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But the Bible said men and women are equal before God.

Ginaz:
I think the mistake women always make is they try to compare themselves in all aspects when it comes to men.

The Bible said women are helpers . We are not equal and can never be equal to men. Until women learn this hard and naked truth they will always be at the receiving end of pain!

Nobody will force you to do what you don’t want to do. If you love a guy but wanna leave cos he hurts you then fine. Don’t leave on the message that men doesn’t take bullshit so you won’t take bullshit .

Women have a lot of influences over men, if they could focus their energy in trying to better their lives and instill a good influence over their men, they will be better off than becoming a bitter , over sabi, I know my right deranged psycho.

Be careful of the type of advise you take as a woman. Physical violence of any kind should not be taken though. In that area I suggest you walk away.

True!




Funny thing they say women are confused. How do you expect me to baby you and still respect you as the "head of the house" seriously how does that even work.

AntiBrutus:
That is for women who want to. Later you wonder why women age faster than men. When they spend their useful years fixing the supposed head of the home.

Anyone that wants to do that, it is her business.

I remember a guy once telling me "men are like babies", I cut him short. Men are not babies, please. I don't spend my time fixing or rewarding a man with such issues. When there are responsible men out there. God forbid!!

Nigerian man: my wife is denying me of sex, replies: cheat, am sure she's cheating.

Nigerian woman: my husband is denying me of sex.

Replies: Ashawo, must you have sex? Can't you concentrate on your children? Are you sure you're not smelling? Pray, watch war room, dress sexy, do you help out financially? Why must women always complain? Sex they will complain, no sex they will still complain.

Typical, if you don't get cheated on, humiliated, physically and mentally abused in a relationship then you're not "wife material".

Marriage is now a "who suffer pass contest" for women, you don't believe me? Just ask your married female friends.

Hello ZHUHILAT DID YOU SEE THIS RESPONSE?

THIS WILL BE THE RESPONSE THE SAME PEOPLE ADVOCATING FOR YOU TO STAY AND BEAR IT WILL GIVE TO YOU WHEN IT BECOMES VIOLENT, THIS IS THE RESPONSE THEY WILL GIVE TO YOUR KIDS.

DEAR MR, YOU'RE THE CLOWN BECAUSE YOUR COMMENTS SHOWS THE TYPE OF CREEPY FOÓL YOU'RE.

OF COURSE I AM FROM A DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME IT WAS PEOPLE LIKE YOU IDIOŤ THAT "ADVOCATED" FOR MY MOM TO STAY EVEN WHEN THEY KNOW THEY WOULDN'T TAKE HALF OF WHAT SHE TOOK.


MISERY LOVES COMPANY YOU SAID, OF COURSE THATS WHY YOU ALL EXPECT WOMEN TO "ENDURE" MISERABLE MARRIAGES BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DO TO YOUR WIVES BEHIND CLOSED DOORS.


YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FATHER DID A GREAT JOB BRINGING UP AN slowpoke LIKE YOU.

GasAndOilTheory:
Hehehhe wetin eye no go see for nairaland misery loves company. OLORIBURUKU somebody. All that epistle with no singular substance HIMSELF.

to you my dear Mstick, I bet she looks like a clown??
To cut the joke
Your story is a comic relief. In your own case too "Misery loves company" is very obvious. So because your parents couldn't pull it together, you think everyone should be a failure?
Take several seats please, Marital advocacy isn't for people from dysfunctional home

Lol! OP you did you bring up that post to shame me? Funny thing is I just finished talking to my elder brother and I came online to see this, we had a conversation about our parents because like a typical Nigerian man our father is going around saying things about our mom and my brother said the exact same thing, he wished my parents divorced sooner..

Do you know what it's like being thrown out of the house severally by a man who is meant to protect you?

Do you know what it's like seeing your mom in a pool of blood and after she returns from the clinic she goes straight to the kitchen?

People like you gave her similar advice and she lost her beauty and youth to a man that DIDN'T deserve her.

People like you made her think without a man she would amount to nothing even though she was the BREADWINNER!

I am not ashamed of my past, I grew up and my siblings and I couldn't take the abuse anymore we stood up for our mother, guess what? Today she's living her best life meanwhile "the man" at 60 is miserable.

I like Nigerian men, I like how they subtly coerce women into staying in relationships that they know they themselves cannot stay in because "they're men with ego".

A man makes it a point to drive his WIFE AND CHILD of course she would have to leave with the child whenever oga's ego is bruised, not once or twice and we've people making excuses for him.

And they're not Muslims.

Madam you wouldn't get any reasonable advice on here , they will ask you to endure because most of them saw there fathers doing same to their mothers and she endured and they do same to their wives.They will see nothing wrong with your husband cheating rather they will bash and insult you.


Think about yourself and what do YOU want.

OP how busy are you to improve your grammar?

Too much nagging on this forum by "men".

dump her and get another woman that will split the bills equally.

Am I missing something? Are you not cheating? You want a faithful girl but you aren't faithful.

