This is quite a complicated issue. This young man has a nice paying job in Nigeria and is living just fine and he got married to a lady he knew back then in his old neighborhood.
This lady is from an average background and her family seemed nice but things have recently taken a different twist. The lady has never had the opportunity to travel abroad all her life so about a year after their marriage, she said she wanted to start a boutique business and she will love to get nice stock from Dubai. Being that the guy loves her a lot and wanted the best for her, he decided to give her an opportunity of going to Dubai herself to at least have an experience outside the country and also buy stock she will use to start her business.

To cut the story short, this lady left to Dubai two years ago and has refuse to come back. She has been giving her reasons as she can't stay in Nigeria again and except the husband can relocate to Dubai she is not coming back to Nigeria anytime soon. The guy and his family has met with the ladies family and want them to return the bride price so that it will be clear that the marriage is over but they have refused and still insist that the lady is still married to the guy and all the guy needs to do is move to Dubai which is a better place for both of them to be happy (according to her parents).

Now the guy is angry and has made up his mind to move on and remarry because he cannot leave his good paying job in Nigeria to go and start suffering for no reason in Dubai.

If he goes on to remarry in this sort of situation, can it be possible that the first marriage can become an issue later or is there a possible way to dissolve such marriage even without the presence of the lady?

Worst of all is that she was pregnant before she left and now has a child for him in Dubai which he has not seen physically.

wizzyrich:
How do you manage to look away when you see a skimpily dressed lady ? Or haven't you seen worst than that in this present time ?
Are you invariably saying you get turned on when you see a breast feeding mother ?

If you actually know how to read well you would have noticed my point and you won't be asking me if it turns me on. I can see you are just chatting out of point so no need arguing with you. If you don't know what am talking about why not follow your own principle of "minding your business" abi you don't also follow your own principle?

Many of the names on that list cannot just be pronounced perfectly by a non Bayelsa person.

I still don't understand why so many political parties with candidates that know only two major parties are the major parties to battle the election. I feel most of these other parties are sponsored by both APC and PDP just to use them for rigging purposes.

taiwolomo1:
following wetinchairman u de watch this show abeg..we CNT be deceived sir . Don't b so shy to admit watching it...even Oga DINO de watch am too

I actually wish I could watch it to really see what is so interesting about it that there is always news about it. Unfortunately where I am, I got no access to watch it and I only get updates about anything naija on this forum that's why I love visiting this forum everyday.

menacetosociety:
what a rubbish post from a toddler lol i bet u are 10 yrs old chai!

If you were older than me I bet you won't quote me and just move ahead. So if am 10, I wonder how old you will be.

wizzyrich:
If you mind your business, you wouldn't even notice someone is breastfeeding her child.

What do you mean by minding my business and not noticing such? Do you mean when am sitting inside a bank waiting to do my own thing and the lady sitting next to mean just brings out her breast anyhow to feed her baby? Or when trying to pay for something in a shop and the lady selling tells me to wait just to bring out breast anyhow to feed baby before collecting my money? How can one mind their business not to notice such, maybe you can enlighten me on that so that I know how to always mind my business and don't notice such.

Ovems:

Women can breastfeed in public but can cover up using a flannel or any other breastfeeding clothes. If they do, people might not even know a child is feeding. I don't know why some women don't cover up.

This is what baffles me a lot because I always believed there should be a way to cover up properly and breastfeed because that open breastfeeding is really irritating sometimes.

From the news am seeing about this show, I believe a guy is going to win just as the previous ones have been. I have been following the news on this forum and I believe almost all the ladies are gone now if not all.

Is this not the same event some people were saying she wast dressed properly.

decatalyst:
Now, it is finished!




How did I get to Nigeria?

My dear its not too late. Just pack a small bag, find small money and cross border enter Benin Republic. From there cross over again to Togo and you can proceed from there to Ghana. You don't need visa and at least you can start life again from there. If you don't like Ghana you can proceed to Ivory Coast or Senegal. I bet if you are level headed, Nigeria wahala will become history in your head. And be sure you can decide to arrange a visa from there and make a legitimate trip to Europe and declear yourself a non Nigerian for life. Trust me you will have rest of mind.

midnighter:


Well it's a matter of opinion but it depends on the type of event. She was going to a conference and not a party. Even the one she wore to church h yesterday would have been better

Who is going to take her seriously when she stands up to address the crowd?

