₦airaland Forum

pleep:
You did not counter anything I said, which basically proves I am right.  Did i ever say a woman should keep her legs closed? You keep repeating that point because its the only one you know how to defend.

If two unmarried people have voluntary sex they are both doing something wrong. In the U.S if that sex results in a pregnancy is 100% the females fault. Because the woman has control over contraceptives, condom use, and knows her cycles
'independant' Women have unplanned babies with worthless dudes, and end up raising their kids as single parents. A boy raised by a single mother is imbued with all her feminine energy, often resulting in a weak & insecure man who repeats the cycle.

This weakness is often masked by a shell of hyper-masculinity. This occurs because women have a limited understanding of what it takes to be a man. Thus they only show their son the 'macho side'

Why would I waste any more of my time encountering stupidity?

If you seriously think that a woman is solely responsible for unplanned pregnancies then you are more vapid than I thought.   For bullshit like this, I strongly advocate for post abortion. 

Good riddance.

No.

mobf:
Well said! Unfortunately some ladies have sort of programmed themselves that  the next guy they date will be their husband. Now tell me if this kind of person will even want to "waste precious time' getting to know the guy and letting the love grow.

Let keep it real, a woman who is desperate for a husband has too many baggages.  Excuses like biological clock ticking and growing old alone is out of the window.  I don't believe in fast love and what I mean by that is loving someone instantly because we all know or should know love has many stages and definitions. 

Some people often misconstrued lust for love and Agape love for intimate love.  Intimate love is usually when people have invested in time with each other and bonded with each other physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, sexually, and intimacy. 

Patience is indeed a virtue and solves a lot of future headaches.

pendo89:
you know that makes lots of sense. if all that in blue has happened and hes still waiting for God knows what, then only 2 things ought to happen.
step or drag or as MBJ said,openly declare early that you are not the' marriage type'. free the lady, tie the knot and stop stringing her for years

Let keep it real here sista, if a man really wants "her" he wouldn't waste any time.   That's why I stated in the last paragraph, he needs to make a decision on whether his relationship built on cards or cement before wasting any more time.  

Some people believes in long engagements, I don't.  A year is enough time to know whether this person is for you or not.  I am not talking about a year online, through pen pal, and long distance.  I am talking about spending physical time with each other and doing things together as one before making a decision to skip down the altar.  

If it takes more than a year, nine out of 10 times, it would never happen.  Let me also clarify something, dating for years is totally different than being engaged or committed for years.  Dating is a casual thing and you should see other people to see where the chemistry lies however if you are in a committed relationship or engaged for YEARS then something is not smelling right.  

But again, each relationship is different and whatever works for them, more power to them!

pleep:
okay maybe 110% was exaggerating and 100% is a more accurate number. Lets say the sex is voluntary:

The man doesn't want to use a condom yet the woman allows herself to be penetrated without protection- strike one

The woman didn't use birth control- strike two

The woman knows her cycles- strike three.

Almost none of the contraction process in in a mans contol, yet u ppl still find a way to blame men. Pregnancy is something that happens to a womans body, how are going to blame someone else for what u allowed to happen?

That being said i think if a man girlfriend gets pregnant he should marry her for the sake of the kids.

You are still saying the same thing and it is still INCORRECT.   A man and a woman are both responsible for unplanned pregnancies.  Period.  Regardless if the woman should keep her legs closed, it still doesn't negate the fact that the man is still responsible for his child whether he wants to or not. 

pleep:
I love how when female wants to call a man weak they call him a woman. You see gender roles are ingrained in our DNA

I love to hear hit wolves howling.  If gender roles are ingrained in the DNA, then why are you complaining about females being responsible for WEAK AND INSECURE boys?  

Look up innate.  Gender roles were designed by men to establish superiority over the woman and it is not part of DNA.  bleeping is part of DNA, eating is part of DNA, shitting is part of DNA, procreation is part of DNA, and sleeping is part of DNA.  

I thought this was a man's world?    

Pendo

No, men shouldn't be dragged to the altar. A man should make a well-informed decision to marry such lady. It is very important that he does it on his own volition and a woman should make a decision if such man is compatible to her in all areas not just sexually and financially.

The reason I mentioned sexually and financially because many marriages today are based on sex and money which also explains the rise in divorce/separation/abandonment not just in the "West" either.

Before marriage subject is introduce into any stage of relationship, two parties need to know basic information about the person, spend time with each other in different surroundings, grow slowly in love with each other through intimacy and bonding, and ask uncomfortable questions during bonding stage.

Without proper foundation, relationships will not survive and dragging a man to the altar will not change anything. A man should ask himself, if his relationship with his woman is built on cards or cement before wasting any more time.

pendo89:
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Closed mouths don't get fed.

OP

Are you still upset at the comments made to you on your "Wedding Pictures" thread? 


Now keeping it real, it doesn't help when you have some of your own brothers/sisters validating and confirming such reputations.  If someone make a statement about Nigerian men or women the very last thing a Nigerian should do is validate it with threads like, "Yeah, Nigerian men only marry old and lonely white women for green card or to escape poverty". 

What do you expect a non-Nigerian woman, who may not have the proper exposure to decent Nigerian men to think? 

Unfortunately, a group of bad ones ruined it for the good ones.

