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southernbelle:
Lol @ use that opportunity to bring in another wife.

Everyone expects a reaction when they do something wrong, if the man doesn't get the reaction he predicted immediately, he can't be comfortable deep down even if he acts as if he doesn't give a damn.

This will also give the woman time to compose herself and think about what she'll say when it's finally time to have "the talk."

Unfortunately, not every woman will have this kind of patience. Honestly, if i were in her shoes, my husband is going home with me and the girl will come down from the car that very minute she 'introduced' my husband to me.

SalomonKane:
True that! That's why I'd fault the husband for being a pansy ass nigga cos a real playa doesn't get caught. He's on top of his game.

in this case, the husband is a very foolish man and deserve to be flogged 24 stroke of the cane.

Not exactly cos he wronged his wife but cos he allowed himself to get caught right?

lezznjr:
As a rule, [s]a married man should tell his mistresses his marital status[/s].

If he had, the situation could have been easily handled.

Telling his mistress his marital status changes nothing especially if the said mistress is in love with him genuinely.

Bestlily:
If I were the woman

I would do nothing......

But i will ensure he dies a slow and painful death

Is that not too extreme?

southernbelle:
That's a very strong woman there.
It will even be better if she doesn't bring up the issue when the man gets home, just let it hang in the air.

The man will be very uncomfortable if she does that . Matter of fact, he will be too scared to have a meal prepared by her.

SalomonKane:
frankly, if I was the husband I wouldn't be that stupid. Nope!. I ask questions for a living.

I would have asked the wife and girl friend where they're going, name of the place, address, occasion etc.

Well , what if you did not ask and you found yourself in this guy's shoes?

lezznjr:
Well, there was enough time lag during the course of the journey. She would have summoned up courage. That's her marriage and future!

And there are ways to interrogate without creating a scene.

The man was driving, don't forget. For all we know, the girlfriend might be the violent type plus she was in the front , what if the wife had raised an eyebrow and the girlfriend attacks the man?

lezznjr:
The wife should have sought explanation right there in the car without giving room for ambiguity and lies.

She was too perplexed for words i presume and she probably did not want to create a scene.

A wife asked her husband to drop her off at a friend's house where a wedding reception was taking place. He responded that he would be too busy throughout the day in the office, and gave her some money to use as taxi for transport.

He left for the office. The wife took a taxi to the wedding reception,there she met a fine Girl and they got talking to each other.
Soon they became friends. In the evening when everyone was leaving, the Girl asked the Woman how she was going home. She replied that her husband was too busy in the office to pick her up so she would use a taxi.

The Girl responded; "My boyfriend brought me here and would be coming to pick me up. I just spoke to him on the phone and he's on his way.
Why don't you join me in his car and we would drop you at your house"The woman agreed. A few minutes later, her husband's car arrived. The Girl jumped into the front passengers seat of the car and asked the Woman to sit at the backseat, which she did confused and perturbed. Then the Girl introduced her new friend to her boyfriend. When the man turned around to greet the woman, he recognized her as his wife. Nothing much was said along the way.

He dropped the wife at home first as planned and proceeded to drop the Girl at her house.

The question now is: If you were the wife, what would you do when your husband returns home?
If you were the husband, what would you say to your wife when you return home?

#COPIED

myweb:
Strange? Nahh... nah

This is just me, myself and I

But you are bigger now

Who are you please??

myweb:
Seriously.... Is this you or your look alike? If its you I am so happy seeing this beautiful strong and energetic young lady but its not you, help me tell her I miss her.

**Modified**
Tell her if she wouldnt mind being my friend... Will check back.

Your sobriquet is kinda strange. Care to unveil?

Good morning.

DeSepiero:
You look like someone I knew

Ok, definitely not me

#WORD

Mindfulness:
This man would have all my admiration and respect. This kind of man I would want to be the father of my unborn children because I would be reassured that he would put our children FIRST if anything should happen to me. And I think that it's very normal that parents put their kids first.

