₦airaland Forum

Come on don't type any reasonable thing on such threads anymore. Just reply them sarcasticaly and more to the next thread.

This guys are just frustrated street urchins that come online to flex their muscles. You don't expect a real man to come online and post tirades against women.

AmazonHippolyta:
Balderdash what exactly have Nigerian men contributed to the sphere of things is it not your foreign counterparts that have done well for the world and yet have no problem with women gaining rights.
But some chauvinistic village myopic men from Nigeria think they have a say in womens rights what ecactly has men done Nigerian men to be precise that is worth celebrating The only thing you guys have achieved is useless PHD in women affairs hence why you all open threads every now and then showing your frustrations and bad state of living and blaming it on women.
Your mates are thinking of the next big thing village boys on NL are thinking of slut shaming women.

My brother don't mind them! How can they ask for equal rights in this beautiful country that we men have ruled absolutely well! Can't you see the 24/7 light, the good roads? See the way the country is prospering because we men that have been ruling have put our resources to good use.

See how corruption free,justice and hunger free Nigeria is. Damn this women! They're our problem! They want to come into power so they can spoil Nigeria.

kense88:
They want equal right with men, in a country they have contributed absolutely nothing

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Meanwhile pastor flow and pastor wole that were mentioned by Busola as the people that begged her family when she told them she was raped are still silent. What does that tell you

Am sure he's one of our nairaland alufamail. After all our mothers washed our fathers clothes with their hands while backing a baby and cooking soup at the same time. The fact that he even typed this on the internet that his father never used makes it funnier. Buhahahahahahahaha

OK oh!

Wow so he has HIV? Madam so many people would come and give you different advice but at the end you know best. If you report to your pastor they would definitely support him which wouldn't make you any happier. So do what ever you know is best for YOU. Your husband has no right to ask for your bank statement and vice versa because you are not running a joint account, but you know in Nigerian marriages husband is God while wife is slave.

stephnie44:
he did

Hmmmmmmmmm about that HIV drug in one of your topics who brought it to your house?

......And when you're done "fighting with him" another woman that wouldn't even look his direction during the "fighting" period will be the one controlling his finances and heart. Nigerian women please stop settling!

I think the bride and make up artist are sisters.

White women with little wahala? Half of the shït you guys give to us and expect us to accept it as a norm a white women wouldn't take it. You think you can cheat, abuse and not take care of a white woman and she would be praying for you like a nigerian woman would?

Biko you guys shoukd keep moving oh!

itsme01:



Naija girls change am for am... see them throwing shades left and right, but he is entitled to his choice, just has many Nigerian girls would be forming that they cant date a light skin Guy but only dark guys... Boys are also moving on to white skinned girls with little wahala

During the 80's many kids were named Michael because of Michael Jackson. Since your mom was so perfect why did he leave? I know you can never ask him do you know why? Because it's easier to blame the other woman.

Logobenz:
not true.
He named his first son after me and gave him two of my names!only a man that did love his son will do that!
I have given this a lot of thought for more than 10 years and I know that woman was up to something.
It is impossible for my Dad to leave the family he so much desired to that woman.
My dad was a CC in his prime,married my mom very early and never seized to sing her praise because he watched her started something very small that later transformed into an EMPIRE.upon that she respected him so much and was ever loyal.
Never quarrelled or argued.infact she was the whole 9 yards of submissiveness and you tell me about desires?what desires?
Something he still does till date that the other woman never liked while I lived with them!jealous creature.
Anyways,let's see how this goes.i know I will win for sure.I'm a capitalist.

OP your dad is meant to be blamed in all this. He left his family. The woman wouldn't have come into the picture if your father didn't give her the chance to. I know you love and idolize your dad but truth be told he doesn't love you, if he did he wouldn't have left the way he did. Sorry! Nobody manipulated him but his desire.

Logobenz:
My dad never cheated on my mom when he was around.i was there and saw everything.
Somehow I don't cheat on women too so I feel I got the trait from him.
So I know for sure he was manipulated by this woman somehow.
She has even domesticated him.saw dude cooking when I got there.who does this woman think she is?
My mom would go about her business,suffer,stress and still come home and cook for her husband.but this one dey feel say she be king Kong ba?
We go soon find out how powerful she truly is.
If the kids like they can all be dangote,I don't care.
I don't have a problem with them but their mom!
You don't just go grab someone else's property and don't expect a fight.
I MUST DO THIS!

