mekaboy:

 PLEASE GUYS, IF YOU CANT TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF , PLEASE TRY AND FORGET WOMEN AND FOCUS TO BE MORE COMFORTABLE BEFORE CHASING BABES. IF NOT YOU WILL HAVE GREY HAIR AT AN EARLY STAGE.

YOU GUYS ARE ACTING LIKE A RICH GUY HAS NOTHING ELSE TO OFFER BESIDES MONEY, A GUY CAN HAVE ALL THE GOOD QUALITIES YOU MENTIONED AND STILL BE RICH AND WILLING TO SPEND.

SO IF A GUY WHO IS COMFORTABLE MEETS A GIRL AND IS TAKING HER OUT ON THE FIRST DATE AND TAKES HER TO A CLASSY RESTURANT WHERE THEY SELL WHERE A BOTTLE OF COKE IS SOLD FOR 10K  , NOW PENDO MAY SAY THIS GUY IS TRYING TO IMPRESS ME WITH HIS MONEY SO I DONT WANT HIM, MEANWHILE HE IS JUST TAKING HIM TO A PLACE WHERE HE FEELS A PRETY GIRL LIKE HER DESERVES.

HAVE YOU EVER LOOKED AT IT FROM THIS POINT OF VIEW. IF A GUY TAKES YOU TO A FANCY RESTURANT OF CLASS, SPENDS MONEY ON YOU, MAYBE HE IS SIMPLY TRYING TO TELL YOU THAT A GIRL LIKE YOU DESERVES BETTER. HE MIGHT NOT JUST BE TRYING TO IMPRESS YOU, HE IS TRYING TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH HE VALUES YOU.

WHATS WRONG WITH SPENDING MUCH ON A GIRL TO WIN HER? YOU SPEND TO GET WHAT YOU VALUE, WHY DO PEOPLE LEAVE THE UNIVERSITY IN NIGERIA AND SPEND MILLIONS TO STUDY ABROAD? ITS BECAUSE THEY PLACE SO MUCH VALUE ON THE SCHOOL AND ARE WILLING TO SPEND TO GET IT.

OK, A GUY DOES NOT WANT TO SHOW HIS WALLET BUT WANTS TO WIN A GIRL. NOW HE HAS TO LOOK GOOD= MONEY.
SMELL GOOD= MONEY.
CALL OFTEN= MONEY
TRANSPORT  = MONEY.
A NICE GUY WHO IS FUN , HAS JOKES  WITHOUT MONEY          VS  A NICE GUY WHO  IS FUN HAS JOKE AND MONEY    WHO WOULD YOU WANT A GIRL TO CHOOSE ?

WHAT DO YOU MEAN A GUY SHOWS HIS WALLET TO IMPRESS A GIRL?  HE MIGHT TO SPEND THE MONEY ON THE GIRL TO IMPRESS HER BUT HE STILL SPENDS THE MONEY ON HIMSELF TO IMPRESS HER.   EITHER WAYS, HE IS SPENDING.
SO IF A GUY SPENDS MONEY ON CLOTHS, PERFUME, FURNISH HIS HOUSE , BUYS A NICE PHONE. IF HE GOES TO CHASE A GIRL AND BRINGS HIS PHONE OUT AND ITS EXPENSIVE, PENDO WILL SAY HE IS SHOWING OFF.   IF HE SMELLS GOOD YOU WILL SAY HE IS SHOWING OFF.
BUT IF HE DOES NOT LOOK GOOD IN THE FIRST PLACE WILL YOU LIKE TO GIVE HIM THE CHANCE TO IMPRESS YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE?

THE DEMAND FOR MONEY IN NIGERIA NOW IS BECOMING SO MUCH, SO A GIRLS RATHER GO WITH NICE GUYS WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF THEM.

