₦airaland Forum

Some women have male best friends and some men have female best friends. It is all about trust and caliber.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]I beg to differ. . . to be honest.

But maybe it's just me.

So to test it out, write as many romantic phrases as you can (In Yoruba with an English translation too).

Yoruba men, this is a test. . .[/quote]Lawd!

It is pathetic to see some people with all the education in the world are still IGNORANT AND DUMB AS HELL.

LMAO

I knew it! Lebiggestfool, you are busted!

Queensmith, are you causing division and hatred between Blacks on African American site?

I am an American and Queensmith is Nigerian.

Okay, I have answered to the important ones.

To all the haters and manbitches, you can call me whatever you want, it will not change the fact that a White president chose a Black American woman over a slimming pool of educated Black men as third in power.

It is pathetic to see some people with all the education in the world are still IGNORANT AND DUMB AS HELL.

While some of you dumb arse manbitches digging up stale links to prove NOTHING, White and Asian men are STILL dominating the world and top of the totem pole.

Keep bitching and being mad. IDGAF.

TisaBone: Queenie

I dont know I dont have the answers, I'm just a mere mortal. I only try to make a contribution to this world by being the best person that I can possibly to be.

The state of Black America is dismal. I'll tell you why. Crack Cocaine. That's what screwed things up for us. Before this, we had our Martin Luther Kings, our WEB Dubois, Marcus Garvey, Malcolm X, Frederick Douglas, and the list goes on and on. There are so many wonderful things about my people, that I would never have known, unless I would not have sought this information out myself. And when I read books by Ivan Van Sertima and Cheikh Anta Diop, I felt a sense of pride. You see, to many AA's, Africa is just this distant concept. Most really don't grasp the fact that our ancestors lived there not too long ago. We have no knowledge. We don't even know ourselves, or our own greatness. I believe that if Eurocentric Curricula were not pushed so much in the school system, that AA's eyes would begin to really open up.
This is America for God's sake. This land of the free was built on my ancestors' backs. Yet until recently, we have reaped none of the benifits. There needs to be an internal change, and that's what I am committed to doing in my community, not by what I say, but by what I do. Everywhere I go, I try to be an upstanding citezin, and an example to the world, that no, these stereotypes that you hear of AA's are not all true. Albeit you have some of rogues and rascals, but that can't be helped.

We have a long way to go, but I have faith in my AA brothers and sisters.

I love them, even when they embarass me, because I know that a lot of times they don't know any better. People are just a product of their envrironments, and if you have been taught nothing else, but how to "play the system" and live off the bounty of the land (ie. food stamps and other government assistance. lol), because that's what generations of your people have had to do to survive. It's a cycle that keeps repeating itself, and it's hard for it to be broken, but happen that will. You see, for so long, all us AA's knew to do was survive, and when these opportunities began to open up for us, and Jim Crow was lifted, things had changed, yet they had not changed at all. It's a shame that it took affirmative action for them to finally give us a fair chance....and you know what the disgruntled powers that be say? That we use the "race card" and that they have become victims of "reverse discrimination."


But that's another story completely. The point I am trying to make, is yes, AA's have a long way to go, but don't kick a person when they are down. Don't sit there and judge, without offering any solutions. I myself and still trying to figure out the best way to save my people from self hatred and doubt. The only solution that I have come up with, is that when I have children of my own, to teach them about their history, their heritage, and when people would try to make them ashamed of who and what they are, to fight ignoreance with intelligence and love, and kindness for their bretheren.

I hear you sista.

ZUBY77: If the man is Igbo, you have no problem. If he is yoruba, you are in for a serious trouble. If he is hausa, run for your life.

