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Something similar happened to me early this year, I decided to take the girl in and even promised to send her to school. When the step mother came to my house and saw the building she told me to also carry her own daughter, I told her I couldn't.

Next thing she and her husband turned my house to CBN, today money for her father's burial next day money to start business. I couldn't take it anymore I just gave them back their child.

All this divorce advocate that wants to break OP's hone remember God hates divorce. OP there's nothing God cannot do just keep praying for her, cook her favorite food and make sure you pray naked 12 midnight. Focus on your children and one day she will come back to you. Remember they're more men in the world than women.

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funlord:
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Get rid of this useless thief

Reminds me of when I spent 2 days in my cousin's house. She has two kids under 2. She woke up, swept the house,mopped as she was doing that her son woke up she stopped half way attended to him and I helped her feed him while she continued her chores, by then the baby wakes up, she baths her, feeds her and handed the baby over to me.

She went back to cleaning, after a while she came out looking so confused. She just ran to the kitchen some minutes later she came out with food and she went back to the bedroom to call her husband he finished eating left the plate and went back to the room.

Throughout the day all she did was wash, cook, clean and take care of kids, this man couldn't even help. All he did was eat,sleep and TV. I felt so bad for my cousin.

I was supposed to stay a week but I couldn't. When she opened up to me I already knew she was just marking time in that marriage and it wouldn't last long.

He works and she also works, still when she asks him for help he says house work is a woman thing.

You're jobless but you can afford data to come online and bash your wife. If she comes back home what's the plan YOU have for your family? How will they eat and pay bills? Am really trying my best to be civil here but you're a joke.

Loosen yourself from your mother's apron string and get a life. You're coming online to look for sympathy hope those supporting you credit your bank account.

I GUESS I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT READ WHERE THR OP ADMITTED TO BE VERBALLY ABUSIVE. HEY! THIS DUDE INSULTS HIS WIFE AND SHE'S EXPECTED TO BEAR IT BECAUSE HE "MARRIED HER"?

AN ALMOST 40 YEAR OLD WOMAN BEING TONGUE LASHED BY HER HUSBAND ISN'T WRONG IN Y'ALL EYES? HOW CAN YOU BE JOBLESS AND ABUSIVE AT THE SAME TIME?

THE FOOLS ASKING HIM TO GET A GIRLFRIEND OR DIVORCE, I HOPE YOU IDIOTS WILL BE WILLING TO FINANCE IT. A 44 YEAR OLD MAN HASN'T SEEN HIS SON SINCE JANUARY AND EVERYBODY IS OK WITH THAT.

No her account wasn't hacked. she has debunked the story. Someone used her picture and a fake name to create that facebook page.

virgoquin:
Have you seen the so called arrogant nurse come out to say her account was hacked.. the answer is no

And here you are making silly excuses for her and even have the mouth to insult the authorities that will bring her to justice and use her as a scapegoat for others to learn their lessons.

Mtcheeeeeeeeew

Whenever you see UN statistics about Nigeria been a poor nation with millions of kids out of school don't call it fake news. People like this man here are the reason for such statistics. How can a teacher have 10 kids and you still want to marry another wife.

What quality of life can he offer those kids?

The man should come back and take his rightful position in his family, his maternal relations gave him land and he built a very big house, am sure the knowledge of that was what triggered my uncle.

Ybaby:
Beg that what?

Of course now, I really admire your perseverance. Other older trolls have taken a bow and you're still here doing your thing.

Ilamina:
You called me baby girl

Baby girl! So you still open topics about everything? You this Onila!

Oh please! My father's brother left his first son with the mother of the boy and moved on to make another family. Now the boy is a married man with 5 kids,and he's doing really well. When my uncle heard this he decided to go to the man's family house to beg and the man chased my uncle with cutlass.

themanderon:
A boy and a girl are not the same. A girl will get married and leave her people but a boy would be interested in knowing who he is and where he came from and his roots. A man is not complete unless he knows these things.

My dear. The way we glorify poverty in this country is disgusting. No wonder you will see a man driving okada with four kids and his wife will be pregnant for the fifth.

Kids are bloody expensive. Sometimes when i go to shop for mine i get weak after the cashier adds up everything.

So many kids suffering today is because of irresponsible adults that sees nothing wrong in "just manage". Plan before you have kids. 15k cannot take proper care of a child in a month.

Ybaby:
My father is a great provider and i went to the best of schools i.e Corona

My husband is a great provider and my kids are in the best of schools i.e Chrisland

Are you a provider? Do you want a better job? I can help

Do you wonder why majority of Nigerian men don't leave generational wealth? Immediately they have small money women, drink, women, drink, hotel bills and so many frivolous things. Majority of the people here am sure when you ask them they will tell you "my father was rich before", all they do is spend, spend, sex, sex, sex and when they're old they become burdens to their kids.

Too bad that this generation that's supposed to be better still want to follow that route. Oh I am NOT polygamous in "nature".

