my security. In such an environment, the average person who has nothing to flaunt will also be robbed.

Living modestly won't protect you from robbers and muggers.

You are not getting the idea ;it lessens[b]

Tozara:
I would live my life like I used to and tighten my security. In such an environment, the average person who has nothing to flaunt will also be robbed.

Living modestly won't protect you from robbers and muggers.

You are not getting the idea ;it [/b]
lessens the chances of you getting robbed.

Tozara:
[color=#000050]Should we blame rich people who go about town building mansions, wearing designer dresses, displaying their rolex for all to see, driving the latest cars, when animals kill them to make away with their wealth and property? Should we advise them to live like paupers because there are predators and lazy bastards around who would be tempted to hurt and rob them? Should we blame them for flaunting their wealth? Are THEY the problem, or are the animals who chose to attack and steal from them? "Prevention is better than cure", yeah? Because poor people who have nothing to flaunt don't get robbed of the little they have? Because the most cautious of men do not fall victim of misfortune, courtesy of the beastliness and wickedness of the baboons in human skin that litter the streets?

Blaming the victim is justifying the crime and wickedness of the aggressor/predator![/color]

He is in no way blaming the victim he is only stating possible means by which ladies can avoid being raped,the world we live in is not perfect and until then we can only continue take preventive measures.
Let's assume you live in a particular area and unfortunately armed robbery is rampant there,will u go about flaunting your money and other material properties when ever you're around?

closerange:
There is no such thing as consent by coersion not if a gun isn't held to your head......

If your boss wants to sleep with you a with your job at stake, you should sue him for sexual harassment, if you choose to sleep with him however, in order to keep your job, you have lost the right to complain... You gave your consent, you simply preferred your job to your dignity... That part isn't a fault on your boss, its a fault in your character....

I see the complication here
There are are two choices:
Refuse and lose your job
Agree and sleep with the boss.
Nobody is forcing the girl to pick one.

ultimate77:
Hahaha hah.... U guys are great.
You know, I always site this illustration to this baby. "a prophet is not recognized in his home"...
While in the University from 100 to final year, I was a councillor in the University Chapel. I councelled so many lady's especially even married men, families, about relationship, academic et al...
I did so very well even at 17. Till 20 when I graduated, I was awarded the best.
I served as senator representing economics department in sug.
And with all this exposure, everything about relationship I talk to this girl about sounds like gong on her ears.
I thought another person should help but it's not working.
I'm just praying tomorrow comes and goes well.

A friend said I shouldn't discus the issue with her tomorrow which is her day. What do yell think.

Free her na some people are not meant to be 'saved'

tosyne2much:
This one you objectified every man as a potential rapist ehn

I disagree strongly with the guy o

tosyne2much:
Nobody wise finish now.. I'm already thinking if "10 Things" can come out of this little discussion

U get masters degree for dat one na
Prof.Tosyne2much PhD
Professor of '10 things'

frenzyduchess:
it is this same general sense that has made the public come hard on the male folks when it comes to rape ,so you see, you can't really separate one from the other

What is your point then coz it seems we're on the same page here

frenzyduchess:
scroll up and see the question I asked him

In reply to your question the ability to ward off a sexual predator goes both ways unless you're asking in a general sense which lies mainly in favour of the males. but that isn't the issue being tackled here.

biuti:
You've rightly said 'most', that means some are still unique. That you even visit the site means it likely has the info you need.
Bolded above, you mean site owners get something from the mb you used on the site?
You probably don't know how it works.

The data you use when you visit a site is like transport fare to the market, the market people only make money when you buy what they sell and not from tour transport fare. So they don't like you to just look and go without buying something.

So who does the data then go to?
Besides don't get me wrong i visit sites which show ads but i dislike the ones which show too many ads.I know that you guys use ur sites as a money making venture but c'mon i'm not the only visitor.
Also another reason i despise too many ads on a site is because they tend to take too much space and sometimes cover up the info I'm seeking.This is very discouraging for someone like me who often remains loyal to sites that i like

frenzyduchess:
Well I guess none of you want to give me a direct answer, take care

What exactly is your question?

frenzyduchess:
I don't think any of you seem to be getting me, I have answered your question,do well to check my comment above

I don't believe you have,afterall there are cases of drugged rape and note:the issue of drugged rape goes both ways.Also you seem to have the mindset common in the society that a man iz supposed to enjoy being raped by a lady.

LaEvilIMiss:
carry a jagged pocket knife.. stab n drag.. inner-thigh underneath the groin.. i give him 5 minutes tops and he is dead.. your case? defensive moves.. but don't try it in Africa, India and the Middle-East.. too many brainless twats there

That's why the law is an ass.It has a funny way of making the offender look like the victim and the victim look like the offender.

frenzyduchess:
But let's put it this way, so he found her performing mouth action on him ,I am sure he won't push her way , now you can't compare that to being held down or even beaten and the forcefully penetrated. That's why it's almost impossible to rape a man, cos they have the advantage of strength except when drugged.have a nice day

I disagree with you.Is it only when a. woman is being held down or beaten and then forcibly penetrated that they are raped?
I also disagree with your statement that if a man wakes up and finds the woman giving him head,he won't push her away.

Phi001:
Honestly Mynd44 you've very correct.


It's quite annoying. Once a guy is accused, you hear them females calling him pig, making statements like 'men are scum' and all without even bothering to find out whether the accusation is true.

Don't mind most of them.I don't know if fault-finding has been ingrained in their blood

tosyne2much:
It's a welcome drilling


If you think the soldiers in camp will treat you exactly the way your father treats you at home, you must be a clown

So hw ur camp dey bros.U don dey feel the heat already

Admin401:
The day i feared Facebook was when i newly took an interest in Binary Options
I focused on training myself for 1 month, doing researches, watching videos, downloading PDF's (with the help of Google only)
Just to get good at it. During my 1 month learning, i never logged into Facebook at any point.
After i tried to trade Binary option and lost, i decided to quit. I logged into Facebook to see whats up
But then all the advert that kept popping up were only about Binary Options and Forex, in my mind
i was like "how did this guys know what i want?" it then dawned on me that this people have access to my internet history
The have access to everything thing i do on my computer when my internet is on.

This is quite dangerous o

biuti:
Lol, don't mind them all. They want free info without thinking of how to give back to the provider.

Most of those info you get iz it not copy and paste? What about the data one expends on visiting the ur sites, don't you people get money from there? Another issue is the popup of too many ads once i See such in blog i run out immediately.

uzoclinton:
And you think its fair to the blogger whose blog you frequent to get informed/entertained..

It iz also not fair for ads which i have no connection with to be popping up and down on my phone

three:
Nice going!..

Many Nigerian young people are not Visionary or ambitious, just waiting for a bus going somewhere so they can hop on. Never thinking, why can't I drive the bus, own the bus, fuel the bus, determine where the bus goes....

The demographics are on our side (we will pay for today's mistakes or enjoy today's deft development moves).

Choose a consensus candidate. Online/offline... Whatever.

Turn out massively to vote.

Protect the votes.

Win the election with our man or woman in charge.

I don't know if someone was in a bad mood and cursed Africa why are things so different here.

UlrikVandram:
And she's a Muslim because she says she is?

And you're a Moslem simply because you're defending the koran oh please we've gotten past that stage.

UlrikVandram:
Your god is Satan.

Confused Sun god worshipping Sun day church going tithe paying brainless pigs.

Obviously you don't know much about Horus and Jesus.

Daeylar:
The Fuçk?? ?? ??
Where is your chill??

Lol his chill went out with the toilet paper