DeSepiero:
Are you from Akwa Ibom?

No. why?

lezznjr:
No, you stole a whole paragraph!

The art of e-brawling is imaginative prowess, spontaneity and wits delivered in minutes. Your disses are outright ripoffs and cut and fix plagiarism, that's why you take longer time to post.

I've been watching from the sidelines but you lack honour , bro. Go learn the art and comeback.

You have been shellacked and caught stealing. Double evisceration.

Lunch time

Mindfulness:
Me too. Though I came to enjoy Shakespeare later, not as a student. I have Buchi Emecheta's "The Joys of Motherhood" at home too.

And many collections of African short stories.

Glory to my Father for instilling the love of literature in me as a child. I remember him and me reading books together. He would read - mostly . historical novels and I would read books for children and we would eat Mama's homemade cookies and drink milk with it. It was such a lazy and yet very productive time. My father is a walking lexicon. Sweet memories.

Literature was (is still) my best subject in secondary school. I was always excited once the period approaches. If i see a novel that piques my interest with my sworn enemy (hyperbole), be sure that i will definitely be best of friends with that person immediately. We share one interest then. nice

"The Joys of motherhood...Buchi Emecheta" remains my favorite

I have read almost all the books listed by the OP.

cc mindfulness

TSOM:
T-blak's much publicized escapades with random girls is enough to make any man stop taking women in relationships seriously.


By the way, Lalas.ticlala, if you push this to the front page, I hope you realize Nairaland can be indicted for dealing in child pornography?

He actually did...

SalomonKane:
Please you should tell that to those Christians who preach about in beer parlours, the streets and where they know they can find 'sinners'.

By the way, have I told you, you look beautiful in your dp?

I do? Flattered thanchu

SalomonKane:
Still what I'm saying. Nobody asked anybody to save anybody. How can you make a man see reasons that something he loves doing is wrong, especially when there's no physical evidence to back up your claims?

Salvation is not by force, religion is not by force either. Do whatever makes you happy.

SalomonKane:
Exactly. Now with what you just said. What gives a man the right to approach another man and tell him he's going to Hell, just because that man doesn't follow his own laid down rules and doctrines?

I didn't say post that did i? Judgement belongs to God and no man has the right to judge another. The best he/she can do is to try to make him see reasons the path he is threading might lead him to destruction.

Ishilove:
No he didn't. It has been hidden

Ok

HardMirror:
Why serve a godGod that allows this to happen, a goodGod that can not heal amputees. Does that not tell you something about this "godGod"?

What will you do, if at the point of death, you discover that there is truly God?

Ishilove:
Report him

He modified.

SalomonKane:
I do believe in God. But not the version the christians and moslems are selling.

Each man to his own

SalomonKane:
Yea we do. But we don't function in the spirit, do we? God is a Spirit you know, a pure spirit without any physical form...

You do not believe in God's existence, do you?

SalomonKane:
Giving the job of a spirit to a man to perform is a disaster that will definitely happen. That's the basic fault of that movie Bruce Almighty.

I'm sure you watched the chaos he (Bruce) created?

Well, yea i did.

SalomonKane:
Well I have. You can't give compare a man to a spirit, can you?

Don't we all have a spirit?

HardMirror:
Mimz.yy address this. Leave other things for now. Why does god stand back and allow rape of children. Try and imagine all the angels and god and jesus watching as millions of children are raped every year.

I have addressed this in my initial post, i do not have an answer for this .

urbanmsg:
Thank you so much sweetheart

You are welcome. Have a stress free day hun.

Google63:
the OP said you should investigate the reason for the divorce, don't just believe what the person told you hook, line and sinker. As Chimamanda Adichie once said, there's danger in a single story.

I do not have a problem with the part you mentioned. What i have a prob with is where Toks stated that "...the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again...".

The above quoted is all shades of wrong.

Found this and I thought to share...


"LET ME EXPLAIN THE problem science has with Jesus Christ." The atheist professor of philosophy pauses before his class and then asks one of his new students to stand. "You're a Christian, aren't you, son?"

