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rightnewton: I am next in line...... thank you Jesus..... congrats to the couple..

If u believe it and act rightfully upon it...

Most comes in silver colour. Always develope problem after 3 months. Can't be found in major dustributors shop..

DailyNews: There is something else I want to address.

I often hear ladies say- I don't want to marry a born again guy o, I dnt want to date those born again, they r boring, etc...

Maybe they feel the born again's won't spend on them

DailyNews: Therefore, it takes an absolute self-control for a non-impotent man to resist multiple sex desires and drive, and such absolute self-control can only come through his absolute n honest love for God..

hmmm... When people use love for GOD as an arguement for fidelity/abstnence, I tend to keep quiet... But I know my mind on that topic...

DailyNews: Now, wen u decide to marry a non-born again, the chances that he would cheat on u is very very high compared to wen u choose otherwise.

That's stereotyping.... You are wrong bro.. I know of a pastor in my area that impregnated a girl and aborted the pregnancy... He still sleeps with her... I am not a born again... I don't lie about it... But I am not promiscuos, I look at girls but I mind my business... There are some Christian brothers that flirt more than the non-born again..

Ivynwa: Sweetheart it was never written down by nature and society that a young lady cannot do the things she wants to do. What you frown at doesn't change that, your frowning at it did not write that down in Nigerian or nature's book of law.

I wrote this to nullify the statements you and the other poster quoted up there. You already condemned such ladies and said that most of them are immoral and wayward, the other poster was even feeling like a little god telling us how he won't even consider such ladies for marriage. I find that too judgemental. There are single ladies in Nigeria branching out succeeding in businesses, donating to charities, making achievements,doing good works while waiting for Mr. Right, in other countries there are single ladies living alone running their company, owning their houses etc so let's not be limiting.
A lady should remain real to herself even when she still longs for a life partner. Real in her dreams, likes, dislikes, needs. Your nice thread is talking about real people with real lives and needs not real people with unreal lives structured to please what others think.

wow..... Ivynwa... You just made my morning.... My lecturer told this... BELIEVE WHAT YOU BELIEVE BUT OPEN YOUR EARS FOR SOME OTHER THINGS.....

SimplYeahmee: truth is, it takes discipline and the grace of God to keep any man from cheating.
any natural man driven by his flesh will go afta anything in skirt be it ugly or fyn as long as he sees he can satisfy his lustful desires of sex. notwithstanding stds

@bolded.... I disagree with u... I am very choosy... To me it's only the desperate ones that does that...

Ivynwa: ---That is not a culture, is it? It is a perception.

JESUS CHRIST!.... What are u saying?... That it's not in our culture for the woman to do the chores in the house?.... Girl... It was never in our culture for a wife to expect her husband to do the house chores...

HumbledbYGrace: Ok on a serious note

Is it okay for a lady to help her man pay for the bride price

Just curious, its becoming a norm

You girls like to quote what a man can do a woman can do even better.... So what's wrong in you giving him the money if he doesn't have it?..

Ivynwa:
Some of our boys just walk into restaurants and eat and eat because they have money and go about with portruding belly. I can't handle a protruding belly. I can't put my hands around it much more romance it. Ouch!
Some eat too much and don't care how they look.

Who are U really.... U just say exactly what I've been saying ever since.... Most Nigerians (mostly our girls) don't watch what and how they eat... As long as they are not paying, they will order everything on the menu.... Pls girls, learn to exercise ur body and if u have a big/protuding tummy, go on a diet...

temi4fash: @ivy sowi ooo... u will b fine. hop u av taken drugs.. enjoy ur dai...[size=8pt][/size]

dude....

