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Plolly:
yes I can

Great. This is commendable. But most atheists always want to enforce their belief on people. I have one who is always ridiculing the Christian faith. One of the reasons I think most ladies won't take that option

Dwayndlight:
Hoes ain’t loyal

Space booked

Bros, tell us your recent experience.

I want to know if Christian and Muslim guys/girls can date atheists. I have an atheist friend, he is also a nairalander, and most times when we discuss about relationships, he will always ask me: if you are a lady, can you date me?

So can you date an atheist guy/lady?

donstan18:

Bros donstanley: donstan18 wetin

Factfinder1:

Modify immediately. This post is not going to front page, so FTC is useless in this case

I really do not know if it is only me that have noticed the way relationship is evolving these days.

In church last week, the pastor asked all single guys to come forward. Lo and behold, every guy in that church stood up and I was wondering what really is happening.

Here are my little findings

1. Ladies are becoming wiser
2. Guys are becoming tougher to deal with. Due to the technicalities of these ladies, most guys are becoming so tough to deal with.
3. Too many prostitutes are springing up. Yes! No one wants to go into real relationship due to the things involved and how everyone is evolving into a complex being.
4. The number of ladies exceeding age 30 in their parents house is increasing. This age disadvantage has nothing to do with guys
5. So many relationships are ending with the speed of light. Parties in relationships are finding it difficult to understand each other
6. Most ladies just want to be happy with or without being married. They prefer to be single and happy than married and sad. Seems like most marriages are not encouraging singles to go into it.
7. Social media is becoming so crazy, real crazy. People are more comfortable chatting with online friends than digging deep into relationships.
8. Guys are seriously chasing money, thus leaving the ladies in the hands of young guys to ......


Methinks that the world is getting crazy. Nothing makes us more complex than ourselves. We are the architect of our complexity.


Guys, what are the new and strange things you have noticed in today's relationships?

Twoclans:
Yes its minimal in this side of the world. And my story was about a simple can I see you later this evening and I said No.

The guy went crazy. My cousin said I should have just told him I will think about it and get back to him. (can you imagine, something that I know if I think for a hundred years the answer will still be no)

I was passing through a street on a certain day and I saw one guy dragging a lady (abusing her physically). He was surrounded by guys too who did nothing to protect the lady. As I passed, I felt like it shouldn't be so. So I went closer, told the guy to let the girl be as he is seriously hurting the lady. It turned out the girl rejected him after several things they have done together. Immediately I heard the story surrounding the incidence, I just left them before someone will stab me with a metal.

But when it is on a surface level like the one you narrated, I think the guy is just making an empty threat

Twoclans:
Yes its minimal in this side of the world. And my story was about a simple can I see you later this evening and I said No.

The guy went crazy. My cousin said I should have just told him I will think about it and get back to him. (can you imagine, something that I know if I think for a hundred years the answer will still be no)

Lol. The guy should be reported to Fulani Herdsmen.

Just like ladies find it so hard dealing with a cheating husband, most guys find it so hard to deal with rejection. Even online, people get rejected and they find it hard to move on.

Again, the guy needs brain surgery

Twoclans:
Some might be empty threats but not all. During my undergraduate years my head was almost bursted because I rejected a guy I did not know was at the top level of sailors then.

Luckily for me my cousin (rip Ik) was equal to the task. He protected me 100 percent and that was how I survived. Some people don't deal with rejection well.

That jncidence thaugh me a life lesson, I am now the master of subtle rejection. I can never reject a guy with gra gra.i do it quietly.

Lol. I was looking at this rejection like the one of collecting numbers along the way, which in this case contains empty threats. But when you deal with someone and he perhaps sacrificed so many things and you turned him down, thinking your actions will have zero effect on him, then I am sorry. Still, we do not have such cases being reported. I still think its minimal in this side of the world.

It is better to be a bad nice guy.

Don't be a foolish nice guy. Bad nice guys are those who use reverse psychology on ladies. While they themselves are the good type. When relating to your family members, friends, colleagues, etc, try to be nice. But when you are with that lady , don't be nice or you become placed at the lowest echelon of that relationship

I am

Neatboy:
I asked a lady out in church. As at that time I knew that like three other guys were asking her out. Instead of she to tell me say she no want, simple! But she chose to use the wrong words, "You are not in the picture." I cried inside ooo. In fact, I cried out then. And I loved her then like life itself. I knew that those guys didn't love her cause they all had serious dates. I was just begging for one. Now, all the guys had gotten married, not to her, except one that had left the church. Nevertheless I still kept her as a friend. Now we are so closer than five and six and she is dying that I talk to her again. She don show me green light tire. For where! I no gree. You know why? Because she had pushed me out, and I have gone wild in terms of my choice of woman. She even get scared with the kind of babes that come my way. My dear, indeed, The Beautiful Ones Are Not Yet Born. Chill! I am getting marries this year to one of the damsels. No kill yourself because of a woman!!!

