koyyes:

This is what happens when people hook up for the wrong reasons. Marriage these days is no longer what it was intended to be. People are only after their selfish interests hence,the appalling comments you are reading on this thread. That is why every woman should be empowered. Marriage empowers no one. It is over rated.[i][/i]

Registered! Thank you!

veraiyke:
I stand by what I have said. I will be the last person to disrespect my woman and treat her as trash. Nobody says you should not be career minded and independently rich. If you like own the house your husband lives in which of course I can't be such a man not man enough to run his own hard earned home, act like that woman who will go to a nonsense vigil for a nonsense reason without mutual agreement with her husband, you will face worse in your life even if you have money. And then you will come to realise that even with your riches and independence there's something called attitude and value

a divorce is a legal termination of a marriage contract between two adults- man and woman. I will joyfully oblige any man that chooses to divorce me because I went for a religious reason. Like I went to pray with his notice albeit without full consent! Lool. Let the divorce come! As long as he pays alimony and be responsible for his children. It's just appalling, how can you "sack" (whatever that means) a woman because she went out to pray for her life and family? because almighty husband didn't put a stamp on it very soon, men will start sacking wives for even shaking bum while she walks. Lool. Can't deal with this crass and crude mentality mehn. Is she a slave? Mtsheww... lemme just keep quiet. Lol

koyyes:

The golden rule says 'Do unto others what you want to be done to you'. African bros no gree o and we still wonder why we are backward

well, the goodnews now is not every woman gives a hoot! How can people even support "sacking" a woman because she "disobeyed" and went to pray. She wasn't even given the dignity of a divorce. I'm sure she wasn't married officially and the man is a dead beat. KMT!

koyyes:

And on what ground does a man have the right to divorce his wife? If you knew any better, you wouldn't have uttered this statement. Ignorance.

crass, crude,delusional and ignorant. And they all gushing like he did something great. Smh! A woman will forgive a cheating husband but a man can't forgive a woman that goes to pray? Lool.. Africa, my Africa. *sigh

daretodiffer:
Stupid people.

This is what a law would prevent. Imagine someone sending you out of 'his house'. If she had her own home, he wouldn't do what he did.

thank you! They will enslave a woman to the extent that going to a Church, not club oo will make her be sent out. Is she a child? So, he can't reason with her and talk to her like a human being? Things people support is funny. I'm sure there was no registry marriage whatsoever. Even if there is, the man is too poor for anything. Poverty makes men paranoid and insecure. She dares not ask for a vacation, oga will send her to her grave. Silliness!

Bibors:
Nigerian women destroying their homes in the guise of women rights, privileges and independence.
A wise woman builds her home but the foolish tears it down with her OWN hands.

did she go partying? Clubbing? She went to church!!!! My goodness! She is the wife and also an adult!!! She informed him. How will a man stop his wife from going to pray? Seriously? Is that what being married is all about? So because she is married she can't have the privilege to what she believes again? Seriously? Wht type of man stops his wife from praying for herself and her family even if it's 2months? Smh! Can't deal plss..

veraiyke:
Act like that woman n u too will c d exit door. Whether ur independent or not dnt let church nonsense spoil ur marriage.

lool. Sometimes I try to imagine how you men see women when it comes to marriage. Dear men, not every woman is desperate to be married and stay married! Lool. Exit door? So? Will she die? Will it stop her from making money? Will it reduce her libido? If a man can't use his position as the head wisely-making immediate rash decision because he is the "head" then the woman can as well leave with all befitting benefits. That's if the man can even feed himself. Smh! That's why I keep screaming that women shd do themselves a favor and do registry wedding even before traditional wedding. At least, the man will be responsible enough to think about his actions and inactions. How do you send a woman out because she went to church for two days? So every crime committed should lead to her packing out? What if she owns the house? African men ehen. Dear women, don't be vulnerable! I repeat, do not put yourself at the disadvantage end in a marriage; you will be sent out and you will be helpless. Madness.

Are you sure you aren't passing through the adult version of the child's disorder? You seem very paranoid for no apparent reason. #JustCurious

uboma:



Are you a trained 'child psychologist'? If no, please keep your opinions to yourself. Let those properly trained in 'child psychology' diagnose the actual problem of the child.

I await the op's response to my questions.

