₦airaland Forum

Daeylar:
I will change (APC kind of change sha )

, please don't change. I'll complain for the sake of it, but I like you like this joor.

Whether they've planned your matter and were just waiting for the right time LMAO you'll be very confused, very shocked, you'll just be staring like a goat all you are think of is "but I don't know and I've never spoken to this person" or "I thought this person and I were very friendly," then depending on the people involved some people may vex back, and before you know fight had started, imagine if their were guns, stray bullets everywhere. People running around. Scary actually,

Some People in this country are angry with so many things and for some reason won't take their anger to the right source , so just wait for the right person's head to do transfer of aggression on.

Lmao! you really cracked me up with this.

Dfire:
I thought you wouldn't reply sef,
So you're proposing we protest?
Mention one protest that actually worked in this country apart from 1960 fake independence?

Why shouldn't I mention the only protest that has worked (in your opinion)? Shouldn't we use that and all the failed protests as case-studies to see what we should be doing differently? Nigerians always prefer to adjust themselves to the bad situations instead of pushing back; it's a nasty vice in a nationalist context. I do have a very radical plan (you must have one too) because it is clear which installations militate against serious rebellion, but saying it would probably get a lot of stick. it's the kind of idea that germinates in trusted cells, not in a public forum. It isn't rocket science, we clearly haven't had enough oppression yet. The thing you should know is that rebellion is far more likely to happen, than approving gun ownership for every Nigerian because they know very well what demon they have created in the guise of the masses.

Jman06:
If at all that disorder exists in Nigeria it will be so insignificant to constitute a reason why Nigerian men cheat, and I must say that such a man is really really siiiiick.

Yes, it is a real real sickness. A psychological disorder that is quite common where a person has been taught to believe that sex is dirty and shameful.

Dfire:
so Miss right how do you propose we cure the mental state of Nigeria just let everything go smooth hoping things would get better hmm hoping for babaginda or atiku to do better abi? You can't convince me we don't need guns in this country if we like everyone should get mad at each other, atleast it would teach people to respect one another (knowing fully well they could blast you) in countries with gun ownership their murder rate is low, it's people like you that will say that Africa should rise above our slave mentality you're already thinking Nigerians are more ruthless than whites

The reason a lot of Nigerians have short fuses is that most of us have our backs against the wall and are frustrated beyond measure. Nothing works: epileptic power supply, no water, bad roads, and on top of all that agberos harass you at your place of business to demand illegal taxes and start confiscating your belongings if you object. Politicians shove you off the road with their fifty-car entourages and don’t even care if you’ve run into a gutter. Policemen extort you at checkpoints even if your papers are intact; they come up with ridiculous accusations and can’t even be bothered with proving any of their claims. Road safety officials will insist that drivers adhere to all safety regulations but will not mount the same pressure on FERMA to fill potholes. Nobody at PHCN can do simple arithmetic to subtract the amount you paid last month from your current bill; they only know how to add. People are out of jobs but positions are being filled by corpses. And somewhere at the center, they rob the nation blind. It’s one ridiculous story after another.

We can’t blame people for being angry and volatile; it’s as a result of the lack of confidence in our systems. And we take it out on each other because we can’t do much else. Or so we think. If you see how quickly bottles are broken, or a tire is tossed around the neck of a robbery suspect you’d swear someone’s orgasm depended on the stench of singeing flesh. But we aren’t really angry with each other. If you ask people: If they had guns and no laws, whom would they kill? You’d see that several persons would make an appearance on most lists. And the scenario wouldn’t even be hypothetical if we had guns because the laws are non-existent on certain levels.

That quote by Thomas Jefferson speaks about tyranny from government. I think that rebelling against a tyrannical government is a noble cause (guns or no) but what you’re proposing with gun ownership isn’t that. It is rather an admission that the government has failed in its duties to provide security. And instead of facing our leaders to demand better governance, we are (once again) cowed into providing for ourselves. They shouldn’t be let off so easily. The repercussions of that are dire because there are bound to be meaningless deaths: people bleeding in the streets, not for patriotism but as casualties of bad government. It would be akin to the Wild West where practically everyone is a gunslinger. And if we are all wielding guns, the only edge we can hope for is a super quick hand or the element of surprise.

What I believe Nigerians should do is not to sit on their hands and hope (or pray) for things to get better, because they won’t on their own, what I believe we should do is to protest. To come hard against injustice. To put tribal and religious sentiments aside and to call out perpetrators. Don’t get mad at each other; get mad at government.