LMAO.

abbey621: @Ms.Chima - Your Statistics are correct but also misleading, the American laws favors the whites and the female blacks, everything from job advancement to rebates. The black men in the U.S have been stigmatized to the extent that they feel the only way to make it is by doing something illegal or relying on total support from their female spouse. Strong black men are certainly not on the bottom of the totem pole in America, because there's no such thing as a strong black man in America, they are all weaklings, except for a few who are able to rise above the limitations. I for one, I'm certainly not intimidated by any woman, in fact I encourage women to go out there and excel, at the end of the day, the role of the woman can never go beyond supporting a man to build a fully functional family.

Nice one.

abbey621: @Dayokanu - Stop spreading false statistics! You people need to stop showing ignorance, the elites in America still remains largely Caucasians and Asians. The entire black population is less than 14% and the educated ones are less than 50% of the black population. Since African immigrants are classified under the black population, there's no way they can be wealthier or more educated than other Americans. It's sad when we aim to support our arguments with useless articles (www.good.is).

Chile! When I read that I laughed so hard and posted it on Facebook. That is the funniest thing I have read since yesterday!

Well, you know they have funny math in America so according to funny math logic, a handful of African Immigrants earns more than Whites and Asians collectively! (Trying not to laugh so hard)

luckgames: Mrs Chima is a Nigerian woman between the age of 23-30 yrs
Live in the beltway area

Aww. Come here suga.

nene1: @ queensmith: I think Mrs. Chima since she is a black american, is confusing the problems of her black AMERICAN men with AFRICAN black men. How many AFRICAN men in america are unemployed or in jail? Seriosuly, most are married and have stable families and work hard. Of course there are SOME who are not, but they are the minority.

Anyway, I can't answer the OP's question as I am not an african man, however I guess that cultural compatibility might play some role when a Nigerian or other african man is choosing a woman to settle down with. That is if he is someone who cares about his culture and is not completley westernized.

No boo boo, you are confused. I said BLACK MEN (native and foreign) are considered the bottom of the totem pole in America and other countries.

It is okay. You were reading too fast.

MsDarkSkin: Now that's real.. simply amazing!! (that write up).
It's like I said there is ignorance on both sides of the Atlantic.
Who all know better must do better...simple as that.

BTW Chiek Anta Diop is my hero!! I absolutely love what that brother stands for.

Well said Sis. Chiek Anta Diop is an epitome of an astounding ntelligent and exceptional Grade-A AFrican man.

That's how an educated African man represents. Senegal should be proud.

queensmith: Why am i not surprised? Black men don't like to hear the truth- keep teaching them Mrs Chima, they go listen by force!

they strut around as if they are the top of everything, the only thing they top is prison and bas.tard baby rates.

Exactly! And the same manbitches hollered they like hearing the truth! WTF. There is no such thing as selective truth. You don't pick and match what truth you will accept or tell.

[quote author=Area-Fada]Mrs Chima is just the type that gives BW the stereotype of being angry and frustrated people who cannot see anything good in BM.

A caucasion guy married to a Naija woman and beats her black and blue. She was so ashamed to tell us for a long time. We (a black couple) had to persuade them to seek counselling.

I don't know of any BM married to BW who do same.[/quote]I suggest that you read my earlier posts again and take your time. Let me help you.

I said that in America and some countries, BLACK MEN (native and foreign) are CONSIDERED the bottom of totem pole. Where do you see in that sentence "angry" and frustrated"

Now the person whom I have called angry and frustrated DO NOT represent Black people collectively. Get it right.

A White man beating a Black woman HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH society placing Black men on the bottom of the totem pole.

[quote author=Ogidi-Olu]How would u feel if your husband shows disgust when u gain weight during pregnancy? [/quote]That makes it better?

Talkwisdom: For Me,I Miss my ex the most...lets hear yours and be honest with it....

No, I do not miss an ex because he is an ex for a reason. You okay suga?

kwajahafiz: what about the women with pot bellies?. Even young university girls are walking around
totting a beer belly. What is this nonsense?. Nigerian gurls are competing with thier beer
guzzling and poundo devouring men to see who will have a larger stomach..very unsexy to me, apparently
the typical naija man also likes a fat stomach woman, because these girls are getting a lot of play....go figure.

