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tbaby4u:
Tokunbo or new

rainyday:
Pls sisters pray for me,I used to tink I was strong,but I guess am not. Am backsliding,I know it n I don't want it to happen. Pls I need encouragement. Sorry for d long epistle. May Allah accept our Ibadan n grant us d good in dis world n hereafter. Amin

1. Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.

2. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.

3. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly.
Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and
beautiful.

4. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except ALLAH (SWT), it gives his wife the sense of security and honour that every wife hungers for.

5. A Successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment, care, sincere feelings and selfless love and ALLAH (SWT) at the center of it all.

6. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem.
Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with dua and cover your marriage with the fence and roof of dua.

7. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of
influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

8. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.

9. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse yours spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

10. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and
shaped by trials.

11. Dear wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let ALLAH (SWT) use your tongue to build up your marriage and
bless and praise your spouse.

12.COMMUNICATION is the KEY to everything.
Talk it out, OWN up to your mistakes
Help others with theirs
Note that it is easier to forgive a wrong doing than a
lie.

13.Let your Spouse be your Best friend,
Marriage without friendship is like a Bird without wings, how will it fly?

14. Remember two wrongs don't make a Right.
Ego is very bad in marriage, Drop the E and go on to be the first to make up. That is called Maturity.
Wishing you HAPPY and BLISSFUL Marital Life!

Its good to go into marital relationship if u can afford it. Wallahi there are a lot of benefit in it. May He guide and guard us.

On account of Abu Hurairah (radhiyallaahu ‘anhu)
The Prophet (Peace Be upon Him) said:

“The rights of the Muslim upon theMuslim are six”, “When you meet him, give him the greeting of peace, When he invites you, respond to his invitation, When he seeks your advice, advise him, When he sneezes and praises Allah, supplicate for mercy upon him, When he becomes ill, visit him, and When he dies follow him(i.e. his funeral)”[Muslim].

Whoever establishes these obligations as a Muslim to the other Muslim and on fulfilling these obligations and rights being a Muslim definitely get a tremendous reward from Allah.

1.Greeting of Peace
The first duty of a Muslim upon a Muslim is “Greeting of Peace ”
This Means: When we meet others. We supplicate the other for safety from evils by saying ‘ Assalam u Alaykum ’.
Thus, giving the greeting of peace is the right of the Muslim, and it is obligatory upon the person who is greeted to return the greeting with similar or what is better . And the best of the people are those who start the greeting of peace first.

2. Responding to His Invitation
The second duty of a Muslim upon a Muslim is “ Respond to his Invitation”
This Means: When anybody invites you with an invitation to some food and drink, then fulfill the request of your brother who has drawn near to you and honored you with the invitation. Accept his invitation, unless you have an excuse.

3. Advise Him When He Seeks
The third duty of a Muslim upon a
Muslim is “Advise him when He seeks”
This Means: If anyone seeks consultation, advise him with that which you would like for yourself. Thus, if the action is something that is beneficial in all aspects, then encourage him to do that, and if it is something harmful, then warn him against it. Give him a beneficial opinion.

4. Answer To His Sneeze
The fourth duty of a Muslim upon a Muslim is “Answer to his sneeze”
This Means: This is due to the fact that in sneeze the congested air expels that is blocked in certain parts of the body of the human being. Allah makes it easy for this air to have a passage out where it can exit, and thus the sneezing person feels relief.

On account of Abu Hurairah (radhiyallaahu ‘anhu)
The Prophet (Peace Be upon Him) said: “When one of you sneezes, he must say ‘Alhamdulillah’.And when he says 'Alhamdulillah’, his brother should say 'Yar hamak Allah’, (may Allah have mercy on you). The sneezer must then say (in response) ‘yahadik Allah wa yuslih balak (may Allah guide you and improve your affairs.) [Bukhari].

5. Visit Him When He is Sick
The fifth duty of a Muslim upon a Muslim is “Visit him when he is Sick”
This Means: Visiting the sick is the rights of the Muslim, and especially for the person who has a highly stressed and emphasized right upon you, like the relative, and the friend. It is from the best of the righteous deeds. We should ease his worries by giving him glad tidings of well-being, recovery and beneficial admonition.

6. Attend His Funeral
The sixth duty of a Muslim upon a Muslim is “Attend his funeral”
This Means: A Muslim must attend the funeral of other Muslim it is obligatory.
“(A believer) who accompanies the funeral procession of a Muslim out of sincere faith and hoping to attain Allah’s reward and remains with it till the funeral prayer is offered and the burial ceremonies are over, he will return with a reward of two Qirats. Each Qirat is like the size of the (Mount) Uhud. He who offers the funeral prayer only and returns before the burial, will return with the reward of one Qirat only.” [Bukhari]
The obligations of a Muslim ordained by Quran and Sunn’ah. If we fulfill these basic rights of Muslims, it is hoped that much of the envy, malice and hatred in the society will vanish.
The ultimate goal is to seek Allah’s pleasure and salvation in the Hereafter.