Nice experience bro.
I always move on as fast as I am let go. No time to waste bro. When you keep pushing, then these ladies will all have stories like the ones they share here.

No time to give any lady the impression that my life depends on her saying YES or NO.

Ekiseme:
Seriously man? Nonsense

Seems like you enjoy flexing muscle with women online bro? It's not necessary. I was just calling his attention to the fact that he mustn't react to everything he reads here and you see "smiling emojis" used all through the post.

But if you think he should take everything said here personal, then goodluck to both of you.

I believe we have got more things to do offline than come online and argue with ladies we all know enjoy internet not for anything but for chatting. I really do not enjoy when people engage in e-wars

TheSuperNerd:
Loooolll... Did you just say "Can't happen in Nigeria"?

Stories I have heard myself? I think the world is not so small afterall... It is much bugger world out there Mr Physics... A much bigger world.

This is not even close to over thinking anything. I am telling you real happenings here.

Seen ladies who got brutal attacks verbally and physically just because they refuse a guy.

AND hey.. get used to my epistles. They are a part of me everywhere I go on NL. And it cannot be forgotten because they contain valid points too.

Seems like such incidents which you experience everyday is the only happenings not reported in Nigeria. I do not doubt the fact that guys go hard when rejected, I only opined that they are empty and most times results to only verbal insults.

I strongly think you are overthinking it. And if you are not, kindly ignore both my words and me, thus, treat as not important.

Lastly, I don't doubt the validity of your points, I only said you are over thinking the issue

Gangster1ms:
*yawns* only weak ones get bothered about what some ugly person wey u never see before have to say... nothing wey she fit talk go get to me cos I've heard it all

I am quite sure you won't understand. Don't be naive bro. Always ignore and keep moving. Don't take anything here so serious. I really think it won't be nice if you start exchanging words, though I am sure it won't get to that point. There are so many things you don't know here so I would advise you don't take it serious.

TheSuperNerd:
Now this is one of the worst kinds of scenarios I pray no lady get into. Just imagine!

I think our ladies should be very careful about guys they engage too. Sometimes, it is safer not just giving some men audience because it is from stopping to listen to him that things can really get awkward and very very bad.

We got men with huge psycho issues out there who just cannot handle rejection. I have seen some cases related to your story Sir Lefu... Very very sad indeed. And the thing is no matter how polite the lady was, the man would still feel offended and want to get his "revenge" by hurting you for rejecting him.

Our ladies just have to learn to be discerning of such guys to avoid such encounters. They are usually very sweet and smart-like. My God, you would think you have met Prince charming even... Some are also kinda awkwardly social but sweet in convo. Sometimes you just cannot tell the difference between a real cool guy with a good heart and these sort of psychos or men with low self esteem who cannot handle a "NO". Our ladies should not engage every guy who tries to stop them to have a small talk... Sometimes, ignoring or doing as if you never heard is the best way to go to avoid you having to say no and then later suffer a car accident caused by same man just because you refuse to give him your number.

It is a sad story Sir Lefu and many more cases like this still happen in today's world. Our ladies should be more discerning and careful. Really must not engage every guy not even for a hi. Some things are just best avoided.

Bros fear God nah. That story can't happen in Nigeria. And I think you are overthinking this issue. Guy calm down. Ladies only get threats and insults from guys that can't handle rejection. All those threats and insults are empty and nothing more. How often do we hear stories of serious scenes or attacks taken after one get's rejected. Abeg forget all these long epistles.

Gangster1ms:
Guy forget.. it's not the matter of this topic... I've been observing her posts when it comes to matters relating to this.. always claiming right in every of them and insulting guys. I swear she is the ugly type.. that's how they behave.

Bros, if I will advise you, I will only recommend you forget about this battle you are about to start.

Let everyone air their opinion bro, they have the right to and we should not forbid them from doing that.

Having said that, the lady you are about to start the battle with is equal to the task. Ever heard of antibrutus? . It literally means aunty brutal. Just in case she decides to eat the food you presented to her, kindly accept my condolence in advance

khiaa:
I hope you realize that you are suppose to only use organic (MOM) apple cider vinegar when you are using it as a supplement. You will know that it's organic because the vinegar will look cloudy with stuff settling at the bottom, it's called the MOM and it's good for you.

It also helps with weight loss, just drink a half of a cup of the tea 30 minutes before each meal.

I use it to help keep my sexy figure along with eating healthy(lots of fruits and vegetables) and plenty of exercise.

