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Adaeze003: You trying to say that marriage is a one sided affair? That women have nothing to gain?

dayokanu: If the work gets too much how about getting a domestic help and everyone is happy

Oyinprince: wen i ws a kid, i usd to see my fada help my mum anytym he was free nd had d opportunity... if u love ur wife,then i believe u wuld want to help her except u married her as a servant nd not as a partner

ZIM DRILL: thats a different topic on its own which might read ABUSE OF THE PHRASE WOWEN ENPOWERMENT

those are abuses that come out with changes,

i am male

SELFWORTH: What do you expect?

Many people know nothing about marriage .

Many Nigerian women endure their marriage rather than enjoy it.

A lot of men here on NL at hypocrites and only represent themselves . You can help your mother but not the mother of your child. They complain about how their sisters are treated by their husbands but treat their women like doormat and expect love in return. To make it worse , they all get to the altar and promise to love their wives. Then again, many people don't know what Love is.

Xpset: Madrid man u. i cant go for over goal due much expectation from this match

Ayobetzz: dia is notin wrong wit dem both betfair but dem don get problem by acceptn me as a client

byvan: Do I think men should help more around the house?YES!!!is it enough to make trouble about??A CAPITAL NO.Do your best and carryover the rest,if your hubby helps,FINE!!!if he doesn't,Let it be.This is Marrafackin Africa!!!!

Some really will love to help but get too lazy to do house chores.It bores most to tears and dirt doesn't bother a lot guys.

@Chocolate,don't let this chores thing be a hitch to your marital bliss,get a househelp if chores really bother you that much.

jidegirl12:

Are you okay upstairs at all? When has it been a crime to comment here ? you should kuku do rota and sit him down with a cane to delegate chores to him, if you're having a hard time with your hubby doing house chores , get yourselves Ekaette since both of you 'contribute' to your family purse! Mtcheeew

JallowBah: Or; you both pay for the house and electricity and food, and have a saving account together, and then the rest, you spend on hair, clothes, nails, shoes, cars, beers, whatever floats your boat.
( If both are working fulltime... )

ZIM DRILL: its not complicated as people want to put it, you need to understand how it began, then you will understand were we are. long back the husbans went to work while wives stayed home, that time money from the husband salary was enough for family (average family) so there was no need for women to go to work, wives would do house chores etc and needed no help becoz they had nothing else do, they would manage by themselves

now things have change money from husband is not enough and also women have been enpowered to go all the way like a man going to work etc , this is were our problem starts, men are forgetting that she has been to work like you and she is tired like you and at the same time she is supposed to do the house chores so since you are all working for the family you need to help each other with chores as well, if she is clean yam you will be cutting the vegetables, if you get home early take out meat from the deep frooze and boil it for her, than her coming at 8pm and start from zero to cook

when you could have boil it while you even watching your fav tv programm or even supervising the kids to do home and taking bath etc

thats how simple it is

stagger: You are a wicked man! End of story.

You want your wife to die of housework, when she has a job and has to look after the kids: what type of nonsense is that? In my house, I wash the bathroom and toilet and this is something I enjoy doing right from when I was a kid. Occasionally, I sweep and once in a long while, I do the cooking. Sometimes I even pity my wife when she comes back home from a stressful day at work looking like she wants to collapse.

My helping with housework has never reduced my status in the house as the head of the house. Rather it has enhanced it.

How a modern day man whose wife goes to work (hard work I must say) and has to still bear the children and look after them should be be left to do all the work in the house beats my imagination!

Bambela: greatgod where have you being? I always looking forward to see your comment. @Op equally advice women not to see it as a duty when their hubbies tend to help them.

Tolufizzle: Heloo broda..plz I've been barned from participatin in d season 5 betin preview just becos I asked how I can make a deposit on ladbrokes...plz how can u help out..