Uhmm. Assuming that you are a straight male, why are you looking at other men's pictures?

Shouldn't you plead for more women to post their pictures? Just saying.

Another dumb arse limpdick misconstrued Feminism.   

LMAO@Feminism is responsible for INSECURE AND WEAK arse boys 

Too many femanbitches on Nairaland and we're running out of tampons! 

[quote author=James-dman link=topic=810180.msg9628211#msg9628211 date=1322203224]Hahahahaha. . . LMTO-Laughin my teeth off- U've definitely nt lost your 'aggressive' touch. Well, [size=22pt]sum 20-sumtin yrs ago, in the conservative n morally upright community in which i was born, there were no abortions[/size]. If a lady/woman gets pregnant she has to keep it, if it's outside wedlock, she gets married to the guy dat's responsible for the pregnancy. So, MY MUM COULD NOT N WOULD NOT HAVE WANTED TO ABORT ME!! Comprehended? *winks*. Nw abt dat 'predegree' ish, Ooops! Sowi, my bad, i meant PEDIGREE. Tnx 4 noticin my mistake![/quote]Too bad huh? Better luck next time.

I know damn well I did not see a certain someone stated that pregnancy is 110% a woman's fault.  Seriously?    Wedlock sex is not a cultural or regional thing and if a man/boy and woman/girl lay down without protection UNLESS it is by force it is 50/50 fault.  

In case you fell asleep in Biology/Human Sexuality class, a woman can't get pregnant unless she is impregnated with Fluid and that mean a man bleeped her.  Many men kills me when they say that a woman should have closed her legs without taking in account that a man should also keep his Joystick in his pants.  I am talking about women who had or having their babies naturally and not artificially.  

You can't take or pick anyone that doesn't want to be taken or picked and only sorry arse people would spew out that bullshit.  

Women didn't have a right to vote or even take a poo without her husband's permission until 1920's, when several courageous women have fought, died, and were shunned to make it possible for women to even have a voice in America.  Many dumb arse men misconstrued original feminism with lady-loving-lady movement, which explains "you are a dyke" trend.  

Original feminist movement was about equality for women in homes, society, and workplace.  Women had to depend on their husbands for survival and if they were divorced from the men which most divorces were ignited by MEN, they lose everything including children similar to some African countries.  Hmm.  

As women in America began to embrace their freedom as equal citizens, some of them reduced their dependence on their husbands and made a name for themselves.  Some women remained housewives and were comfortable.  However, women have a choice and doesn't need settle down with any man just for some rice and a warm bed.  

Secure and confident men know how to support their women's empowerment and maintain team collaboration.  Relationship between a man and a woman shouldn't resort into child and parent drama but two mature and confident adults working [size=22pt]together as a unit without being insecure.[/size]

I know I said a mouthful but people need to stop acting like everything is homogeneous.

rokiatu:
LOL at some of the replies.     

Well things finally work out. He call yesterday and apologized for making me cry and stressed for so long. Everything is still surreal to me. I am so happy.

No more stoopid jokes thats for sure.

Thanks everyone. Esp the people on page one. Roland, Seedord, Lord Reed, Ileke, Deekseen, Neyostical, Goldie, Slimyem, and finally the people who posted behind my back. Wifey. (luv you ) Sexillz, Freecocoa, Talina Woke4all Jenifer  Kelz, and everyone else that actually just crack me up this morning. Esp Princek12. Take a lie detector test? WTF.

Glad you have learned your lesson and won't do it ever again! Love you too!

[quote author=James-dman link=topic=810180.msg9626083#msg9626083 date=1322163998]Nah. Considerin your predegree, it should be alot more harsher. . . . LMAO!![/quote]How about this, you are a walking failed abortion?   What's the hell is predegree?

Jenifa, Sexkillz, and Reality please get a room.

Thank you very much in advance.

REALITY101:
Hey barefoot bandit! Aren't you suppose to be baking some thanksgiving turkey? Or search for the giveaway ones?

LMAO@giveaway turkey I wear slippers thank you very much.

I feel sorry for the bokos attracting and dating shadow women.

MRbrownJAY:
lol Mrs C, i was looking for the "bootay call agreement" thread to reply to you, but couldnt find it after i got banned!

I was waiting with my fists balled!   

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=810280.msg9624386#msg9624386 date=1322148331]Mrs Chima cheated with Mr C0rk twice  (true story)   [/quote]It wasn't me.  Was the person's body furry-like?   

Just ruffling some feathers before going out.

Okay. Big deal.

Why would a man share his woman's sexual/bedroom prowess?

Do not get mad when your friend wants to "test" your girl. Everyone isn't your friend and share very few with your friends when it comes to your partner.

Just saying.

Nayah:
heheh Mrs Chima!!! sure she's caring!!

Excuse the post above. Hey Nayah!

[quote author=James-dman link=topic=810180.msg9624677#msg9624677 date=1322150854]My O my! Luvin diz shade of Mrs. Chima's nature. She's sounding so sympathetic n caring, Vry unlike her trademark 'aggressive' n 'male-bullyin' nature. Prolly, coz the bone of contention affects 1 of her fav. Nlander. *winks*[/quote]STFU and go choke on my nuts.  Aggressive enough for you?