₦airaland Forum

oweniwe:
- I expected your tirade.

- Let me repeat again, the wedding/bride price.... IS JUST A FORMALITY.

- If the groom is interested in seeing the biological father, or he thinks it's just the right thing to do, after greetings, small talks and some drinks, what else remain? Nothing more. After the wedding, the groom doesn't have business with him again.

- If we are to turn it around... The groom mother is still alive somewhere, but the groom don't want his bride to see his mother at all for whatever reasons, WILL A SENSIBLE, PROSPECTIVE BRIDE BE COMFORTABLE WITH THAT KIND OF ARRANGEMENT? I understand that women like to dish out treatments that they themselves cannot and will never accept or imagine. That is why some women in that situation may be comfortable with their groom not getting to know their father. It's fine with them.

But if the tables are turned, except the man have something the woman cannot do without, she won't blink twice before discarding the relationship. CAN YOU APPROVE YOUR DAUGHTER TO MARRY A MAN WHO DOESN'T WHAT YOUR DAUGHTER TO KNOW HIS BIOLOGICAL MOTHER? You will be thinking... What kind of marriage will your daughter be getting herself into?

- So if the groom thinks it's best for him to see the man, it's not an abomination... If you see it as abomination, that is bitterness is pro max, it's not healthy. If the bitterness suits you like that, it's okay, no problem.

- But just for the purpose of the wedding, if the groom want to see the so called deadbeat father, let him be. After the wedding, anyhow the bride want to do her family relations, that's her business

There's nothing hard in that. All that strong worded reply you wrote is very unnecessary

Wait, you mean if your wife abandon 3 children with you who are less that 5 years old and they are now in their 20s and one of them is getting married, you’d look for her and make her attend the wedding, greet people, drink and merry? Because obviously she carried their pregnancies and she’s their mother just for the sake of formalities?

Please answer this sincerely, after that I’ll know what to say to you.

And those words are very much necessary.

sisisioge:
You dey mind am? Na only deadbeats would refuse to step up to their responsibilities but still expect some respect.

Omo, I am shocked. Most of these people are so irresponsible with yamayama ego and rubbish demand for respect, even if they made mistake of inviting you, you should hide your face in shame or make the food choke them.

Coming to deliberate on a child you didn’t nurture. Wahala

oweniwe:
@ sisisioge MetaBroadband, Biglittlelois, mrmislim

Bride price/wedding stuffs, are all "just a formality.."

Just do whatever you think is right to balance all sides to fulfill all righteousness and after everything, a few days, it's all over.

You don't owe anybody any explanation again

Any how the bride want to handle her family side relations thereafter, is her headache.

It doesn't concern the husband again.

So just a few days, close eyes and clear everything. Nothing bad in that.

If the bride or her mother are insisting on not contacting the biological father, its a sign of toxicity/bitterness, Its better to leave the relationship because that toxicity/bitterness can be served to the husband in the future.

If the bride in particular and her mom cannot accept to relate with her biological father for a few days just for the purpose of wedding, then it means after marriage they cannot tolerate/will be rigid and uncompromising ... It's big red flag.

The kind of home, you will call wife, sit down let's talk... She no go hear word dey form strong head

You must be a deadbeat dad if you are even a dad at all, or an aspiring one, I don’t think you’ll be a responsible man to take care of your home and it is a pity, I pity your innocent children (future children) I have no right to conclude but I am concluding on your personality without regrets.

“Just close your eyes and clear everything, nothing bad in that” can you listen to yourself? Just close your eyes, invite and clear everything after 24years!!! Ahh, may God have mercy on your soul. This thing really vex me ehn

It is someone like you that will abandon wife and children and will say the children will always look for you (oju e a bo)

You said it is bitterness that will make them not to contact the deadbeat, wait o, who should have been bitter if not those that were abandoned? So you want them to move on like nothing happened? Joker.

We had people to bounce my dad and his relatives out of my wedding venue if they made any attempt to attend, but thank God they respected themselves and stayed away, my elder brother sat as my dad.

I have long forgiven him but he can’t even move an inch close to any of his 3 children. He got what he deserved!

Lmao, my dad left us when we were young and now I am married.

