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[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=533659.msg6968291#msg6968291 date=1287453270]Im just so tired of the 'fat, ugly, white woman' crap. It would be like me saying 'gold digging black woman', i would never fall to that crap. So tired of it and even more surprised it came from a woman.[/quote]Sorry dear. Dont get angry over that. Its just a general point of view and people tend to focus more on the negative side than the positive . . . Unfortunately. . . . .

pc guru:
Actually Giving is never a big issue for me as long as it's not made as if it's my Right to give.

Have you ever given your gf so much money and when she told u to stop you just kept giving?

nellaluv:
If your boyfriend is Nigerian, it's a Nigerian thing, you won't understand .

Really?




[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=534379.msg6968324#msg6968324 date=1287454578]I dont get it and never will. I have always paid my own way. My ex asked me for money but never gave it cos he says he is always broke. I moved into my parents house cos i have to save for a car as mine died and he still asked me for ticket money to come see me. I was offended as all i work hard for is for my son and providing for us. So i have no idea about all this 'guys paying for everything and girls taking everything'

My previous was a nigerian and in two years i got one birthday gift. I was grateful for that but no other gifts or money as you guys talk about. I think its all a make believe dream.[/quote]Is your ex a Nigerian?

Black girls. WHite girls, Who gives a sh1t!


Anyways, thank God you did not mention Yellow girls

iceblue:
cos guys believe in the law of focus(TM): think of it as a machine shooting tennis balls. as long as the tennis balls keep shooting at the player, she won't lose focus. she'll keep playing. she'll look elsewhere once the balls stop coming.


_{if you've never heard of the law of focus(TM), don't worry. i just invented it} 

Abeg! So u saying girls love money and not their bf?   Might as well they just become pr0st1tut35 dont you think so? Why be that low?   If someone prefer's a person money over them, that is not called love but that is called gold digging. I object to this klinda people at all cost!!!  

2sexy:
Frankly speaking, giving money to a girl is not my priority any more and if you are giving any girl money, do it wisely especially if you are not sure of marrying her.

if you dont intend to marry the girl, why date her in the start?  

2sexy:
A lot of guys who give girls money hardly give to their fellow man when he needs help. This is VERY, VERY WRONG! and this is the trend in Nigeria!

That is true for some guys but not for some other guys. Im not sure if its a trend in Nigeria or not but however I know quite a number of Nigerian guys whom would go back to his family after he has made his cheese and buy for his family a house, a car and lands. So I dont think this applies to every guy in Nigeria

2sexy:
A lot of guys who give out money to their GF do not even know if the girl is in love with them or the money, which is another rounds of foolishness.

If he is not sure whether she loves him for him or his money, likes I said earlier, why date her? This is the problem about relationships. Relationships will never work when both has doubts about each other and they keep it to themselves without confronting one another. Whats the point really?

2sexy:
Most of my Nigerian brothers go broke because they want show off to their Gf--foolishness with bliss! Most of this guys do not even know one thing about INVESTMENT, yet they want to be rich. They dream of becoming the next big guy in town. but do they know that money given to GF (WHO IS JUST A PASSER-BY) is worth multiple ROI in the future? NO. BIG TIME DUMMIES! Hence, future wife and children suffer because the head of the family only planned for GF but not for future wife and children.

Well, its not just in Nigeria. Even in other countries, we have guys behaving that way. Thats called immaturity and flexing temporarily. When they are broke, thats when they realize no one apart from their own family will be at their side. My bf always tells me to remind him of the words I gave to him the first time we dated. I specifically told him no matter what happens and no matter what he becomes today, tommorow or in the future, he must always remember where he originally comes from and who is his parents and family. At times, a man can run out of his league when he is rich and well off but its the duty of the gf/partner/wife to remind him of this. He can flex, yes he can but he must always remember of others that have struggled for him before he starts flexing around.

2sexy:
but do they know that money given to GF (WHO IS JUST A PASSER-BY) is worth multiple ROI in the future? NO. BIG TIME DUMMIES! Hence, future wife and children suffer because the head of the family only planned for GF but not for future wife and children.

Hey! Passerby ke? U are wrong!!! How is a man going to meet his wife when he hasnt meet his gf?   And abeg! Im not a passerby! I love him too much to be known as a passerby!  

