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raylord:You do not understand, abi? But if you walk down the street with your wife and random men start groping her in front of you, you would know how to feel insulted. You would feel disrespected (if you've got any integrity). That thing that's hurt in you when that happens, because you think you 'own' your wife, is hurt in a woman because she knows she owns her body. And nobody should take that ownership for granted by taking such liberties. It's dehumanizing. I don't even know what to say to you and your disciples who liked your comment.............shame on you! |
The patience you've shown to cube the plantains that way...... ![]() Nice one, bro. Guys that know how to cook are hella sexy. Don't mind all the shades here. |
greiboy:The difference between a digger and a prostitute ...........There's a world of difference between them. And before you mete out your outrage equally on them, you might want to specifically identify what makes the prostitute 'Cheap'. She has sex and profits off it. Only sex. She doesn't form an emotional bond with her clients nor develops any kind of long-term relationship. She doesn't even have to know the name of her John. He's in and out and it's on to the next one. Maybe even within the hour. A digger, on the other hand, actually invests emotionally in someone and builds a relationship with him. The thing is: he must be wealthy to keep her life cushy. She profits off the relationship; it isn't just a bout of sex for cash. She owes her time, support and every other thing that girlfriends do.Profiting from a relationship with a man isn't just a concept associated with diggers. Women used to be given out in marriage so that they could be cared for by their husbands; and a man's ability to care for a woman effectively was a prime factor in deciding his suitability as a husband. The prettier a girl was, the wealthier her suitors were expected to be. It wasn't about love; the match was made by parents. It isn't that women have nothing else to offer than their bodies, it's rather that most men don't value much else about women. This is why beauty and youth are a woman's selling point. If women were to choose, they would not decide to make such ephemeral qualities so important. |
greiboy:No, it's gold-digging not prostitution. While prostitutes trade sex for money, gold-diggers are simply women who prioritize a man's finances above every other quality he possesses when entering into a relationship in the hope that it would improve their quality of life. Who are we to say that a woman should value a man's face over his pocket, or his brains over his face? It's her personal decision. |
. Rich people don't even act this way; only poor people do. They're so concerned with making a statement; but it's not made by wasting food. Rich people would even ask for the left-overs to be packed up to go (they paid for it after all); If not for themselves, then for the dog. There's always a dog. |
greiboy:Oh no, I wasn't referring to poor women. I mean within the context of the relationship: whether you're looking for it or not; when gifts and other considerations are exchanged throughout a relationship, one person ends up having outspent the other (only through conscious effort would it be balanced). It's not about expectations now but simply about accounting. The person who's outspent (typically/traditionally the woman) is on the credit side of money in the relationship. This doesn't make her a prostitute. |
ubunja:Lol! I'm not offended. I set myself up for that one and I saw it coming. Women who aren't in the prostitution business may still deplete a guy's pocket (not all of them though) but the sex is dependent on so much more than that. The guy actually has to have a personality or appearance that the girl appreciates. It's not a trade of sex for money. But if you want to be that simplistic about this......... I've actually written something similar, so I might not be the best person to negate this notion. The MMM guy supposes that everyone who exchanges cash for any kind of service is basically doing something dirty. People should work for free and fvck for free in a perfect world. But in this world, a person is often bound to end up on either the debit or credit side of money, and should they really be shamed for it if they've given value for cash? What's the deal with money? Why does it rubbish a person's integrity? Or is this just some scheme to keep people 'cheap'? To tell them that zero is bigger than one; but one is still smaller than two. The peculiar economics of sex. I'm just thinking out loud. Don't answer. |
ubunja: . Anyways, he says he prefers to pay for it. There's nothing studdish about that; it's the easiest way to get it. |
