₦airaland Forum

MsDarkSkin: Lolz....is patois much different from pidgin?

Don't forget that Gabry, an Asian chick....speak pidgin wella wella.

I hear that Igbo and Hausa men love breasts.

I am having a difficult time wrapping the concept with the personal ability and yet still expect support from womenfolk.

Isn't support the same thing as receiving help Did the updated the dictionary?

ifyalways: Lol @ Men liberation front.

@OP, I believe that is an individual, personal trait that cuts across all race or tribe. I'm a woman but find myself guilty of some of the things you posted ;being too hard on myself and locking up myself in the face of difficulties. My family and friends tried unsuccessfully to change me or make me open up but it didn't work, if anything then, their consistence prying/questions got me more mad. All that changed when I met and married my husband. He just wouldn't disturb himself or worry too much. He'll ask you just once and if you are not forthcoming with an answer, he'll go his merry way, lifes too short.

Long story short, I was forced to share me problems/fears/failures with him when I got tired of trying on my own without getting positive results.

Some people(not just igbo men)are naturally cocky,delights in self accomplishments etal, the best way to live/deal with them is to leave an open door, let them know you'd be willing to share their problems with them ONLY if and when they are ready to tell you.

Over dotting, prying, worrying too much over and about them does not work.

Goodluck with your man.

Good points. I have known men that weren't Igbos shown same characteristics as OP explained. For most points...it is a man's thing.

(playing the violin off key)

nne3870: surely he has noticed u, u dn't nid 2 insult me. Ezi ofia

yorubaamerican: I said I DON'T speak Yoruba...Language is about interest and need. I don't really have the interest because the need isn't there; nearly everyone in Nigeria speaks English. I wish my father had taught me Yoruba, he speaks it very, very well!

Hmm.

yorubaamerican: "If I don't remember anything I have learned....I remember not to utter, think, behave, speak, dance, or write DIVORCE."

Oh my! How does your family feel about the Nigerian connection?

They have no issues at all and when they call the house...they speak to him before they speak to me!

yorubaamerican: I've had no problem adapting and accepting...Being accepted by people born and raised in Nigeria is another story...The problem is, while Ibadan is my origin, it doesn't account for my full african hertiage. I do embrace Ibadan as part of my roots, it's just not the whole story! I can't change the fact that I don't fit in all the way with Ibadan/Yoruba culture - I've been there twice and I don't speak Yoruba. That still doesn't stop me from calling myself yoruba!

Did your father teach you the Yoruba language?

yorubaamerican: A little bit of both. Since I've been here for over four and half years, I've been able to adapt very well. There are still many things I don't know but I think I understand the general things needed for life in Nigeria...All they were worried about is did I bring dollars!

Do y'all have children? How do you two go about teaching them both cultures? Has it been challenging?

LMAO@did you bring dollars. Typical.

Matter of fact, surprisingly we do not have an issue with combining teachings of what it is necessary and we are working on a little team. He wants all boys and I am trying to throw a couple of girls in there. Although...he is Igbo American...he practices his culture/tradition and I have no issues with it. I had to go through training with the elder sisters before marriage although I knew them as friends beforehand.

If I don't remember anything I have learned....I remember not to utter, think, behave, speak, dance, or write DIVORCE.

No...it has not been challenging...my husband is Igbo American and I knew his family before we even got serious.

yorubaamerican: LOL!! Not quite...I don't eat meat. Eba? I prefer pounded yam!

You don't eat meat?!!!!!! I figured you would say pounded yams.

yorubaamerican: No. She's from Akwa Ibom...Ibibio is the tribe and he is...He really is! What part of Nigeria is your husband from?

He is Igbo. How does her family feel about you being Yoruba American? Did they welcome you with open arms and treated you like their long lost son?

Look on the bright side....at least you can bring your family back and forth unlike some people.

It is good to be able to travel a country without feeling like you have to pass a Trig/Quantum Phy. exam!

yorubaamerican: Not things...PEOPLE...Shame on me as an English teacher...LOL!

That eba and suya had you tripping huh?

yorubaamerican: Yes ma'am! She was born and raised in Nigeria...Her and my son are probably the only two things that make me not regret coming to this country.

Awwwww. Is she Yoruba like you? I bet your son is cute.

yorubaamerican: Okay...It must be the south!

No comment! Are you married?

yorubaamerican: Gotcha! What part of the states do y'all live in?

That's classified information suga.

Hint: It is hot as hell where we at now!

yorubaamerican: Where are you from?

I am in America and I am not Nigerian but my husband is.

yorubaamerican: I go back and forth from Abuja to Adamawa State. I've been to Ibadan (where my father is from), Kaduna, Bauchi, Gombe, and Jos. I've only had the chance to go through Lagos - just the airports.

Cool. Lagos is more congested than New York City!!! Whoooweeee!!!

Actions does it for me.

sexylogan: My mom is British. Does that make me a 'foreigner'?

YUp! But you still my suga.

I ask my husband for money all the time.

yorubaamerican: There are many Nigerians, young and old, who emulate Americans and American culture on a daily basis...I can spot the actors a mile away. People who don't understand what it means to be an African-American who has had the opportunity to know at least one side of his true African identity - I'm talking about myself - need help! Global indeed!

I hear what you are saying however...the "acting something" is ignorant to me. People need to be more specific when they are making references to an individual person without basing a whole country, tribe, religion, and region.

If they have an issue with your attitude then they should have been more concise by saying, "you think you are arrogant" then that would mean the person had some formal education/training.

It is almost saying, "you are suicidal like Chinese people" ....what Chinese people have to do with YOU

Madness!

yorubaamerican: "Another hint, Nigerian guys consider it gay for a man to speak like Oyibo"

I've been here for over four and a half years and haven't heard this...Good info., I think...LOL!!

What part of Nigeria have you stayed or staying?

I have been to Lagos and Abuja.

Good question.

MarcAnthon: Funny place. Nairaland doesn't really change, does it?

You didn't change either.

What the hell is "acting American" Is that the same thing as me telling Chima he is "acting African"

Ignorance is definitely global.