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madlady:
Melancholic.

im the same as well

hmmmm

welcome and good luck in your search for the right nigerian girl

190, good to hear you have made it to the UK. Be good and all the best

awwwwwwww

LMAO!!!!!

Exactly oooo Tpia! Im starting to pity those Nigerian men which I know as friends in real life here in malaysia whom has never dare sleep around and all he is hoping everyday is a chance to get a good life and to support his own family back home in Nigeria and yet some of these guys go spoil their name!Abeg! Grow up already!

degubi:
Its important that a guy gives money to his girlfriend if she is in need of financial support. E

yes you may be right but I am in no need of financial support naaa


[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=534379.msg6969048#msg6969048 date=1287472546]I just meant that he is going to keep giving it to you out of a right heart motive so maybe all you can do is keep putting it in the bank for you both . I do understand your stand on this and its good for you to be strong like that. I would assume you have spoken to him about how it makes you feel and i also feel that he is doing it out of love, so its tricky cos you are both right. Its a tricky place to be in for you both. I am sure there is a compromise somewhere.[/quote]yes I have told him that and he told me that he cannot help it. You know, the funny thing is I know all of his bank account and the password and he doesnt know mine He even applied for me a supplimentary credit card but up till this date, ive never use a cent. He just keeps going on about his responsibility and he being a man and bla bla. . . I dont quite get that till this date.

odiaero:
@ poster, because u are so broke

No Im not!

ZIM DRILL:
most guys

give money becoz they want the woman to depend on him once she depends on him she will eventually think that she cant live without him

as for the man, by then he has you under control if he says jump you jump all you see is money on him and you dont want to loose that flow of money

Are u that kinda guy?

[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=534379.msg6968364#msg6968364 date=1287456295]Good for you. I like the buying furniture part, hehe!! Good thinking. I really have no idea how you stop him. He seems to be doing it with the right heart and cos he wants to give to you cos he loves you so much. I understand how you feel that you dont want him to feel he has to give it to you and you dont 'need' him to give it to you. Someone may have to compromise here and it may have to be you. Just keep stashing it away.[/quote]U mean keep taking his money and keeping it? I mean seems to me that might be the only choice I have considering he is very very stubborn. . . But you know I honestly feel cheap when he does that. You see, where I come from, the females in my family are all independant women. We work for our own money, we work to support our family and we dont take a dime from anyone. Thats how it is. My mother always tells me that if I depend on my husband for money, that means Im a failure and a looser. She tells me that as a woman in todays century, we must stand on our own two feet no matter what and we must strive on the harships of life. Cause one day if lets say our husbands are gone, who will than take care of us and our children? We must be independant no matter what!

[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=533659.msg6968346#msg6968346 date=1287455464]I apoligise if i offended. Stereotypes of any kind make me a little crazy. [/quote]I use to be that way untill the day I come to discover that people are always bound to judge and say bad things about you no matter what. . . Including your own family. . .

In the end of that day, it got all my emotions work up and it wasted my day. . . So now adays, I dont really want to bother much what people says cause it only will upset you and not make you any better.,

[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=534379.msg6968349#msg6968349 date=1287455552]Yes, he is. The one and only guy i have ever dated outside of my fellow white guys, hehe!![/quote]Ohhhhh!!!! Was it the guy where you mention before he had went to school and he had some communicatio barrier or some sort due to his busy schedule? I hope you both are still together



[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=534379.msg6968349#msg6968349 date=1287455552]Ms. Potato, can you slip back into his wallet when he is asleep or in the shower? Maybe set up another account just for the money he gives you then if you get married it will be a nice surprise and spend it on a honeymoon or something for both of you.[/quote]LOL! Yes, Ive done that many times and he found out and find sneaky ways to even give me more money. Well, at times Im so proud of myself for moving really fast. Like recently he ask me if we should change to a different area to stay as he thinks its not safe the place we currently stayed at and I agreed. The next day he got the new place and we both went and look at it and I was happy and satisfied as the place was sooo damn beautiful! So in the afternoon he told me that he would go do some work and than to school and the next day he would go buy furnitures. So I took the opportunity to buy all the furnitures that day using the money he gave me!! HAHA! I have opened a seperate bank acct and whenever he gives me the money, I would bank it there. The only thing I could do is save that money incase if he needs it for emergency purposes. But I just dont like the thought of him giving me money all the time. He always sends his family money . . . That I dont mind cause its his parents and siblings but Im his gf. Im not his wife. Dont understand why he keeps giving and giving and when I gave him some, he took it offensively. . .

nwadelta:
i got to europe   7 years ago. got married to a white woman and we been married for 5 years. and now i can't stand the sight of her,i waz really crazy about white women untill i got to nigeria 3 months ago and when i got back to europe i can't stand the sight of white ladies anymore. i  really dont want to stay with this woman anymore but when i think of the way she helped me in the past i  feel so bad to take a divorce. i am so unhappy in this marriage and dont know what to do. i really want a live  my life with a black girl. but the  youroba girl  i really want does not want me. i am so depressed.

My bf is shaking his head while reading your post and I bet guys like Sam Milla and Siena would also shake their heads reading your posts!

Seriously, what was that sight that put you off about your wife?

For you to think about the times she has helped you and all, I can see clearly now that the reason why you marry her its because she has helped you in whatever you needed help from her before instead of loving her for who and what she is. You were so blinded by the helping part thats why you got married to her. . . . . ,