₦airaland Forum

amefi:
Ok, i hv heard u, provided u dont complain dat i'm cheating on u. Whr is Mzd? Emergency cover pls!

May your results be positive.

MRbrownJAY:
@Mrs C
i guess you didnt read properly what i wrote, so i will try again:
SKINNY (and other) WOMEN MARRY FOR LOVE but aint desperate in doing it therefore they dont rush into marriage with strangers!

I guess you didn't properly read what I wrote, so I will try again:

A coworker who is SKINNY married an African man after a short time of chatting him online is now divorcing her husband after finding out she is the THIRD WIFE. If she wasn't "desperate" she would have found that out simply by taking her time and RESEARCHING/INVESTIGATING whom she is chatting with.    

It is okay boo boo I know the deal. You did say you was born and bred in France so it makes sense. 

african1:
You can find pretty African girls anywhere. You just have to have the right swag

Like the Nigerian men?

You also can use the quote button that is above each chatter post when you are replying to them. FYI.

Yes, China is a trip though. I was watching CNN along with a few people you should hear what they are calling China now. It is not nice I will tell you.

Maybe he wants the unAmericanized African women.

I am busy. Use that right hand and Jett bleach to assist you in your coming.

It didn't come through Western Union. Did you use my real name in the dream?

Halle Berry is considered to be one of the most beautiful women in the WORLD and is unhappy as Bleep. Beauty doesn't have anything to do with confidence, self esteem does.

SouthChi:
I love my American sistas don't get me wrong but I definitely don't view African women through the negative stereotypes I grew up around.

More importantly is to introduce Inky as one positive sistas to another positive brother. Maybe it will be our children that the romance is meant for,

Well the stigma in black communities will always remain there and as long as BLACK PEOPLE regardless where they are from continue the stigma there will always be negativity even in your children lives regardless if you have children with African women. 

I don't thnk Inky ready for children at this time but good luck though.   

Oh for your safety, there will be CHATTERS who doesn't embrace the black love is universal as you so take heed and tread lightly. Just saying for your own safety.

Araboy:
I know Somali and Muslim men it has more to do with religion than race I don't think a Christian black guy from Nigeria or Kenya would be treated or accepted better just because he is not white

Hmm. I see.

amefi:
I almost 4got u were d 1. U kn hw much i paid u. Dont u?

You do know the difference between a dream and reality right? If you paid me anything it was in your DREAMS.

SouthChi:
Okay, this is interesting discussing,

My experience is that black men are marrying outside of their "own" more without resistance in America, but I think more Black Men prefer a Black Woman of any shade,

Its funny and ironic when I recall some of the womanizing discussion I had with Nigerian men right here in Chicago. Its contradictory for an African woman to infer "baby mama drama" is
the reason not to date a black man, when so many Nigerian men are popping out illegitimate children left and right. Oh well, that's another topic,

I love this forum, it has so many challenging topics that need to be discussed,  I appreciate you all and I look forward to more.

I do not know if you are new on this forum but however the trends of HYPOCRISY AND CONTRADICTORY seems to be the theme song of NL.  One thing you will know about Mrs. Chima is that I am a realist and sugary is not my forte.  If I feel that some of things that America are doing is wrong I will voice them out regardless if I am in America I will not defend fuckery.  I will point out wrong when wrong is done.  Simple. 

Yes, there are Nigerian baby daddies who have multiple women whom they are not married to in America.  They are facing the same poo black American men are facing and I have always stated that African men and black American are no different EXCEPT where they come from. 

For some strange reason, SOME of the African men thinks just because they are from Africa that white men looks at them DIFFERENTLY.      Let me share this passage with you, an African brother was driving down the road to work and past a stop sign that was hidden behind the shrubbery.  A policeman rang his siren and pulled the African man to the side.  The policeman asked the guy for insurance information and driver license and the African guy asked him what's wrong.  Long story short, the African was instructed to pronounce his African name and the police told the guy that he ran the stop sign and that is against the traffic law.  The African guy responded saying oh I am from Kenya I didn't know that the sign was there.  The police responded back saying it doesn't matter where you are from but in America you must follow the law. 

Now this African man is the husband of one of my associates who told the story.  The point of all this is everything black in America are considered black.

ayomide202:
I really dont care abt mixed couples but i used to say i can never date a white guy just because i never find them attractive but now i cant say dat again cos my supervisor is d cutest smart n fun white guy iv come close to n i will totally date him only he cant stand d pressure of d sun without gettin burnt

Done. Somebody please call 911.

Araboy:
@Mrs Chima if the white man were Muslim I am sure their attitude would be different

Hmm. I supposed so but if they are muslim then the muslim girls would still be following their religious traditions.

amefi:
Whose couch?

A couch you paid for. Duh.

adonn:
Very interesting post.
A woman has a right to dress as she wants married or not.
I think it's a big mistake for a woman to dress skimpily for her husbands benefit simply because he sees other girls outside. If he can't keep his thing in his pants, and his eyes off other women, something is wrong with him and nothing you wear will change that.
On the other hand, any lady can look bad in certain clothes, depending on body shape e.t.c, so her marriage status has nothing to do with it. You should maybe have said "women with stretch marks exposing them" or something.
But guys should STFU till all of you can present us ladies with 6 packs.