You're right my dear. But you know in Nigeria we glorify poverty. I've a child and I know how much I spend a month. They feel giving a child food is all it takes
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Ybaby:
Chai!!! looooooooll
sorry eh!
15k per month to buy what diapers or formula.

Condoms are cheaper. The world doesnot need anymore hungry children.

Typical Nigerian mentality. Ignore the message. I ask made my comments supporting fidelity in marriage and this is all you brain can think about?


With the way we've planned our lives we can never be broke. Everything isn!t about money. Spend time with your spouse. If you don't have money take walks and talk about yourselves. Simple!

Korllami007:
I pray your husband won't go broke.
Because the way you sound, you can... If he...

You didn't even read my reply. If you can't afford to take your wife to a bar for drinks then you shouldn't have a mistress simple!




No need going back and forth. After all you can tell your wife I have 1k only and she would understand.


You mean the marriage where the wife is just in it for the kids sake and the man is busy chasing everything that moves meanwhile when it comes to taking his wife on a date he remembers he has bills to pay?

Ask any married woman around if she would love to spend a moment with her husband away from the kids and hear her reply.

Wealth doesn't determine if a marriage will last same as poverty. I know people that left their marriage because their husbands couldn't provide. It's even more this days. All am trying to say which YOU'RE NOT GETTING IS SIMPLE! SPEND TIME WITH YOUR WIFE! OR WILL THAT ALSO COST YOU MONEY? OR WILL THE GOVERNMENT NOT ALLOW YOU TO?

Korllami007:
Please think beyond four corners of your home. Not everyone has that kind of luxury you mentioned. So, family that's looking for money to pay rent and children's school fee and it's the same family will be thinking of going to bar or restaurant to chop shawarma and nkwobi when they have chunk of bills to pay.

Nigeria is not a developed country like USA that you can book 2020 cruise if you don't have the money at the moment and the cruiseline will start deducting the money from your account every month till the money is completed. They can do that because they have good economy. The government, companies and small scale businesses hardly owe monthly payment. But that cannot be said about Nigeria, where a government of a state can owe three years monthly payments. If you're are part of some families, something like, bar, restaurants, trips, won't even come to your mind because the money is not coming in and the money you're expecting next month is already spent. Some marriages in that category are more stronger than some couples that spend a lot on trips, vacations, going to most expensive restaurants, because they have good communication.

Your peanut brain didn't that when your wife refuse to have sex with you,you can talk to her and find solutions to problems instead of distributing your STDs.

Trust me child many women don't even want marriage anymore. Who wants to be a slave to a man that can't even keep it in his pants?

FreeSpirited:
Your fish brain believes you have the right to deny your husband sex as long as u want. Just go ahead. You must have learnt the trade from no one than your mother. I grew up in a very decent and harmonious home. but one wakes up nowadays to hear those thrash and nonsense from our women of today, and be like what the hell is happening. Reason most guys arnt even moved to marry anymore.

Ode. I can type whatever I want and hold whatever idea I wish as an adult.

I've also seen women that sacrifice everything for their husbands and at the end he impregnates the maid.
It's a two way thing.

FreeSpirited:
Stop clinging on lame excuse that men don't treat their women right. I've seen men do everything for their wife, gets her house help, buy her car...yet she prefers to fvck the driver or a random boy from the internet than giving him sex....Most times for reasons unknown to the man. My grouse is I can not continue to solicit a wife for long after my effort and yet not getting sex...I will forget about her and look else where

Actually you're the bitter one and it's written all over your post. You're not even married yet, instead of you to make money so your family will be comfortable, ask questions on how to build your family you're here opening a juvenile topic. Am sure everyone reading will be able to tell who has the higher IQ between you and I.


My husband loves my gold digging after all he didn't meet me in the dump. I was doing very well before we married and he's keeping to that standard.


Meanwhile you can go on thinking about how you're going to frustrate the innocent woman that would marry you the same way your father frustrated your mother.


Oh BTW your mom is a prostitute and your father is an abusive douchebag because if your parents brought you up with love you wouldn't come to the internet to type such trash.

FreeSpirited:
That's the usual line for your low thinking bitter type. Nothing new. You can't even grasp what I wrote. But its obvious how you frustrating your Man cos of your gold digger instinct you never shed off even after marriage.

Continue..sex denying wife. As if your pvvsy brings wealth

Really so taking your wife on a date means you've to be rich? Choi!


So take YOUR WIFE even to a bar once a month means you've to be rich but you've money to take a girlfriend out, hire a hotel and pay her bills? Then if he doesn't have money to spend on a once a month outing with his wife then why does he need a girlfriend?



Denying husband sex? What about men that deny their wives sex? Are they allowed to cheat?

Korllami007:
Then why are you comparing everyman to rich men?
It's not everyone that's rich. Some family only have money for feeding, house rent and kids school fees so they don't have extra money to go on trip, restaurants talk more of going for vacation outside Nigeria. If you fall into this category, that means you will be denying your husband sex.

