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JallowBah: I did not say you have not given enough..that is YOUR words, and how you THINK i mean it

And yes, it is far better for someone without a job to actually DO things, than to sit down and feel sorry for himself. Without a doubt.

You're just trying to dribble your way out of contradiction. No problem. Marriage comes with agreement between the two or more parties involved. Whatever works on you is not my problem. If you'll like your husband to wash your undies and the rest, fine.
Where i come from, men are not accustomed to that and i will keep my family in that line. Y'all talk about marriage like a union of equals. Lol.
By the way, i'll suggest you start addressing your man as "room mate" and not "husband". ok? Marriage comes with duties. If you're not performing those duties, then you're not wife. Ayalegbe lasan lasan ni e!

kandiikane: Yes, because if many arguing were married or even living with their partner they will know every marriage/partnership is different. What works for someone doesn't work for another. Washing your wife's panties doesn't make you any less of a man, you are not better than her. Marriage is a union and you're meant to work together. It's not a union where it's king and subject. If you don't have a job, you Should help around the house, it doesn't make you any less of a man. This shows the disrespect and ill mentality Many men have for women.

"Oh, I'm not a domesticated cat,Why should I wash plates?" what the hell, does that mean? Respect your woman and treat her as you would want to be treated if you want to have a happy and bliss union.

When was the last time you visited your psychiatrist?

BTW, this is your poor definition of marriage and not the definition we all know. You people are editing the definition called marriage. Remember that as it comes with good, side effects will follow. Very soon, i see word "family" in terms of father, mother and children, going extinct. You these feminists will make sure of that. Well, which ever way it turns out in future, MAN will have nothing to lose. That's guaranteed!

JallowBah: See, you are still trashing MY way. I am simply trashing the fact that you are not willing to GIVE in your marriage.

Oh..your wife works 9 hours every day, you don`t have job, she still have to hurry on home to cook and clean while you are doing...what? Bullsh*t. It is THAT kinda attitude I find disturbing.
If your wife don`t have any issue with it, fine. But what if she does? What if she agree on doing everything at home as long as you both are woring, but when you loose your job, she want you to take care? Then what, you gonna divorce...?

My marriage is fine, thank you very much. He gives, I give. He get, I get.

One of the lowest points of a REAL MAN's life is when he's without a job. At that point, he's demoralized and some even get suicidal. Now, do you feel that would be the best time to remind your husband about your unwashed bra and undies? eh?!

And talking about Giving in a relationship. Am working really hard. I get my family a beautiful duplex in VI amongst other comforts of life plus security from harm. And you say i have not given enough as a man? Bullshyt!!!

kandiikane: @jallowbah, You're arguing with a nigerian man over duties? It's like arguing with a brick wall. Many of them are not married so they don't understand it. Just leave them be.

Many Nigerian men are not married but Many other Nigerian men are married. How can you then generalize that the Nigerian men on this thread know nothing about marriage. Do you know all our marital status to have arrived at this conclusion?

JallowBah: NO, I am saying that just because a woman want her man to help around the house, does NOT make her lazy.
I am saying: what if you loose your job, and your wife is working, she should hire a MAID to do what you can do at home?
I am saying that every marriage for themself.

You are the one flipping out at me, and others, for not doing it how YOU want it to be, not me.

And Cameroon...kiss my big oyinbo a*s

No matter what i say, you'll never understand my point. But for the opteenth time, i repeat: i dont want to be forced to do any chores. Na by force? A man that loses his job should be encouraged and supported (provided he's not a lazy couch potato) till he gets another. Joblessness should not be an avenue to coerse me to start washing your bra and undies. And YES, hire a maid if the husband is jobless or not (provided you can afford to). If however you cant afford one, then come home early girl. Your chores are waiting. Take it or leave it! You are obviously a: bossy; i-no-go-gre; i-must-have-my-way-always; kinda wife. Many like you dont stay married for too long except for a few. Thread carefully. *Just saying*

[quote author=mr.drizzy]thread pick.remember?[/quote]Oh. Ok. Keep it up bro. Nice.

[quote author=mr.drizzy]THREAD PICKS
-man utd(over 1.5)
-man utd(under 4.5)
-man utd 1x
-al haly (over 0.5)
-al haly(1x)
-feyernood (1x)
-feyernood(over 0.5)
-galatasaray(over 1.5)
-ajax(over 1.5)
-ajax(asian handicap -1)
-ajax(1x)
this is the thread picks..i hope everyone would concur to this..@micky i guess am assisting here..@all pls stake with $1,thats what we all agreed on.thanks..already did mine.
NB:all bookie accept these market,[/quote]Nice picks. But i thought you were supposed to only handle home/draw and away/draw.

Zico4real: Still on the same livebet u can loose all ur cash in a day.still gambling.

Live betting is a double-edged sord. It can empty your account if you're not careful. From all indication, Claremont is going all in. Not bad when you're consistently lucky.

CAMEROONPRIDE: forgive her she is an oyinbo.

Ok jare. If not for you eh... But i hear you. Thanks.