About low murder rates in countries with relaxed gun laws: well, murder is premeditated killing. With guns handy at all time you should expect deaths as a result of accidental shootings, manslaughter and self-defence. Not murder. In any case, they're all deaths resulting from guns. And there's a correlation between the gun ownership rate of a country and the gun deaths. The US being the highest on both variables.

Jman06:
Your number 2 point is very wrong. Only a foolish man would cheat on the wife he loves and respects. It is actually the reverse i.e men only cheat on their wife if they don't love and respect her.

I'll say your number 4 point maybe correct for some men.

Again, some men have crazy sexual fantasies which they may not want to share with their wive, instead with their mistress.

In any case, it is only morally bankrupt men that cheat on their wives for whatever reason.

SayNoToCheating

The Madonna-Wh.ore complex is actually a real life disorder, I didn't just invent it. Maybe look it up?

Daeylar:
Am I sure this is true, or you were really looking for a button

Lol! I'm not going to live this one down, am I?

Not a robber. As long as the robber doesn't touch you, or. Hit you, that's different,
A rapist though? Some people may not have any issues with that,

Yes, may be killing a rapist might not be an issue with people. But I would still have killed a person. I'd still be a killer . Maybe not a murderer; a self-defender instead . But still a killer of a person. And once one, always one. I just don't see why that's necessary when I could have defended myself without actually killing the perp. Killing is a baptism into a very disturbing realm. Even a kill-or-be-killed scenario would cost a person serious rehabilitation to stall monsterization.

But people have different views on the issue.

All right, I think he was just annoyed earlier.

, yeah? But I was only referring to the average Nigerian now. I know most of us don't consider ourselves to be the 'average' Nigerian, but still....Nigerians can know how to vex! Sometimes the reaction from a total stranger can be so over-the-top, you'll be wondering if they've been waiting for you since.

Lol, I don't know if that button was Still in reach I had to

, shey you see?

Dfire:
Nigerians are a bunch of conquered people we just don't realize it yet

Yes, we are. And it's all as a result of sub-standard education, and then ruining even that haphazard attempt at enlightenment with religion. That's why we are so docile that we allow ourselves be shooed into a corner. No electricity, we buy generators; No water, we drill bore-holes; No security, we hire guards or buy guns. I will respond to your earlier post in a bit.

Daeylar:
You're welcome


Lol, reply the post , I want to see what you think about the breakdown.

Have a lovely day also.

Thank you. And done.

LMAO

Truth @blue.

But, let me whisper( you know if they see this your press a button post you may fail right )

Lmao! @whisper. You! But yeah, it should be so. They should do the due diligence to ensure nutters like us aren't approved for gun ownership. But you know the integrity of our systems. This is too sensitive to just let slip through the cracks.

Daeylar:
And the most irritating one "do you know who I am?" Question for the gods LMAO



you didn't take time to vex sha

Actually, it wasn't that serious. I was just building up to something with that. So I exaggerated the annoyance a bit so that I could play on gun control being his saving grace.

Gosh, ROTFLMAO, especially the part in blue, so funny, sometimes you just feel like slapping someone, but to push a button? I can just imagine the satisfaction you would feel this morafucker annoying me is dead, haaa. Peace. LMAO jeez, I'm afraid of you now oh

Daeylar please o! Don't be afraid of me. I wouldn't hurt a fly . That's not true, I have hurt flies. But I won't hurt people. I actually doubt that I would even shoot a robber or a rapist when faced with one; I would hesitate for sure. And I know that the moment I do kill someone, I would be a changed person forever. It doesn't matter how that death is rationalized (manslaughter, self-defence, temporary insanity) it amounts to the same thing, and it's bound to happen again, and the next time would be easier. It is safer (for me) to use weapons that incapacitate but not kill; with a Taser gun I won't think twice about going for the jugular. I had to make that example with myself earlier, so that he gets it that there are genuine insane people walking the streets who should not be armed.

Preach


LMAO very very annoying,

I know, right! Lol. And they know exactly what they're doing. Too bad yelling back "Man!" doesn't have the same effect.

I'm very sorry for laughing I know you're being serious, but the posts were filled with some funny sentences sorry

Everyone carrying guns in Nigeria? Recipe for instant death for 90% of the population

Sorry for laughing? Babe, I love you for putting this in context.