bbfever: ALL THOSE WHO ARE SCREAMING BLUE MURDER HAVE U BOTHERED TO FIND OUT IF SHE ACTUALLY DELIVERED THE OTHER PRODUCTS SHE ADVERTISED ON NAIRALAND TO THEIR BUYERS. TRUTH BE TOLD I AM SURE OTHER FOLKS BOUGHT STUFF FROM HER WHICH SHE CAME THROUGH ON, INCLUDING VEHICLES BECAUSE I AM AWARE SHE ALSO SOLD VEHICLES ONLINE HERE. HAVE YOU ALL STOPPED TO THINK THAT PERHAPS SHE HAD SO MUCH ON HER PLATE AND JUST COULDN'T SORT THE ACCUSERS PRODUCTS? I REALLY NEVER WANTED TO WRITE ANYTHING ON THIS ISSUE BUT I SEE THAT SOME FOLKS HERE ARE JUST MAKING A WHOLE LOT OF NOISE AND NOT MAKING ANY SENSE. I AM SURE SHE WOULD REFUND AS SHE HAS SAID SHE WOULD SO EVERYBODY JUST CHILL AND FOCUS ON TIME FOR REFUND RATHER THAN ALL THIS MUD SLINGING GOING ON

Bros.... She has no intention of refunding the money... She's owing someone and she' saying she doesn't trust the person if not she'd ve referred him to somebody else to collect the money or she would 've directed him to close her account and collect the money.

Rooneyboy: Shut up u dirty pig, where did u spring out from.

do u think u are dealing with morons here

That's harsh...

eimuhb: 'character and proper home training matters alot.'. True.
Environment also plays a big part in influencing.

I still don't believe in the part abt environment... I grew up in a rough neighbourhood in P.H, most of my friends smoke, womanise, but I do neither... I believe in this Bible verse(I'v forgotten the book, chapter nd verse)... OTHERS MAY, BUT I CANNOT... I'm not saying that I'm good, but I know myself... That's what matters..

xyoung: There is this school of thought
"'Personality depends on location"
Which simply mean chances of meeting up with a good/responsible guy/girl depends on your location
For example I live in phc, most girls (97percent) of the girls you meet are 'the pay as you go type' and chances of meeting a well brought up and responsible girl is very very slim compared to some other states

bro, I also stay in ph.. But I tend to disagree with u on that.. There are good and bad girls everywhere... Even those in the village when they do come to urban areas they tend to change and do worse things than the girls they met in the city... To me, character and proper home training matters alot..

DailyNews: In fact, if u ladies are like this in real life

so true... With the near "perfectness" they exhibit on this thread, I wonder if that's how they live their lives outside this make belief place

DailyNews: believe wot I am telling u today- most of u may get real deserving suitors from here. Just make sure u all are living the exact life u are showcasing here.

True... But then most men see, before they proceed... But majority of them don't have their pix and then their is the problem of.....

DailyNews: Its really making me to have a positive mindset towards our ladies

I will comment my reserve on this.... It should have been towards "MOST OF" our ladies..

Rooneyboy: Why should I be joking

U can u stay with a thief in ur house as a wife

I asked a simple question na... Don't be angry...

Rooneyboy: point of correction bro she's divorced, she stole her husband money severally till he got fed up, this forced the poor man to send her packing

How true is this?, or u are just joking?.

carmelion: Still trying to make up my mind.you re not the first you know, others would feel cheated

don't know why girls don't want to put up their pix... What's wrong in putting it?.

xyoung: Sound true especially if the lady isn't doing any official work
If the lady is working in a good company and staying alone, there is a good chance that she would be taken advantaged off..
My candid advice is for ladies to remain with their parents or relations even while working

There's this family, there daughter served at abuja, initially she stayed with a relation but after some months, she moved out to another area to stay alone... She's still there (she was retained). Her younger sis is now with her in Abuja also serving at N.T.A... (I will send her this link on whatsapp).. To me if she's working and is well mannered and doesn't dress like a wh¤*e, I see nothing wrong in staying alone.. I am a P.H boy.. There is this friend of mine whose mom told us that she met her husband in a club.. They are happily married till today with 3 boys and a girl.. (The girl is also married).. I so much believe in this saying " ONE MAN's MEAT IS ANOTHER MAN's POISON .... Just because somebody made it this way doesn't mean it will happen to everyone in that same way...

Nairaland girls are James Bond... None will ever drop their number...

Boss13: This a serious issue. I noticed how other front page news are pushing this sensitive topic downwards. Before we know, it is out of front page and the news dies off. Wunmi, the scammer, will repackage herself and attack her new victims.