Your father started it. He shouldn't have cheated on your mom with her. Its obvious the 7 children and the "good life" meant nothing to him because if it did he wouldn't have left. Of course you're your dad's son he never took advice look where he's today.

Do whatever you want to do but nothing lasts forever, you were a child once now you're an angry man one day those kids will also grow up and you know the rest.

Logobenz:
lol.who started it first?
They did take my dad from us first and failed in the process,crippling the very handsome man.now I don't know what I see anymore and you expect me to sit and watch?
No I won't stop till I hit them back harder than they did.
I would even think the woman used something on him see because I don't see that as natural at all but unfortunately I don't believe in spirituality.
How does a man abandon 7 children,a good life and all to go to where?
Baffles me all the time!
But that woman must feel the pain of what she caused and I now have her just where I want her.
It's on!save your breath because I never take advice.

I love the fact that you kept on saying "her kids" I guess she impregnated herself. Your dad left you guys because he wanted to, obviously before he left he was already in a relationship with her. You really need to heal because it's obvious even with your success you still hold some resentment for the woman not your dad that made the vow to love your mom.

If you know you don't want to help then don't instead of removing THEIR FATHER from their lives!

She has every right to «drag upkeep« with him. He's the father of her child. You need to learn to be more couth and sympathetic. She's pregnant and you can't blame her for lashing out at people's insult.

NOBODYY:
Look at this grostque plonker
You are so rich, you pass Waec and jamb, you can pay someone's salary.. Yet you are dragging upkeep with someone who lives in a one room apartment (where you were stupidly fuckkked like a prostitute that you are till you get belle), who can't can't buy a bike??

You are just an idiotic shameless she goat

From this comment you can see men and women who are sympathetic towards others. A woman is heavily pregnant and she alone knows what she has gone through for the past eight months, instead of you to be sympathetic towards her you instead bash her and call her name absolving the man.

OP please don't listen to any advice that says you should let it go, even of he doesn't want you or the child make him pay child support. Nigerians always have this mentality that at the end the child will look for the father that's why he doesn't care.

He should've thought about the fact that he's married before having sex with a woman that's not his wife.


To those saying he doesn't owe OP anything, of course he owes her child support. Stop supporting irresponsible men.

Thanks. Nigerians need to understand that there's more to life than marriage.

ibkayee:
Well said

Please nobody wakes up and decides to divorce, there must have been series of events that led to that. Divorce isn't cheap and easy, staying together when things ain't working is. My mom left my dad after 30 years and we (my siblings and I) wished it had happened earlier. Their marriage was a battlefield and the whole church and family meetings didn't make it easier because no matter what my dad does heck even if he broke my mum's head she still had to beg even when its glaring that she wasn't at fault. My parents divorce was the BEST solution to their wars because now we can relate with them individually unlike before. My point is this; sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids isn't really always what's best for the kids.

Bossjakande:
yet some pple work on thier marriage and fix it.some wife kill hubby and vice versa.is not a gud thing but divorce no be solution still.av u not heard of a man also attacking and killing ex wife.I Neva said die in marriage by dont let divorce so easy and cheap. DAT why our celebrity too much of modern life na 2 year highest dey marry and divorce.

Oga majority of our parents marriage was marred with abuse and infidelity, who do you blame for the high level of divorce? The parents! You can't give what you don't have. A man that can't keep it in his pants cannot advice his son not to cheat on his wife, a man that grew up watching his father beat up his mother would likely grow up and want to do the same to his wife.

If a marriage isn't working please leave for your sanity sake. Didn't you read the news of the woman that was "working" on her marriage and her husband killed her? Now she left her 2 kids behind.

Bossjakande:
sorry but others Father didnt do dis.am not saying die in marriage.I have SIS's.I will born a daughter, am just saying let divorce not be easy and cheap and become part of marriage. Some here say if hubby do dis divorce. Do DAT divorce. It is well dear

Our mothers endured abuse and humiliation because they had Nowhere to go and nothing to fall back on. I read the fathers thread and I wept, why do men still want women to put up with infidelity and abuse that their own mothers went through if it isn't pure wickedness and mental illness?

My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize.

Enough of this guilt trip. Let women be with who they want to be with and divorce if it isn't working.

People still believe this? With all the information readily available we still believe this?