Leave her make she go marry someone from her ethnic group. You don't have to give yourself headache.

Failure2019:
My grandpa just died. My grandpa didn’t have a whole lot of wealth to his name, but he did own a house.
An old house out in the village by a stream, passed down through my family for countless generations.
My family may’ve not taken as good care of it as they should, but I still loved that house. To me it was more than just a house.
And now in his will, your grandpa has left the house for me to look after, in the hopes my family will live in it for many generations to come.
But, there’s a problem.
Before my grandpa had passed away he’d lent the house out to my uncle and his family.
Now that the house was my, I kindly let them know they can no longer live there, and that they must move back to their previous home (which they still own and visit from time to time).
But they refuse. My uncle says that because his family currently lives there, they have just as much claim on the house as you.
And because my uncle and his wife and children (each) are in greater need of the house, it now belongs to them.
He explains that as long as they live in the house they have the right to be called its owner, no matter who lived in it before.
Besides, why should I care if my uncle's family takes over the house? It’s still the same house no matter who lives in it, right?
My uncle then tells me to leave his home, or he will call the police.
How do I react?

Go to court! That's our renewed way of being stupid.

Medicine after death

Write two letters yourself, one to the local government as an institution and one to the outgoing chairman. In this age, you can't depend on someone who is not interested in your welfare for a thing as common as a letter. Do it yourself.
Or, you can tell me what the content of the letter would be and I will write it for you, for free.

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Just enroll your dad at a karate teaching school, and see your mum learn to mind her business. Simple solution.

The unsavory debate of thieving politicians.

The hoopla is because Pete is Igbo, while Otodola is Yourba.

Who is the wife and who is the husband? Today, in the western world, these roles are becoming extinct.

Even if you marry another woman, na the same to happen. It's in your mind.

It's very wrong to classify female staff as drones who do no work. If you know the kind of work they do and the amount of stability it brings to the male ogas, then you will appreciate their contribution. I think your problem here is the definition of work.

1Sharon:


I know but girls that don't perform that well are more vulnerable

Being an academic buffoon is not a reason to harass someone sexually. We condone a lot of nonesense in this part of the world.

He had to register the carry over courses first before adding other courses depending on the maximum credit load of that semester/session. For someone to have five carry overs shows he is either not serious with studies or he has Psychological issues that are hampering his performance.

Thank you for letting us know about this development in your family.

It's their business. There is no right or wrong approach to this practice. It's what brings stability to their union.

Yes, moderate flogging is very necessary.

They give so many people visa ban, why is this crying so loudly?

Some people dey blow or get blown by gambling. Maybe him go be among the first.

And poor Seun Kuti does not know about these institutional and historical grudge. Pity!

Don't you know hypocrisy is a Nigerian?

It's a very difficult situation for you because you are lost all respect and dignity as a man. Also, your wife has no iota of respect for you or the marriage. It's clear she has moved on; look for a way to improve your finances, but don't go to Lagos begging your in-laws to accommodate you. If you take a principled stand, your "wife" might have a rethink and start looking for you.

If you want to marry her, just close your eyes and get on with it. Maybe she posseses some qualities you desire in a woman. However, forget that story of one guy, one kiss, and one sex, it's stale now.

It depends on her personality. But as a general rule, it's better you keep it away from her. It's not the reason she is dating you.

That's one of the ways we show love in Nigeria. Oga landlord believes that if you are able to buy a new car, surely, you are also capable of paying the new rent.

There is no new about this act. It's what most Nigerian women do when their husbands bring them abroad.

It doesn't matter. It's what you call your son that matter. You are making a mountain of out of a molehill.

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

A house help that you would soon turn to punching bag.

No, it's your life that's after betting.

floret23:
What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt.

Some men have bitter experiences both in relationship and some in marriages.

Even though I know this story is fabricated, it's the sort of things an average Nigerian woman do. An average Nigerian woman believes she has an unqualified right to use her money as she sees fit, and has tremendous control on how her husband spends his money.

She can't just ignore you like that in a great moment of need. Her action shows there is no love lost in your union.

Nawa o! Which kind family be this? Did you kill or impregnate any member of their family? Why would a family be so mean and cold to you?

The way I see it, there is a sort of intimate relationship between you and your boss. If not, what would make an employee to develop an entitlement complex such as yours towards her boss? Most Nigerian ladies feel they own a man when he has had access to the cookies.

Not bad, just that you, too, will undergo the same test to give a sense of fairness and equity.