Daeylar:
Misswrite all done

Lmao! , I quoted you before I saw your full break-down. Thanks for improving my mood, sweetie.


Have a lovely day!

Daeylar:
And the most irritating one "do you know who I am?" Question for the gods LMAO

Babe! Real question for the gods. Most of us would fail the psyche evaluations necessary for ownership anyway, but you know how it is here , driver's license doesn't require an actual test; road worthiness is issued for a vehicle unseen. It would be crazy with guns.

Maezara:
Lol.

Honestly, if we're given gun rights in Nigeria, it is oba (over). Lol.

It's like jumping from frying pan to fire.

Lmao , I tell you!

Dfire:
if you wanted to really hurt somebody Cutlass is cheap, knife is available, even petrol is useful why didn't you use them?

People don't carry cutlasses as accessories and if they did, it would be clear that they had malicious intentions. But with guns, people would say: it's for protection. Like pepper-spray or tasers. They're cool handy accessories. To your question: That's were the cooling-off period comes in. Never mind cutlass, knives or kerosene; guns also aren't hard to get. The point is: I didn't have one on me in that moment. And the moment is allowed to pass. I don't obsess over it for long enough to start hashing a plan; and that's the difference between premeditated murder and killing in a blind rage.

Dfire:
I actually like your conclusion " Most of us won't know what we are capable of until we have power" you simply guess that if we have guns things will be like so and so but you can never know till we have it, there are people who get annoyed pissed in many of those gun ownership countries take Israel it doesn't always result in them pulling the trigger so don't just guess the mentality of Nigerians

Okay. But we are all just guessing. I am assuming that the mentality would be a problem; and you're assuming that it won't. There's no certainty. And the only thing we can go buy is the typical reaction of people on the streets and how easily they're given to violence. How often do you hear people looking for the nearest thing that can cause bodily harm to someone and then apply it without caution? And for trivial issues. I used myself in that example because I know how many times I've wished I had the power of juju to hurt somebody in the moment.

khadaffi:
I don't know which part of Nigeria you stay but pls don't deceive yourself, its very easy to get a gun in Nig. The only problem you might face getting one is the fund. For example if you need one, join any of these local cult group and let the leader know that you need a gun and wait for his response. Its even more easier in the Niger delta part of nig. Gun control does not put guns in the hand of the criminals because whether you like it or not the criminals already have a gun and means of getting one, rather it puts guns in the hands of the helpless citizens who will be at the mercy of these criminals if something is not done.

Whatever your morning pick-me-up is, coffee or tea, please endeavor to indulge yourself before quoting someone. At least, it would increase your cognition and reduce the chances of you making yourself an unnecessary annoyance so early in the morning. CAN they? And SHOULD they? Are two separate arguments in the gun debate. Let's not even go into the methods you proffered for acquiring a gun as contraband; the argument is that: it would give me so much satisfaction to push a button right now and have your head explode wherever you are, just for annoying me this morning. If you were in front of me and I had a gun, I would likely shoot you. Not to protect myself, but because I find you annoying and because the gun is in my hand and would likely shut you up. We have so many unstable citizens who would be annoyed by: a girl turning them down; someone refusing to accept their point of view; someone cutting in in front of them in a queue or in traffic; someone calling you "woman!" In that annoying derogatory manner. And we can be so impulsive too that a bullet in the head would fix everything. There will be a lot of killers that would be let off on the technicality of "temporary insanity". But people should not be holding guns in that moment of insanity. There should be that cooling-off period where what you do next defines you. Are you going to chill? Or are you going to plan a murder?

So please, the issue in that post wasn't how to acquire guns in Nigeria. It's that the average mentality of Nigerians should not be empowered with guns because, in my opinion, it would result in more harm than good. This concern isn't even just limited to Nigerians. Even countries where the government has not frustrated its citizens into becoming tire-wielding mobs, have these concerns. Oscar Pistorius has had the opportunity to discover that he's a killer after all. Most of us don't know who we are and what we are capable of until we have power.

First, this might not be true for all men who cheat; and for those that do fall into the category, I think those men are best suited to answer this question. But if I were to hazard a few guesses I would say......

1. Bride-Price: Some men erroneously feel that they own their wives after paying the bride price. In their minds, she's been paid for in full to perform her duties to him and so he shouldn't have to sweat to make her cum.