"Yes, sir."

"So you believe in God?"

"Absolutely."

"Is God good?"

"Sure! God's good."

"Is God all-powerful? Can God do anything?"

"Yes."

"Are you good or evil?"

"The Bible says I'm evil."

The professor grins knowingly. "Ahh! THE BIBLE!" He considers for a moment. "Here's one for you. Let's say there's a sick person over here and you can cure him. You can do it. Would you help them? Would you try?"

"Yes sir, I would."

"So you're good...!"

"I wouldn't say that."

"Why not say that? You would help a sick and maimed person if you could... in fact most of us would if we could...God doesn't." [No answer.] "He doesn't, does he? My brother was a Christian who died of cancer even though he prayed to Jesus to heal him. How is this Jesus good? Hmmm? Can you answer that one?" [No answer] The elderly man is sympathetic. "No, you can't, can you?" He takes a sip of water from a glass on his desk to give the student time to relax. In philosophy, you have to go easy with the new ones. "Let's start again, young fella.....Is God good?"

"Er... Yes."

"Is Satan good?"

"No."

"Where does Satan come from?"

The student falters. "From... God..."

"That's right. God made Satan, didn't he?" The elderly man runs his bony fingers through his thinning hair and turns to the smirking, student audience. "I think we're going to have a lot of fun this semester, ladies and gentlemen." He turns back to the Christian. "Tell me, son. Is there evil in this world?"

"Yes, sir."

"Evil's everywhere, isn't it? Did God make everything?"

"Yes."

"Who created evil? [No answer] "Is there sickness in this world? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All the terrible things - do they exist in this world? "

The student squirms on his feet. "Yes."

"Who created them?" [No answer] The professor suddenly shouts at his student. "WHO CREATED THEM? TELL ME, PLEASE!" The professor closes in for the kill and climbs into the Christian's face. In a still small voice: "God created all evil, didn't He, son?" [No answer]

The student tries to hold the steady, experienced gaze and fails. Suddenly the lecturer breaks away to pace the front of the classroom like an aging panther. The class is mesmerized. "Tell me," he continues, "how is it that this God is good if He created all evil throughout all time?" The professor swishes his arms around to encompass the wickedness of the world. "All the hatred, the brutality, all the pain, all the torture, all the death and ugliness and all the suffering created by this good God is all over the world, isn't it, young man?" [No answer] "Don't you see it all over the place? Huh?" [Pause] "Don't you?" The professor leans into the student's face again and whispers, "Is God good?" [No answer] "Do you believe in Jesus Christ, son?"

The student's voice betrays him and cracks. "Yes, professor. I do."

The old man shakes his head sadly. "Science says you have five senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Have you ever seen your Jesus?"

"No, sir. I've never seen Him."

"Then tell us if you've ever heard your Jesus?"

"No, sir. I have not."

"Have you ever felt your Jesus, tasted your Jesus or smelt your Jesus...in fact, do you have any sensory perception of your God whatsoever?" [No answer] "Answer me, please."

"No, sir, I'm afraid I haven't."

"You're AFRAID...you haven't?"

"No, sir."

"Yet you still believe in him?"

"...Yes..."

"That takes FAITH!" The professor smiles sagely at the underling. "According to the rules of empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your God doesn't exist. What do you say to that, son? Where is your God now?" [The student doesn't answer] "Sit down, please."

The Christian sits...Defeated.



Another Christian raises his hand. "Professor, may I address the class?"

The professor turns and smiles. "Ah, another Christian in the vanguard! Come, come, young man. Speak some proper wisdom to the gathering."

The Christian looks around the room. "Some interesting points you are making, sir. Now I've got a question for you. Is there such thing as heat?"

"Yes," the professor replies. "There's heat."

"Is there such a thing as cold?"

"Yes, son, there's cold too."

"No, sir, there isn't."

The professor's grin freezes. The room suddenly goes very cold.

