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 Romance › Re: When Is It OK To Hit A Woman, what should I have done in this case of harassment by MissWrite(f): 11:48am On Nov 29, 2017 |
lovely17:Have her arrested and hit her with a lawsuit (not his hand). That's the ideal situation. I won't make a case for jungle justice. Men should not be ashamed to report women who peddle violence. It's in the interest of social sanity. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: When Is It OK To Hit A Woman, what should I have done in this case of harassment by MissWrite(f): 11:24am On Nov 29, 2017 |
lovely17:The concept isn't borne out of a need to treat women right. Men are restricted from hitting women because of the disparity in physical strength. A typical man/woman boxing match might end with the woman in a coffin. If these restrictions aren't there we would have chaos. The following analogy in no way implies that men are animals but: a person feels safe to visit a zoo without a shot gun because the animals are all caged. Hence, the person is safe and doesn't feel threatened by the superior strength of the lion, and the lion is also safe because the person hasn't brought a gun. If, however, there were no cages or restrictions, the person would feel anxious in an environment where lions were roaming free; and they would seek to protect themselves. This brings a gun into the equation, and the lion won't be so safe either. I watched an episode of Bojack Horseman recently which dealt with exactly this problem. More women were buying guns because they didn't feel safe in an environment of male dominance. And so mass shootings increased and men were mostly the casualties. And because men were victimized, the houses were inspired to legislate. The options on the table were: emancipate women with feminist friendly laws or ban guns. Two controversial issues. The house decided to ban guns! And Diane Nguyen says: I can't believe this country hates women more than it loves guns. So ultimately it was about misogyny, but yeah.... The point is the restrictions protect men as well as women in the long run. Gender equality doesn't mean women and men are suddenly fit to go at each other's throats. It means that assault and battery should be considered assault and battery whether it is propagated by a man or a woman. And assault and battery is a criminal charge that should be dealt with by the appropriate authorities. |
| Romance › Re: The Use Of Affectionate Words by MissWrite(f): 10:42am On Nov 29, 2017 |
anochuko01:Those terms of endearment have been grossly abused and for some people they're not as weighty as they seem to be for you. Just like your up-bringing has taught you to revere those words, some other people have been brought up hearing them every minute: "sweetie, please pass me the salt" as a stronger appeal than "please pass me the salt". The stereotypical Hollywood agent calls everyone "honey" or "darling" to force familiarity in the industry. You cannot expect people to adopt your view when they are already used to a way of life. The only thing you can get them to do is respect your own sensibilities. And since you're not used to flinging around terms of endearment as carelessly as some people, just tell them to respect your space. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: The Use Of Affectionate Words by MissWrite(f): 10:14am On Nov 29, 2017 |
anochuko01:If you aren't comfortable with it, you should say something to her to get her to stop. Different strokes for different folks. People use it to show affection, give comfort, force familiarity, or to soften the effect of a harsh sentence. |
| Romance › Re: When Is It OK To Hit A Woman, what should I have done in this case of harassment by MissWrite(f): 9:40am On Nov 29, 2017 |
Lionbite:If you can't let the sting wear off naturally and move on with your day, report her for assault & battery. But don't hit her. |
| Romance › Re: When Is It OK To Hit A Woman, what should I have done in this case of harassment by MissWrite(f): 9:35am On Nov 29, 2017 |
luminouz:Okay, sweetie.  . |
| Romance › Re: When Is It OK To Hit A Woman, what should I have done in this case of harassment by MissWrite(f): 9:31am On Nov 29, 2017 |
luminouz:Pray tell: How? I just stated the obvious. That's the normal progression of things. When there's a problem, people try to solve it. Best there's no problem because every solution creates a different one. |
| Romance › Re: When Is It OK To Hit A Woman, what should I have done in this case of harassment by MissWrite(f): 9:23am On Nov 29, 2017 |
sKeetz:Watch what you say o, men have learnt to defend themselves from wild animals. When you're looking down the wrong end of the barrel of a shotgun; muscles, fangs and claws don't mean anything. The warning not to hit a woman protects men as well. From stringent measures that transcend pepper spray. That said: If a man's life is genuinely threatened, I don't suppose he shouldn't ward off the danger. Before social etiquette, we all have a fundamental right to life. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: I'm Young And Making It - Photos by MissWrite(f): 7:20pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Good one, Airforce, may God continue to bless your diligence. Now get yourself a bank account so that next time they can do you a transfer. Carrying about cash like this is for uncivilized people or criminals, not you. 7 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 5:01pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
shaybebaby:You know it. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 4:37pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:Why are you starting sh*t again? I thought you had signed out with your last comment. I posted this before that in attempt to sign out first, but I realized you didn't see it. You're a person who can't let things go, aren't you? You're weirdly obsessive. Truth is, I don't respect you enough to take you seriously when you attempt to disparage my person. The way it comes across to me is: you're simply not astute enough for sound judgement.  , I do have a full sense of self, I guess. Yes, I'm glad you enjoyed yourself, happy to oblige you. But if you're thinking that was mental chess then you're really deluded. 4 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 4:19pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
