ArtanK:


How did you find out and what was her excuse?

According to her, she was convinced and she had to confess to me on her own

pickabeau1:
So what do u want to do


Is she working or is she a homemaker

Does she want to remedy the past

Thanks so much, we ar trying to remedy it now. But omo! is not easy o!

Flytefalls:

Your mentality needs education, sorry

I will not pray u experience the psychological trauma this is causing me. I am being sincere enough to tell you the reality of what that kind of issue can lead somebody into and, you ar their judging me. Is very obvious that u can do the same thing. Since u did not see any bad in what she did.

Flytefalls:
Seriously, a lie always requires an element of forgiveness but this something that (after kids and what I'm assuming to be a functional marriage) you should not be looking to take drastic action over. As she was able to convince you she was educated, then she must possess the qualities of a graduate (although these are grossly over-exaggerated and are often merely the difference of a piece of paper between two people).

You say it disrupts your plans; does she want to be educated? What are her aspirations and do they fit into yours? What are your biggest fears for the future? Communicate these with your wife by encouraging openness and discouraging any more secrets and lies.

Thanks for ur kind advice. I told her i forgave immediately she told me. But how to cope with the mentality that my wife is not educated when i come across a young educated chick is my challenge now.You are a woman too u understand what am saying now.

thorpido:
In as much as this will hurt you,it's not enough to throw away the marriage.
What kind of work is your wife doing and in what way will educational qualifications affect it?
You have to move forward from here.If possible get her back in school.

she is not working, all my efforts to even establish a business for her is not working as she will always give reasons to leave the business

rokiatu:
Is her education holding your marriage together or her character?

both are not holding it together at all. Her character is even worst

1stCitizen:


Have you considered that she may not have seen her act as criminal at the time. Probably an act of childish foolishness.

is possible, cos she was in her very early twenties then

1stCitizen:


Have you asked her why she went that far so you can appraise the situation to see if there is any objectivity in which I doubt.

I have seen a similar case only that the confession came a few days before the wedding and the guy still went ahead to marry the lady to save himself, her family and his from embarrassment. It turned out to be a costly mistake on his part though after some time. You can learn from that experience so that you manage the situation properly.

1. Try to see things from her own perspective especially by taking into consideration her age at the time (Younger people sometimes make bad decisions they only realise when they mature)
2. Find out why she told the truth. If she was was pushed by circumstances then you may have bigger problems to deal with such as trust.
3. Trust your instinct. Ask her if there are many more secrets that she feels you need to know about (God help you on this one)
4. Be the man and solve the problem. Push her to go back to school.
5. Ask yourself if you can still trust her. If no then there are many steps to take to build that...She will need to play a bigger role.
6. See it as the vicissitudes of life and do not regret it. It could have been worse. What if she told you about a medical problem she was hiding and you did not have kids. Out there many are abound with worse situations.
7. Finally never feel betrayed. Life throws mad situations at us daily. How we handle it is what matters
8. Focus! Focus!! on the good

Thanks so much for ur response. I told her i forgave her immediately she told me because of God and the children. Though i have plans for your point number 3, when ever am with her.

Odilafta:
Has her behaviour for once made you see her as someone who has no educational qualifications?

It is one thing to be educated and behave it,it is another thing to be uneducated and show it..

She deceived you,maybe
but did she buy the rings and point a gun at you to say "I do"

Am not too surprise she just confessed now though; cos i have been doubting those certificates she professed to have not too long we got married. But the criminal act of it is what is bothering me and future tendency.
The point now is that circumstances surrounding her is not making my plans for her to further her education and probably get an office work is not working at all.

edwife:
I would like to know why she went that far as to forge her school certificate and lie about her education?

As far as i know for women it is quite easy,any suitor who is interested can even go as far as to see you through school if they really want to marry you.
Was it the condition you gave her before putting a ring on it?....

And for the divorce or separation whatever you are thinking,forget it!What will you tell your kids you drove their mother away for?

In as much as i hate lies and deceits,i see no reason why you should divorce her.

Try discuss with her,and find out what prompt her to go that far.....

Ok, i will do just that, cos am not even with her at the moment.

My wife confessed to me on her own recently that she had not gotten any educational qualification. That the ones i thought she has was forged. In this kind of situation, what can i do? the marriage is blessed with kids.

What do you think? Can he deliver this time around?

vicchi12:
Rules to being a side chick..

1. You are the other woman. This does not mean that you are the only other woman. Act accordingly.

2.
Please focus on the stolen moments that we spend together. Do not
concern yourself with my whereabouts when we are apart. Frankly
speaking, my life outside of our time together is not your concern.

3.
Be comfortable with who you are to me; do not mention my wife and/or
main woman, as she is not your concern. Do NOT compare yourself to my
main chick in any way and do not attempt to contact her -- to do so
would be a breach of our agreement.

