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It's not you that I actually pity, it's the innocent one on the way. I wish u well. Ori Okere koko lawo...

Is there anything like "I love you somehow"? You either love, hate or feel indifferent about someone. I stand to be corrected though. Since your mum has attributed you reaction(s) to pregnancy blues, then you should probably just accept it. She knows you way better than anyone here and she cannot push you into a pit.

What exactly is it that you seek? A re-validation? Well, i think you need to ask yourself what you really want, weigh your options and do what's best for you.

[quote author=MidasTouche01 post=50496307][/quote]Missed you too . Can we ditch the "ma'am" please. Thank you

Spot-on.

ElsonMorali:
True they both acted in unsavory manner. The deed is done. It is done. The next step is for the guy to step up and be a man.

When they were both having sex we were not there right? Now that it has resulted into pregnancy, the guy should step up and be responsible. After all, the woman didn't drug and rape him.

He must look for reasons to love the woman. If he can't find any, he must manufacture some.

Otherwise, he's no better than a sperm donor.

If the guy relocates to the US or Europe, he can start his life afresh.

But the woman will always have a child tagging alongside her. A bright neon sign that says "hey, everybody, i once fornicated and the man isnt by my side anymore".

Abeg, the woman should move on jare. Marrying somebody who hates you is the worst thing any woman should have to endure.

Every sex in that marriage will be like rape. No love, no connection.

Imagine being married and still feeling so alone. Not good.

His phone(s) will fry them, not me . lol

Dyt:
You gon fry those balls?
It will be so melty and jelly
*chewing mouth*

[b]In one of our training sessions,my mentor collected a Nokia torch hand set with fully charged battery. He brought a fresh egg. Then he puts the egg and the handset together and place them into a polythene bag. He tied the bag and told us to call the phone number..... Calling....calling.. ..busy.. busy.
When the battery is drained down, he gave the phone to the owner and cracked the egg.
Behold the egg was cooked!!.. done!!!. We were surprised and asked for the explanation. He told us that every handset emits electromagnetic rays. That it was the rays that was responsible for cooking of that egg. He also said that for device to be named " hand set " by international bodies is not by accident.
He said that it is never a pocket set. He went on to say that males (men) have egg resemblance in between their legs...scrotum. He admonished men to stop putting their hand set in their pockets, but to hold on hand. If you continue to put set in your pocket, the radiation from it will denature your spermatozoa and cook your scrotum . That is why our men will marry 2 to 3 years no Issues. They begin to blame their wife. They will visit men of God for fasting and prayers. God will answer them and reverse the condition, but coming out of the church, they put back the handset in their pockets and continued to denature their sperm and cook their scrotum again.
Before a communication mast is mounted in your property, you will be paid between 10 to 20 million naira as long as you sign a document the network provider gives you. People don't even read the document. Only sign and collect the pay. The document reads in part within the middle ( we are giving you this money to buy land in another place and relocate, because what we are about to mount here is dangerous to your health ) . If you continue to stay there in about 10 to 15 years period, you and others living there will be suffering from one cancer case to the other.

Please guys, don't be putting handset in your pockets. Inform your friends and relatives about the dangers. Ladies inform your brothers, male friends and relatives the same.

By putting sets in your pocket or inside bra Can cause prostrate and breast cancer respectively.

Thanks for giving me the opportunity to discuss a little on one of the burning health issues.
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SalomonKane:
Madam Cheeseballs. care for some balls? Lol.

Akara balls?

If you don't stop putting you phone(s) in your pocket, you'll have your balls fried pretty soon. Don't say i didn't tell you o.

SalomonKane:
Basing your assumption on the basis of one kid isn't much to go for, I tell you.

I work with different kids. Spoilt, good, bad, nice and whatever. Like I said, the carrot and stick method works well.

Ok Mr Carrot n Stick

SalomonKane:
The only thing I can't do is birth a baby and breast feed a baby. Heck, why you ask all this, hope you ain't looking for a house boy?

I laugh in Swahili

Ishilove:
Very complicated story. I smh

He's living with her, chopping free punny, free food, free accommodation on top, he's flat broke and still treating her like sheit on top.

Women!

She actually moved in with him, she ditched her own apartment and used the money meant for her own rent to pay for his. Things we do for love. yeah, but in this case, the guy in the picture doesn't give 2fcuk 'bout her hence her predicament. Different strokes for different folks o jare. I tire.