I just cannot imagine my husband telling me then that he wanted to go look for my dad, bro , you will go to my state and look for my dad to ask of his side of story as to why he abandoned 3 children below 5 years old?

I will leave you in that relationship with my dad as such a person can never be trusted, as that is a red flag and you’re an aspiring deadbeat husband and dad. God forbid bad thing.

I wish I can see your fiancée and tell her to run as far as her legs can take her away from you.
What nonsense.

This is why to a large extent I don’t blame women involving in paternity fraud, they should just limit it to two ni so the man wouldn’t have hypertension when he finds out later.

You think you men are wise and you are in the 70s?
Even women that are not involved in paternity fraud are cheating back to back but you won’t even see them countering this post because we must still maintain the good wife badge and silently go and receive their fav d*ck while the husbands are here gloating and jumping on this post... make una dey play

Anoneism:
Please ma, I would like to ask you few questions. How do I reach you?

Please send me a PM.

ProtectMyMoney:
Since you both work, try this out.

Be responsible for all the major spending in the house and drinks.

Let your wife be responsible for only and all the food in the house.

You go chop bone and a slice of meat tire

rottennaija:
Why wait for pregnancy before you test the foetus? The whole stress of dnc if the foetus is AS? Why not go for artificial insemination at once whenever you are ready to have a child?

Artificial insemination and genotype selection prior to pregnancy is very very expensive, I think testing after pregnancy is more affordable knowing that there’s 75% chance of it being in your Favour.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

As long as there is a plan for CVS for every pregnancy I’ll say you can go ahead, you both can’t be unfortunate to keep getting SS children in each of your pregnancy because the probability is 25%.

I and hubby also did the same thing, our families are aware and supported, spent about 500k on the procedure and we have our AS baby boy now, we are going to try for another baby soon and we’re hoping our 75% is in our favor.

It is difficult meeting someone you can easily relate with for marriage o. But please MAKE SURE there is a planned money on ground for the procedure, don’t ever take that risk based on faith alone.

Hello people, I don’t know if this is the right place to post this but I just need answers.

I started applying to schools in the UK today and I would like to know if English is our first language in Nigeria, if it is not English then what is it?

I seem stucked please help.

Persephone1:
Proving relationship is because the marriage certificate from the specific applicant is not convincing enough . Court gives out certificate even to unmarried couple because it can be "arranged". If a couple married for 20 years tender their certificate it won't be one of the things to probe more by the embassy. This is like a student tendering a statement of account with transactions flow between 300k and 450k then all of a sudden a million plus transaction is reflecting on the statement. The UKVI or whatever embassy or school he or she is applying to will question such transaction and tell him or her to prove it. In such scenario will you say a student can apply for study without POF? Lol

One of the requirements to travel as a couple is Marriage certificate. That you may be ask to prove further doesn't rule it out as a requirement. But if you insist on your point, No problem. You are right. Very right

Hello, please do you know if it is a must to change to my husband’s name to be able to apply? Can I continue using my surname? Just need a bit of clarification.

Thanks.

...

BiafranNigerian:
Ofcourse, it is better to commit suicide than apologize and beg for solution. It will take more than a lifetime for some people to learn humility. It truly underscores the reason most of you suffer perennial hardships on 3D existence.

just shut it man and keep the solution for your child that won't need to beg for it because his father has it in abundance. As if the beg will add to your bank account yinmu

BiafranNigerian:
That sounds silly, talking about money, OP is just 24, how much can he possibly have, to entice me, I am not interested in money from someone who is in dire straits ? Fortunately for me, I am comfortable. What he needs to do is ask, in humility, beg for solution instead of suicide. Until he begs for it, he will not get the solution from me. People need to learn humility one way or the other. He can as well commit suicide if that is easier than begging.

Damn!!! if I were the op I won't even beg you one bit, what sort of human being are you? so he must beg? if this is how you are in reality then I pity those that surround you.

Damn you old man.

I vote agarawu23

Cc nljega

I vote

Agarawu23



Lekinz

Cc NLJega

I vote

Agarawu23

Lekinz

Iamkingzlee

Tom French

Cc NLjega