iamJ: , I had to play it safe now, I wasn't sure, I had already called him slow and he seemed to be obsessed with ugly girls. Consider the context. I'm so sorry, babe. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 4:15pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:You too. . And stop stirring up dust. |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 4:06pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:Don't be surprised that I pegged you; you're a textbook case of abandonment issues. And yes, you're right I can be a very annoying bitch when the it is warranted. And you warrant it. Civility is wasted on you. I didn't think you'd even pick up on the fact that I said the advice was wrapped in love. Of course, it isn't! I guess a parched land would reach for the tiniest drops of water. I interact with very few guys here, so I should know who you are. And if my instincts are right: Guy, just stop it. It's not worth all of this. Take the time and heal. I do wish you the best. |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 3:46pm On Nov 28, 2017*. Modified: 10:13pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:I'm not interested in figuring out your moniker, that's only a name. The folly of who you truly are has been splashed all over this thread already. I like to give my friends the benefit of doubt, but with you I don't have to; and I will trust the filth that you've shown, and call it 'you'. 3 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 3:38pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:WTF? Grand-puppeteer? Dude, get a life and broaden your scope. This desperate need for attention and relevance on nairaland is insane and unhealthy. One day, you'll log in and guess what? everyone here would have gone to work on something in their real lives offline. Then what would you do? Hang yourself on your puppet strings? Get help. That's solid advice wrapped in love. 5 Likes |
| Romance › Re: When Santa Is Part Nairalander by MissWrite(f): 3:24pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
lefulefu:Hahaha! , funny you. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 3:20pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett: , Come, are you Jude? Say the word and i'll ease off of you. That's about the only person's retardation I can condone on here. Otherwise i'm just in helluva mood for you. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 3:13pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett: , That's what you say when your brain can't process things. You're a sad case of mental deficiency. Add that to all of your psychological disorders and you might still make a living donating yourself as a subject for scholarly research. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 3:04pm On Nov 28, 2017*. Modified: 4:46pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:It's funny you should talk about self esteem. Considering your desperate actions on here, one would think you've never even heard that word in your life. You're like a toddler, the way you crave attention. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 3:00pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Hardtargett:Yeah, as expected you're a tout. There are many truths to busy yourself with. Why are you obsessed with the ones of nairaland girls? That's your disease. And it's clear that you're still sensitive about whatever has made you this way. Whether it's a girl or your mother who broke your heart, get yourself some professional help and stop polluting cyberspace. The clean-up crew has been deployed once already on your behalf. Don't be one of those stubborn stains. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
| Romance › Re: Nairaland Women Are Insecure, Spineless And Lack Self Esteem by MissWrite(f): 2:36pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
What is your obsession with Nairaland girls all about? Why do you keep dedicating your time towards opening these kinds of threads? a) To vent your frustrations over a nairaland chick who has refused to give you any attention. b) A tactic to get nairaland girls insecure enough about themselves to consider replying your pms. c) Or maybe you're so starved of attention that being a 15-minute champion on a stupid NL thread gives you an orgasm. d) All of the above? You don't have to answer on this thread. But take the time to reflect on this, and be honest with yourself, so that you can begin to work on your glaring issues. 9 Likes |
| Romance › Re: “I Know Being Gay Is A Sin But Then I’m Willing To Go To Hell Just For You” by MissWrite(f): 1:48pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Daeylar:If someone asks: what's wrong with this picture? That's the answer right there. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Why Are Women Their Own Worst Enemies? by MissWrite(f): 9:35am On Nov 28, 2017*. Modified: 9:56am On Nov 28, 2017 |
Let me indulge your skewed observation. Here are some reasons that might explain why it would seem like women hate other women more than men hate other men. And this thought is poached off an article titled "Women Who Hate Other Women: The Psychological Root of Snarky" by Seth Meyers (Psy.D). Please note that the existence of this article doesn't in any way corroborate your claim, it simply explores the psychology of women who hate women, without claiming that this occurs more frequently than men hating on men. Physical Aggression vs Relational Aggression (muscle vs no-muscle-so-tongue-and-everything-else-at-a-girl's-disposal) Men, who are physically stronger, are given to physical aggression; they are inclined to punch out a guy they're trying to hurt. While women tend to engage in relational aggression which manifests itself thus: excluding others from social activities, damaging reputation through gossip or humiliation, withdrawing attention or friendship. So these actions are not common because there is more vitriol in a woman than a man, but because the brains of men and women take cues from the form at their disposal: men hurt with their fists, and women hurt alternatively. A man who beats down another man is immediately criminalized (depending on the degree of the assault) and that segregates his actions from other men. He's a mere criminal, and a man would think twice before he lets himself be branded thus. But the manifestations of female aggression aren't criminal, per se, so they're allowed to exist in society even though the effects are psychologically daunting. And