DONT SAY THAT GUYS WHO HAVE MONEY TO SPEND ARE NOT FUN, AFTER ALL SOME OF THEM, BEFORE THEY BECAME RICH THEY WERE BROKE , SO THEY CAN BE RICH AND FUN WITH ALL THE LISTED QUALITIES AT THE SAME TIME.

I DONT SEE ANYTHING BAD WITH A GUY SPENDING MUCH TO WIN A GIRL, IF HE SPENDS MUCH ON HER IT MEANS HE BELIEVES SHE IS WORTH THE MONEY.

SO WHEN GIRLS IN NIGERIA EXPECT A GUY TO SPEND MONEY ON THEM, THEY SIMPLY WANT TO KNOW HOW MUCH HE VALUES HER. AND THE BIBLE SAYS "WHERE YOU MONEY IS = WHERE YOUR HEARTH IS" IF YOUR HEARTH IS ON A GIRL THEN YOU MONEY SHOULD BE ON HER TOO.

THERE ARE ALOT OF GIRLS OUT THERE, JUST FIND YOUR LEVEL. DOES IT MAKE SENSE FOR A BROKE GUY TO GO AFTER A BROKE GIRL ? IF THE GUY WAS THE GIRL KNOWING THE PROBLEMS THAT COME WITH POVERTY, WOULD HE DATE A BROKE GUY ?

THE MAJOR ADVANTAGE OF HAVING MONEY.
1, A RICH/COMFORTABLE GIRL CAN EASILY DATE A BROKE OR RICH GUY.
2, A RICH/COMFORTABLE GUY CAN EASILY DATE A RICH OR BROKE GIRL.
BUT A BROKE GIRL WILL FIND IT HARD DATING A BROKE GUY WITHOUT SUPPORT FROM A RICH CHAIRMAN.
A BROKE GUY WILL FIND IT HARD DATING A BROKE GIRL WITHOUT SUPPORT FROM YAHOO, SUGAR MUMMY, KIDNAPING OR ARMED ROBBERY  
SO THE BROKE GUYS WILL HAVE TO GO FOR THE RICH, WHILE THE RICH CAN DECIDE IF THEY WANT BROKE OR RICH .

pendo89:

lol @ God like advise

But chill cz that wasnt directed at 'you basildon' but any guy who believes without money they stand no luck. Look at the other side is all am saying but you know what? I learnt its impossible in nigeria.It works for you cz your in UK. That is the pic mekaboy is painting. I accept it.
Okay a forum is where you just voice but dont expect everybody to agree with you. Truth is I know a number of guys can score on this but for argument sake they will just talk. Including mekaboy.
You know I had a few threads from the romance section in mind while typing that BB issue so dont get mad, Ignore.

MRbrownJAY:

@Basildon
ok yeah i can be judgmental someday but the fact remains that this issue can only be wrong for US (men).

i often go to classy places (just like Mc Ds ) with dates, not because i want to impress but because I LIKE TO EAT IN SUCH PLACES, and therefore i wouldnt mind if someone tags along (remember i never said that eating in a great place was wrong). now, if that same damsel is hungry and i am not, i sure WONT pay for dinner, and if i was crazy enough to do so, i sure wouldnt take her to such classy places. do you understand my point? i can only put my hand in my pocket WHEN I WANT TO, not because it is a requirement in the union.

IF A WOMEN CANT LOVE YOU AS A POOR MAN, THEN SHE HAS NO BUSINESS BEING IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU FINALLY BECOME RICH!!!!!

mekaboy:

[b]  PLEASE GUYS, IF YOU CANT TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF , PLEASE TRY AND FORGET WOMEN AND FOCUS TO BE MORE COMFORTABLE BEFORE CHASING BABES. IF NOT YOU WILL HAVE GREY HAIR AT AN EARLY STAGE.

