₦airaland Forum

mamagee3:
Nope, she sent it at 6am Nigerian time.

marcusverum:
Your ability to walk away is your greatest negotiating tool in any relationship.

The moment a woman or anyone knows you cannot leave, they know they can treat you however they choose. You have handed them power over you and they will use it. Not necessarily out of malice.

Simply because the option is there.

This applies to relationships.
To marriage.
To friendships.
To business.

A man who tolerates everything out of fear of being alone is not loyal.
He is desperate and desperation is the most unattractive quality a man can carry.

Walk away from what does not respect you. Not in anger.
Not in drama.
Simply withdraw your presence, your resources and your attention. Let your absence speak.

The man who can leave anything is the man everyone fights to keep.

Sonofgod1990:
Good day my people..
My name is kelechi from enugu state.
Age 36. But age is just a number.

Many of my friends are getting married day by day and I'm worried about getting married also. And I want to marry a nurse.. pure nurse/midwifery. You should be actively employed because I'm jobless for now... just that I want to get married and I promise to take good care of you.

I don't have any money for now. If you have the money to take care of our introduction I'm good to go. I promise to be a good husband..I don't beat woman and I don't womanise.
Any interested lady should check my signature

Sonofgod1990:
Good day my people..
My name is kelechi from enugu state.
Age 36. But age is just a number.

Many of my friends are getting married day by day and I'm worried about getting married also. And I want to marry a nurse.. pure nurse/midwifery. You should be actively employed because I'm jobless for now... just that I want to get married and I promise to take good care of you.

I don't have any money for now. If you have the money to take care of our introduction I'm good to go. I promise to be a good husband..I don't beat woman and I don't womanise.
Any interested lady should check my signature

Sweetsoul2235:
Can you marry a girl that has engaged in some sexual activities with her cousin? Activities like kissing, fingering, sucking of breast but no penetration.. according to her friend who told me, she said my girlfriend whom I want to marry was 25 and her cousin was 17 and they were sleeping together in one room when it happened. Is it advisable to marry such girl?

Sweetsoul2235:
Can you marry a girl that has engaged in some sexual activities with her cousin? Activities like kissing, fingering, sucking of breast but no penetration.. according to her friend who told me, she said my girlfriend whom I want to marry was 25 and her cousin was 17 and they were sleeping together in one room when it happened. Is it advisable to marry such girl?

UnlimitedNG:
Today is Saturday, you may be married now or still single...Let's reflect on the stupid things we have done for the sake of love and let us all get entertained with the experiences...

I stumbled on a post on this topic and I flashed back to my personal experience some years ago. So, let me start with mine. Mind you, I am now happily married with 3 children.

Some years ago I was doing strong-head chasing for this Kogi babe I met during NYSC. She relocated to Sokoto after camp. One Friday night around 11p.m., she called me on WhatsApp:
“Babe, I just dey miss you anyhow. If to say you dey here now…”

As Lagos boy with mumu love, I stood up from my bed in Surulere. Next thing, I was at Jibowu park. No toothbrush, no ATM card, just ₦18k and the hoodie I was wearing. I entered God is Good night bus to Sokoto. Sixteen hours journey o.

I didn’t even tell her I was coming. I wanted it to be a “romantic surprise”. I arrived Saturday afternoon, dusty, smelling like conductor’s armpit, and called her. She shouted: “Ah! You no serious! I just landed in Lagos this morning for my cousin’s wedding!”

Immediately, my brain reset. I stood under Sokoto sun for 10 minutes, calculating my life. I used my last ₦3k to buy fura da nono and sat at the park. Then, I took the next night bus back to Lagos on Sunday. Roughly 32 hours on the road total. She sent me “awww thanks for trying” with laughing emoji.

Till today, my wife still calls me, “Sokoto lover” because I told her about the experience... and NEPA took light the day I tried to explain myself.