The second Christian continues. "You can have lots of heat, even more heat, super-heat, mega-heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat but we don't have anything called 'cold'. We can hit 458 degrees below zero, which is no heat, but we can't go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold, otherwise we would be able to go colder than 458 - You see, sir, cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. Because heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just..," [Silence fills the room] "...the absence of it." [More silence. A pin drops somewhere in the classroom.] "Is there such a thing as darkness, professor?"

"That's a dumb question, son. What is night if it isn't darkness? What are you getting at...?"

"So you say there is such a thing as darkness?"

"Yes..."

"You're wrong again, sir. Darkness is not something, it is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light but if you have no light constantly you have nothing and it's called darkness, isn't it? That's the meaning we use to define the word. In reality, Darkness isn't. If it were, you would be able to make darkness darker and give me a jar of it. Can you...give me a jar of darker darkness, professor?"

Despite himself, the professor smiles at the young effrontery before him. This will indeed be a good semester. "Would you mind telling us what your point is, young man?"

"Yes, professor. My point is, your philosophical premise is flawed to start with and so your conclusion must be in error...."

The professor goes toxic. "Flawed...? How dare you...!"

"Sir, may I explain what I mean?" The class is all ears.

"Explain...oh explain..." The professor makes an admirable effort to regain control. Suddenly he is affability itself. He waves his hand to silence the class, for the student to continue.

"You are working on the premise of duality," the Christian explains. "That for example there is life and then there's death; a good God and a bad God. You are viewing the concept of God as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, science cannot even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism but has never seen, much less fully understood them. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing. Death is not the opposite of life, merely the absence of it."

The young man holds up a newspaper he takes from the desk of a neighbor who has been reading it. "Here is one of the most disgusting tabloids this country hosts, professor. Is there such a thing as immorality?"

"Of course there is, now look..."

"Wrong again, sir. You see, immorality is merely the absence of morality. Is there such thing as injustice? No. Injustice is the absence of justice. Is there such a thing as evil?" The Christian pauses. "Isn't evil the absence of good?" [The teacher is temporarily speechless.] The Christian continues. "If there is evil in the world, professor, and we all agree there is, then God, if he exists, must be accomplishing a work through the agency of evil. What is that work, God is accomplishing? The Bible tells us it is to see if each one of us will, of our own free will, choose good over evil."

The professor bridles. "As a philosophical scientist, I don't view this matter as having anything to do with any choice; as a realist, I absolutely do not recognize the concept of God or any other theological factor as being part of the world equation because God is not observable."

"I would have thought that the absence of God's moral code in this world is probably one of the most observable phenomena going," the Christian replies. "Newspapers make billions of dollars reporting it every week! Tell me, professor. Do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?"

"If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, young man, yes, of course I do."

"Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?" [The professor makes a sucking sound with his teeth and gives his student a silent, stony stare.] "Professor. Since no-one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an ongoing endeavor, are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you now not a scientist, but a priest?"

"I'll overlook your impudence in the light of our philosophical discussion. Now, have you quite finished?" the professor hisses.

"So you don't accept God's moral code to do what is righteous?"

"I believe in what is-that's science!"

"Ahh! SCIENCE!" the student's face splits into a grin. "Sir, you rightly state that science is the study of observed phenomena. Science too is a premise which is flawed..."

"SCIENCE IS FLAWED?" the professor splutters. The class is in uproar.

The Christian remains standing until the commotion has subsided. "To continue the point you were making earlier to the other student, may I give you an example of what I mean?" [The professor wisely keeps silent.] The Christian looks around the room. "Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the professor's brain?" The class breaks out in laughter.The Christian points towards his elderly, crumbling tutor. "Is there anyone here who has ever heard the professor's brain...felt the professor's brain, touched or smelt the professor's brain?" No one appears to have done so. The Christian shakes his head sadly. "It appears no-one here has had any sensory perception of the professor's brain whatsoever. Well, according to the rules of empirical, stable, demonstrable protocol, science, I DECLARE that the professor has no brain."