It would even be better if our national dailys run this story...

I saw this list on a site, thought it will be of help to some... Though I don't believe in all... You might choose to agree or disagree with me but to each his own..

1- Dont be in a hurry to move out of ur
parents house.
2- Dont wait for a man before u start living.
You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.
3-Stay away from alcohol. It has killed many
and you are not special.
4- Dont entertain a wrong number call,
especailly at night. It is not the right way to
find a lover.
5- Develop a healthy eating habit.
6- Dress well: Impression count.
7- Dont use sex as proof of love. Sex is no
proof of love, he'll leave u after sex.(not all guys)
8- Add value to yourself- get a career. (get a job)
9- Dont marry for the money , else you'll
become one of his possessions.
10- Beauty is not everything. If it is all u have,
you will lose ur place to someone more
beautiful than you... (I prefer character, resourcefulness, composure, etc to beauty.

Girls, this is a piece of advice free of charge from me to you all.. When u do get married, NEVER you try to take a side when ur husband and his family members are having any form of dispute... NEVER u try that... When they talk bad about u, keep quiet.. I'm talkin from experience... If u do pick a side and we all know u will stick to ur man, what do u think will happen when they settle the misunderstanding?... I learnt that from my mum... Be friendly to his family members... If you can't just pretend to be untill u are rooted into his life... N.B: You are all free to criticize me but that's how I see it... It worked for my mum so I believe in it..

kaboninc: I've heard this quote, though not exactly like this but something close to it. And the truth is that most ladies and *girls* go for already made guys while the very few will say they'll go for guys with good future prospects.

Most do go for married men... When the wives find's out that their husband's carry young girls outside,most of them will curse the lady involved... I've heared a story like that, the woman said since the girl doesn't want her to enjoy her husband, she will never experience marital bliss.... That curse followed her for a very long time..

Saw this on vanguard.... Girls what's ur take on POLYGAMY?....

Most of your colleagues are marrying
married men these days, would you?
Let me explain something to you; where
are the single guys? They are there and
not ready to marry. If the single guys are
not ready then the next available option
should be taken. I believe one should go
for whatever makes one happy. If a
married man is the one that will make
you happy, please go for it. I know
married women would be angry with
me but it is the truth of the matter.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/02/i-dont-supply-women-to-politicians-lola-alao/

@mayapretty, I saw ur post on Goldie's thread... Good job girl.

carmelion: Please on a very light mood,I am begging,I would prefer it,if you write in pure English.
Thank you.

Let him be, that's his way of writting... I am following his e-fight with Idowuogbo and freecocoa..

chiyex: did i mention shame at any point? is being a student something to be ashamed of ? i tell it like it is. if she doesnt like it.. fine. just an observation that i made a bunch of them are like that and not all.

@bolded, not at all my brother... I am also one and I don't hide it... I haven't been to the States (never even touch plane sef) so I can't speak for the girls or guys over there, but in Nigeria, the girls won't want to date a student they will rather run after the working class guys.. Now tell me when I've graduted and now working will I want to date/marry those girls?, won't I also run after the younger ones around me?.

I saw this comment on a thread and I want u guys or gals honest opinion on it...

chiyex: A lot of naija women are so short sighted that they cant see a man's potential. No wonder they miss out and then settle for anyone when age is no longer on their side.

here's the link www.nairaland.com/1193278/why-naija-girls-america-like

chronique: I think single ladies should take the bull by the horn(ask guys out) if they're bold enough to do it.

Naija girls can never do that... They will be quick to say this is the 21st century if they are asked to be permanent house wives but they won't do what 21st century woman will do... TOAST A GUY :/

Maya2pretty: thank u jor, I c no reason y any guy should brag wit his money when am a graduate dat'l get a very good job soon, invest money and make even more money

If majority of our girls think like u do, things will not be like this.... Many boys (men) will treat the girls with the much needed respect that they deserve and none will be bold to call them gold diggers..

blink182: My sassy lady
Sweet November
Titanic

Shed tears for all three

1. Ghost 2. THE LAKE HOUSE 3. Pretty Woman(mom love it).