These days, husband's phone is always ringing and each time he wants to take certain calls, he excuses himself and leaves the room. He takes his call anytime even in the middle of the night, the text messages never stop coming and quite frankly, I've had it up to here i'm about to loose it. I am a good woman I don't want to throw tantrums or make a mountain out of a molehill. It may be harmless calls and texts but i can't resist the urge not to go through his phone anymore.

An opportunity created itself when one day, he left for work and forgot his phone on the dresser. Eheeeeh, my opportunity has finally come. So I grabbed the phone and rushed into my bathroom to have my way with his phone.

I unlocked his phone but just stared at the home screen. For some reason, I couldn't bring myself to tap on the text message icon neither could i bring myself to go through his phone logs.

What if there's another woman in my husband's life? Does he have other children outside? If I check his phone and find something unacceptable, should I confront him?
And if I confront him, will he be sorry or will we have a nasty crack in our marriage that will somehow lead to my exit from this marriage?

All these questions may all only be in my head, there may be nothing fishy going on. I love and trust my husband and I don't want anything that will put a tension in our relationship.

Am at a crossroads, should I go ahead and check his phone or should I just let sleeping dogs lie. I honestly don't need anything that will cause me heart break.
What should I do?
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She was still in her bathroom when she called to tell me this.
Every marriage should be as transparent as possible. Every couple should have nothing to hide from each other BUT this is not absolute.

For a fact, some people don't care if their phones are checked but a whole lot more people will not take it lightly if their phones are tampered with. That's why is a personal property so, unauthorised persons should back off.

In summary I tell her to step out of her bathroom and let her husband's phone be. If she is really bothered with the manner her husband uses his phone, then she should have had a heart to heart talk with him since last year. Better yet, she should occupy her mind and time with more productive things.

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smartanthony5:
thank u

You're welcome.

My fellow women, if you are shopping in any crowded place, be it at a mall or in the market, clutch onto your purse as if your heart beat depended on it.

Position it in front of your chest and hold on tight with your 2 arms. Don't worry about how funny you would look holding your purse or bag like that but this is a serious matter o.

I was at a mall when suddenly a woman let out this shout and started crying profusely. As she was crying, she was searching for something in her bag.

Turned out to be that as people were pushing and shoving against each other in the same mall, the thief had cut the bottom of her bag and stole her money.

How much? Two hundred and fifty thousand naira CASH.
Let everyone shine their eyes during this period.

Na wa o.........not everyone that goes to the mall is an ajebo.


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Christmas is here again and as usual new clothes have to be sewn. I needed to get to my tailor's shop to check how far she had gone in sewing my children's' clothes. I didn't want to drive so I decided to take a cab.

As I waited I watched a little argument between a young woman and an okada rider going on across the street from where I stood. Before I could get a hang of what was going on, this woman had picked up a rock and hurled it at the okada rider's head! As in, I couldn't believe what I had just witnessed. Thank God that he was wearing his helmet otherwise, I would have been singing a different song here.

The man had wanted to leave the woman and ride off when she was running her mouth but the attack made him park his bike and check for bruises and possibly confront the woman. People there tried to appease him, "leave am, na woman." "You know how they behave." "No vex oga, na woman."
Apparently he calmed down, entered his okada and rode off while the woman continued to run her mouth. She then engaged in a verbal war with anyone that cared to caution her and then later stormed off.

We women sometimes think that it is ok to go violent against a man because we can do it and get away with it. From what happened, people were begging the man to ignore her simply because the perpetrator is a woman. It is excusable for a woman to behave violently but it is absolutely inhumane cruel and cowardly for a man to do same?

Assuming that the whole scenario above was turned around, I'm sure that that man would have been called all sorts names and probably beaten too.
Not to pardon any form of violence but i can't help but defend the man who retaliated by hitting back. He is not hitting because he just wants to hit a woman but because another human being hit him and he needed to defend himself.

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This is so barbaric!
Good move Senator

Name Checkers Association, ngwa come and collect your people.

Thanks be to God for this baby's life. Dear little one. And look, he's already playing. Such innocence

How can a human being, a woman for that matter, be so cruel and wicked enough to inflict such injuries on a helpless child.
Tufiakwa!

He finally decides to dress appropriately, whew!!

Why are Nigerians upset with Cameron's description of Nigeria. What he said is the truth and if we don't like it then it's high time we did something about our 'fantastically corrupt' nature.

