₦airaland Forum

palmasglobal: We are talking something important here that affect the security of every nigerian pple here are talking regionality, the fulani man has no boundry they claim state that dont belong to them, even in the igbo land they still claim land there, they still attack igbo community in enugu, so what are we talking about. some people in nairaland are just too sentimental for my likened, please if you cannot contribute meaningfully go and watch television that is if you have one, if not for the GSM phone today i beleive many on nairaland will not have acces to the internet but they are here talking igbo helping the middle belt, dont talk of biafra here because most of you agitating for biafra just read it on books and papers, please ask your parent about biafra, they will not wish you talk about it, dont get too boostful on oil that is not yours but for the NigerDeltans, are igbo part of the NigerDelta? think about it, igbos will continue to be slave to nigerdeltan if the country decide to splits in bits and pieces. so lets talk unity and harmony on how to deal with this meanace of insecurity, what we all know here is that housa/fulanis can never win in any of there battle either in the north,sout,middle belt, etc, if they have the capicity to do that they would have done it. long live Nigeria. Remember The End is at hand Jesus loves you.

eriegua83: It is one of Ndigbo favourite cultures amongst many e.g a man is abroad nd his wife has 4 children thru his brother or father.

@ eriegua83 You are very correct here, i am an igbo man and wat u said is very correct, i even know where it happend, not the father though but the brother of the man who coming home has not been easy but outsiders were made to believe he comes and goes but dont like reaching his village and i equally know of one where the wife has not been getting pregnant and his brother was asked to help her get pregnant and she got 3 children from her husbands brother, all these are done in the family with highest secrecy, with the agreement of all parties involved, and there is another one where u can remarry ur brothers wife after his dealth but this one must not be in secret, having affair with ur brothers wife dead or alive is an abomination in igboland without first doing the remarrying ceremony and making her your wife officially.

vykte: It's not like she's his biological mum! IMO no biggie,since all the parties are cool with it. But choi hope d guy doesn't end up being miserable in life cos some of dis act comes with additional freebies(curse).

solomonkane: I support, applaud and encourage subsidized education. I completely disagree with free education. At the risk of sounding pessimistic, this looks like another half-baked "masses oriented" policy that will leave the next administration with mountains of debts and stifle meaningful long term progress. Going by statistics, Imo state has one of the highest number of tertiary students in the nation, how sustainable is it? Even states like Rivers and Delta with large allocations and Lagos with a large IGR can't and shouldn't try it.

Ivynwa: @Plaetton

I haven't the time to tally here and dance around words with someone who is bent on using words to justify what is clearly wrong to some of his fellow men. I have actually realized what I wanted when I opened the thread which is to check out the views of others concerning the subject.

I'm still very very surprised that someone can harrass out the password of his partner from her/him and without qualms go checking on their mails and chat mesages. I am also happy that there are still men and women that respects themselves and their partners enough as to accord them some degree of privacy.

plaetton: Sometimes when I read stuff like this, It makes me wonder whether people like you are living in a real world or in a hollywood fantasy romance movie.
Men usually ask for passwords before they demand it.

Depending on the the type and strength of a relationship, the thoughts of unfaithfulness may never cross the minds of either partner.

However,we have to agree that internet and mobile communications has, today, encouraged and made it very very easy, convenient and safe to flirt, explore and keep two or multiple partners.

Irrespective of how much trust exists in the relationship, it makes simple sense that both partners are current as to what the other is doing on social networking sites by keeping tabs.

Asking a spouse or partner for a password, in my mind should never lead the other partner to invoke the " everyone should have their privacy" clause. lol
Once that privacy clause is invoked in a relationship, I can guarantee, that aside from showing that he or she is hiding something, that relationship will enter a new phase. A new phase of suspicion and mutual distrust.

Besides, once you deny your partner access to your password,do you honestly think he will relent or back off? No way. You would have just handed him a project which he would not abandon until his curiosity is fully satisfied.

If you have something to hide, then keep hiding it, but if you have nothing hide,do not stir the hornet's nest by refusing access to your password.

tai2: Password is necessary o. See the nonsense happening between Ruke Amata and his wife. He thought he was in a marriage she was busy marketing herself to Governors. Now I understand Frank Edoho's problem.

Ivynwa: Sorry Sir, as you can see we are on two different tangents of mentality.

Sorry Sir, as you can see we are on two different tangents of mentality.
There's no big deal if a man decides not to marry a woman because she refused to present her password on order. As you can see in this thread https://www.nairaland.com/1094289/separated-facebook-password it is the woman that even wants to leave the man. We women have got our dignity and you don't have to keep getting on about "A man not marrying a woman because she refused to dance to his tunes and orders" as if women are puppets without brain, there are times we women refuse to marry men if our whole heart do not accept such. We have ability to make choices and choose too, not all women are desperate so there's really no need for anybody to have that your "man and mighty" and "she-must-do-all-that-i-say-even-if-wrong" mentality. Thank you Sir.

Ivynwa: Did you really say all o' that. Your post actually showcased what manner of a man you are. You spoke for yourself sir.

JallowBah: What..?
My husband have my password, but he don`t go in and read conversations between me and my friends. I have told him that sometimes my friends tells me things in privacy, and he respects that. If I cheated, though, I would have let him read everything, just to calm his mind down, and to show I had told him everything.

Ivynwa: @Bademosi
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@Mike Okiro

If you read my first post well, I wrote that I have nothing against such exchange of passwords for good reasons between two persons that love themselves and are doing stuffs online together. What we are talking about here is a man who arose to accost his woman demanding for her password so that he can be monitoring stuff she does and who she talks to. How does that sound to you? I'm sure that doesn't sound good to the ear.

This thread as you can see emanated from another thread where a man was saying that his woman threatened to dump him because he was demanding for her password to test her faithfulness https://www.nairaland.com/1094289/separated-facebook-password. It shouldn't be demanded like that, if it has to be shared it should be a mutual thing mature adults are doing for themselves for a purpose not for a man to subjugate a woman with.

Okontami: Oga, what do you mean by privacy if there is true love. Are you faithful to her. If you guys cant share your passwords it means there is skeleton in your cupboards. I disagree with this privacy none*sense. My wife have my passwords to my social media accounts and also my bank details. What are you hiding should be the question. You say if you have trust issues, walk away...Well that is dumb. Trust is earned , trust is not bestowed on someone. Let us use our brain and be realistic and not get dragged into the vocabulary of people trying to be defensive.

laberry101: Look don't blame the op abeg! After such investment, his in a very BAD CONFUSED state if y'all don't know.

One thing with this , his pain isn't only the money spent in the gurl oh! His time, body, heart, soul, always wanting to make her happy and above all... The hope of her being his wife!

Then she comes with one dud and says blah blah blah...

Put yourselves in his shoes, emotionally no body would handle it, so y'all saying he did this did that, where's his pride and all, try putting yourself in his shoes and see if any of you will be sane.