Ishilove:
Very complicated story. I smh

My dear, i just weak for body...

Excuse me ma, you guys want to obtain a loan to have your wedding?
Is that not a grave mistake?
What happens after the wedding when the multitudes that you have fed leave you to your fate?
What happens to the innocent unborn?
Any plans on getting your baby's stuffs? Shouldn't that be of topmost priority now?
Can't you pend the wedding?

Maaamaaa, please you guys need to set your priorities. How on earth is he even going to payback? It's going to put a further strain on the relationship when it's payback time and He's unable to make ends meet. As it is, it's already difficult to sustain you both. Well, the ball is in your court. We can only but proffer advice , it's up to you to make a final decision. All the best.

Maaamaaa:
He said he met her September and then it was just an online relationship but they physically met December when he went home for Christmas last year.

I did not force myself on him, yes I was just stupidly in love. He will get drunk come to my place when I go out with another man, I never tried to make him jealous. I was just having other friends.

I did not move in with him to keep tabs on him, he was broke and could not afford his rent. So we planned to use my own rent to renew his.

He asked for an abortion because he was flat broke and had no money for the wedding (so he said) but we he got an option if taking a loan he agreed to it.. He is about to take the loan.

The OND case is that he said he still has a long way to go.

I believe he decided to date me because I was the convenient option.

Elo get a room jawe, you and salamonkane abi na solomon grundy

Dyt:
I thought I have stopped derailing threads

SalomonKane:
That's one child. The parental care that child received is different from that others receive.

I tell you, next time that child do(es) something right,[s] he or she will be waiting for cheezeball, and if that cheeseball doesn't come, then you won't like it. [/s]

Like I said, I work with kids, and heck, they take people for granted, especially when you show them you can be taken for granted.

Like i stated earlier, reward good behaviour (does not even have to be something edible, a big hug goes a long way, "good girl, clap for yourself", i could go on and on) and deprive them of something they cherish for bad behaviour.

Maybe you just happen to have very spoilt children to work with.

Who are those playing love on my thread

Dyt:
My moniker alone gives him attention

So he wanna cuuuuummmmm

Don't mind him

Maaamaaa:
I will try my best not be biased about our story and if you have any questions to ask please do.

I met him last year December precisely and we both work in the same office, we became best of friends but he was in a relationship (distant) and I was single.

It was still fine at this point, as friends.

We were really close because we both were new in town with no family around and then I fell in love with him and opened up about my feelings to him but he said he was in a relationship

You should have respected him a lot more at this point cos not so many men will open up to you about their relationship status when there's a lady(you) giving them the green light somewhere

I was hurt but I held my head up and moved on. I started mingling with other male colleagues and then he became jealous and so I confronted him about it (still loved him) and u also told him to choose between us and he said he wants me

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This was you being very selfish and manipulative, the guy obviously did not see you as anything more than a friend, he was never in love with you but you allowed yourself to be blinded by your emotions and greed. Why on earth will you even ask him to choose between you who he just met and barely has feelings for and his long time girlfriend?

His decision was based on the fact that the other lady was far away, he thought she was promiscuous and she is an OND holder etc (I got to find out about this later)

He only told you what you wanted to hear, so what if she is an OND holder, did he tell you she has no plans to further her education?

We moved in together because of financial stress and talked about getting married next year... Late June this year I found out he had not broken up with the other lady, confronted him about it and he settled the issue.

You moved in with him because you wanted to keep a tab on him 24/7!!! Of course, why will he break up with her? The devil you know...

I got pregnant July and he asked for an abortion, I insisted on keeping the baby with or without marriage.. He finally accepted to marry me and proceeded to tell my parents(he later said I forced him to that). He accused me of so many things and called me different names.

He traveled to his hometown and informed his parents about it all and met with the lady. On his return, he said the lady gives him peace and if I lose this pregnancy he will go back with her and that he loves her but he is just getting married to me because he respects my family and do not want to bring shame to me at work.

I cried, prayed and endured it all. Two weeks ago his family came for the introduction and the wedding has been fixed for December but I'm not happy.

I'm a shadow of myself, he feels disgusted by my presence and I can't say anything without him getting angry. I used to nag and quarrel a lot but I've stopped, even when I'm angry I just walk away.