Our good morning greetings on the dailies are the mind blowing amounts of money being stolen. The funny thing is that these thieves have staunch supporters who know that he or she stole funds and yet go ahead to worship them.

It is then the same people that will beat up someone who stole a cup of garri. If it's not about stolen funds, it's about court processes being abused. If it's not this it's about a trigger happy police man or someone defending a group of marauding killers and the list goes on and on.
So what are we saying?

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Nice write up.
Reminds me of my former work place where a female colleague was a professional at eye service. She would spend the time gisting in the office but once our oga at the top walks in, fiiiaaamm! She's transforms into a workaholic. SMH

Her life her business, not in any way mine.

What is it with celebrities and airing their dirty laundry in public? What are family members there for? Whether this is a publicity stunt ot not, it is totally wrong.

HELLOOOO!!!!!!! I did not in any way say that the man is a herbalist. He is simply a man who prefers to take herbal concoctions. I've just been reading some of the above comments and all I can do is shake my head.
Reading comprehension 101

A 65 year old man whose wife is a nurse started feeling unwell. His wife asked him to see the doctor but the man refused stating that he would rather take his herbal medicines which, he believed, have always worked well for him.
The wife being an experienced nurse, checked out the symptoms and decided that it would most probably be that he was coming down with the flu. All she needed to confirm her diagnosis was a test result which would be available if only her husband would quit being stubborn and visit the hospital.

"Ok, forget about going to the hospital, just take the drugs I bought."
"Bia nwanyi a, rapu m aka. Do you want to kill me before my time? Before these white people came with their medicines, were our ancestors not alive and well!? Kpachara anya gi."

Day in day out, she pleaded, threatened and eventually invited family members to talk to the man but still the man refused to budge. She watched as her husband's health deteriorated terribly and she was out of options on what to do. So.............. she decided to take the only route left. She asked God for forgiveness and started sneaking in the drugs into his food. At first, he complained that the food tasted funny, even the water tasted funny too but she just dismissed the topic and asked him to eat up and stop his whining. Surely, within a few days, his health improved and he gave the glory to his herbal concoctions. The wife just dey look am.

But she couldn't have peace of mind and opened up to him. All hell broke loose and he called her family and his and gave the wife's family a date on which they would expect her return with her belongings.
Now, I'd like to know your thoughts on this.

Ohkk, Thanks.

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Today's recipe is a very nutritional one and it's made with your everyday normal garden egg. Could be the white ones or the green ones but I used the white ones for this recipe. Am sure a lot of people never knew that you could actually make sauces and stews with it. I thought so too till I came across this recipe and I was like Wooow! So don't just buy garden egg and eat with groundnut or ose oji (that thick brown paste for eating garden eggs), try out this recipe I want to share and you'll be glad you did.

Ingredients:
Garden eggs
Red oil
Crayfish
Ogiri okpei, ogiri isi (igbo) or Dawadawa
Pepper
Scent leaves
Smoked fish
Seasoning
Salt
Water

Method 1
Remove the stalk from the garden eggs, wash and grind them in a blender. Grind thoroughly to form a smooth paste then set your red oil on fire. Heat it till it's bleached or if you prefer just heat it till it's hot. I like to bleach it because it gives a different taste from the ordinary hot red oil.
Add the blended garden eggs and fry till most of the water in it is dried up. Wash the smoked fish with warm water and salt and add to the sauce. Add a little water to it to adjust the thickness to your preference then add your ground crayfish, okpei, pepper, seasoning and salt. Lastly add the scented leaves and allow to simmer for a few minutes and turn off the heat.
You can serve with boiled yam, plantain or rice.

Method 2
Boil the garden eggs till it cooks well and becomes soft. Peel off the light back from it and discard. Pound the garden eggs in a mortar or just use your blender. When a smooth paste is formed, put it in a pot and boil. Add a little water, red oil, okpei, pepper, smoked fish, crayfish and the scented leaves and seasoning.
(I have to state that I don't use smoked fish, crayfish and the scented leaves when I prepare the sauce using this second method.)

Method 3
The only extra ingredient here is fresh tomatoes. Use the first method here but fry the garden eggs and tomatoes together. The taste is mind blowing!

obiorathesubtle:
are you talking about taraji henson's character(Lauren) in think like a man 1?


Cos.. This has script lifting written all over

Haven't seen the movie you are talking about sef but i'll go check it out.
Like I wrote in there, 'I heard....' so maybe my source saw the movie or it actually did happen somewhere. Either of the two is possible.
Take the message from the write up and not diss the writer, thanks.

