₦airaland Forum

baby124:
You know Damiso, I wrote the same thing but I lost what I wrote. Culturally Yoruba women have never been second class citizens. I think it depends on the tribe. All my female ancestors were actually even more successful than I am. Business wise in so many different forms. All my over 70yr old and above aunties were given the same educational opportunity as their male relatives if the parents can afford it. It is just that oyinbo people thought women should do secretary, nursing and they made technical degrees more male dominated. Otherwise most of them would have been doctor's, lawyers and engineers.

Women have been Chiefs in Kings councils and some were even kings. So any Yoruba woman that prefers to be alabodo, is strictly forming her own path in life. It is not necessarily that she sees herself as less than the man. Women even unhappy with their men and marriages will openly leave the man and marry another one. They were actually more liberated than now. It is actually Islam and Christianity that brought this women are less than men. Even with children in Yoruba society a child is a child, no better than the other whether male or female.

There are two thing I don't agree with you here:
- If you are an atheist, its your personal conviction. I don't in any way see where bible says women should submit themselves outside the home. It is this lazy attribute in women that makes them join family and society together. Let he who does not work not eat.
- I'm a yoruba, you can't tell me that the value placed on male and female are the same. If you are born as last child(only male), you automatically become the head of the family(olori ebi). It is a taboo for men to buy goods in market(local), my dad once got insulted for degrading his manliness by a woman. If I begin to list the advantages that the male has, my phone's ink will dry up. Though, YORUBA is considerably fear to women if we are to justapose MALE and female.

bukatyne:
@OP:

Great Thread

As of today, I doubt there are many institutions where women are openly discriminated at in Nigeria ( I am excluding rural areas and customs here)

The major problem is mental; until the people believe men and women are equal, all institutions established to ensure there are equal opportunities is not going to attain the full potentials.

This mental barrier affects all segments especially in the home; we see men who would be great fathers, spur their daughters to the top but stunt the development of their wives

As more awareness is created and women prove themselves, it changes the traditional mindset and we can progress.

Long thread I must say.
Women used to contribute greatly in the past and were respectful to their husbands but times have changed. I also agree with you that some mental steriotypes should be done away with to encorage women to be at least half as industrous and hardworking as their mothers were BUT I beg to disagree that the stereotypes are abstract. Male's mental capacity is superior to that of female's, forget hollywood. Yorubas will say, 'if there is no reason, you don't become poor suddenly.'
I will attribute women's poor performance to religion and society, which has both given women an excape route from the hustle and bustle of this country. It takes a determined mind to do away with this temptation.
As for women's education, I don't in the slightest thought associate its redundancy to men. Men do the most unimaginable jobs in Nigeria. The worst thing you can see a woman do is a labourer, men die earlier. If these men after they risk their lives decide to sponsor their male children, their gender, what offence have they commited? It is a fact that a male devoid of the influence of his wife(ves) takes good care of his aged parents. There is no tangible reason girls should be specially empowered.
As for women's role in politics, its increasing, but there will surely be a time when law of diminishing returns will set in and will start increasing at a decreasing rate, and finally grind to a halt, due to negligible differences(35-40%).
Another thing that begs for consideration is the morals of women today, loose, arrogant and material(wealth) oriented. Women today easily loose virginity, dress shamefully unlike their mothers, not for any reason but laziness. Due to their money oriented view of life, they find it easier to make it by manipulating religion and culture, which has made it somehow mandatory for men to take care of women, but to use this opportunity, they have to tamper with a man's tèstosterone, by dressing horribly and objectifying themselves.
Lastly, on marriage and polygamy, I think the changing tide(negligible to me due to the fact that in most marrages, couples cheat) is not due to change in women's view of it(they never loved it and were free to divorce), its mainly due to the wrongful misinterpretation of St. Paul's teachings, economic hardship, easy accessibility to loose women and sex workers, phobia for polygamy. Divorce favours men, not that the law favours but our actions made it so.

I envy you.

Isiterere:
lai, lai, no way. 2015 is make or mar year for Nigerians.
We need change....

Vote GMB/PYO

ALL IZZ WELL

Is it every avenue you have that you must bring up politics? . Enjoy the holiday.

The holiday is becoming boring, my idle mind has made internet my work place. Though it has really helped in my religious researh. I argued with a muslim today, he lost his mind.

aim5:
Misogynist I agree with you on that, but this was a father on daughter thing.

Certainly not the type you think.

johnstar:
y always 9yrs sumtn is rili wrng

Young girls mature early these days.