He does not care about me and this pregnancy and if I tell him I'm sick or tired or anything, he will just say that I'm not the first to get pregnant and that it's when I push the baby he will take responsibility.

I have tried my best and I'm confused, last night I called him peacefully to ask him what I'm doing wrong but he said I'm disturbing him. I used to call his parents and my parents to intervene but he said I should stop that and I have stopped.

Please what can I do to save our relationship, it's not easy for me . this is not the man I fell in love with help me and please I need your advice because I am ready to do anything.

I want my child to have a normal family.

He asked you for an abortion because he is not genuinely in love with you! You practically shoved yourself down his throat. He is frustrated and angry that you messed up his plans. He agreed to live with you cos he wanted to use you as a house-help! Not cos he had any future plan to spend the rest of his life with you. Now you have an innocent baby on the way , deep sigh!!

Well, there is nothing prayer and counselling cannot do. Call for a family meeting and table everything . For the sake of the unborn, i hope things work out well for you.

Too early

SalomonKane:
LOL. [s]But how come you aren't scared of that male needle that gives pleasure below your loins?
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Or are you scared of it? LOL.

SalomonKane:
Dialogue? With a kid? Come on now. I'm telling you. Most of these kids can't be reasoned with, [s]especially those from dis-functional homes[/s] and those who are spoilt by their parents.

The carrot and stick method works very well. I work with kids. When try to deprive a kid of something he or she likes, they usually look for a way to thwart you.

These kids think they're smarter than you, you know.

I beg to disagree with you, the fact that a child is from a home where things are not going on well between the parents does not automatically mean that they will not be open to correction.

Yes, dialogue works. I know this because i have tried it many a time, it might not work all of the time but you will get desired result if you are persistent enough. If i can tell a child that is barely two years old that "if you throw that water bottle, no cheeseballs for you" (of course with a very stern look) and she automatically hands over the water bottle to me, then yes!! dialogue works no matter how young the child is. I will not be a party to child abuse under the pretext of reprimanding. When you catch them young, whatever you imbibe in them will stick with them.

Some will be there showing off wad of dollars/pounds, yet to assist the man is a huge problem. Hypocrisy. hisss

sisisioge:


God help all the parents out there and we the aspirants. Kids of today are too strong-willed for everybody's good biko. My friend's kids are a typical example. The girl is so level headed. She listens, shes cool, she fears the cane(though no one beats her)...she's a sweet girl. The boy on the other hand...ohlordinheaven! Whew, he's all of troublesome merged in one! He could climb for Africa, noisy, silly...I'm already exasperated thinking about him! The only thing that works briefly on him is taking privileges away. Even that has 30mins expiration! It is well, if only we could all stick to having the girl child...

It works, a lot of the time honestly. The girl child too can be very strong-willed too. It just takes the grace of God and application of the right corrective measure(s) to lead them aright. It is well

SalomonKane:
Things haven't changed at all. Flogging still is among the best way one can use in handling kids.

Why? Whatever in the world happened to dialogue? Or rewarding good behaviour and depriving them of things they cherish owing to bad behaviour?

Seal7:
Are You stylishly saying Yes to my marriage proposal?


Lord is this a sign?

You know the deal na, A Ferrari

If you love me you go buy me Ferrari eh eh

ifyalways:
I think i'll let the question slide. Not very important.

Ask God for forgiveness, for the sake of posterity, ask the (ex)wife too to forgive you and move on.

No need to create anymore threads or explain to anyone. Shut that door and move on.

All the best girl.

Spot on ma'am. Ladymercedes just move on pls. I wish you well.

Seal7:
that's no more flogging but child abuse.

Now we are on the same page

Seal7:
at bolded. My Dad was also in the military. Tho I wont flog my kids(hopefully), I still think flogging is the most efficient way anybody can discipline a kid.

Flog 'em leme see you na

Wingback:
Only if the flogger can't flog, I was always amused anytime my dad or mum used the belt on me but my military uncle...boy or boy, that man is the devil's right hand.


If you flog properly, they won't repeat although I won't flog my kids, [b]I find taking privileges away much more effective.[/b]

Have you considered the fact that flogging them too hard might leave indelible marks on their body? The fact that we were brought up that way does not mean it is the most effective method of correcting a child.

At the emboldened, you couldn't have said it better.

I have two old Al-Quran and one old bible. I simply kept them in my mini library.