Which one is the organic vinegar. I only walk into any store and buy apple cider available there.

Joseid:
LoL! I think know the guy.
I sent him a mail too. When I saw his conditions for such a paltry pay, I told him I was no longer interested.

Funny thing is, the guy used a different email from his regular account here. When I asked if he was the guy here, he said no. He wanted masking his real identity but I guess he underestimated my research skills.

I know the country is tough but we have to be careful in the quest to earn so we don't get defrauded. I've sent mails after which i refused to work when I saw the conditions. I've also had to do a quick background check on the person calling for writers. That includes being smart with delivery since there's no escrow service here.

We just have to be careful. Too many scammers here and most of them have popular main monikers.

Lol. I think I can relate with everything you just said. Let me just use an analogy. When you withdraw money from fiverr to payoneer or through paypal. Your biggest fear is being scammed, thus, you patronize the trusted exchangers, you are sure you won't be scammed, but they have their peculiar problem:their rate is very low. Seems like they are taking advantage of the fact that they are trusted. Can you relate it with your experience above?

Sincerely, anything below N1/w is not fair

Skinnienigga:
Hello mrphysics,

I do hope you are still willing to help someone get started on fiverr. I am a freelance writer with a little experience in writing articles on different niches and blogging. Although I haven't written in a while now because I got robbed (all gadgets gone) and then NYSC came knocking.

I managed to get a new laptop and I've settled in my ppa but getting new writing jobs has been very hard. Normally I use upwork but my account was suspended while I was in camp (I'd be damned if I know why) and my new account is not just getting any offers. I really want to try fiverr and I really hope you can help me out on this.

Thanks

Did you send a pm?

End time

This is how it should be. Wherever you stay, in Nigeria or abroad, do good to your mum/dad even more than you do to your girlfriend.

That's everyone's prayer.

cococandy:
or like counseling, separation, anger management, reaching out to an older couple? Anything but ‘lay down so that he step on you some more’.

Whatever, it’s your mb, Type as you wish.
Only that your post reeks of lack of empathy. I never give anyone advice I wouldn’t take if I was in their position. If someone treats you that way, will your first response be to keep enduring or instead do something different so that they are forced to accept responsibility and do right by you?

Here’s a tip. When someone asks you for advice . Ask yourself “if this was me going through this, what would I do?”

Ignore that guy.

cummando:
Perseverance.... That's all I have to say. I see you have some of that. Else you would have long divorced him because A couple of years you complained he snores. Men always want to be in charge of the house...in fact in charge of everything. So I'll say play possum. You'll get a lot of advice from here or anywhere. Fools will say leave him. Morons will say walk away. What I'll stay stay there. If he shouts look at him,dont say a word. Instead say sorry. If he wants something do it fast.If he wants some action give it to him wella. Be the obedient "foolish" wife. Very soon his conscience will come into play.Trust me divorce is not an option. You'll ruin the lives of those kids.Do it for them. Remember nothing good comes easy.

P.s : a recent survey(Jan 2018) shows that 84% of those in Nigeria prisons comes from broken homes.

I am near sure that this is sarcasm at its peak

ebby9z:
Wow. I'm sure people still make money though. Tried affiliate marketing...men, wasn't beans. Which service so you render on Fiverr

Creative writing gig

JustCalMeDBoss:
all this ppl talking are either not living in Nigeria or opportuned I have seen many ppl here in Nigeria try these things and they fail so bad.

Go and work. I stay in Nigeria and do my fiverr from Nigeria

ebby9z:
So true. Breathing Nigerian air alone is a disadvantage.

I stay in Nigeria and use a Nigerian account, yet see my January earning

It's a nice decision. A good starting point. Kindly state what you need. PM me let me send you my personal book on fiverr and how to get started in it.

Note: I am not selling it and I am not sharing it too. Only for you.

Fingerprinter:
Chisọs Chisọs Chisọs!

Wetin happen? We know you reached that amount too

marksooyinmiebi:
January

Lol. Nice one. Bros which niche before I go faint here

Izuogu1:
This is a very good opportunity to make extra income but I'm kinda lazy on the keyboard.. Beside, I have a steady job that pays me ..i will give it a try

I also have a steady job too yet I engage in it full time

jefy:
What! A terrible anger engolfed me,and my inner man said,call this guy and give him the insult of his life. But I said no, i commited the matter to God. I just couldnt help remembering the stress i went through for 3 days, i worked and worked just to meet his target for such a complex and technical topic 'forex schalping' the cash i wasted on fuel, my precious time and sleepless nights....it is well,not even 200naira airtime or words of encouragement....He used me,i know deep down,but had to let it go. I will find time to post his last mail to me.

Who could this be?