liliamaka2003:
Plz is it with the leg?

ope2711:
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A Real Man Reads
‘Recite: in the name of thy lord who createdth’
(The holy Quran)- [96:1]
That's right, just like how your stomach needs to be regularly fed with food, your mind needs to be regularly fed with knowledge. Now there's quite a few ways to attain knowledge of different things but a surefire way for it to stick in your brain is through reading. (A quick note: If you're a real man, you didn't groan when reading this first trait.) And no I'm not saying reading the newspaper, or your Twitter or Facebook news feeds does it. That is NOT true reading. That's not manly reading. I'm talking about books. A man reads books. Books that can save him from making stupid mistakes, books that can inspire
him to get off his lazy rear end and do something with himself, books that makes him realize why the heck he's here in the first place.

A Real Man is a Focused Man
Alluding to the trait above, a real man who has knowledge, recognizes what is important and what is rubbish that ain't worth his time. A real man doesn't lose himself in the pretty bells and whistles of life that don't bring him any real benefit. When a real man sees things that are a distraction, he keeps moving. A real man realizes why he's here on this earth, that he is only here for a short time and that he has to do what he has to do to make sure he's got a ticket to
paradise.
A real man focuses on what's important: bettering himself, making a living for his family and preparing himself for the future. A real man lives by what the Prophet said: “Live in this world as (if you are) a wayfarer or a stranger.”, which in essence means to not get caught up by all the glitz and glamour of this world because it's temporary. He doesn't stick around and waste time. Don't let things distract you because you have to make it to your destination. A real man manages his time wisely and gives the proper due to his work, his family, and his Creator. Stay focused and do what you have to do, because in the end there isn't anybody to bail you out.

A Real Man is a Family Man
A real man recognizes the importance of his family and does his utmost to be a contributing member of the family. A real man preserves and protects. A real man recognizes that his children are a blessing from God and treats them as such and brings them up to be upright human beings.
A real man MAKES TIME for his family and does not neglect them because of work or his own personal dealings. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn't have time to be weak. A real man doesn't just take care of his immediate household but looks after his family that he grew up with. He honors his parents to the utmost, especially his mother. He calls his family often and stays in touch. He's good to his siblings and relatives. A real man strives to be the best father, brother, son and husband he can be and
works hard to live up to be the best. The Prophet once said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his own family, and I am the best of you towards my family.”

A Real Man doesn't Slander/Backbite/
Cuss/Gossip
"Most people that are in hellfire are in there
because they couldn't control their tongue."
A real man keeps his mouth shut if he doesn't have anything nice to say. A real man, when he hears others ripping on whoever–whether they know them or not, either goes over and shuts it down by warning the party or walks right on out of the room. A real man would say in that situation, “Hey, I wouldn't like anyone saying that about me when I'm not around so ya'll shouldn't be talking about so-and-so like that”. A real man keeps a careful watch on his tongue because he knows that what he says can hurt him then or
definitely in the future. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about or people he hasn't ever met.
A real man doesn't cuss to be “cool” and chooses his words intelligently because he can get his point across better without dropping an f-bomb or an s-missle. A real man recognizes the hadith that says “most people that are in hellfire are in there because they couldn't control their tongue.” In the Qurʾān, God
states that he has given man “two lips and one tongue”, so the lips can control the tongue. [Surah Al Balad, 9]

A Real Man Keeps His Promises
A real man's word is his bond. If he can't keep a
promise, he doesn't give his word. A real man is
trustworthy and doesn't flake out on somebody.
He doesn't use lnsha'Allah (God willing) as a copout. He doesn't break deals and he pays backdebts. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and that they must be taken at face value. A real man doesn't say “I'll try” if he doesn't have to try it really. He either does or he doesn't and if he can't do it, he says he can't. There's no shame in saying that you can't do a favor for somebody, or you won't be
able to come through. At least you'll be upfront and honest about it rather than being relied on and letting someone down. This is what the Qur'an say about this “O you who bv elieve! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you do not do.” [Surah Saff, 2-3]
From this quote, a Real Man knows that keeping a promise is serious business and doesn't screw around on them.

A Real Man Respects All Women
A real man doesn't “holler” at girls. A real man doesn't sit with other guys and talk about how sexy girls are and drool while discussing their body parts and wanting to “hit it”. A real man doesn't treat women like a buffet. A real man pursues a WIFE, not a girlfriend and he goes about it the right way. If a Real man is interested in a female, he goes to their parents to let them know his intentions, like how they did it back in
the days. A real man works on lowering his gaze when beautiful women walk by. A real man keeps his interactions with women short, cordial and to the point and doesn't let it go longer so flirting and dirty thoughts can come into the mix.
If a man is married, he stays faithful and doesn't leer his eyes elsewhere – and that includes the TV, the internet and magazines. A real man is respectful to his wife, both in public and in private. A real man does not raise his hands to his wife no matter what the case is.
A real man doesn't point out his wife's flaws and treat her like a second-class citizen. A real man treats every female (that isn't his wife) he comes in contact with in the same way he treats his mother or sister.