Suga, women are more likely to have a pot belly because THEY CARRY BELLE. Even if a woman exercise everyday and maintain a healthy diet, if she becomes pregnant, the stomach will change.

What excuse does a man have?

OP

Encourage your man by exercising with him. Prepare nutritious meals and stay away from fatty food and eateries.

LMAO@must have enough money to get anything from a woman.

A man should NEVER admit that VERBALLY.

fubbyy: You never loved the guy,by the way whats wrong with being fat? Girls and complaining,he's too fat,he's too skinny,he's too short,he's too tall,he's too ugly,i'v even seen a girl complaining he's ton handsome, baba, wetin be all dis sef

LMAO@complained he is too handsome.

Some people are just petty and petty people will die alone.

We have several gay Nigerian men on site.

Awe and Fagst.

rokiatu: I feel nothing, I get it way too much to feel flatter or embarrassed.

Awww. You too?!!

JgregeJung: BRAVO!! IGWEEEEEEEEEEEEEE .... BRAVO!! ^^
Thx for repping African professionals in the diaspora. Now back to business, men only as per OP.

Koyoke and SAFO are African professionals in America and they represent their people with high standards and joy.

Thank goodness for the good and happy ones.

Amu Igwe: resident rabid akata hag ^

Whatever.

Someone came on here looking for honest input from Nigerian men and you are all over the place, polluting the thread with your insecurities. Everyone on here already knows what you are, so stop the madness. You can highlight, embolden, enlarge and scream all you want. Just don't come here trying to stunt on village brethren with your delusions of grandeur because your dumb [i]a[/i]ss will get shut down on your silly lies. I notice you could not even refute a single fact I stated. Do you have a brain at all, or are you ghetto queens just full of umbilical cords? You demented sl[i]a[/i]ves are just too funny. How about you try jump-starting some synapses in your empty skull and make a cogent argument for once? Feel free to take time out from sitting on your fat [i]a[/i]ss all day spawning degenerate bastards to enroll in some remedial classes with your welfare checks.

Akpa akpu..

LMAO@this 300 lb impotent and elderly bush ape calling me an old and fat hag.

Oh my goodness! Did you tell the Embassy that you would use welfare to pay for remedial school?

Sa se pa fot nwen ke ou se yon fatra bon marse i e yo rejte ti touf bwa Maks ki pa t kapab menm tronpe yon akata soti nan No yo.

Why would I refute your [size=44pt]PERSONAL[/size] experience with gutter trash?

You are entitled to share your horrid personal life experience and fester swiftly in it.

Got anymore horrid experiences? Let the anger and frustration out.

TisaBone: Lord Jesus,

let me take a moment to meditate on your goodness. Let everything that comes out of my mouth be to glorify you, and your name. Let nothing spew forth from my mouth that would cause me to not receive your favor. I would also like to pray for those, who are knee deep in iniquities of this world. Lord please forgive them for they know not what they do. Allow those who hate African Americans to understand that we are all brothers and sisters, not only of the black race, but of the human race. Lord Jesus, I am so tired of being a victim of shame. They are putting me in a class with a bad name. I can't save this world, but if I could, Lord you know I would, because there is too much hatred, and killing as it is. But while we are down here, we may as well make the most of this life. Allow us to not hate our neighbors, but to love them. When they smack my cheek, I will turn the other. When they ask for my shoes, I give them my coat. If they are full of hatred, I will be fill them with love. Amu Igwe, I love you so much. I am going to pray for you tonight.Forgive this man, lord jesus, for he knows not what he says.

Bless your heart.

Deolaw: Mrs..Chima: No man even the husband has the right to
look/stare at a woman's bosoms nor butt.

^any reference to that?

What do you mean?

Hit Seun up on his Facebook page. I seen Seun's picture. Nice lipgloss.

Phate

Just tolerate the new NL for the time being. Seun escaped from Yaba Left.