in the end, people don't see relationally aggressive women as criminal women, they are just women. Social learning theory Children learn by copying models. If a mother cannot model a healthy prototype for her daughter, chances are the girl might not turn out so good. Because we do not allow women to prioritize their personal happiness by making them take a back seat in society, women often neglect themselves and focus on the happiness of their husbands and children. They tell themselves that this would be enough, but it isn't. An individual cannot be maligned in that manner, the dissatisfaction would fester and make them bitter. Most times girls are raised very strictly by their mothers. Most women only learn to appreciate the 'good intentions' of their mean mothers in their old age, after they've been successfully cast into the moulds that society accepts and respects (and the cycle continues). No mother wants her daughter to fall out of line (and the line for a woman is very very slim and delicate) but the methods are sometimes extreme, she's often a drill sergeant or even a monster to her daughter. Girls get a lot of tough love. And while that might fix her social values in theory, it doesn't model a healthy female/female relationship. Anxiety Some women may criticize other women out of a deeper realization of their own inadequacies, and not out of hatred. A woman trying to get pregnant, for instance, may likely vent her frustrations by criticizing another woman's parenting kills. But this anxiety results from a variety of socio-cultural pressures: women are expected to be young, beautiful, married, mothers, good cooks, spiritual, etc. - the unreasonable requirements that make women more desirable to men and acceptable to society. And if having a man is a woman's value, it's only natural that she would be enslaved by these requirements. And it puts women under an immense amount of pressure which manifests in anxiety. You find women frantically resisting aging and they put themselves under the knife to fit within the acceptable standards of beauty, all in a bid to stay "relevant" in a misogynistic culture. Research shows that girls who have good support and low levels of socio-cultural pressure (regarding looks) from family, grow up with positive body image. It alleviates anxiety. Similarly, women wouldn't be so anxious if the pressure to subscribe to these ideals was removed. Again, this is one of the ills that would resolve itself through female social emancipation. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: I Knew I Shouldn’t Have But I Was Too Drunk…now,i Am Living A Lie! by MissWrite(f): 11:59pm On Nov 27, 2017*. Modified: 3:30am On Nov 28, 2017 |
Dimples129: @softie. Really, though... Yes. I guess it might seem (or be) selfish to clear my conscience at the risk of breaking up the family. What they don't know won't hurt them, right? I understand your position. Her position. And I know that it probably requires the greater sacrifice. I just wish it could be that simple. But in my life, I've been prone to always being found out. I do not trust buried bodies. I've tried to get away with things that should actually not be too hard to get away with, and somehow (out of the blue) someone asks a question or chooses that moment to look into a place that has been forgotten for years. I learned very early that I can't get away with things. Not me. So I actually see only two choices: 1. Tell him now. 2. Let him find out by himself, whenever that is. The former offers a slightly better chance at reconciliation. And the consequences of the latter seem more dire (in my mind. Maybe because I think I can handle separation better than the alternative), depending on how far in the future that would be. Father and son would both be devastated for living a lie. If he would have forgiven my indiscretion, he might not forgive my attempt/ decision to hide it and deceive him. It's a mess really. 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: When Santa Is Part Nairalander by MissWrite(f): 10:37pm On Nov 27, 2017*. Modified: 1:31pm On Nov 28, 2017 |
Dimples129: |
| Romance › Re: When Santa Is Part Nairalander by MissWrite(f): 10:25pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
Daeylar: True. |
| Romance › Re: I Knew I Shouldn’t Have But I Was Too Drunk…now,i Am Living A Lie! by MissWrite(f): 10:22pm On Nov 27, 2017*. Modified: 10:58pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
Personally, I know that I could never keep this kind of secret. It would eat me up everyday, watching my son grow and bond with his 'dad', knowing that (especially in my life) the truth would likely find its way out - maybe there's a medical emergency that requires compatibility tests for a transfusion or transplant.It's just too much for me, I can't even take it one day at a time. I would probably, nay most likely, come clean, and take the consequences early on. That way I would also spare the boy the uncertainty down the road. But with this, no one can tell you what to do. if you open up to your husband, you might lose him. Or you might not. he may surprise you with his forgiveness. But if he ever found out twenty years later, and that you kept this a secret for all that time..........put yourself in his shoes. Be strong, and trust that the truth would set you free. Don't jump the gun, though, you might want to do a prenatal paternity test to be really sure. |
| Romance › Re: When Santa Is Part Nairalander by MissWrite(f): 9:58pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
Dimples129: You know!! An angel all year  , we want the goodies joor... . 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: When Santa Is Part Nairalander by MissWrite(f): 9:52pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
Daeylar:Lmao! , Daeylar, your mind, sha. Nothing gets past you. I blame the song. |
| Romance › Re: When Santa Is Part Nairalander by MissWrite(f): 9:10pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
Awwwwwn......this is awesome. Wow, nice one really.........Girl, enjoy! Hmm, Santa, me ma i'm waiting for you o! ............ Been an awful good girl, Santa baby, so hurry down the chimney tonight... 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Feminism Relevant To Time And Place: Emancipation by MissWrite(op): 6:56pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
Dimples129:Awwn....thanks, hun. 1 Like |
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