2. The Madonna-Wh.ore Complex: Some men cannot respect a woman and be sexually aroused by her at the same time. They marry the women they respect (the Madonna) because they may make better partners and mothers (in their opinion). But they put them on a pedestal and cannot treat them as sexual objects. They would rather sexualize the mistress.

3. Ego: Some of these men date mistresses half their age; and if she's impressed by his performance, it would be a feather to his cap. He knows he's in competition with a younger dick; and even though he might have the advantage of deeper pockets, he would still like to be regarded a stud. Mistresses are also more likely to spread the word than the wives.

4. Over time, they just take their wife's sexual needs for granted. They see her busy with the kids, work and chores; she may not have the time to get sexy very often and so, they stop seeing her that way.

Pavore9:
With the prevelant mental state?

Exactly what I was thinking. The average Nigerian is angry bordering on psychotic - rowdy arguments, road rage, gra-gra, I-big-pass-you. If we all carry guns, the chaos that would ensue is best not imagined. This is a country where it's not so hard to get away with murder; the authorities always claim they're underfunded when it's time to do their work. I wish we could carry guns more easily, but we need to heal the psyche of the populace first.

Lmao! He's all about equal opportunities for the living and the dead. Watch out for mass migration of expatriate ghosts too. Where else would they have it so good.

Maezara:
Happy new year to:

Daeylar
lovelygurl
MissWrite
Edimolu
MhisTahrah

May the new year be an entrance for you into a new world of beauty, joy and happiness, where you watch the movie of your life under a new light, sing the background track with delight and peace of mind, and dance away with glee to the mellifluous melody of your new song.

Not only will it be a happy year for you---the year itself will join you in the mood.

Awesome! Thanks a lot, sweetie. And back at ya

A Happy & Prosperous New Year to all the aforementioned.

Happy Birthday.

Lol! Funny. . But money or no money won't make some women sweat. He should edit the wheel by inserting: sex with the wife; sex with the secretary, sex with the hot neighbour; sex with the maid..............at least she'll still have her 11/12 chance of evading sex to do her knitting. And when she consents to spinning the wheel, she's giving him permission to cheat.

This is the most honest insight (written by a man) on the psyche of a man as it concerns cheating that I have read on this forum. Op, oil dey your head, walahi! You're right, it does come from a lack of self awareness and the failure to tame emotions with the Will. But here's the thing: A man may feel that he doesn't need to have himself fully sorted out in that regard (becoming self-aware) because he feels he can always cheat or marry someone else if the first one doesn't 'click'. (This thinking is a product of the values he has and his Will will only be strong enough to protect his values). Most men find it easy to settle down with women they barely even know; as soon as their mind is set on marriage, they ask mum, sister or friend to hook them up with someone and boom! Two months later, they're hitched. In contrast, women are advised to look well before they leap because, culturally, they aren't perceived to be resilient in relationships. So they they make the effort to know themselves, and to find someone who is compatible. Whereas, men naively assume that they can make a match for anyone.

If men begin to see cheating as a vice, they would be shrewder when choosing suitable mates. They would try harder to understand their emotional and intellectual needs, and develop their will to protect the values they hold.

Lol!

Wow, this guy is actually right. I thought stealthing (a guy removing the condom during sex, without her consent) was the only way cumming inside a woman without consent would be unacceptable. Apparently, he's culpable even if he withdraws too late. Not rape, but rape-adjacent crimes. Hmmm. Sex is like navigating a minefield (for men) these days

I'm yours...forever
Stay in bed
Satan is forgiven
I'm just kidding.......(after he says he's HIV positive........after some reckless fvcking)
Uh, Uhm (gulp)........(when he looks at you and you know you brought it)
You're the GOAT

Lovingly written . Una wehdone.

greiboy:
Wonderful analysis, but let me add something. The lady might start feeling superior when she starts earning a better pay check than her husband. So You agree that it is definitely not just the imagination most men.

It's not your (most men's) imagination, no. I agree with you, some girls don't have humility (that's their character flaw) and it begins to show when they are independent. But! Most guys are already so used to manipulating/disrespecting women with their money that they don't have an objective position on this. It won't take much for a woman to appear "arrogant" from their perspective, she only needs to refuse to be manipulated and she's seen as obstinate and disrespectful. I saw you quote Beyonce earlier, that's what that line was about: not attacking, but having your own so that you don't have to take the disrespect from guys.