The love of Fufu, eba, jollef rice, rice stew, and spaghetti would not allow them.

I would introduce you to Inky but she loves her some Greek men.

Araboy:
I don't think the problem in  the case of Somali guys is inherent to race but more to religion it is a known fact that Muslim women are prohibited of marrying Non Muslim Men less talking of dating or mixing with them
Muslim men whatever Arab  African South Asian Turk or Persian don't like their girls dating or marrying outside their
Religion Period

What is these white men were Muslim would that be permissible?

african1:
It just bothers me that they yell at poor guys that didn't anything to them. Also they only have a problem when African girls date white guys, when it the other way around, it is a not a problem. Double slandered I tell you.

Yes, it is a double standard in this faux "man's world" unfortunately.

amefi:
Compton Community College is not an ivy league university. Ask for your refund!

Chima my baby, hw much did Compton Community College collect frm u? Jus bein concerned sha.

None. I do not live in the state where Compton Community College is located. You will have to be a resident of Compton to attend the community college just in case you are interested.

How much did you pay to sleep on the couch?

SouthChi:
Okay, it seems obvious whats going on with the African men marrying Black American women, but what about African women marrying Black American men?

From what I see, African women don't do it nearly as much as the men do. Also, its rare to see African women with black American men, regardless of income or beauty.

The same generalizations that Americans have about Africans are the similar generalizations that Africans have about Americans.  Black Americans men are painted as lesser than White American men which why you see a lot of African women marrying, married, or dating white American men for obvious reasons.  

Most Asians have the same generalizations about BLACK MEN PERIOD regardless where they come from.  They have this preconceived notion that black men are up to no good which doesn't help when you see hundreds of black men in America jailed.  You also see African men in UK being hauled off because of someone crying rape or sexual harassment.  You also see the media uplifting white men to the highest degree in every field and skills and points out black men who excels are just "lucky" or "token nigga".  

I asked an African woman the question about why African women will not mess with black American men her response was Baby daddy drama.  Seriously that was her response.  She didn't expound on it or nothing.

SouthChi:
Well first of all, the Africans that tend to marry the "fat ugly" sisters are usually fresh off the boat and of course older people. But young "attractive" africans that immigrate to America can marry American born "nigerians" or anybody elses that shares a positive opinions about their looks, there chances are as good as any.

I personally see the beauty in all blacks in all countries and think its ridiculous for people not to see their brothers and sisters as their own, across any ocean. In that context, this issue(marrying for citizenship) is more about preying about the weak and desperate.

You are right about the FOBAS (fresh off the boat Africans) who are into survival of the fittest will do just about anybody that thinks they are worthy.  

@bold part

That is sad and it will continue to happen until the end of time unfortunately.  If people take their time and screen BEFORE RUSHING and knowing who they are wasting their time with they will be much better off and less likely to be suckered however there is no 100% in this world either.

It is the inferior complexity thing with them. They will say the same thing when African women have an issue with African men dating white girls.

Stella is not your wife. Enough said.

SouthChi:
from my experience here, most of the African men that I see are either with "unattractive" black women or white women,  and  those are their easiest options because of the negative stigma that Black Americans have towards Africans in general.  Plus, I think Black Americans tend to look at African men as ugly and poor, therefore it would be difficult for an African man to integrate with a marriage in America unless his spouse didn't share that generalized prejudice or if he was financially well off ,as say, a doctor could be.

On the generalized part, you are right which explains why there are only a very SMALL amount of African to Black Americans marriages opposed to HUNDREDS of African to White Americans marriages.  Even if the man is a doctor or lawyer MOST black American women still have reservations opposed to white American women hence the large amount of marriages between white women and African men.

White women are more likely to marry or date African or black men because of the BIG manliness hype.  I am not saying ALL WHITE women are into that but quite a large amount of them believes ALL BLACK MEN are packing regardless if they are in USA or Africa.  

Now I have to give props when props due, the African men that are dating women or married to women not all of them are unattractive.  It is a mixed of both.  Young African men are NOT WITH FAT AND UGLY women under no circumstances in America.  Older African men tend to care less but still have preferences however.

MRbrownJAY:
^^LOVE Mrs C, they marry for love!
there are 2types of marriage: LOVE ones or BUSINESS ones (arranged marriages dont count here)

the difference is that NO sane woman would marry someone they just met, but the ugly fat ones would, simply because they wouldnt want to lose their new found mate and possibly miss the chance in being married with such a great looking person!

also these guys play the game right by telling these "monsters" that they love them etc (even having babies with them)

I guess you will skirt around what I asked you huh?  You have already established why African men are with fat and ugly women.  Follow this: Are skinny and pretty women saying yes to marriage with African men because they are afraid to lose their new found love as well and miss the change in being married with such a great looking person?