2sexy:
When you give money to a girl or lady that you are dating, why are you doing it? Is it because you are dating her or because you know she needs it ? There is a difference between this two. I used to give my ex money because I was trying to understand her situation and because I knew she needed it. But at one point, she started acting as if it is a must that I give her money because I am dating her and to me, I dont like it that way. this was because it makes me feel as if she is selling herself to me. But like I said, this is the trend in Nigeria.

Well, maybe because you made it seem like it was so easy for you to get your money and maybe because she has been spoiled by you. . . You should instead make her know that money is not easy for you to get and you would appreciate if she understands you and dont misuse the money.

2sexy:
And to most people who may not know 2sexy, I dont follow crowd. I dont allow them influence my decision , hence I dont give girl money because I am dating her. I will only give to girl whom I know would do the same for me.

Ok ooo.  I hear ya.  



[quote author=2sexy link=topic=534379.msg6968053#msg6968053 date=1287445997][/quote]

googles:
If I need the money. . .I 'll collect it

better me than beer parlors and pepper soup joints anyway

The problem is whether I ned the money or not, he is constantly giving me money. He knows I dont buy jewelleris or I dont spend on myself that much. My hair product is even cheaper than anybody elses in Malaysia.

xynerise:
You gals in general are liability to guys

I dont think so

bodrin:
its not bad tho, guys who gives money all the tym is insecure, lack manly confidence.

u need 2 care for your babe bt money shld not be the inn thin. i fit give anything as long as it pleases me.

poster u dey exploit your guy cos ds questn sound absurd small?

So u think its good for a guy to give money all the time considering you mention that guys who gives money all the tym is insecure, lack manly confidence.What if iving money to me pleases him? I am not exploiting him in anyways. Im actually seeking for answers. Althought he said his own but his face does not look serious when he gave mne the answer. besides, if I rally wanna exploit him, I will post his name here and his picture!

Xadore:
It's not all guys who give money to their gfs. Sometimes it is the other way around. Only If I'm in serious need of money and my bf gives me I will collect and if he also needs money and I have,I would give him.I wouldn't collect money just like that preferably gifts.

But this one gives all the time naa. And when I give him money, he took it as an insult

Omolola1:
Well, if the gurl really needs it, no qualms!

But I dont need it!



[quote author=Mr-Cork link=topic=534379.msg6966344#msg6966344 date=1287425498]**for constant punnny supply** [/quote]

zealot4me:
its not bad accepting the money but its just some guys dnt give money wit one mind. the give u wit d intentions of collecting it back wit something else e.g dobodobo

Thats not true! He has never force me for sex ever!




[quote author=bk.babe97y link=topic=534379.msg6966372#msg6966372 date=1287425696]If she's your gal, cool. who cares? U got if, splurge it. She act up, kick her to the curb and splurge on the next binch![/quote]OMG! U are mean!



[quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=534379.msg6966600#msg6966600 date=1287427842]So do you have a problem with demand and supply? A guy can give money without expecting anything in return if the recipient and he are just friends with no strings attached. However,even in a platonic relationship, or any kind of relationship, it is always give and take; always demanding or accepting money or gifts from a guy while giving him a peck on his cheek is no different from 419ing.

Honey, most women have made it clear that they will have nothing to do with you if you and a church rat are on the same level. Hence, our current situation.
[/quote]I dont believe in that! He has never asl anything from me. He has never forc me or requested me to do anything. Even food he go ask me wetin I want chop(well, that is if w go out to eat).

To me, Love is not about giving and taking. Love is about sacrificing for each other without calculating. That is love.

IgboGirl:
why does it have to be guys giving money to their girlfriends? what about girlfriends giving money to their boyfriends? men aren't the only ones making money you know.
most women are now the bread winners of their homes while the men sit at home and watch tv/play video games all day.
some men are liabilities!

I agree that men cannot always be the one giving money but I disagree with men not being the bread winner especially after he gets married cause when his wife is pregnant and giving birth, who will provide food on the table for the family?

Rocktation:
@OP- Are you serious?

What do you mean

Don Xavi:
I don't see anything wrong in giving money to your Gf, when u know your gf is not working and has no means of income u should give her money, there's no LOVE that does not express itself through giving, in turn if the guy is the one in need and his gf is well to do financially she should also help the guy as well. it shouldn't always be guys stuff to give.