That word care means a lot but I think its wise not to do crazy things like steal/sell bikes,loan to impress somebody.extreme

YOU GUYS ARE ACTING LIKE A RICH GUY HAS NOTHING ELSE TO OFFER BESIDES MONEY, A GUY CAN HAVE ALL THE GOOD QUALITIES YOU MENTIONED AND STILL BE RICH AND WILLING TO SPEND. 

Oh yes they do.I wont tell a story and many other more,but they do.

SO IF A GUY WHO IS COMFORTABLE MEETS A GIRL AND IS TAKING HER OUT ON THE FIRST DATE AND TAKES HER TO A CLASSY RESTURANT WHERE THEY SELL WHERE A BOTTLE OF COKE IS SOLD FOR 10K  , NOW PENDO MAY SAY THIS GUY IS TRYING TO IMPRESS ME WITH HIS MONEY SO I DONT WANT HIM, MEANWHILE HE IS JUST TAKING HIM TO A PLACE WHERE HE FEELS A PRETY GIRL LIKE HER DESERVES.
HAVE YOU EVER LOOKED AT IT FROM THIS POINT OF VIEW. IF A GUY TAKES YOU TO A FANCY RESTURANT OF CLASS, SPENDS MONEY ON YOU, MAYBE HE IS SIMPLY TRYING TO TELL YOU THAT A GIRL LIKE YOU DESERVES BETTER. HE MIGHT NOT JUST BE TRYING TO IMPRESS YOU, HE IS TRYING TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH HE VALUES YOU.
Now YOU SURE MAKE SENSE.Who is disputing that? A guy who loves his girl will give her the best. He will dine and wine with her in the best of places he can afford. Who wouldnt do that? If you have the money to spend please do cz if you don't then you are very mean to her and yourself. I personaly hate mean people.

WHATS WRONG WITH SPENDING MUCH ON A GIRL TO WIN HER?
There's nothing wrong in spending on a girl.But there's something wrong in wooing through cash.Look here Meka,Taking her on a date and spending on her means you have impressed her already. .Which girl would agree to go on a date with a strange guy she feels nothing for unless its a blind date? The spending you are talking about here is coming later after you have done your thing (impressing) no? You sweet talked her,you charmed your way into her heart,you complimented her dressing,you made her laugh,you taught her a thing or two  before you finally asked her out. You get it?

YOU SPEND TO GET WHAT YOU VALUE, WHY DO PEOPLE LEAVE THE UNIVERSITY IN NIGERIA AND SPEND MILLIONS TO STUDY ABROAD? ITS BECAUSE THEY PLACE SO MUCH VALUE ON THE SCHOOL AND ARE WILLING TO SPEND TO GET IT.

OK, A GUY DOES NOT WANT TO SHOW HIS WALLET BUT WANTS TO WIN A GIRL. NOW HE HAS TO LOOK GOOD= MONEY.

SMELL GOOD= MONEY.

CALL OFTEN= MONEY

TRANSPORT  = MONEY.
Now all that is supposed to be the normal way of living. Men,women,old people do that.


A NICE GUY WHO IS FUN , HAS JOKES  WITHOUT MONEY VS  A NICE GUY WHO  IS FUN HAS JOKE AND MONEY    WHO WOULD YOU WANT A GIRL TO CHOOSE ?
They are both nice.They have to work hard to score with me. There's a lot to consider here like his potential and ability to secure a job as well so this comparison is not fair. If I want quick money and easy life NOW of course the latter.

WHAT DO YOU MEAN A GUY SHOWS HIS WALLET TO IMPRESS A GIRL?  HE MIGHT TO SPEND THE MONEY ON THE GIRL TO IMPRESS HER BUT HE STILL SPENDS THE MONEY ON HIMSELF TO IMPRESS HER.   EITHER WAYS, HE IS SPENDING.