.... and it's your duty to make them "behave"(whatever that means) by beating them huh? gerrahaere.. just gerrahere mehn

Watsoneology:
You are wrong bro
Ask what lead to slap

Some ladies only understand strong hand

Use strong hand and dey will behave

Am nt saying dt man shld use strong hand on d Lady
No No no

But ask what lead to the slap First

Some Ladies only behave well when u Lay hands on them

utenwuson:
I grow up wt my elder bro, we live 2geda b4 he even get married, I don't c y d wife should send me on errand, I do things I want 2 do, like take my bro cloths to laundry, wash his car @ tyms, I even cook cos she was friendly, d moment she started seeing it dt is mandatory I help her I quit helping her, I will voluntarily mess up d whole place dts how we guys tend to grow, even mum cnt send me wen she s hard on me, but I can do anything 4 her wen she sound nice n friendly

voluntarily? You mean deliberately? Lol. Funny you. Maybe you are ready to marry your bro. Smh!

Secret of the sand.... Ft Ruth and Rachel
When you are mine... ft diego and Paloma

Bleachers republic. Whatever gives the orgasmm.

Loool. I know your type. When you love-up now ehen... you will even put everything you have in the name of your wife. All u need is a great sexx .

Excuzeme:


It is first and foremost, a matter of CHOICE......... and then secondly a matter of AGREEMENT!

if a woman thinks she can use is as a weapon of Blackmail, subtle or not, then it becomes an act of coercion, which in most cases has already sown the seed of destruction (of such marriage!)

As they say, "Cunny-Man die, Cunny-man bury-am"

Woow. That's new. Every other person knows that the law in Nigeria for marriage favors the man more. It's an open secret. So, i'm gobsmacked to hear that it was created by "feminist" according to you. In Nigeria (which happens to be my location at the moment and casestudy too) unless the estate is jointly owned, no judge will hand over such to the woman. What the law simply do in Nigeria is to secure the woman against injustice especially from the in-laws and ill treatment from the man which every well-meaning man shouldn't object to. Seriously, do people still marry in 2016 without going to the registry? That's like the first thing naa. It's a rule of thumb. Oh well..

Sunymoore:

I'll run away from registry because, the laws are created by some bigoted heavy feminist! I'll not want a situation where I'll divide half of my money with someone whereby, I'm the only person that worked for it. I don't want to lose my house and my car and also pay monthly due to some lazy fellow... I strongly dislike to halved my retirement money with another person.
These are my reasons... So, without the registry, I'm free of these and I can still do what I'm responsible to do...

We are saying the same thing. All the things you stated that you will do for her are the same things expected of you Legally! So why run away from the registry? Let me guess.. you don't want to he held responsible for them. You want it to be done at your whim and caprices. The day you happen not to be in a great mood, you won't do the "needful". The law isn't against anyone, it's just to secure the rights of people! If you are so sure u'll do all what you stated, then you have no business running away from the registry. Oh well, talk is cheap.

Sunymoore:

Exhales...
Yes! I'll not allow anyone to go with money!
First of all, she bore US kids, in fact, there's high chances of her to benefit from the kids than I.. So the kids are OUR own..
And I stayed with her when she has no money as well! Offering only her ****to the table while I provide everything! But that's not a problem to me, since the society expects such from me..
What is to get married? Isn't not a legal Union between man and woman to become husband and wife? Anything else? No! I guess..
Look lady, I'm independent, I believe in my self, and so far, is working! Yes! We are technically one! I didn't say, she should not make her money.. She should work if she likes, but her money stays with her, she can do whatever she feels like doing, it's her property, but that's will not stop me from fulfilling all her financial needs and wants...
Saying no to registry is an easy way to protect my money! And no, my in-laws will not try that with me, and even in even of separation between I and her, I'll make sure, I give her enough money that can sustain her life style, that's if she used it wisely!
I'll not stop her from pursuing her carrier, and I'll make sure I pay child support in case of separation!
Final though! I'll not entrust my life to anyone! Thanks

Sunymoore:

Look lady, I'm a responsible man! But being responsible doesn't make me a fool... So my money stays with me... If I ever marry, I'll treat my wife responsibly but I'll not allow her to go with wealth... I think that's not too much to ask?

Go with your wealth? How? She bore you kids. she stayed with you when you had nothing. Do you even know what it is to be married? A soul-mate, a life-partner. You become one! And who says a woman can't make her own money while married? I'm just against the notion of a man saying he won't go to the registry. For our clime, marriage doesn't favor the woman on it's own. So, saying no registy means you want a slave. Literally. This is because, in laws can interfere and even send the woman packing out leaving her high and dry. If a woman can stay with you, bear your kids, stop her career and the life she has always craved to be married to you. What is money? What is alimony? Why marry someone you don't trust enough to even give all your estates to in the first place? Just saying..