4. Anticipate frequent changes in our plans; for the most part, a spur of the moment escape is the best that I can do.

5.
You must understand that maintaining a positive vibe while we are in
each other's company is vital to the success of our situationship. No
bickering or nagging about promises that I didn't keep.

6. We are
secret lovers; we can't blast our situationship to the world. Please
don't tag me on Facebook, and don't send me invitations to your
work/family functions or events. Major holidays -- more likely than not
-- will be missed.

7. No discussions about "where this situationship is headed." We are where we will be; together, in this moment. Enjoy it.

8.
Yes, I am still sleeping with my significant other, and we do not use
condoms. Again, focus on our time together, and not what I do while we
are apart.

9. I am not interested in bringing a child into our
situationship. By the way, an unplanned pregnancy will not force a
relationship commitment of any kind from me nor will it guarantee a
promotion to main chick status for you.

10. There are no
guarantees about the outcome of our situationship save one: I am a
cheater at heart, and that won't change unless I want it to. Until that
happens, if you are promoted to the main chick, please know that yet
another sidepiece will fill the vacancy that you've left behind.

And
one last piece of advice that my friend wants sidepieces to know: If
you choose to enter into a situationship with someone do not get
emotionally attached, as things won't be easy for you if and when you
separate.

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nenergy:
Successful women have plenty men in their lives
*Disclaimer*
1. This piece is not in any way inferring that women need men to succeed.
2. By MEN, i am not insinuating sexual relations.
3. This piece is not a matter of FACT. It is an observation, an opinion.

A female friend recently told me that; “she’s glad she knows me”. Why? Well, it was part of her Ode in appreciation for my assistance whenever she needed it. From helping with laptop/phone issues to helping with job search and being her personal Google.

Men play vital roles in the lives of women; as fathers, brothers, uncles, cousins, school mates, crushes, mugus, magas, lovers, pastors, assignment boyfriends, neighbourhood acquaintances, university degree project assistants, NYSC camp body guards, NYSC PPA pals, job search advisors/assistants etc



At every point in a woman’s life there is always a MAN willing to offer her assistance (voluntarily or with a motive). It is the major reason most girls prefer male friends/company to their other females. They can gist about E! News and Kim Kardashian with their girlfriends, but when it is time for ‘business’, they know who to approach.

Considering all of these, i am of the opinion that the more MEN in a woman’s life, the higher her chances and speed of success.
Successful women are women with plenty MEN in their lives. These MEN contribute to her success.

n.b: Before you attack me, please read my disclaimer again.

Yours Faithfully,
Nenergy
Author; The Job Seekers’ Creed™

Your very right. Your disclaimer has really clear the air otherwise some ignorant women would have taken the advantage.
This OBSERVATION is very evident in the life of my woman. The most important thing as you have disclaimed is IF NO SEXUAL INTIMACY IS INVOLVED. Women naturally always look upon men for their provisions,protection, assistance, succour, etc

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1. The guy that counts money before leaving the ATM for others. As if if the money short, ATM go complete am for am?

2. The dude that knows he does not have a kobo in his account, but hopes for a miracle. After wasting everyone's' time,' insufficient balance' will chase him away!

3. The guy that multiplies the cue just to check his balance. You will be left wondering whether he does not receive alerts.

4. The guy that acts as if the world will end today. He goes to the Atm and you think he wants to withdraw his whole life savings. At a point people will start begging him to remain some cash in the ATM.

5. The dude that quarrels with the ATM. Even though the machine is prompting him that his pin is incorrect or card has expired. U will still him complaining or screaming at the ATM. 'Jeez! I used this card just this morning! Which kyn bank be this?

6. that man/woman that just goes there an stand for almost 20minutes... When you go closer you discover the machine asked 'do you wish to proceed? Yes or No? And the olodo just did not press anything.

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Charles4075: Op, choose any of these.

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oro yin ti sun mi o nairalanders!

You two spend nights together?
I bet you, una go knack unaself one day

TWO REASONS;
(1) Most wives starve their husband of sex by giving series of excuses.
(2) Most husbands kept so many sex partners before marriage. Hence they will find it very difficult to stick to just one after marriage.

CAPITAL YES! No wonder there is high rate of infidelity amongst men. This is one of the major reasons why you see married men running after young ladies, because their wives starve them of sex. As a matter of fact, i am a living witness.
Immediately they get married with their husband, everything will just change. Wives! you are one of the major reasons wife married men philander.

Please tell us how you connected now may be other people that are looking forward for marriage can try thier luck too.

napaj: Please fellow nairalanders, where can i see or find a catering school where i can be trained/ or if anyone specializes in training people that want to go into catering work . preferably in Ibadan, Oyo state.

pls am still expecting your responses

Please fellow nairalanders, where can i see or find a catering school where i can be trained/ or if anyone specializes in training people that want to go into catering work . preferably in Ibadan, Oyo state.

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or walk away

Give am bele, she go gentle straight! but make sure say na u get the bele oh