So I was watching the television a couple of days ago and this topic was furiously being argued on. Some said yes and some said no. Both sides had very valid points to support their opinions and I must say I thoroughly enjoyed the debate.

For me, I think that a woman should not tone down her success to get a husband but should apply modesty and moderation in her lifestyle and in whatever she does as well. If as a single lady you can afford a Lamborghini (shey na the spelling be that?), maybe a fairly recent Rav4 jeep model would be better. If you can afford to buy a duplex, why not rent a flat with a friend or a relation. If you like travelling abroad for your vacations, try travelling to another part of Nigeria and relax. Don't wear designer goods all the time, try Aba-made. Trust me, those guys are good too.
Don't get me wrong it's good to live a good life, after all you only live once, BUT moderation and modesty are the keys to get what you want as a single lady even as a single guy looking to get a wife who will love you for you and not love you because of your wealth.
Toning down the wealth will go a long way in attracting a sincere man and not a gold digger. Yes o! some men are gold diggers too.

There are some men who feel intimidated when they know how rich a lady is therefore, they would prefer to go after a lady who is less financially well off than they are. Well, tables could turn tomorrow and the woman could become the richer spouse. How will the man take it then? A man who knows his worth in gold should be able to walk up to any lady and let her know his intentions. If she likes you enough, the party kicks off. And if she doesn't want you, you pat yourself on the back and tell yourself that even though she rejected you, you had the guts to toast her.

I heard about a woman that owned a house in which she and her family lived in but the husband did not know that their supposedly rented apartment belonged to his wife. Kasala burst when it was time to pay their house rent and the man didn't have the money ready. He then decided to plead with the landlord, who he had never met, to give him some time in order to get the money. One thing led to the other and it was discovered that the house actually belonged to his wife.
Now what I don't subscribe to is lying to a man about your achievements. That is out rightly bad and if the man later finds out that his woman lied to him about her wealth then that's going to affect the trust in their relationship. I know some women do it with good intentions so that they wont come off as haughty or too accomplished but what is wrong is wrong. Of course, you don't tell a man your achievements on the first few dates but you can let him in on your secret when you are sure that he is genuine. And how will you know that he is genuine? Pray wella my sister, lol.
That's a topic for another day.

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jopretty:
awww! so sorry about that mix up.

No worries

Congratulations op.

tojujack:
E sweet??

E sweet. Try am fess.

jopretty:
This guy must be a chronic bachelor hehehehee. But you try sha. Weldon!

I am a married woman.

We Nigerians love bread so much like our lives depend on it. It's like the scriptural Daily Bread and any day some people don't munch on some bread, then they will not function well for that day. Am in this category of people too but I don't take my bread the same way all the time. I like to spice it up.
So today, I want to share a little bread recipe.......

Slices of your ordinary bread
Tomatoes
Pepper
Onions
Salt
Eggs
A pinch of nutmeg
Vegetable oil or whatever cooking oil you prefer...... (not red palm oil o!) lol

1) Dice your tomatoes, pepper, onions and set them aside. Whisk the eggs then add a pinch of salt
and the nutmeg. Add the diced ingredients to the egg and mix them all together.
2) Cut the bread slice into 2 triangles or into 2 rectangles, whatever shape you want.
3) Depending on the size of your frying pan, put a cooking spoon of oil and set it on fire. The idea is
that you don't want to put too much oil in your pan as this will make your bread soggy with oil.
4) Soak the bread into the mixture, making sure that the tomatoes, etc cover its entire body, then fry.
5) Allow it to turn golden brown in colour then flip and fry the other side.
6) Serve while hot with the beverage of your choice.


So when you are done, you should have something like this.

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So I was in a bank's waiting hall and one thing struck me. Almost everyone was fiddling with one mobile device or the other, phones, laptops, palmtops and other cool looking devices that I don't know their names. I myself was also busy chatting alternatively with one friend on whatsapp and with another on BBM. On my left was a guy who was playing games and on my right sat a child with his mum's smart phone also playing games. After a while I stopped my chats and just looked at the people in the hall and I started thinking.
No doubt, electronic gadgets have made our lives easier, people can talk to people thousands of miles away, you can get your job done in a matter of seconds, you can access the web and obtain whatever information you need and a bunch of other ways all these gadgets have made life simpler. But, it has also taken a very strong position in peoples' minds, attitudes and manner of thinking.