Would you wear ripped jeans, sneakers and t-shirt with one crazy slogan to the African men's conference?

What if she is the organizer of the even who decided to host hungry women? Are they there for her dress or for the food they will get lol. Don't get me wrong but its always good to think both ways. Its her dress, its might be her event, its her money and its her life you know.

midnighter:


It's not about wearing local stuff but wearing appropriate clothing for the occasion

She is just being an awkward nuisance to herself

But I can't see anything inappropriate in what she is wearing. She is actually wearing a nice outfit that suits an event. Because others are wearing old mama outfit don't mean she is inappropriately dressed. That's a decent dress for an event.

kestolove95:
Very right but some useless stupid men will b steering as if dey want to suck to, useless creatures no wonder bobrisky change his gender

Now that's the point. When ladies know that there are some useless men like you claim who will be looking like they want to suck, why will they still always do it. Is there no other way to breastfeed a baby in public than just to carry out breast anyhow.

There is nothing wrong with her dressing. If my wife dresses like the other women any time she is going for events I will divorce her on time because I can't marry a lady that will always be wearing all these wrapper kind of dress and be covering her hair anyhow. My wife need to always look and dress sharp not local.

And come to think of it, the op didn't even state if she was invited for the event or not. So what if she was the one who hosted the event to help women in need because all I see is hungry looking women everywhere. She probably stands out because she might be there to feed them.

African Magic

What is your opinion about ladies breastfeeding their babies in public.

I do come across many ladies doing that and its looks a bit awkward to me but who am I to judge when their husbands are not complaining.

I don't think I would love to see my future wife breastfeeding our baby in public just like that. I believe there should be better ways to do that than just bring out their breast anyhow in public because the baby is crying and needs to feed.

I hope maybe some ladies here can actually say something about this.

tossie101:


Even the devil quotes bible.
I will take u serious when u open topic about ur Yoruba brothers on a death row in Saudi Arabia prison for drug crimes

Sorry am Igbo and not Yoruba. Stay blessed

All these fake bloggers carrying news that don't make any sense. First of all as an ex governor they are always entitled to some money and benefits which is capable of sustaining them for a life time. They have free access to healthcare and certain other things worth millions of naira.

How can an ex governor just go bankrupted just like that. Even one of my childhood friend whose dad is an ex state administrator in military regime which is equivalent of a governor now is still living large with his benefit and all not to talk of a Democratic governor of Bauchi for that matter.

We hope so.

How much was finally paid and after how long. So this means the kidnappers are still working free and obviously timing another target because I don't see this news as if the kidnappers were caught.

Only iron hands can put Nigeria in order whether law or not. If the revolution protest had gone on, many of these same people will condemn the government for being weak. This revolution protest would have given Biafra an opportunity to accuse the government of being unfair and probably point out that the didn't do anything about it because of Tinubu.
It is already clear that many of us as Nigerians do not even know what we want anymore because we can't even point out a wrong act from a progressive act anymore.
Those blaming the government of not following the law should go back and check if it is right in the first place for any judge to grant bail to someone being charged for treason.

tossie101:


Ur message was one sided and biased..
U are clearly a Yoruba as u can't even hide it on ur comment

Even the bible stated that people perish for lack of knowledge. I am a Nigerian who speaks the truth regardless of any tribe. If you lack understanding of my post or your own reasoning tells you its one sided then so be it.

What I can say is that your comment has also confirmed the attitude of Nigerians am talking about.

Maziyk:
This poster is a fool for saying that even going further to name Igbos,you are s bastard,we have asked you to let us go on our separate ways so that you can enjoy your better nizoooooria,you can't, the Zimbabwe, the Malawian, the Zambia's who were all victims of xenophobia attack were they also Igbo's or the nizoooooria, or were they attacked because of our igbos behaviors, your hatred about Igbo will the nizoooooria

I am beginning to understand a certain thing from your comment and the likes of others like you. I think it is illiteracy to a large extent. Because if people can read unnecessary meaning into a simple post and then just open their mouth to rant anyhow being the same character they exhibit everywhere they go, I guess my point is clear to those that are educated and more enlightened.

Bath a pig and dress a pig, it will still remain a pig.