Tell her whatever you've written here and move on.

Seriously? So he wouldn't have gotten the "passport" if he worked hard on his own?

How many bread winning Nigerian woman drives her husband from the house? Heck OP said he contributes 50%, how many Nigerian men will tolerate all he has written from a Nigerian woman? Spending money on another man's kids while his mummy is not interested in giving him his own kids.


A Nigerian woman refusing to have a child with her husband? No Nigerian man will take such from his Nigerian wife.

UjuJoan2:
Are you not being a bit one-sided in your judgement?

Remember the value this woman has added to his life (passport). If he goes out of his way to tolerate some excesses, he's not wrong. Even Nigerian women who are bread winners also act out

Also, her insecurities is clearly as a result of stereotypes which is not unfounded.

Nigerian women are gold diggers, white women? Oh they're angels! Buhahhahahhaaaaaaa #TEAMFOREIGNGIRLS.


OP are you sure she's really white or an albino from IMO state? You know white women are true lovers they don't care about money and they are submissive. Check very well.

My advice? Go around this forum and see the crop of "men" we've this days, men that think women are sub humans, most of them see nothing wrong in sex with an underage, most of them on this thread have no jobs or life, they come here screaming TEAM FOREIGN WOMEN but are splitting hair because a woman is doing same.

OP they're good and bad people in every country, if this man will give you a better life GO FOR IT! See them saying polish people are doing menial jobs as if Nigerians aren't doing same.

Nigerian men also traffic, murder and rape women so don't take whatever bile they spill.

My cousin left an American man and married a Nigerian because of this emotional blackmail and "one day one day e go better" bulls hit today she's in Mbiama selling fresh fish and regretting.

Pettyprincess:
Who told him i am dating him because he is from Poland?
I know about Poland economy,so you in no shoe to tell me this!!!
At least having a polish passport can take me to more than 162 countries including your favorite European countries without visa nd i can live nd work in any EU country as a normal citizen!!
Moreover if i was thinking about my selfish gain i will only be interested in swiss guy from Switzerland because so far they have better economy!!!

The polygamous nature of men strikes again. Eyah take heart sir penîs is no respecter of marriage vow.

Seriously I'd rather talk about skincare routine.

Anyone know any great natural skin care tip?

I've a couple of really lovely and inexpensive tips that will make you glow in a week.


Tips on how to smell great and fresh all day.

Let's share tips!

Your girlfriend is a hoe, dump her. Or better still you can be sleeping with her without feelings. Oya take this morning and night. Thank God for our master I've seen the light.

Like I said, instead of wasting your "manliness" arguing and fighting for battle of supremacy with women ONLINE then when you're done you go and eat "mommy thank you" why don't you get busy?

Of course I am like my mother, she was so bad that today the "old man" is calling and sending emissaries to pacify and beg her.

Today she's in Spain with her son and his family meanwhile "the old man" gave me 30 missed calls today alone because he wants to "talk".



I wrote that post with my clear conscious mind if I didn't I wouldn't leave it up, so you boy, can not bully or shame with what I wrote Myself.

I never said all men a like my father but since you had to go dig up my post and since the beginning of this thread you've been looking for the woman to go back and forth with, then it's safe to say you're not even a MAN.

genq:
Lol. Well, judging from your numerous posts aimed at men, I highly doubt this.

If you are anything like your mother, then I understand why the old man did what he did

P.s. All men are not your father ok - shoot your shot at him.

Buhahahahahahahaha classic! Come on! Dude if I didn't want childish people like you to bring up my post to use as armor against me I wouldn't have written it.

I know bitter and feminist is the favorite word for you dunderheads on this platform, I've being here long enough to know.

My advice? Save that for people it would work on as for me? Before I said my truth, I have worked through my feelings. I cannot be bullied and shamed for what I went through and what I decided to post online.


my advice instead of fighting women online why don't you use that same energy to work on yourself because if you're busy you wouldn't have time to go back and forth checking posts and pulling them up.

genq:

"My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize".


I guess this is why you are so bitter Mstick. Almost every post of yours echos the same thing.
Why not take time to recover from your childhood trauma instead of spreading venom on nairaland.

Don't mind the idiót, the only time they remember they are African "men" is when its time to quarrel and belittle women. Forgetting that the African men women took bullshït from in the past fed their families meanwhile they're here looking for women they would split bills with and still cheat on with reckless abandon.


African men went to wars for their family honour but this ones all they know is jump on any female comment and tag you a feminist when you don't agree with their rubbish, government keep raping the country they can't even protest but make a comment about women empowerment and watch them bark like toothless dogs.

Other countries, men are leading their countries to greater heights and making inventions to make life easier for their spouses but they're here still arguing if it's right for a woman to use washing machine or serve her husband food with one meat.

zeb04:
sincerely he is like a mosquito. boozing around quoting everyone, so irritating.

True. Of course cheating is 100% wrong, till the men start valuing women and know that women aren't just for their pleasure it would only get worst.