SO IF A GUY SPENDS MONEY ON CLOTHS, PERFUME, FURNISH HIS HOUSE , BUYS A NICE PHONE. IF HE GOES TO CHASE A GIRL AND BRINGS HIS PHONE OUT AND ITS EXPENSIVE, PENDO WILL SAY HE IS SHOWING OFF.   IF HE SMELLS GOOD YOU WILL SAY HE IS SHOWING OFF.
BUT IF HE DOES NOT LOOK GOOD IN THE FIRST PLACE WILL YOU LIKE TO GIVE HIM THE CHANCE TO IMPRESS YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE?

There's a big difference there.You remind me of a girl who argued that girls also spend money on dates because she buys herself new clothes and makeup to look good for her date,so no guy ought to complain that hes paying dinner alone. Do you agree with that? I am sure ul say no.
Lemmie show u the differ. If you spend cash on urself ,you improve on your general appearance which plays a role in attraction. What the girl see is a well groomed,nice smelling gentleman. Now is that all he brings to the table? Can he talk to impress? his clothes wont compliment me,his perfume wont make me laugh,not his well furnished house either or car. They make life easy but they dont wipe tears or make laugh.
It's what comes out of his head that draws me close. The opposite is also true. A shady dressed character lacking conversation skills will not impress either. That should tell you its not really your overall appearance which money can fix well but what comes out of that expensively groomed character.



THE DEMAND FOR MONEY IN NIGERIA NOW IS BECOMING SO MUCH, SO A GIRLS RATHER GO WITH NICE GUYS WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF THEM.
You make the girls sound desperate.Cant a girl take care of herself? If I can take care of myself I will look for a guy who can take care of me. simple.

DONT SAY THAT GUYS WHO HAVE MONEY TO SPEND ARE NOT FUN, AFTER ALL SOME OF THEM, BEFORE THEY BECAME RICH THEY WERE BROKE , SO THEY CAN BE RICH AND FUN WITH ALL THE LISTED QUALITIES AT THE SAME TIME.
yes yes. I told you I dont need to tell u a story but I know moneyed,nice and fun guys to be with.They dont even flash

I DONT SEE ANYTHING BAD WITH A GUY SPENDING MUCH TO WIN A GIRL, IF HE SPENDS MUCH ON HER IT MEANS HE BELIEVES SHE IS WORTH THE MONEY.
What happened to using your head? Must money do the talking. You cant sweet talk a girl or charm your way into her heart without buying her chicken?

SO WHEN GIRLS IN NIGERIA EXPECT A GUY TO SPEND MONEY ON THEM, THEY SIMPLY WANT TO KNOW HOW MUCH HE VALUES HER. AND THE BIBLE SAYS "WHERE YOU MONEY IS = WHERE YOUR HEARTH IS" IF YOUR HEARTH IS ON A GIRL THEN YOU MONEY SHOULD BE ON HER TOO.
Halo!! stop misquoting bible That is not the right interpretation. So men who spend their money on LovePeddlers have their hearts there as well?
crazy mekaboy.

THERE ARE ALOT OF GIRLS OUT THERE, JUST FIND YOUR LEVEL. DOES IT MAKE SENSE FOR A BROKE GUY TO GO AFTER A BROKE GIRL ?
What is it you are searching for? poverty/rich is not happiness rem

IF THE GUY WAS THE GIRL KNOWING THE PROBLEMS THAT COME WITH POVERTY, WOULD HE DATE A BROKE GUY ?
Why talk as if all girls are poor and needy.Rich and poor girls alike need love you know.

THE MAJOR ADVANTAGE OF HAVING MONEY.

1, A RICH/COMFORTABLE GIRL CAN EASILY DATE A BROKE OR RICH GUY.

2, A RICH/COMFORTABLE GUY CAN EASILY DATE A RICH OR BROKE GIRL.

BUT A BROKE GIRL WILL FIND IT HARD DATING A BROKE GUY WITHOUT SUPPORT FROM A RICH CHAIRMAN.
Ok this will need evidence. I wont push that further. But there's this guy raising a family under a bridge.Isnt that true love baked in poverty?

