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ImaIma1:
Most of these guys are single and don't even know what they are talking about. They are still running with an archaic idea of marriage.

You're right here ma'am

Oyiboman69:
The lady is jealous of their coming to their house
. she also complained that it's only when they are around,that was when the hubby will take the kids and her in-laws out. She's just being selfish if you ask me

Oga, are u sure u knw what it means for a nuclear family to av time together alone?

jakandeola:
ur hubby is doing well and u want him for ur self alone dats wrong

Haba! I've been trying not to comment on this thread bt it seems I can't bear that anymore.
Firstly, I see more misogynists on this forum daily.

2. Many men/boys think giving money to a wife or meeting all her material needs are all dt a woman needs to be happy/fulfilled.
I guess u've never experienced verbal abuse dt result into frustration/depression. I'm sure y'all don't knw what it means to be unhappy.

3. Have u ever been a homemaker? D'u knw what it takes to keep a home/house habitable (cleaning,good meals,laughter,discipline, etc)? Then add human care, including kids, nt to mention dt such is either invalid/a convalescent (she said one put up wif them for abt 6 mths afta a complicated surgery), highly demanding (as per almighty inlaws dt they are who will make d simplest task diff jst to make u appear as useless).

4. For d married lots, ow does it feel when a certain ppl (who av their homes) make turning ur own house to a getaway centre/canteen/hotel a habit?
Is it d stress of cooking meals,washing up (wch most inlaws will find condescending if they do),nt being able to manage resources (bf they label u stingy), no privacy, no freedom, etc . One even lived there for five years
Make dem fear God o.
Even if they claim it's their brother's money, can money alone cook/care for smone?

If dis woman's account is true, she don try abeg.

Why can't those sister inlaws stay in their homes&if they enjoy being together, find sm other way around dt&stop frustrating a fellow woman. Where do they keep their husbands while on sojourn in anoda's home? What lessons are they teaching their children? To be inconsiderate?

No wonder they say we women are our own enemies.


@ tonyebarcanista &sm others, I'm really appalled by ur comments on family issues. Guess u've nt witnessed it 1st hand ow sm inlaws can be evil without cause.

Guys, it's one or a combination of two/more of these make unhappy families.

I knw a mother who used to send d son's wife bk at d door to their room on return frm office&wld be d one helping him out of his jacket&all. What d'u av to say to dt?

Once a man/woman is married, it's d responsibly of sensible/mature/well-meaning relatives to give them required space to build their new family without interference.

If d lady's acct here is true like I earlier said, I can confidently conclude dt either d hubby&siblings in question have a bad upbringing or decided nt to yield to a good one they'd&av refused to grow up still... cos if they're actually sincere and seeking joy for their only brother, they'd rather profer a solution/steer clear till he sees d problem himself.

#enough said

freecocoahubby:
Women like you are just too dumb for my liking!
.. once a man refuses to lick your dirty butts, you start accusing him of "abuse"

Listen girl, there's power in words and I believe that henceforth, all the types of abuse you've listed in this stup!d comment will be your portion and the portion of any other idi0t dumb enough to agree with your senseless opinions.

Hey uncle, do u av to lay curses to drive home a point?

jesmond3945:
read her story you would understand. when your inlaw would side you against the wellbeing of their daughter.

The appalling thing u stated is this:
"Do you know that marrying you out of the house is the greatest gift your husband gave to them."

Desric:
Your choice must not be another man's choice, that's the reality of life and that's why we have options as humans, it's your right to choose the option that best fits your ambition.

Exactly Y d OP's husband shd av found for himself a lady who wldnt mind being home all day/week (if all said here is true)

Hizzy:
But you're not giving good advice on this
Befor I talk about marriage I know what I'm saying
Now can you tell me the excuses woman gave when the cheat
He's just a colleague, my mom said I should come
We have night Virgil so on

... while d excuses men give when they cheat are tenable

healthserve:
My brother God bless you. How I wish I knew one of your single sisters earlier....


God forbid I give my daughter to any man who stops them from living their dreams. Men that turn doctors to tailors. Rather than destroy the woman, it's their selves they should fixand build up. Stupeed tins they are.

My brother, I tell u dt a colleague's sister who's a registered nurse has been reduced to a moinmoin seller o cos of issues like this.

imam07:
Have u ladies, no u are a girl as i sensed from your comment. U hv not heard d from d husband side if d story, but u hv jumped to conclusion.
The woman's parents themselves know their daughter is stubborn. That is d reason she was told to listen to her husband.

Ha!

TonyeBarcanista:
OP is just creating problem where none is meant to exist. She will end up destroying her marriage herself

Hope we remember that business isn't meant for all

hkidola00:
i swear na only u get sense here... I av a gf wey just dey carry work work for head, wen u check most of demons, dey are idiotic cheats using work as cover up... dey want to use d work as a cover up to go hoe some place else.... imagine u stay in Ibadan, ur gf come say she don see one work for OGUN state say. by force she won do am, u come tell her say make she no go u go secure her a work where u both are... Abeg wetin dat one mean??