How to catch a cheating wife? Don't be a cheating husband.

loveliveshere:

Uncle you missed. You initiallythought I was male

How many Nigerian men do you see transferring generational wealth to their kids/family? Once they get small change drink and women become more important.

Don't mind them. They keep brandishing the fallacy that a man can cheat and love his wife meanwhile they're millions and millions of cases when a cheating man abandons his family totally just because of asss.

My father cheated on my mom to the point that she didn't even care anymore and the next thing he started accusing her of cheating because she stopped begging and pleading with him to stop.

My father will leave the house for months so he can stay with his girlfriend and when he comes back he expects a rousing welcome.

Most of this guy's supporting cheating in marriage saw the pain their mum when through but they're so selfish and narcissist to break that circle and they keep putting their spouse in pain.

Nigerian men claim they're polygamous in nature so why are you bothered about some thing natural?

loveliveshere:
You said it all.

Most Women these days are no more loyal because they witnessed what cheating by their fathers did to their mothers, and they have refused to allow same happen to them.

The tables have turned, and it scary as hell.. God help us.

Oga 99% of Nigerian marriages are open marriages not by the woman's choice but the fact that Nigerian men feel it's their right to cheat. So they want to cheat and come back home to a faithful wife.

You keep talking about disease and bringing another man's child home, what about the men don't they bring diseases and other children home?

I know a man that got paid off in his company with millions of naira and he left his wife and four children to go and stay with another woman in Asaba for over 5 years. The day he came back he was brought in a taxi with swollen stinky legs and this same wife he abandoned took care of him till he got better, now this fat bastard is going around telling people she doesn't let him touch her so she's cheating.

The days of our mothers is long gone, no woman has to endure the humiliation of a cheating husband anymore.

Men can cheat but women can't, please tell me who are the men suppose to cheat with? Don't you know that the women you're cheating with is also someone's wife or girlfriend?


Men are polygamous in nature so please allow your wife to help other men. Or do you want the men to cheat nature?


Men expect faithfulness from their spouse meanwhile they go around sleeping with everything that moves forgetting that there's only so much women to go around and one day another man will be "polygamous" with your wife.

You want a faithful wife then be faithful and encourage your fellow men to stick to their partners. Since you guys want to keep eating your cake and having it then forget fidelity from your wife. You can't love someone and cheat on her, that's a BIG LIE. Go and look up the meaning of love. You can't be disgracing and humiliating your wife and claim responsible.

Numerous women cheat on their spouse and still run their homes and "love" their husbands. So all this brainwash doesn't work on women anymore, you want a faithful wife? Then be faithful. Threatening to send her back to her father's house as if you met her there is old school.

[b]I just finished having a conversation with my dad about something similar.

My dad was an abusive father, you know the type that beats both his wife and kids without any remorse or mercy. He was a cheat, it got so bad that his girlfriend one of them anyways came to the house to fight mom. He was stingy, heck my dad stopped paying my fees in jss1 and he didn't care to know how my siblings and I will go to school. My mom took up responsiblity, going to the market to sell from there she registered in school, when she told my father she wanted to go to school it was met with "ASHAWO!ASHAWO! GO WHERE? Another round of beating but our church board came and asked him to let her go.

After school she got a job and she was earning over a 1000% higher than him but she still submitted everything still Mr man wasn't grateful. The beating continued for 23 years... Oh there was a time he hit her so hard and she landed in the hospital with brain trauma. Sometimes he would beat her and everybody and when the church or family members come my mom has to kneel down to beg.

My dad didn't care how we all went to the University, never saw the need to. My mother left finally in 2016. My siblings and I supported her fully and the man went about spreading rumors about my mom being a prostitute blah blah blah, na new thing? When he saw the blackmail wasn't working he wanted a share of the properties she bought.

So he called me today lamenting about getting old and no one to take care of him and all that. I knew he wanted to bring up my mother. I just told him I will call you back sir.



My father doesn't deserve to be taken care of by any of us, if not that I don't like being mean I would have asked him to contact those women he wasted his youth and money on but anyways am sure they wouldn't even let him come around them.


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When ever I see comments saying women are complex beings I laugh because men are worst, they don't even know what they want. They would complain if a woman isn't working and complain if she is, complain about her dressing and complain if she decides not to dress up again, they say men are polygamous in nature we agree who are they being polygamous with women right? So why are you angry when other men are being polygamous with your wives and girlfriends do you want them to disobey nature?

Women live your lives and stop letting this men living their's try to control you.

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DON'T DO IT! You're 22, don't you think you're still too young to tangle up yourself in such mess? Marriage isn't everything. I know he would manipulate you but listen to me if you follow his suggestion you MUST regret it.

Indians are the biggest perverts in the world. I left Skype because of them. Once you login you will see a paravesh or raju calling you, If you pick you will see a fully nàked man stroking his diçk. "show me boob or vagene".

Tell your friend to focus on herself, kids and stop letting men play her like tennis.

I am 100% sure you blamed his wife....you see, what most women tolerate and endure in the hands of many Nigerian men you guys cannot take it.. LOL!