A Real Man Keeps His House in Order
Contrary to popular belief, a real man doesn't live in a mess. The sink isn't filled with dishes and his underwear isn't laying around. A real man is the master of his domain if he's living on his own, because if not then he better move back in with his mom and get some lessons if he ever wants to land a wife. That's correct! A real man DOES CHORES, even with his wife around. He does the dishes if they need cleaning, takes out the garbage, does his own laundry, irons his clothes, cooks from time to time. If you haven't reached that level, you better work on it now.
The Prophet Muhammad regularly did household work and did most of his own chores himself like fixing his shoes, doing his own laundry etc. Stop using manliness as an excuse and get your job done, clean your place up, get your documents in order and clean up yourself.

A Real Man Does not Beg
The prophet (saw) once said that it was better for a man to take a rope and gather some wood on his back to sell than to go out begging for money. A real man relies on his own sweat from hard work and God to provide for him. Rather than being a charity case, a real man gives to charity and good causes.

A Real Man is Merciful and Compassionate
The prophet (saw) said: "deal gently with people, and be not harsh; cheer them and condemn not."
A real man is of exalted character and very
compassionate, he is kind and considerate to all
people, regardless of how they treated him, and even to animals and plants. He shows mercy to those below and above him. A real man recognizes that he's a man with an intellect, not an animal. He speaks softly and doesn't have to yell at the top of his lungs to be heard or get his point across. A real man isn't a stupid person either, just because he is merciful and
compassionate doesn’t mean he's a floor mat
that people can walk all over.

A Real Man Knows He's Being Tested
A real man doesn't whine, cry complain when life isn't going his way. He doesn't mope, wallow in his own self-pity or ruminate about all that's going wrong with his life to anyone that will listen. “ Why me? ” is not in a real man's vocabulary.
A real man makes decisions and takes full responsibility of what follows. A real man shows GRATITUDE. He is grateful for what he has no matter how big or how small. He takes the cards he's been dealt and runs with them.
He doesn't look at other folks and get jealous because they have more. A real man realizes he has weaknesses and works on controlling them and not being consumed by them. That's because a real man knows what this life is all about. A man knows that he's constantly being tested and the decisions he makes will have either a negative or positive effect in the end when he's in front of his Maker on the day of
judgment.
A real man only cries out in private to his lord and asks him for solace, forgiveness and comfort. A real man gives his best effort in anything he does and when life becomes difficult he takes solace in the verse that says "with hardship comes ease."

kimond101:
Alhamdullilah
Congratulations. It's sometime difficult for someone who was born into a Christian home to acknowledge the truth unless God wills to guide him/her.

Every soul shall be faced with trials and that isn't enough reason to think God has forgotten you. Happy you have aknowledged the truth in God and Jesus, cause they are not the same.

To become a good muslim don't learn islam from the muslims but rather from the Quran and authentic hadith. And keep good company that would teach you real islam and it's beauty. Don't rush things.

Your family might find it hard believing that you become a muslim. But you must stand your ground on what you believe. But you should treat them kindly and with respect as well.

Because when you die, you go to your grave alone and you would be accountable for your deeds alone. So don't compromise your hereafter after knowing the truth.

May God keep your feet firm and steadfast in worshipping only Him without ascribing partners in worship with Him. May God guide us all and give us in this world that which is good and the hereafter that which is good. May God save us from the punishment of the grave and hellfire. Amin

Gboliwe:
This should be entertaining.
You should add links to the threads. Oooops! Most eventually get deleted.

1. Ajawa
Ajawa used to be spoken in Bauchi State. It is a
Afro-Asiatic language. It became extinct
sometime around 1920 and 1940 as the native
speakers adopted Hausa.

2. Basa-Gumna
Basa-Gumna was used in Chanchaga part of Niger state, and also near the Basa homeland of Nasarawa. It was a Kainji language. It died when the native speakers chose to speak Hausa instead.

3. Auyokawa
Auyokawa used to be spoken in Jigawa State. It
was an Afro-Asiatic language.

4. Gamo-Ningi
Gamo (Buta) and Ningi was a Kainji dialect
cluster in Bauchi state, with a population of
about 15,000.

5. Holma
Holma or Da Holmaci, formerly spoken in
Adamawa State is an extinct Afro-Asiatic
language. It died as its native speakers chose
to speak Fulfulde .

6. Kubi
Kubi was an Afro-Asiatic language formerly
spoken in Bauchi State. The Members of the
ethnic group have a population of about 1,500.
They now speak Hausa.

7. Kpati
Kpati was formerly spoken in Taraba State. lt
was a Grassfields language.

8. Mawa
Mawa which is different from another language
in Chad also known as Mawa, is also extinct. It
was however never really proven to be a
language of Nigeria.

9. Odut
Odut used to spoken in Odukpani area of Cross
River State.

10. Teshenawa
Teshenawa was a language formerly spoken in
Jigawa State. It was an Afro-Asiatic.