Now remember, you just said that fat and ugly women are with African men because they have no choice but why are skinny and pretty women are with African men?  They have no choice either? 

Oh the coworker that I was speaking about who just found out her African husband have two wives before her is not FAT NOR UGLY.  She is sending her husband back to Africa.

SouthChi:
Thanks for the insight Ms.Chima,  I actually live in Chicago, IL,  I recently had a debate about this with a few women friends here about this topic. So I was just looking for some intelligent feedback such as what u provided.


I will say this, these marriages are leaving alot of children with no fathers here in Chicago. From what I have witnessed, is that after the marriage the fathers tend to treat the children like a joke. Many fathers even coerce their own children to marry their friends for citizenship.

I think as a rule. If you are going to use this method, I think impregnating the "fat/uglies"(as was stated) is a big mistake especially when you plan to divorce.

Even though there are a hype about African men and women dating or marrying American citizens in America for "love", many American women fall prey to such scams still.  Which I find interesting.  There is this white coworker who found out that her African husband has two wives before her and the child he claimed was his second wife.  She called the Immigration and he was faced in deportation court if he doesn't get his ducks in the row he will be heading right back to where he started from.  

I am not saying all African men or women are out there to scam others to get out of poverty or to hustle for survival but their actions is painting a bad picture in other countries. Some people say that Africa isn't the only continent involved in scamming which I totally agree because America and UK are into it heavily HOWEVER they are not being focused on intensely like Africa.  

Africans who are  trying to better their lives without involving criminal activities have a hard time proving to Immigration that they are not like their "lesser brothers" which sucks big time.  Immigration are tightening up their method but they will not stop allowing others to come in because that is how they are making their billions of dollars while gullible women and men are being scammed.

MRbrownJAY:
@Mrs C
yes some fat and ugly women may marry for love BUT we all know why many of our African brothas prefer them (especially when their Visa is about to run out)

Yes, MBJ I see a lot of that going on but what I am asking you what about the women who have claimed that they are not fat and ugly dating or married to Nigerian men?

You have already established the Fat and Ugly Theory now what about the Thin and Pretty Theory?

SouthChi:
Its only legal to America if Americans only ask Americans to put a "ring"(bling bling) on it, lol, I bet if the US government could make  50,000 off immigration marriages per marriage then I bet it would be legal then, lol

US Immigration Services is worth BILLIONS OF DOLLARS.  They are not tripping off a few dollars that people pay the court to get married.  The courts are not making NO WHERE near what Immigration are making off the scams and dubious marriages as MBJ calls it.  People are selling their children and families just to get in America and Immigration is capitalizing off of it.  The only person harmed is the person who assumed the other person loves them and wants to be with them.  

If the person who is a citizen was suspicious of such lies then they can have the person deported on the basis of Fraud and deportees are shunned for life.  So it is a risk on both side, the person who is the citizen marrying or dating a non citizen who may be up to no good.

It is their life.

MRbrownJAY:
@all
it sounds funny but thats a fact! why do you think all the brothas abroad are dating fat/ugly women? duh!

@Annita19
sistah, just because i know what my brothas AND SISTAS are doing all over the world, doesnt in anyway mean that i take part in it. if you read NL a lil more (or had been here a lil longer) you would have known by now that i was born and bred in France and that therefore my passport allows me to travel all over the word without the need for dubious marriage.

@Southchi
Ugly/fat damsel just need some loving and would therefore quickly settle for anyone good looking proclaiming their love for them.

now, dont get your hopes down, there are many other ways to do it, you can:
A) go to the closest unemployment office and chat up some unemployed lady (preferably ugly). then explain to her that you want to help her financially while she helps you etc. et voila!
B) go to the nearest crack house and get one of these crackheads to marry you. offer her unlimited crack until marriage AS LONG AS SHE STAYS WITH YOU TILL MARRIAGE. if you offer her 100bucks worth of crack EVERY DAY until marriage (approximately 3months), it will still cost you ONLY 9K top.
C) go to nearest retirement home and befriend one of these grandma without family or friends and offer to fukc take care of her until her last days for marriage. you will be surprized how many will say YES to anything, rather than staying in old homes alone.
D) go to any of the east european countries that nearly joined the EU (Czech Republic/Poland/Hungary etc) and i can ASSURE you that 15K will get you married within 3months! with European citizenship, you will have an easier way in the US guaranteed!

There are non-Nigerian women on this site who have claimed that they are fit and in shape dating Nigerian men.  What about them?

SouthChi:
I'm not saying its right or wrong. I'm not judging. I just want to know the price-tag you pay for a marriage?

You are serious right? Why would a Nigerian man or woman who have $50,000 dollars marry someone in America? They would do better doubling their money in UK and be much easier since UK used to own Nigeria. I know there are some kind of stipulation allowing Nigerians to enter UK more easily than America. Plus there are women who are doing it for free which is alarming.

Just like MBJ said if they had $50,000 they would do much better stretching their dollars in Nigeria and making it better for their families there.

$50,000 in America is like buying some butter, eggs, and bread for one year.