YelloweWest:

No need to pity! Men with this type of reasoning end up with women who will poison them...
How can you get married and still claim "my money " isn't it supposed to be jointly owned in a marriage? Why then does she pack from her father's house to the man place and change her name?

It's really sad the way our young men think and I think we mothers should do more in educating our sons about marriage not just our daughters.

well said. They always meet their match!

hedonistic:


You're the poster girl of uselessness, and it is clearly genetic. Your mother and every female in your bloodline are afflicted. No wonder your father is a hapless cuckold. Filthy thing.

hehehe. You are paranoid. You called women "useless" and I helped with the examples. You should thank me, don't be an ingrate. I'm not surprised at your outburst, I expected worse actually. I mean, what does one expect from someone who publicly refer to all women as "useless". It's the unfortunate women in your life I pity. Scratch that! I don't pity them, they deserve what they get. How much is a condom that they wasted time and resources into someone that publicly put them to shame? Keep ranting son. Cheers!

YelloweWest:


Well said madam. Cos the motivating factor why any man would shy away from court marriage is so that he can behave any how he pleases without any consequences!
Nature has a way of dealing with them...

thank you! To back up their irresponsibilities. I pity women that fall for such scams. Hehhe.

hedonistic:


Can you imagine? These women are useless.

women useless? You mean every woman you know is useless? Your mum,aunt,sisters, daughters (in view perhaps)... woow. That's terrible of them.

Sunymoore:
Who in his right sense will try that shitt? I never try such, I suffered to make my money alone, so I must have full control of my money.. I see no reason why I'll hand over my money and future to one biatchhh..
Marriage is societal expectation, so I'll fulfil it for the society, but handling my money to her? Hell No!

lool. You intend to marry a biatchhh. Good for you .you don't want to go to registry so you can wake up one morning, throw her out after she has stayed with you through thick and thin for 20yrs? Lool. Funny. People like you eventually get ur match. All the best in your quest bro.

Thank you. Everyone wanna feel entitled. Smh! So, he can wake up one morning ; kidnap the woman's kids, send her out and nothing will happen. Wicked soul!

Okijajuju1:
Only foolish women will accept this fuckery of a suggestion.


SO you marry her under customary laws and leave the woman with no rights or legal protection whatsoever.. You can kick her and the kids out whenever you please and keep all your money and leave her high and dry abi?

Or when you die, you leave her at the mercies of your family to determine what portion of your asset she gets or not abi?

Of you can marry more wives and add to her and she cant do shit about it abi?

Or you can cheat on her with no consequences abi?






This Thread is the dumbest thread of the year..

Women, If your Husband wants to marry you, let him do court marriage first to show he is serious before una even go do traditional.


The only protection a married woman has in Nigeria is her Court Marriage license.

hensben:
Bitter truth.

Single Ladies face right now...

meaning

duduade:
Abeg I have a sister I can hook that your friend up with...

smh!

igbobuigbo:
Who is not understanding/selfish between the two?

the man! He needs to slow down a little. Haba! The woman has a life too. She can't be living under his shadows for life!

Why not just co-habit? Marriage is not by force naa

Same Lekki? and I didn't hear? Wow. RIP to d dead.

Reyginus:
I don't really think so. The day I got that ban I was told he was viewing the thread. That's the most ridiculous reason I've ever seen in my life for banning a person.

that's disappointing.. oh well

Reyginus:
The forum has become too big that the management fails in the job. I was banned for 'misrepresenting the reason for which I was previously banned'. You can simply leave the forum if you don't get a good response or live with it.

oh wow. Really? And i've been a follower and lover of Nairaland from afar for a while even before I convinced myself to open an account. I choose to believe Seun is oblivious of it all sha. That's the only comforting thing to believe. *sigh

Omexonomy:
you are a leaner my other user name has been m ban is la7t year for coment i never made

but it's wrong! I won't bat an eyelid if actually I made the comment. So, someone will cook up something just to make sure someone else is banned? I don't get.. if i'm banned for life will I die? Will it stop me from opening another account? Seun is too busy for such "frivolities" i'm sure. I won't just understand the crase for such. Can't deal.

Dear @Seun @OAM4J I was unjustly banned for 7days for a comment I didn't make. I think there should be fairness when dealing with people here. Before Nairaland, I have been doing just fine and without it I will be perfectly fine too. I just feel equity, fairness and impartiality should be practised here.

While most get away with derogatory comments made about other people and about their religion, I am being banned for the comment I didn't make.

This is a disclaimer and also a report of injustice. I did not make the statement I was accused of making; I didn't deserve the ban I was given. Thank you.