....most mumutik $hit i done waz ..reading this dry tread!!!!((no oofense))

Seyzi:
There is a lady, a friend of mine had been in relationship with for 2yrs now, planning settling down next year, which all of a sudden the lady came up with the issue her mum aren't approving the union later her dad and sisters on the ground of Christianity spirituality and before my friend can gets a hold of it he has been blocked and restricted

My question is how will 29yrs old woman can't decide for herself but My guy really loved the lady, he has invested emotionally from what have seen in the union, if anybody has been in this type of situation before how do you guys manage it

UnlimitedNG:
Today is Saturday, you may be married now or still single...Let's reflect on the stupid things we have done for the sake of love and let us all get entertained with the experiences...

I stumbled on a post on this topic and I flashed back to my personal experience some years ago. So, let me start with mine. Mind you, I am now happily married with 3 children.

Some years ago I was doing strong-head chasing for this Kogi babe I met during NYSC. She relocated to Sokoto after camp. One Friday night around 11p.m., she called me on WhatsApp:
“Babe, I just dey miss you anyhow. If to say you dey here now…”

As Lagos boy with mumu love, I stood up from my bed in Surulere. Next thing, I was at Jibowu park. No toothbrush, no ATM card, just ₦18k and the hoodie I was wearing. I entered God is Good night bus to Sokoto. Sixteen hours journey o.

I didn’t even tell her I was coming. I wanted it to be a “romantic surprise”. I arrived Saturday afternoon, dusty, smelling like conductor’s armpit, and called her. She shouted: “Ah! You no serious! I just landed in Lagos this morning for my cousin’s wedding!”

Immediately, my brain reset. I stood under Sokoto sun for 10 minutes, calculating my life. I used my last ₦3k to buy fura da nono and sat at the park. Then, I took the next night bus back to Lagos on Sunday. Roughly 32 hours on the road total. She sent me “awww thanks for trying” with laughing emoji.

Till today, my wife still calls me, “Sokoto lover” because I told her about the experience... and NEPA took light the day I tried to explain myself.

awesomeJ:
Are you sboga in new flesh?

Yoursfaithful:
Like them need to register you for yabaleft

Yoursfaithful:
Like this one don miss road oo..are you sure you're in the right platform..cos wetin be this fgs

Asangbekoko:
G
Do you mean #26,000 or $26,000 !?

Hadebiimiipee:
Oga Megawealth, can you be gracious enough to recommend books, videos or even any training to better understand the stock market like you? I would really appreciate it.

Streetinvestor2:
Chike is that u...no just think of that shit

AntiChristian:
That's racist!

Roh50:
Poco 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I bet there's never a dull moment with you. I don laugh tire. You even added "The Power of a Praying Husband" join. Married women don see plenty tins for this life.

Ginalex:
Nice ... Na my full units them go give me 😃😃

AntiChristian:
I love women! I have a mum, daughter and wife.

AntiChristian:
I love women! I have a mum, daughter and wife.

Babatunjo:
Show interest. That is all.

If she likes you she will let you know. Women are not complicated when they actually want you. The signs are clear. The access is easy. Everything flows.

If she is playing games, step back without resentment. Take that energy and pour it back into yourself. Your work. Your money. Your peace.

Because here is the thing nobody tells young men. The version of you that stopped chasing and started building is the same version that women will pursue.

Another woman who actually wants you will always show up. And she will make it easy.

AntiChristian:
A man was asked:

Would you marry a single mom?

And he answered:

Men was created to start a family not to join.

AntiChristian:
A man was asked:

Would you marry a single mom?

And he answered:

Men was created to start a family not to join.

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
.
Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
.
I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
.
With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
.
When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
.
But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
.
Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
.
To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
.
So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
.
Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
.
I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
.
With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
.
When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
.
But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
.
Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
.
To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
.
So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

mamagee3:
My female cousin sent me a friend early in the morning while others are going to work.

And the thing is I don’t even talk to her

mamagee3:
Opinions on this photo; what do you think about this?

Who is the lady on the left?