But I am working and I am earning my own money. Why would I want more?

femmy2010:
If she needs it,i am sure she needs it and i have got the money then i will give it to her.

Exactly! Thats the way to do it!But this guy is stubborn naa,. Like Kpomo meat!

Pennywise:
Anyway I aint giving my money to any girl unless she's got a gun

Got a gun?

skydeep:
Even on halloween

Na waa oo. LOL!

Pennywise:
Yes. Like s3x, I mean

We dont really do it as much as before due to me travelling here and there for my work.Nowadays, we are lucky if wedo it 4 times a month   Before its everyday! But him giving me money is the same without fail.

tkb417:
ure angry cos of what?

if u dont like it, note his account number and whenever he gives u unwanted cash, u take it back to the bank and lodge in his account

U think its that easy abi?Its not a one way thing when it comes to him giving money. Theres so many other ways. At times I get confuse on who on earth sends me money.  

xynerise:
Dare it and vomit all your intestine

Than why the fist remarks?

Pennywise:
Ms Potato how often are u intimate with your bf

What do you mean? Like s3x u mean?

skydeep:
He gives me gift occasionally

Ocassionally like Your Birthday, Christmas and Valentines right?

Pennywise:
tkb, u are in more trouble than I tot. U pay tithe to babes? Damn your pastor will be pissed

LMAO!!!

Pennywise:
Damn. your bf is a lucky son of gun.

If there is no giving, there will be no taking, right? Nice.

na waa for you ooo.  Wetin happen to your gf? I hope she no go be your bank.  

Pennywise, Im seriously angry today!. Especially today! He went to the ATM and told me to wait for him, And then I stood beside him while he withdraw his money,. And than he said Oops! I accidently withdraw some cash! And Im like well, you can put it in your wallet or cash it in back again. Andthan he said yeah, good idea. Here! Hold this first while I take out my wallet (giving me the money) and than I took it and waited for him and he is like thats yours and smiled!!! And Im like NOOO!!!! You better take your damn money back or else!!!   and he was like laughing! He thinks this is a joke!  

tkb417:
i think 10% of my salary goes to ma babes needs

im in bondage

Na she be your monthly insurance abi?  


[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=534379.msg6965575#msg6965575 date=1287418489]I DEFINITELY TAKE CASH FROM MY MAN AND HE DEFINITELY WIRES ME MONEY

He sends me money and I send him money.

LET THE MAN BE THE MAN - a happy and wonderful relationship

I let my guy do what makes him happy and I also work as well

I take care of him and he takes care of me - we are a team

I LOVE IT WHEN he shows me what he's working with because he has convinced me that he can handle OUR SHIP.  Now I can fully rest assured that he is in charge and I need no longer worry about our fiduciary stability.[/quote]Hmmmm. . . Im just so not use to it!!! Its pissing me off by the day! For God's sake, I dont even take a cent from my father since age 17 when I could start working legally!  

Pennywise:
Ms Potato, does your bf give u money all the time?

Yes ohhh and Im getting piss at this point of time!!!

xynerise:
These words coming from a lady's mouth? The world is really coming to an end

Are u expecting us to take all your money?  

skydeep:
I dont take cash from my man. I only accept gift. I am a working class dame.

How many gifts would you expect from him in a year?  

kITA TITA:
If you don't give to a friend, who would you give to? Reject it if you don't like the gesture.

Well, money is important for the future so why not collect your money and try to make yourself succesffull and when the time comes, you would have enough money for your children and future generation?  

Pennywise:
I wonder! This is NL question of the decade. Why? Esp when you consider the fact that girls sometimes enjoy these encounters more than men.

What do you mean by that? Enjoy in what sense?  

Pennywise:
Here is one who knows exactly what I am talking abt. Imagine. After all the money men still work hard to deliver each and every time. We are truly very foolish. And we think we are smart

Than why continue giving espeacially after I said Stop it!

adagz 01:
Cos i want to be a responsible bf and a responsible husband in the future

its not compulsory but mandatory.

How does giving money turn out to be responsible? My brother always gives money to his wife but he is not responsible by any means sorry to say that!  

Guys, why do you give money to your gf's all the time?
is it a compulsory?
What is in your mind when you gave her the money?


Ladies, do you like it when your guy gives you money?
How do you stop him from giving you money especially after you tell him you dont want the money but he still go give you!!!!!

Oh Oh!!!!!!