Maziyk:
This poster is a fool for saying that even going further to name Igbos,you are s bastard,we have asked you to let us go on our separate ways so that you can enjoy your better nizoooooria,you can't, the Zimbabwe, the Malawian, the Zambia's who were all victims of xenophobia attack were they also Igbo's or the nizoooooria, or were they attacked because of our igbos behaviors, your hatred about Igbo will the nizoooooria

Typical example of what I have just pointed out. Be humble and respectful when you try to make a point. Not insulting and ranting will make everyone listen to you.

At least I can see your comments and so many others that have proven the point I made.

Meanwhile, check my post again. I am not being tribalistic here, you don't even know if I am igbo. Focus on the truth and the message and stop ranting.

1Sharon:


Have you ever been to peckham/woolwich ??

I don't think so.

I don't think he has been to those places. Even outside London if you go to some places in Coventry, Birmingham, Leicester, Manchester the story isnt any different. There are a lot of calm headed Nigerians for sure, but then again I know exactly the point I have tried to make because of the actions of those loud ones.

Otunbascotty:
so you just woke up this morning and decided to come one here and slander Nigerians in diaspora right? Just because you live in ivory coast doesn't give you the right to judge nigerians in diaspora. Go back to your shitty country Nigeria if you can't cope with Igbo and yoruba abroad. Get a life too because I see you committing suicide soon if you keep up with these level of hatred.

Am sorry, you don't have to blame me if your parents didn't have money to take you to school to learn how to read and understand. But be that as it already is, try as much as possible to educate yourself properly in a way that your could live a humble and respectful life. Trust me it will take you a very long way. Please try as much as possible to do this before you clock 40years because I believe you might have heard a popular saying about something at 40 that remains that same thing forever.

obiekunie2:


see this fool that doesn't know his father is stylishly trying to make us think he has one!

a full blooded igbo man that knows obi ndi ichie nna ya will never slander an igbo man in public - he will rather call you a brother a correct you like a brother does!

not efulefu like you that will come to the public and slander the only chosen tribe in nigeria just bc you want to garner likes!

common gbafue! amuta etufue! ezi ofia!

stop mentioning me cause replying you makes me want to puke! ozu!

You need to travel bro. You are really lost. You are just here showing the exact character I am pointing out. Same thing you are doing here is same thing many Nigerians do out there to citizens of their host. If you can keep talking like this to your fellow nairaland citizen the don't don't need to figure out the kind of people I was actually talking about.

obiekunie2:


look mr . dreamer!

stop mentioning me cause am not in the same class with you!

that which you are still dreaming of lots of us nwa afo igbo have already lived it and moved to far higher level.

you can say am bragging - yes i am, and proudly so cause you know you cant brag like i do - who brags with poverty?

Hahahaha, now you see what am talking about. Even online, you are already showing yourself. Are not not a typical example of what I am talking about? If you can be this rude online and brag like this, one can only wonder how you actually behave in reality.
Why being so hurt? I can't remember making this post and calling you out in particular. Oh I guess you feel bitter because I stated the truth but as the saying goes, the truth is always bitter.

Thanks for proving me right. Its your life to live as a bragger not mine. I only hope and pray that someday you will become more matured in your brains and be able to learn how to be humble and respectful even to your fellow nairalanders and other people.

Bragging is not as beautiful and peaceful compared to being humble and respectful.

obiekunie2:


be proud of your tribal marks!

you can only keep wishing you are Igbo - sadly wishes ain't horses!

Look at your comments again and you will realize you are just a typical example of what I am talking about. This is just online you are acting like this, so I wonder what will be so different from the way you act offline. Best of luck to your life away.

tommy589:


The OP is clever by half. He is downplaying the rudeness of a particular tribe to their hosts by picking the two trybes to share the blames.What you do amongst your countrymen irrespective of trybes is likely what you do outside the country.
To know if he has painted a true picture of what he claimed he experienced outside Nigeria,we should ask Nigerians of other trybes to tell us their experiences on manners or lack of it from Igbos and Yorubas who sojourn in their communities .

Like I said, this has nothing to do with tribe. I have good friends friends from different tribes including the ones I mentioned. I made my point from an angle of my experience and I also ensured you understand that I am addressing Nigerians in general. If you personally pick an offense with my post then it shows that you probably lack proper understanding and you are just the one thinking of the tribal stuff in your head, not me.

I don't understand why these Nigerians have no fear even when they know the penalty of these actions in these countries.

Its indeed a pity because even with this news, there are some people who are already preparing to and continue where these ones stopped.