₦airaland Forum

chineloSA: in case my husbands family proves to be greedy by taking all we had. ( as we all know how in-laws in Naija can be greedy and wicked to the widows )

kreami diva: Ha! She left the kids with him? The man is nice o...

Well,he might just change for good this time around if the girl's parents will seize this opportunity and talk sense into him warning him that this would be the very last time their daughter would be assaulted!

It is well o.

madone: Pls let him be ok allow him finish wit a good grade, don't be a distraction to him cos he needs that good result to overcome his poverty . Keep your love to yourself becos you ll leave him at the end of the day.so allow him face his studies

25omega:

i would tell her: "wow you really hurt my feelings by saying what you said because it took me a long time to build up the confidence to come talk to you. i know my approach may have been less than ideal but you know what never mind have a wonderful day".

DailyNews: Pls pardon me to say this:

I used to hear/read that ladies love bad guys and I thought it was a joke but from the things I hear/read here, it seems its true in a way.

@poster, you saw it clearly from the onset that this guy has bad moral standing, yes, u did saw it.

Imagine a guy that had the gut to eat the money his parents gave him for his own future Jeez!!! That's scary.

A guy with such character or gut can hardly make good decisions in life.

Just my own thought.

Pls next time, try guys with clean history, and who have absolute fear of their parents in them because a guy who doesn't fear/respect his parents and elderly ones will most unlikely make a bad soulmate, and same goes with a lady.

The way one respects his parents and elders reflects how he/she would handle a relationship/marriage.

Sorry for your sad experience, just learn from it and don't let it weigh u down or discourage u from trying again.

mysticgal: had a similar experience,but mine was worst,he used my money to marry his ex,it pained me,but i have moved on.there was a time i went to the police station to file some charges of fraud,but how will i explain i just left,i spent thousands of nairas on that bastard,i may say sweet words to some guys but i hate men,i hate men.amya move on and forget the freaking bastard

oritameta: As per the Oprah issue, well, she must have had some one night stands, or maybe not, but the list are about men she was involved with romantically. Including an affair she had with a married man.

otokx: So you still have not gotten the hint? Well lets leave it like that?

AmazeBalls: its been a long road,may Allah see us through dis hard situation,amin

damiso: I get your point baby, its a valid one thats why I still think it comes back to mindset.I actually lived alone for a while before I got married(outside Nigeria though) and it was that time that I really grew up (I lived alone in Uni but its not the same).

I really do not see anything I am really missing out on now cos as I said been there, done that.Some people dont need to be there done that and some people who got married young (sometimes) feel they kinda missed out on something. Of the two people I know got married young and are now divorced that was partly the reason the marriages crashed.One kept comparing herself to single girls like us and kept clashing with her husband who felt she was being irresponsible by always fobbing off her kids on any available person (to be honest the girl overdid it).Financial issues too cos she was not working and wanted to be buying aso ebi like us that had no pressing responsiblities.

As I said it takes a certain kind of maturity and if the OP has it, she is good to go.

Chillisauce: At Kenya, what's up? Why can't you burrow a passerby phone to make a call. Don't you have relatives.

There is no single person around you that can lend you transport money?
Why are you still in that house. Did you take a blood oath. Wetin sef!

googlepikin: I was shocked the day our pastor asked all virgins in the house to raise their hands up, and few young girls raised their hands up. And thousands didn't. Na dat day I fear girls.

Sissie: Many women want to be stalked, and they love to see their spouse in a jealous rage. They think it's sign of "deep love".

Sissie: Many women want to be stalked, and they love to see their spouse in a jealous rage. They think it's sign of "deep love".

babyosisi: I want a woman married for at least ten years to dispute that post in it's entirety
Almost every man I know wants total control in his family
Any man who would not bait an eye at what his wife does has some shots of testosterone missing
You are not the right person to say so,you are a man
Remember that control is defined from the woman's end
There are some men that don't know where the boundary of being in charge stops and abuse and intimidation begins

LaShawn: Would you call in the middle of the night to ask your girlfriend where she is or to ensure that her phone isn't showing user busy

bukatyne: Only nbright or you can do that

Daresh: You and I are in the same situation except in my case, the first time was on our "honeymoon". The last time was on Friday. I know I need to leave.

LaShawn: He called randomly and the phone MUST be picked. He called in the middle of the night 'just to say hello'.

pickabeau1: dude,,, you quoted all that to shout jeezus?!

LaShawn: For me, I was well loved by my parents. It was my peers that made me have low self esteem Because I was a short, fat little girl with big cheeks and they teased me a lot about that.

coogar: michael jackson's thriller reloaded.
on their way home from a romantic date, a full moon hovered and the dude turned from a gentleman into a grizzly beast. meanwhile, she's 100% innocent throughout this period - she was a flawless partner!

Wu Zetian: SMH...........I do believe Nigerian feminists like Chimamanda are bold enough to share their beliefs to the whole goddamn world. Moreover, there are quite a number of Nigerian male feminists, so what is your point?

bukatyne: And what is the difference?