SAMBARRY:
So children are no more safe in this country with the amount of beasts having election for their children much less a kid

The story is false. How can a man defile his daughter and stop his silly wife from checking her, he even beat her when he knew it will surely gather attention. Except the girl is an expert in the business, the way with which she walks is enough proof. The man was even bold enough to do it in front of his 17yr old daughter.

Lala, why is this making front page?

MzNelly:
Jesus is not God. I thought this Trinity belief is archaic.

For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one. 1 JOHN 5:7

OLAADEGBU:
If Jesus Is God, How Can He, As God, Die?

http://carm.org/how-jesus-god-die

'Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me:' I could have easily have forwarded a link but I think I can eaisily answer this question. To die is different from sleeping, Jesus didn't die for it is written, 'it is appointed for man to die once, after that is judgement.' (to man he died, to Him, he slept). Even when Jesus knew he was 'falling asleep', he still had 'fears' that the FATHER won't wake him up, but he surrendered, great was His faith! Great was His sacrifice!
Many today think Christ's beating was His Greatest sacrifice, (great was this) Its his 'sleep'. 'And when Jesus had cried with a loud voice, he said, Father, into thy hands I commend my spirit: and having said thus, he gave up the ghost.'

What do you mean?

Very sad. Most men steal and break laws because they automatically become 'unmanly' if poor.

I hope so.

This is promising.

Charismatic leader! Nothing will stop me from voting GMB and Osibanjo. I'm not apc, neither I'm I pdp, God forbid! I've been following that wicked party called pdp since ages, it is time for change, this is my chance to vote right, the time for change. Vote out the clown prince of otuokpe, that consumes 4million naira per day.

Vikkie14:
In order word, they are calling him "Prophet of Doom". That's an absurd statement. Well, he prophesy and it came to pass, why can't we have those that will prophesy "good/developmental" things than just death? Well, his prophesies and pride in airing them out are typical of an "attention-seeker", but i think he has that already na. Hmm.... Prophesying death and nothing but calamities.....


But i think REVELATION IS FOR REDEMPTION. I mean, when God reveal something to someone, God's aim/plan is for the evil to be AVERTED.
Why did he likes taking PRIDE in prophesies of doom/accident/mishap that finally occur?
GOD REVEAL TO REDEEM

Most of God's prophesies don't get 'averted' it is its fulfilment that earns God His fear and popularity. Ask Nebuchadnezzar.

joe17:
They shud leave this man alone abeg!

I doubt if its a lie.

etomama:
Wait till it happened to your daughter.

You girls should stop mentioning me. I am tired of reading posts laden with emotions, if you want to write to me, tell a MAN to help you.

Abugab:
Winsh tins...dem don leave Malaysia na Indonesia dem don enter now. Na only 40 bodies dem don see for the one wey enter water and anoda wan join am? God forbid it can't fit to happen again. We divert every plane crash away IJN

Man of faith.

Thank GOD for their lives.

Drink your lives out.

mya1:
May such fate befall you! Amen!

I'm sure you are a püssy.

mya1:
Are you crazy?! A 7 year old girl gave greenlight What type of human beings are we breeding these days?
Rape cannot be proven? A 7 year old
Your brain must be stuffed with sawdust! Anuofia!!


I don't care if he's 85,He should be made to feel every single pain the little girl felt and much more before he takes his last breath. I wonder what such a randy and ruthless man is still doing alive anyway.

There are two sides to a coin.

godwinkessi:
The driver was so drunk, he hit down someone, when he started running to escape his car summersaulted... Just like that!

It happened at Ahiara junction at Mbaise in IMO state. It happened right in front of me, I stopped and then took the pictures.


Source: Eyewitness Account.

Instant judgement. Drink responsibly.

soonest:
You are a nut case. You better go for a thorough mental treatment. This your misogynistic trait is excessive, get help fast

You tickle me.

treasuress:
if na me i collect the 1million start good business o, n stop hawking....mayb its their breakthrough

Abi o. People let emotions overcome sense of reasoning. They are not sure of winning the case, why not collect the money, make sure the man takes care of her and use the money to give her a good life? Provided her testimony is true.

MarieSucre:
Women are considerably weaker hence they should be raped at age 7 by older men. hmmnnn. I am enlightened!!! Dude is this what your religion preachs?

I don't encourage rape.

Very sad story. They couldn't witness 2015.

WOCKHARDI:
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Are you a lawyer or a lier? Read the mother's statement very well. The man was unclad, blood, fluid and #1m settlement. What other evidence do you want. I wish the minor is your sister.

Anyone who gives judgement after hearing a side of a story is a wicked elder.

Olufemiolaolu:
You re birds of d same feather. May a small female member of ur family xperience same in Jesus name. vry brainless post

Cool down, I haven't raped anyone and I guess I'm not the old man. Direct your grudge at him.