JallowBah: Or even bettere; MARRY SOMEONE WHO AGREE WITH YOURSELF ON WHAT YOUR SPOUSE IS SUPPOSED TO DO.

I do not have anything against women doing everything at home, when the women wants it herself. What I do have a problem with is men like you who can not seem to comprehend that people do not want the same as him.

And no, I don`t "get it", because in YOUR world, everyone have to do what YOU like. Realise that people are different, dude. You need to grow up.

You need to do the growing up girl. Obviously, you've realised that am a principled man. Infact, i believe that IF THINGS MUST GET DONE, THEY MUST BE DONE RIGHT. Women that do all the work at home are the right examples of Wife. Not lazy feminists like some of today's girls. Ofcourse i agree that people are different. You even accuse me of wanting everyone to do what i like but you quickly forget that the same thing is what you're doing presently. You're trying to change men's mentality and am here standing up for us and you're crying foul. Smh. Marraige is about agreement but it wont be in this generation that women will start allocating chores to us! Not in this life!!

This is the beauty of leveraging. Your phone is a great example. Instead of having to travel long hours to say hello to a friend, just pick up your phone and you know the rest. My point? Your duty as a woman is taking care of the home. If she cant do it, she can leverage by getting a helping hand. Simple! Do the job or get anyone else to do it. Your mama or the girl next door. Just dont come asking me to do chores. Am too busy calculating how to make chedah. Get it?!

JallowBah: Lol. So a woman is lazy if she works full-time...? That is the most un-logical thing I have heard.
A QUEEN does not do house-work as well, sweetness, so that one falls out.

Grow up, clean after yourself.

Un-logical huh? So because she is not lazy with work doesnt mean she's cant be lazy at home eh? Smartness doesnt equate ability to speak english o. Hope you know that. Marraige, like other institutions, comes with roles and DUTIES. In school, you dont expect a Vice chancellor to do the job of a cleaner. At home likewise, duties exist whether you like it or not! A husband's duty is provision and protection. A woman's duty is taking care of the kids and keeping the home tidy. If you can't do it, get help or better still, forget marriage completely. Its not compulsory. I see you have been hammering on women working long hours. But did you miss the part where i said get a house help? Duh?!

bukatyne: And what point did you think I made? This is a learning forum and believe it or not, a lot of people learn daily from here positively or negatively. Yes, my husband to be is blessed and I am blessed too. It was revelated in My Spirit one evening that the love of a husband/ lover makes the woman to blossom and the womna turns and take care of the man so he blossoms too. Please don't be confused by my posts. I am stil sticking to my first post. I would apprepriate if a man says he can't help his wife because he doesn't want to and not because 'he is the head of his family'. I dislike when people misquote the Bible to their selfish purposes. Thanks for your concern.

Sharrap! You lazy goat. You're determined to be a lazy wife and you dont want to become stereotyped in future. So, you're here trying to start a bandwaggon, that you may not be singled out in future. FYI, it wont work. Ediot, stop embarassing yourself here joor. Have you ever seen or heard of a king doing dishes or chores? I use the King example because they are an almost perfect example of what a home should be. Many have said on this thread that IF YOU CANT DO IT, GET A HOUSE HELP and stop expecting the man to do your duty as wife. Ediot, is this hard to understand?!

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dady12: guru pls help,i place handicap of totteham vs newcastle ,when it was 1-1 on newcastle +1,the game ended 2-1. to my understanding my stake will be return ,but i cound not get my stake back,what do think?

If you had use the Asian handicap feature, you'd not have lost your cash. What you used was the ordinary handicap. With this type of handicap(+1), your selected team must NOT lose the match. If however you selected (+2), your selected team can then lose by not more than 1 goal. +3 is max 2 goals loss etc. Remember, Asian handicap is not the same as the regular handicap.

jasper7: Abeg where is bukahands? No double for the weekend?

Its true o. Oh, Bukahands. Where are you?

jasper7: I Nominate you, or Xpset. personally, I like the way Xpset is slamming people, keeps defaulters in check

I also nominate Mr Drizzy or Xpset. However, lets be careful not to encourage Xpset's abusiveness. That's by the way sha

[quote author=mr.drizzy]bro i recalled very well that i posted my picks here from friday to sunday..u didnt even look @ it,even xpset own..so ur now saying what we planned cnt work?[/quote]Any suggestions?

[quote author=mr.drizzy]micky me no understand u again oh.ur to post all our totally thread picks.which one come be dis one?[/quote]What else do you want me to do nah? Those picks are too many. Since they are specially selected by each of us, just pick the one you feel okay with and bet. We all know that this thread is not fantastic for analysis because it'll only slow things down.

Under 4.5

Greuther Furth - Wolfsberg (1.05)

Swansea - Qpr (1.07)

Levante - Malaga (1.06)

Santander - Huesca (1.05)

Sorry guys, was held back by urgent matters. Picks have been dropped. Wow! Hmm...guys, according to how we did yesterday, just pick anyone from the available picks.

JallowBah: I already chose love over money, and have not regretted one, single day since. I can work and make money as well, you know. As long as we have food on the table, roof over our heads, and are still able to help his family when needed..I am happy.