Only 50 Out of 365 nights, plus 365 possible afternoon delights, 365 5am quickies, and 220 possible bathroom break indiscretions with a co-worker? For someone who says he "fvcks and discards", you've either been re-using your 'tissue' way too often or you've had a very inefficient year. Either way, you should hang your head in shame. No prize for you ![]() |
Maezara:This is very beautifully put. However, there is substantial value in mimicking peculiar patterns of excellence in the people we admire---qualities and techniques that can help you to release your true self, that higher part of you that can operate at a more effective level than your normal self. But you shouldn't COPY them; find yourself instead. We should be all that we can be, not a shadow of someone else.Hmm, true. You're making me realize why I picked those people I mentioned, when they seem unrelated. It's the qualities that would get me where I want to be. An aide to a Chinese Emperor once thought he could impress his master by letting him hear the wonderful impression that an entertainer could do of the song of a nightingale. The Emperor listened politely then turned to the aide and said, "But why would I want to hear a copy of the nightingale when I can hear the nightingale itself?"Lol! Yes, we sell ourselves short if we choose to become a poor-man's nightingale. We can admire people and get inspiration from them, but being a believer myself, in the succint dictum, [color=darkgreen]Nil satis nisi optimum[/color]: "Nothing but the best is good enough.", I'd rather be the best I can be, than try to be like them.Thanks, sweetie. Happy Sunday to you too. |
Maezara:Hmm, I'd have to think about that. But the answer would probably disappoint you. There's no one person I would say I'd want to model myself after. I admire lots of people for different reasons. I love Serena Williams, for instance. Watching her play (especially in 2012/2013) she's depicted the epitome of the power and resilience of mind, spirit and body. I find her very inspiring, and her career has been a lesson for anyone trying to conquer adversity (from within and without). I admire people who are strong enough to stand alone against conventions and norms without compromise, because, at great expense to themselves, they are pioneers of change: like Ellen Degeneres when she came out in the nineties. And all the people here, like you, who don't neglect their intellectual gifts and rationale (divinely bestowed, btw) in order to protect the ignorance of religion. My driving force and shaper is my own dissatisfaction. Everyone is born with something within them that they need to let out, and it will torture them until they do. It can be anything: music, sport, writing, love, whatever. And only you can know what it is if you pay attention to yourself, instead of allowing other people assume what you ought to give and who you should be. That's just noise that would distract you. |
ubunja: . This mission you're on, eh ...........who sent you? Men will choose women who they consider to be "good" for them. A sexually experienced woman (we don't say "used" in my village) with other redeeming qualities may be better (for some men) than a prude with unsavory baggage. Men don't need to upset their own lives by choosing against their instincts, simply because they want to teach "bad girls" a lesson. |
ubunja: Lmao! . Is that why you're trying so hard to discredit this thread? You don't want us to be hopeful? You sef! Truth is, we can all say what we want on Nairaland but, the facts of life will remain unchanged: some like them young and some like them older. It's always been that way and it will always be that way. I used to wonder how Prince Charles would look at someone like Camilla Parker-Bowles when he was married to Lady Di. It seemed against the laws of nature. But it wasn't. Minority choices aren't an aberration, nature just isn't as strict as we'd like to think. |
, I'm really trying to understand this from a guy's point of view........how does the fact that she may have been taken advantage of in the past make your love for her evaporate? Especially when you didn't think she was a virgin. Please help me out with the answer. And afterwards, you should know that it's best to follow your heart. If you don't have any feelings for her anymore, let her go for both your sakes. There's no point humiliating her further by showing your suspicion regarding her confessions to you; it must have been hard for her to open up about it. Take it and make your decision without putting her on trial. |
MathsChic:Disgraceful! . Most times, this is a repercussion of corruption and not neglect, on the part of the government. You won't believe the budgets which PTDF, Tetfund and ETF dedicate towards the upgrade of secondary and tertiary institutions. But in the end, they approve contractors who are crooked enough to pay them huge cuts upfront and then they embark upon doing substandard work that wouldn't even survive two rainy seasons. And the consultant engineers are practically useless on the project because the contractor has got his way around them by putting the sponsor in his pocket. |