Chokolee: Corner Market
Shakhtar v Borussia Dortmund
2.15 - Over 10 Corners

Real Madrid v Manchester Utd
2.25 - Over 11 Corners
Goodluck

Xpset: today's selection
Madrid total goal ODD
Dortmund btt

or double chance
man u/draw
sharkter/draw

bukatyne: My dear, take this advice first. I have stated my opinion and you have stated yours. In conlusion, run your home as you deem fit and I will run mine as I deem fit. Thanks. Have a nice day.

bukatyne: That was not my opinion, just trying to reason along the lines of this thread. I also feel it's not right for the wifey to be working and contribute nada to the home purse just how it's not right for a hubby not to do house chores when he's at home. Most people who have these views use the Bible to justify them. Such women say 'a man that doesn't provide is worse than an infidel' but I wonder where it was written the woman should not contribute at all. The virtuous woman in Prov 31 is said to be a hard worker that provides food and clothing for her family. I wonder where she will keep all the money she makes. Misinterpretation of the Bible has caused more problems than we can solve.

bukatyne: So you compare washing undies or not to wanting to kill the husband? A little understanding will do you a lot of good. As I have always said, everyman to his own so why are you giving yourself an headache on how I want to live my life or marriage? Please keep your advice to yourself.

bukatyne: I don't think how your brothers marriages work is your concern. We all have boundaries. I'm sure your husbands does some things his family would find offensive.

JallowBah: Deprived...? Lol. So a man should marry a woman just to have someone there, and not for love..? Nah.
You are still talking as if I make the rules in my marriage. And I am not alone in my marriage, which means I am not alone on deciding how the marriage works.
I did not give him any "conditions" other than expecting him to pay house with me. What do you mean I should have done, in the honor of african men? Told him to pay everything?



I have not asked any men to wash my undies I highly respect my husband, thank you very much.

bukatyne: I don't think how your brothers marriages work is your concern. We all have boundaries. I'm sure your husbands does some things his family would find offensive.

sleekman: So you see why you shouldn't bring fairness into this equation but rather carrying out your responsibilities. Since ur hussy works parttime is it then fair to say that ur hussy is a roaring domesticated cat and not yet a lion? Just wondering if ur husband has a good full time job and he'll want to be bossed around? I noticed u brought out the softer side of you in ur last post. Would it then be fair to say ure appreciating ur husband now because I can surely tell you that if some ladies reading your post set eyes on your man then na wahala O! I guess uve come around to our point that you allow a man be a man. No taming going on? I wonder what the agreement is all about? Are u misfiring or firing 180degrees with 2guns madam?

JallowBah: No, it can not be put to rest, of the simple fact that your mind is so narrow, that you are not able to see that people live different from you, and are HAPPY about that.

And Cameroon, I do not always play the race-card, don`t even try. What happens in here is that people start saying "you are not even african, don`t come here with any talk". It is a public forum, I can tlak however I feel like, the only difference is that I still have some respect for people in my words here.

Bah.

jidegirl12: Is washing underwear the big issue here now? Cos I can't go back all the way to page 1 to find out , @jallowbah , our men don't wash underwear, it translates a bad omen to our society, I sure will throway that laundry basket if I see my brothers doing that.
you see why I said your arguing with these guys is baseless, we have different culture which you don't seem to agree, I'm not saying you shouldn't be part of it but thinking it works here is a no no.
And@ Michky, lol at 'stop polluting your girls' .. your 'girls' with no proper or no home training, your girls that shouts equality yet wants men to feed them,clothe them and still give them pocket money even tho they make minimum wages, girls that wants to sit and deligate chores to their men... need I say more?
Abegi, stop blaming @jallow for your problems, a lady that went all her way to Africa to support her man with a toddler, your 'girls' will probably complain of Mosquitos and rather wait till he comes back even tho they were born with flying Mosquitos in their mouth in their village.
I pray everyday for God to cast away some of them here from my families dwellings cos what they say sometimes shock me!

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