A BROKE GUY WILL FIND IT HARD DATING A BROKE GIRL WITHOUT SUPPORT FROM YAHOO, SUGAR MUMMY, KIDNAPING OR ARMED ROBBERY 
see now your justifying criminal activities

SO THE BROKE GUYS WILL HAVE TO GO FOR THE RICH, WHILE THE RICH CAN DECIDE IF THEY WANT BROKE OR RICH .
Your mind needs a makeover,You are saying a broke guy has no choice whatsoever on whom to date? That is encouraging laziness cz its a 'give up on trying mentality'

IN ADDITION.

BOTH RICH AND BROKE GUYS - HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON= GAMES(CHEATING). A RICH GUY CAN CHASE A GIRL JUST BECAUSE HE WANTS TO SLEEP WITH HER, AND A POOR GUY CAN ALSO CHASE A GIRL JUST BECAUSE HE WANTS TO SLEEP WITH HER. IT WILL BE BETTER FOR THE GIRL TO FALL FOR THE RICH GUY AND DISCOVER HE JUST WANTED TO SLEEP WITH HER, THAN FALL FOR THE BROKE GUY AND FIND OUT HE JUST WANTED TO SLEEP WITH HER.  

I say again your mind needs a makeover. Neither is good. some strange diseases cant tell the differ btwn rich or poor.Either way players are dangerous  

ANOTHER REASON WHY A GIRL WOULD WANT TO DATE A RICH GUY=  SOMETIMES A BROKE GUY CAN BE SO SWEET TELL YOU NICE STUFF AND WORSHIP YOU, COOK FOR YOU WASH FOR YOU. JUST BECAUSE HE DOES NOT HAVE AN OPTION.BUT AS SOON AS HE BECOMES RICH HE WILL DUMP THE GIRL AND FIND ANOTHER. BUT WHEN A RICH GUY IS NICE TO HER, SHE CAN BE SURE ITS REAL, BECAUSE HE IS ALREADY RICH AND IS BEING NICE OUT OF HIS WILL BECAUSE HE CAN HAVE OTHER GIRLS IF HE WANTS.

Yeah .why didnt you go on to elaborate like you did for the poor guy? You say the poor guy cld become rich and dump his girl.
What if the rich guy loses it all and the girl decides to leave because she cant adjust to a life of poverty? look here if poverty is not permanent then neither is richness.Both circumstances can change in a flash so stop talking as though the rich dude can never lose it and the poor dude can never make it.

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kpolli:

This question can only be answered by the ladies. . .

kpolli:

So r u trying to say we men spend on women because we feel like it?

We spend cos the lady wants us too. . . . Too much money is not worrying us

hasyak:

the process involve in wooing without cash in this country is time wasting, thats when you will be hearing very funny story, "why are always disturbing me", "dont call me i will call you", "my bf is around" and " i will think about it" you will talk talk, you will lie, you will pretend, and you will be at the receiving end, but with money you only need to talk once and your money will do the rest. why do i waste time wooing when i can use the same time to make money and the money will do the talking

mekaboy:

BEFORE WE CONCLUDE THERE MUST BE SOME PRACTICAL EXAMPLES. 
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PENDO I CAN WOO A GIRL WITHOUT MONEY, I HAVE THE QUALITIES, BUT THE QUESTION IS WILL THE GIRL FALL FOR ME ?

I am glad to hear that. She may or may not.
My point is yes there are girls who will love you for who you are.Whatever you do afterwards is up to you. You can spend all you want on her because you already won her heart. You did not buy it.