Yes, things would be easier with more money, of course. But I have also had my husband working his a*s off, and almost not being home, and I see what I prefer.

Good for you, if that's what suits you. I have only said what i had to say. Its left for you to do what makes you comfy. After all, life is too short to live it wealthy but unhappy. Best of luck to you again.

I rest my case here.

#1Voiceinamillion#

@Jallowbah. Many women pray for a balance of wealth and husband availability. Sadly, many have to choose these days. We all know how valuable love can be to individual lives. True. But choosing love over money is an absolute mistake. ERROR! I say this because i know much more than a lot about this world we live in. Please don't ever again wish for love in place of wealth.

Back to the topic. We all remember the stories in the bible that had slaves in it. Don't we? In the homes of wealthy families, slaves did the chores. Not the Kings! Not the Noble Men! Yes, things are changing these days but take it or leave it, slavery is not gone. Its only been modernized. Now, will it be wrong to utilize the service of a slave to do these dirty things instead of we the busy hard working men?

Think! Think!!

JallowBah: Absolutely.

JallowBah, first i want to congratulate you that you've met me in your life time. Why am i congratulating you? Simple, what am going to say next will be very beneficial to you if you utilize it accordingly.

JallowBah: No, I prefer love over money.

The money the man makes to be able to pay a maid..why not spend those hours with the family instead?

I would rather have less money, than less time with my husband.

I made a mistake earlier. So, you prefer an available and poor husband to an unavailable but wealthy husband. Am i right?

JallowBah: I would rather have my husband more at home and have less money, than him working his a*s off and not having much time with his family.

In other words, you prefer to be poor and loved as opposed to being rich and unloved. right?

lindiwey: @ifIHearAm..there is no big deal bro dts y understandn is key in evry relationship..dt chic dt tld u to wash her plate is a diff case cos dt was rude.am not talkn about a controlling wife or galfrend here.so wt if ur wife dt hs bn so busy all day nw pleads wit u witout bn rude to assist her wit one or two things,wat will b ur reactn? Is it dt u can't assist because of ur ego? Where is d love na?

The love is in the man working realy hard, making enough doh and thereby perform his manly duties which includes PROVISION. With money made, he'll get you a house help to do the chores, instead of him.

Huh?! 15 green shirts!! LMAO!!!

JallowBah: If my husband spend our money on a househelp that I never met to come and help me while I was sick instead of taking care of me himself..well, that is not what I consider a nice thing to do. At all.

And that would make me look at him as lazy as well.

Ah, eleyi ti ya were o! So, your expecting me to leave my busy bank job to cater for your sick booty when i can afford a house help eh? Are you sure you're not sick presently?

busolayemi: gone r dose days wen I av tym for responses on nairaland...buh u c madea, forget bou women emancipation...I tink its only normal a man helps his wife...its not jst bou gender equality buh mayb ma background...I av such a lovin dad who wudnt allow ma mum ovastress hersef...dats minus d fact dat a bigger chunk of d financial stress is on him. For instance, he doesn't allow ma mum wake up at nyt to care for d baby as long has d baby's weaned...most nyt, I wake up nd see him in d livin room, carryin d baby on his chest or his neck...jst to lessen d stress for mummy...nd I can't rememba eva seein dem argue talkless fight...so u c, if u feel am talkin cos of waeva ur reasons, den u nid to get to sum homes...I dnt tink it remove anytin frm a man to help his wife out...yes, d wife shdnt take advantage of dat buh at d same tym...men shd learn to help more....wat do u say of men dat can't even cook...if their wife isn't dere, dey turn to mama bash n eateries...I dnt get african men...so complicated...God bless ma hubby thoe...he's a blessin to me*kissesdearie*

Your hubby and your dad are weaklings. Simple. They are wrong representations of MAN. Let me ask, your dad must have also been waking up in the midnight to wash your mother's g-string and bra abi?

KINGwax: hehehehe, i said it, a bad wife.. Imagine the sterotyping agaisnt the igbo ppl!!! FIY, i'm a yoruba, and girls like u are better avoided!!
Listen. U fool:
I got ppl i love to nip on, like mynd, sexkillz etc, but biliv wax, it's all for fun, nothing serious. But u, from day one is one hell of a rotten animal i detest!! And my rants against u are sooo real.
i repeat, u'll make a bad wife. And ur mother in-law is in some real deep shitt accepting an animal into thier family. I knw dt by d way u jes told me i need an explanation from my MOM!!
I respect other people's mom and in all my yrs of carefree comments, i dnt insult anyone's parent.
As a yoruba, u jes laid a bad example as a racist!!! And it's ur type dt's aborted all their children durin high school!!!
Listen, hold ur fort, u're a bimbo!!!

So on point! That girl is just a monke/y. I pity her in-laws and her husband to-be. The duty of men has been provider and women chores. Just imagine, that ediot of a monkey wanting me to prove my manliness by washing her bra once in a while. Stupi/d! OP's excuse for men sharing chores is shared financial responsibilities abi? Senseless. Let me put it straight. A man's job in the home is providing and providing only. Take it or leave it.

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