Good to have you back, man, #welikom |
All this talk....Smh.There is this short story by Akwaeke Emezi that offers an interesting perspective on homosexuality: Who is like God? https://granta.com/who-is-like-god/. It makes you wonder how some people can so easily declare themselves God at the expense of others. The Bible says in James 2:10, for whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. And the Bible also says that all have sinned. And we probably offend God everyday even with our self righteousness. Which means we are guilty of every single sin in the book. You steal or lust after a girl in the street, you're a homosexual and a murderer in God's eyes; so stop judging others and instead worry that God's grace extends to your life. You don't know the apple of God's eye. David was an adulterous man after all. |
Hannysmilez:Lol. I just read your post on it, and you absolutely got most of the arguments here. Unfortunately, a lot of girls don't even know that this is rape. Many sexual encounters happen this way. You hear a guy say "after a lot of fighting, we had sex" and he sees nothing wrong with it because the girl eventually "co-operated". She may succumb to biology, or the "guilting" (stop being a čock-tease!). However, in the wake of it all, the girl is left feeling all the elements of the aftermath of rape - the imposition on her body. Plus guilt and confusion: not knowing whether this was on her or him. You make an interesting read. Very intriguing and really funny. I can't believe I'm only just coming across it. ![]() |
bimberry1307:Thank you. I'm glad you liked it and found it relatable. I don't know if that's the context you're referring to but, a lot of girls have at some point found themselves in a situation where the lines are blurry and they cannot tell for sure if they've been taken advantage of or not. |
Maezara:Wow, Tozara, I'm......I don't even know what to say .....you are too kind. Thanks for the compliment (and the golden particles of muses ). And thanks again for being you, and also being able to see the complexities surrounding consent which I wanted to express. |
. There was a time this would have been considered weird: you go to the bank to deposit cash, it's finally your turn on the queue, you give the dude behind you your phone "Abeg, bros no vex. Snap me picture". Not anymore, I guess. Congrats to the guy though, paying in your first millions fit scatter your brain. . Especially if he never esperet it. |
ibkayee:Thanks, girl........means a lot to me. I just added that note. I'm glad you made the connection before though. |
MikeTw:I am very interested. And I'll send the email as soon as I get home. Thanks. |
SINZ: ![]() |
plavic:You don't have the aptitude to comprehend it. Braille makes no sense to me. I would leave it alone instead of quarreling with it only to exhibit my own......(what's a nice way to say: ignorance?) No offense. |
SINZ:Lol! , is that not what it is? All those things that they didn't send you to do. |
. Sometimes, it is good to be a little bad. It helps you keep a better perspective on things. When you're a saint, you naturally begin to think that the world owes you stuff. It's the whole idea of 'good' defeating 'evil' and 'fairness'. It's a fairy tale. And those things are all only relative to human egoism. When you're bad, you know you're 'naturally undeserving' and you begin to work harder to make up for it. In school, if I didn't do some extracurricular stuff, I won't even feel the need to study at all. So, I guess what I'm saying is: goodness is good, but on its own it isn't the currency with which you trade in this world. |
ibkayee:Thanks, dear. |
mediocre:Thanks for the mentions, dear. Raggedyann |
Dimples129: . Hope you're feeling better, babe. |
Lol, . What's on the menu tonight: men, money, make-up? How does this work?
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Queensekxy, MhisTahra.....thanks for the mentions. |
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. And this are guys u will crush on on a good day o
. Rich people don't even act this way; only poor people do. They're so concerned with making a statement; but it's not made by wasting food. Rich people would even ask for the left-overs to be packed up to go (they paid for it after all); If not for themselves, then for the dog. There's always a dog.

Out of 365 nights, plus 365 possible afternoon delights, 365 5am quickies, and 220 possible bathroom break indiscretions with a co-worker? For someone who says he "fvcks and discards", you've either been re-using your 'tissue' way too often or you've had a very inefficient year. Either way, you should hang your head in shame. No prize for you 
.....you are too kind. Thanks for the compliment (and the golden particles of muses 
. Hope you're feeling better, babe.