As hard as this country is, I don't think anyone should be thinking everyman is rich enough to do what you listed on what you wrote earlier.

I know your mom is a prostitute but the doesn't mean I am one. Your father doesn't even wash up his girlfriend's pussy juice before he pounces on your mom doesn't make me as cheap as her. Of course you've after all I've seen mad people having sex so what's the big deal?

FreeSpirited:
Lols. Look at this new wife. I've fvccked pussy tighter, deeper and older than yours. She's there forming one old lady cos she feels I'm a bachelor. Lol. Who gives a Bleep about twisted logic.
If for anything, at least, start giving that man sex as from tonight, stop denying the poor man, you wicked soul. When your not a prostitute cos you call yourself a wife, yet you want money, date, beer, suya before u open ur legs for your hubby? So if he goes broke for a year, he's therefore not entitled to your dry pvvsy?...smh..lols

So from all I wrote that's all you can deduce? So you spending time with wife you couldn't deduce that?

The date you guys are going on is your wife going to be the only one eating or drinking? The holiday you guys would take is she going to be the only one relaxing?

I am married and I know how refreshed and more relaxed myself and my husband feel whenever we leave the house even for a day. It helps bring back the spark in our marriage.


We try to have a date night twice a month and it helps us bond without kids yelling.

Korllami007:
I deduce that statement from what you wrote. Read what wrote again.

Before you and you types misquote me lemme make you understand something perfectly. I never said you must take your wife out before sex. OK? I know it's Hard to grasp what you're not used to but romance plays a part in sex.

Korllami007:
Imagine my brother. Most a wife be taken out before she have sex?

If you want to be logical then don't put words into my mouth. Am only responsible for what I write and not what you understand.

Korllami007:
You can't ooo

Logically, If the husband is broke, that means no more sex.

Dear child there is nothing brutal about your post. Men cheating on their spouse is not news. Do you know what is? When a man doesn't cheat. You're a simple dolt if you couldn't make sense of my post. Get married and cheat. WHO CARES? With your dirty STD ridden penis and stinky groin. But then again some women don't have class so am sure you would find the perfect doormat.

FreeSpirited:
You can feel good about yourself....We know why your angry about this brutal post......It been long you been taken on dates and holiday..and bla bla bla...you also want more money spray on your stale ass before u open ur legs for your hubby...I just pity what's he's going through.

At least your case is easy to solve....But unfortunately, people like you won't still tell her hubby why she's hurting but thinks denying a man sex will solve the problem. That's the big mistake....

If after reading my post and this is the conclusion that you can come up with then I can't help you. Sorry.

Korllami007:
You just confirm it. The only thing that makes women wet is money.

No natural attraction. Chai

In the US I see couples with kids having date night. Some times they go on holiday alone and leave their kids with trusted family members.


But in Africa a man will sit comfortably his wife will wake up clean, cook, feed the kids, make him breakfast,wash before she will finish washing it's noon another round of cooking. Before she would bathe she still needs to feed the kids again meanwhile oga is sitting comfortably watching TV. You make dinner, serve him and feed the kids again, bathe them and make sure they are in bed and after doing all this, then you want to rest before alarm clock rings then he would start touching you. When you refuse then the next thing he wants to cheat. Ah ah oga please cheat!


Are you the first? Come on! Nigerian women are going through a lot jor.

Dear young boy. Wife yes I am, angry? No am not. See this fool. How many Nigerian men take their wives on dates? How many take their wives on holiday? How many take their time to study their wives and bring back the spark in their marriage? All you lot know is sex. Have you thought about taking your spouse to explore the world? All you can think of is cheating on her when she rejects your cigarette stub you call dick.


The this illiterate asking me the difference between having sex before getting married and cheating on a spouse in marriage.


Who gives a fučk? At least when women cheat they don't blame their husbands. You're just a little boy. Go out and see men spending money and time just to please their wives then come back and open that your poverty infested shit hole and talk nonsense.


At least your mother's pussy is also over used and you still respect her. Silly little rat.

You're an idiot you know that right? Read the bullshît you wrote and tell me if it makes any atom of sense or relate to my comment in anyway. If you get married and you want to cheat please do. Like I said we don't give a fûćk. Cheating is super easy. So many women selling pussy. So we don't care! Cheat! later some fools here will say women are weak now the weak ones are the ones making you guys powerless? You're a dirty dog. It's a man that has no regard for his body that goes around sticking was is meant to be a private part in random women.

FreeSpirited:
And you are dirty bitch right?
As if you don't know women control sex most of the time that men become powerless....And a man can not force a woman even when she keeps denying him, cos it will only be called rape if he forces himself. So just stfu

Why do men think they're doing women a favor by not cheating? Everything I will cheat, I will cheat. Go and cheat now is anyone holding your penis? Do you know how many married men deny their wives sex? But the woman will be told to pray and blah blah blah but if it's a man he would be told to cheat. Who gives a fúck if you cheat? Dirty dog.