Even laying claims on a girlfriend...nothing wey ears no go hear o

jesmond3945:
you think your parents want to offend their inlaw? Do you know that marrying you out of the house is the greatest gift your husband gave to them.

What?
What sort of reasoning is this for Christ's sake?

Desric:
Sometimes I wonder what women like you really wants, if the asks you to be doing the work while he sits at home, you'll call him lazy, now the man is saying let me be the man and work, and you're still saying no. Women like you always claim that it's the man's duty to provide for the family, which the man is simply doing, so what else do you want to go out there to do?

What?

Mac2016:
Am about to take a very big guess.. It seems it's the OP that was overly in love with the man she married and not the man.. That's a brutal sign of emotional selfishness. Women shd stop making this mistake...
Men are the most rigid emotionally out of the two human genders. A corrective instruction from a woman you're head over the heel with makes you feel your little princess will grow up to be a queen that your wife is...

I am talking from experience

Only the intelligent ones will understand me

A tthousand likes for u sir

TONYE001:
There really is no reason good enough for this kind of punishment. This is pure child abuse. It could turn this little boy to a monster in the future. It could mess up his psych.

There are more productive ways of training a child. Look around you. I know how I turned out today. I know what my parents did - and didn't do.

Thanks bro bt sincerely, I wasn't&still isn't on d side of d parents bt choose nt to discuss dt as it's been over flogged here already. I only reacted to d comment of d dame who mentioned 'failed parenting'.

Salt3:
Just as it's inappropriate for the guy to do such in church, so it is inappropriate for a pastor to expect members to inform him of their relationships. That's not what he was called to do sir. Even the white wedding we do in church is so uncalled for and inappropriate. The house of God is a house of prayer, not a house of YOU MAY KISS YOUR BRIDE

Not all churches give room for a new couple to kiss right there.

Casalinda:
For any child to join any cult or bad gang. It clearly show the parent had fail already in bringing that child up well. Do allow your stupidity cloud your sense of reasoning. Nothing what so ever can justify this

I'm not here to defend this boy's parents bt to react to the above comment of yours.
Ma'am,I don't know if u av kids yet&neither do I know their ages if u already do bt I want to plead wif u to try never to refer to any parent as a failure in child upbringing unless u've verified &sure that they av indeed failed.
Even at that, one could still show empathy instead of blaming them.
Children upbringing no be beans o, my sister, esp in this age

This woman needs to be checked.
Ppl will just wake up one day&claim to be called by God, meanwhile it's their tommy sending then on errands...

Mhztee:
Exactly o...I don't know why someone will just come here and be running his mouth.Proud to be a bowenite.

Wow! Proud BUI alumnus too; 2007

dickoflife:
human comm here.

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LegendHero:
Please don’t engage the Igbos in argument on here. I am just seeing this thread and it’s a great thread.

Just ignore any Igbo that’s trying to pollute the thread with hate and envy.

Do not reply coz the essence of this thread will be defeated.

Odua a gbe wa o

Àse wàá!

okenwa216:
Ho wait, that’s practically not possible to me. I am a guy. And I was once a child. No amount of sex can make a guy bleed. Or does he have p***y. I am even surprised when they say a guy can be raped. How does his thing get erect without being in the mood ?

Like seriously?
Did u read d write-up at all?
Are u parent yet pls?

ijewejones:


The fact that (some)women can't be trusted!!!

... while all men can be trusted?

Wiseoldman:
The only marraige recognised by law is the one with a Nigerian Government government certificate. White wedding/Nikkai/church wedding are not. Whether you do either the Traditional wedding, Church wedding or the Nikkai, you still need the certificate to be recognised "legally" by the 1999 constitution (The laws are written by men like you and me). Some churches and mosques have however made life easy for people by applying for licence to issue this certificate. However, these religious institutions would still require you to do your traditional marraige first.

Merci beaucoup! I think you're indeed your username

BrokeFucker007:
It's not an evil wish but logically ascertain observation. He better run a virginity test on her and if she fails then he realize what's up. Can't you smell the fish already....why deny him conjugation after trad? the guy is not streetwise if he were he won't tolerate such crap. She's also very selfish and inconsiderate and so many shades of wrongs here. You ladies are professionals at supporting each other so I understand your plight.

He better dont let anyone scam him into marriage.

It's your opinion & you're entitled to it.

BrokeFucker007:
I bet you you will regret marrying her...I'm so sure about it. who does that? do traditional marriage without having sex with the wife to be?! because she told you no until after she must have got you in a corner with all marriage stuff. seriously bro you acted like a freaking f00oL**here. If you know what's best for you don't go ahead until you fvck this dangerous liar/pretender.

You're sure Why are humans like this for heaven's sake?
Your evil wish for that marriage will not come to pass

kunleweb:
Hahaha ive noted this moniker. I'll never offend you for this life

My brother, let's not offend d Supreme Being.

ednut1:
They won't tell us its through ivf o

What if it wasn't?