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Mwhite:
Hello, good day.

I'm a 31-year-old woman, a graduate of one of the federal universities in Nigeria with a first degree in one of the science courses. I'm currently studying nursing in my final year. I have one child, and I'm currently considering walking out of my marriage.

Here is why.

I've been married for five years. Throughout the marriage, there have been cases of physical violence. Even though I wouldn't describe it as over the top, if it has happened before, it could surely happen again. Some of these incidents occurred while I was pregnant. We fought physically, with punching and all that, while I was pregnant.

I walked out of the marriage the first time but came back after there were promises of change, doing better, and all that. I have tried my best to put what I believe is my best into this marriage, but I've made so many discoveries during the course of it that have broken me. I eventually grew through some of them, including discovering that the person I married had done a lot of things that were wrong. I don't want to go into details. I also discovered cheating, which was what actually prompted me to walk out the first time.

After many talks and promises of change, I stayed back. But here I am again, currently considering walking away because this person contributes almost nothing towards the care of the family. Well, not absolutely nothing, but the contributions are very inconsistent because this person has nothing doing. When I say I've lived for years with someone who doesn't have anything doing, I'm very serious about it.

There are always talks about how things will change and get better each time I want to leave. But I think I've come to a point where I need to prioritize my sanity and myself. You know, when you're with someone who talks big but just cannot put in the work and dedication needed to make those dreams a reality.

You'd be surprised that I'm the one taking care of most of the family responsibilities because I happened to go into content creation. Right now, I'm struggling because I'm in my final year. I have a lot of financial responsibilities. Even though I earn some money from content creation, I still have to put most of it into the family because I'm the one carrying most of the bills, even though I have exams to prepare for.

Now, I'm not saying all my decisions are based on money because when I entered this marriage, I already knew there wasn't much money. Even the wedding itself was a very small affair. I knew there wasn't money, but I saw someone who talked big. I thought there was potential. But when I got in, I discovered some terrible secrets. There has just been a lot.

I don't know... there's so much that I can't completely break down here.

I've been talking mostly to AI, ChatGPT, about these things, and I've come to realize that this is not enough. I need human beings to interact with me.

My family is not really in support of this. You know how African families can be. They don't like separation or divorce. But I'm 31. I'm still very young, in my own opinion. I believe I still have a lot ahead of me.

I keep asking myself, "Would I want to still be in this situation with this same person in the next five years?" And I keep coming back to the answer: no.

But sometimes you wonder if you're making a mistake, if maybe you should give it one more try. But I've tried. It's been five years, and things are only getting worse.

This is something that even people from his own family have realized. It's not just me saying there's a problem. Other people can see it too.

So I want to know: would I be making the right decision if I leave?

I'll be writing my final exams in September and my council exams in November. I'm wondering if taking that step after my exams would be a mistake, or if I really need to walk away.

The reason I only have one child is because I've hesitated so much about having more children with this person. The thought of having another child with him fills me with dread. I'm so scared of being tied to this person even more. I already have one child who is four years old.

I don't think that's how a person should feel in a marriage.

I've been accused of lacking commitment, but I know it's not a commitment problem. I'm just not seeing what is worth committing to anymore.

Please, no insults or comments saying this story isn't real. It is. There's a whole lot more that I can't go into here. This situation is much deeper than what I've shared.

I just want to know what you all think. I know that, at the end of the day, I'm the one who will make the final decision. But one or two human opinions, especially from people with experience, could help me navigate this situation.

We've actually been separated for about a year—not by my own choice, anyway. But I've never been happier. I genuinely love the fact that we've been separated, for reasons I don't want to go into here.

I just want to know what you all think.

Why do i feel this desicion is because some men are showing interest in you as a Nursing student.

England get kane oh see shot power

Na beautiful scenery we go chop, inflation is bitting hard in the country

adioolayi:
Make una quick bring this price down o..

It's seriously not funny..

It's just that it's a new normal...

Nigerians are really suffering and some are questioning the status of their vehicle's efficiency..

You can't use all your income buy petrol na....so, the #15,000-#20,000 you manage to buy, it's gone in few kilometres....you begin to wonder if your car dey okay, or the station you bought the fuel or if you sef know wetin you dey do..lol

lols full tank gone in a week

There must be a pattern to the grouping, even Nigeria have been grouped with Argentina twice if not thrice at the World cup

If Nigeria had played brazil we would have lost. The Nigerian coach has to look at this morrocan team and see what he can learn and bring to the national team.

Spainever:
Morocco plays good football . Their major weakness is shooting they had chances but can't shoot

I wish the Nigerian team can add this bit to their play, we would become a force to reckon with

Up Gunners!!!!!!!

The tsunami we have been waiting for

The tsunami has arrived

Back then some of them had mini viewing centres/cinema for watching Nigerian and foreign movies

Yes depending on your prayer point

I remember spending 4 weeks in this community sometime in 2006, looked peaceful then.

Originality007:
See as God put u to shame for free

hahahahahaha

Nigeria will lose this game, they are going against a team that has conceded one goal in the tournament

grandstar:
He did say some facts.

Unfortunately, it was Buhari that left a mess, big economic mess. Tinubu is cleaning up the mess through his reforms.

However, rhe price of cars cam come down if the duties on them can be reduced.. Presently, its outrageously high, the fault coming from Jonathan's government, and as government is a continuum, others simply abided by it, rather than scrap it altogether.

remove the plank in your eye before typing. Jonathan government ended 10 years ago and the prices of imported used cars have more than tripled in the last 5 years, do your maths

kpankpangolo:
There was an Apple Watch era? I'm just finding out. I will dole out the necessary funds for an Apple product. No other brand comes with their quality.

rubbish, I remember back in the day when I wouldn't buy any product other than Samsung, having seen the iPhone 17 pro, I wasn't even moved. I am satisfied with my infinix hot 30, truly we are just puns in hands of these manufacturers

kpankpangolo:
There was an Apple Watch era? I'm just finding out. I will dole out the necessary funds for an Apple product. No other brand comes with their quality.

rubbish

Ever8090:
That is why I don't like watching Nigeria games,...them dey behave like our politicians , no determination to achieve required result...

no they let us down when we expect so much and deliver when we expect less

So the coach plans to bring in Ejuke, Simon and Adams in the second half of the team is down. Anyways my prediction Nig 1 - RC Congo 2

I feel he is pursuing 2031 with PDP or APC

This is one of the dumbest things I have ever read

richmond500:
Abeg they should gerout with their visa.
I'd even prefer travelling to Canada

lol baba when you reach Canada, you go con say na US you wan go from there😄

I remember watching some old school Indian movies some years ago which made me emotional

Russia 2 - S. Eagles 1

Sweet victory for spurs

I am saddened by this, who will help the many Nigerians living below the poverty line

deji17:
Osimhen and other strikers in SE, needs those crosses and great passes from our midfielders. I don't know why this critical information eludes Nigeria handlers who gets carried away by comments from the hungry sport writers.
Our pattern of short passes and expecting to get to the opponent's 18 yard box is outdated. That is why even lowly rated teams will not allow us to just walk past them expecting to score goals. Modern football calls for long range, above the ground passes, looking for fast attackers like Osimhen to jump, pounce and capitalise on.
No long range shorts, no ambition, just slow build up from average and slow defenders like Troost Ekong. Very frustrating.

Omo ur comment just made me remember the days of Amodu Shiabu who had this pattern of play, long balls from defence to attack

Let the FG, governors and local government chairmen look into this critically and put safety nets for the poor wherever possible.