Over indulgence on these electronic gadgets can cause accidents. "I just wanted to check who was pinging me and I didn't see the man crossing the road. Am sorry I ran him over with my car."
"I just wanted to catch the last episode of Super Story but I didn't know when the baby crawled into the kitchen." These are just a few out of many occurrences.

Did you know that sitting in front of the television for long hours can cause obesity and redundancy. A lot of people, especially some men, spend a large portion of their time in front of the television either playing games or watching whatever it is that catches their fancy. Those that indulge in games buy the latest Play Station on board and make sure to finish all the levels at one sitting. Some others are movie or football addicts. And of course snacks and drinks make the whole affair a splendid one. So while they spend all this time sitting in one place, they are beckoning on obesity.

Has anyone noticed the kind of English grammar that youths of nowadays speak and write? Spoken - " When my dad said he was visiting, I was like why? And he was like, he needed to check up on me. But I was like, he didn't need to. So sha, I was like, dad seriously? You don't like need to come to my school. Like for real, it's sooo not like cool. You grab, dad?"
Written - Y R U 9ce 2 me?, I 4gt my fone in ma bag, Gd am Madam, au R U? Really??!!!!!!
That is how someone I know mistakenly used this type of English in one of his exam papers and guess what happened. Your guess is as good as mine. Lol.

Don't get me wrong, technological advancement and its accompanying devices are all welcome developments but we human beings need to take control of how we use them otherwise they will take control of how they use us. Just imagine being controlled by your smartphone....... creepy, if you ask me.

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My point exactly!
When you take a risk, expect approvals and disapprovals but nevertheless, forge on

Be bold, step out and take that risk.
That was what I told myself when I wanted to go get a new hairdo. It wasn't my normal kind of hair do but a very daring type. Normal hair colour for me would either be black or dark brown, perhaps with a tinge of wine red or blond here and there and that's it. I got tired of these colours and decided to go for a bold colour. You know something to make me look yaga but the problem was that I was scared of what people would think or say if I got the colour I had my eyes on. I then wondered if the colour would actually look good on me. Would I rock that hair colour well?
Anyway, I closed my eyes and made up my mind to go ahead and do what was on my mind. So, I decided to go blonde with no diluting colours like black or brown anywhere. In I went into my hair dresser's saloon and specified what I wanted. He smiled and said, "Ah Aunty, this colour is unlike you. It is very bold, can you deal with what will accompany it?" And I asked him to just get on with it. I couldn't change my mind at that point, even if I did, I still wouldn't have been able to do so because I had already bought my hair extensions so no turning back. My money no go loss nau.
When he was done, I was a bit shy. I spent an extra 30 minutes in his saloon building up the courage to step out and go home. Finally, I left. On the one hand I got looks that classified me as a lady of the night, I got thumbs down, some would look at me from that my blonde hair to my toes and hiss. Those looks would have been hot enough to burn paper lol. And on the other hand I also got looks of admiration, nice compliments, tips on how to rock the hair better. One or two friends even decided to go get the same hair do too and am like wow, am now a celeb.
Am rocking my hair and enjoying every minute of it. It put a certain spring to my step sef.

Living life is all about spicing things up and taking risks. I don't believe in living a monotonous life. Such a life is sooooo boring. Going to work and doing the same thing every day, eating the same set of food all the time, dressing up the same way all the time and of course getting the same hair do and colour all the time.
I want to encourage someone out there to get up and do something different in his or her life. As long as it is not immoral, does not go contrary to the laws of the land and is not evil then by all means do something new for you. Life is too short to live on a one way track. Don't be bothered by what people would think or say, they are going to say stuff anyway, but instead think about the benefit(s) you could achieve. All you have to do is to take the first step.
Taking a risk may turn out right or wrong but either way, the fact is that YOU took that risk and you will go down in history as that person that did something so unlike him or her and that's all that matters.
So my people, take a risk and be glad you did. Toodles!

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Abeg abeg abeg if you want to crack jokes, do not attempt to do so with all these foreign accents. Speak plain English or pidgin.
That is how I went for an end of year Christmas party and the MC was doing his best to get everyone rolling on the floor with laughter. I was looking at the guy with this Mr. Man-you-are-dulling-the-party look. E for better if to say na only Aka Nchawa song was played there. No seriously. The poor guy saw the looks on people's faces and tried to demonstrate his jokes which made his performance worse. Datiz eh, it was pure torture!
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But Nigerians, why are you people like this nau? To impress una is like climbing Mount Kilimanjero wearing agbada.