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coogar:

@ pendo89,

i dunno how things work where you reside but mekaboy has just told you the realities of wooing a babe in nigeria.
don't you ever think he's exaggerating or telling porkies.
you cannot impress any woman without spending in nigeria - even if you are adamant, your siblings or your parents would warn you sternly never to bring such abomination into their home.

without money in nigeria, a man is the same as a decomposing corpse. naija babes won't even sleep with a man if he's broke - that's the reality.
10 different babes wouldn't mind sleeping with a rich bloke - they don't care if their rich boyfriend has other babes in line. as long as he gives them a fraction of his attention - all his good and dandy. your theory can only be achieved in developed countries where couples have the culture of going dutch on dates.

a naija babe does not even go out on dates with her purse - cos she expects the man to pay outrightly!

adconline:

So wooing her  to kidnap her or to keep her as your " sister"?  What are u talking about? "It's often said that money will not buy you everything, but have you ever tried buying without money?" That's when you know the value of money.

pendo89:

of course you need money to buy a girl's love in nigeria . She's not your sis rem.  no?? That is agreed upon and stamped.
No money no girl.

hasyak:


i believe it has been proven beyond any reasonable doubt that MONEY=LOVE here in nigeria for 80%, so when you hear a lady complains about love " he does not care" just know that is either the guy is thru with her or the money is not coming any more

pendo89:

And then ask yourself why an ordinary nigerian guy/BABE on the streets wouldn't do [b]anything [/b]to get rich.I don't blame him/HER at all.
Jobs are not easy to come by and even when he/SHE has a reasonable amount the rich guys/BABES are beating him/HER at the game.
Its a wild society where the rich accumulate resources (including the girls/GUYS) and it takes another richer guy/BABE to take away the resources (girls/BOYS) from him/HER.
In the end its a battle for the richest not the fittest.

adconline:

The right question should be can you get laid without spending?

pendo89:

So what Nollywood shows is true after all. I believe now that everything has monetary value attached to it in nigeria.

2buff:

Foolish boys. 
All that came to my mind during all that calculation is how much money una for don get if una go open restaurant business.
Get your paper first, then look woman side. 

mekaboy:

LOL, I HAVE NOT GIVEN YOU THE COST OF THIS FIRST MEETING INCASE IF THE GUY DECIDES TO SPEND.

THE GIRLS TAXI TO AND FRO THE MEETING PLACE = 3000

WHEN SHE COMES TO THE RESTAURANT,

YOU ASK HER IF SHE WANTS TO TAKE SOMETHING

SHE SAYS YES, NOT BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO EAT YOUR MONEY, SHE JUST WANTS TO SEE YOUR TABLE MANNERS   SO SHE ORDERS  FRIED RICE CHICKEN AND SALAD FOR HERSELF, AND INSISTS THAT YOU MUST EAT TOO UNLESS SHE WONT.

SO YOU HAVE TO ORDER YOURS.
HER FOOD = 1850
YOUR FOOD= 1650
YOU BOTH SHARE ONE JUICE = 350

OK YOU HAD A NICE TIME, NOW YOU HAVE TO BE A GENTLE MAN, BECAUSE THATS WHAT SHE NEEDS, A CRING AND GENTLE MAN,

SO YOU DONT JUST PUT HER IN THE CAB AND LET HER GO ALONE

YOU ENTER THE SAME CAB WITH HER AND STOP AT HER HOSTEL, IF YOU IMPRESSED HER SHE WILL TELL YOU HER ROOM NUMBER.

YOUR TRANSPORT TO THE VENUE, ASSUMING YOU ENTERED 2 BUSES OR 3 = 500

THEN FROM HER HOSTEL , ITS LATE YOU HAVE TO TAKE A CAB WITH TRAFFIC = 2500

SHE MIGHT SEND YOU TEXT AND SAY THANK YOU, THEN BUY CREDIT 750 TO CALL HER BACK.

****TOTAL =N10,600*****

NOW A GUY THAT HAS 20K IN HIS ACCOUNT, HOW CAN HE WIN THIS GIRL OVER? SHE HAS NOT ASKED HIM FOR ANYTHING, THIS IS JUST A FIRST MEETING AND SHE IS NOT A GOLD DIGGER.