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Let him go, if he is yours he will certainly come back to ya, Put I can say in almost certain terms that he sure isn't yours baby

Its simple na, you need not tell him anything, SHOW him you are not interested.

Stage a scene in your house and make him catch you with a guy in a compromising position

And if he makes the mistake of attempting to forgive you, tell him you were with the sixth guy in two weeks. Also make him understand your parents approve it. He may be broken hearted but what is that compared to your freedom?

Tell her your prophet at the Synagogue prophesied to you that she is your future wife and you need her number in order to call her at exactly midnight so you can make the marriage plans.

I am sure she will gladly give you the damn number

Honest truth i hardly read more than 10 lines of what this chap wrote, but if its anything to go by, then i would advice most urgently that he stops writing and start practicing 

I don't believe in kissing and telling, so there is no way I would tell y'all that am pretty good at it, nor will I say I have red and succulent lips

What are you comparing them with? - with the ladies of the 60's?, 50's?, , you gatto make a somewhat scientific comparism before you come to any conclusion.


Since I was born, and now that am getting old I have always known women are attracted by pearls and the good things of life

So bros i no no where you dey come from

Sounds like this babe loves me then

Last one was Dee. , now i dont have a name

Hey maybe am getting something really wrong here, otherwise it appears to me that some babe is having problems defining her position in a relationship and is using the subtle threat approach to find her footing!!!!

If a girl keeps talking about guys trying to woe her then am thinking:

(i) she might be lying - pure and simply to get you on your toes and do for her what she would you do for he

(ii) she is saying the truth and wants you to appreciate her more for who she is

(iii) She is an intellectual idiot and simply can not come up with any discussion more interesting

(iv) you are worse than her intellectually and as such cannot make up a more exciting topic for discussion

so you tell me which one(s) is (are) right

I understand the fact that often times people get caught up in circumstances beyond their control, but if you ask me, it is wrong from the start to start off a relationship with a married person, especially if this guy does not intend to make you wife number 2.

Though you have not said anything in this regard, it is more or less insinuated in your general comment.

My suggestion here is that you should ask yourself if you are willing to accept the position of a second wife, and for your own good, do not ever imagine this guy would send his wife packing for you. It is better you end the relationship than taking that option, because wife number one will curse you, and believe me, baby girl, it will catch up with you, its called natural law, and its supported in ALL religions.

So ask yourself if you are ready to be wify 2. If you are ready for that, then ask him and hear his opinion - some guys prefer adventure to reality, so be ready for a rude shock.

If you are not ready to be wify 2 then make a clean sweep as white nkem said, just leave. Leave your job, your house, it might be difficult, but by God withstanding the consequence of cheating with a married man is greater!!!!!

If you are the praying type, put this in God's hands and you will see what would come out of it.

@white Nkem: What I believe Baby face meant is how long will one stay in a new relationship BEFORE demanding sex, but in my opinion, I think the initial contributors were derailing and I supposed it would be best to respond to what they were saying.

From what bolarge and lizzy said, its never, until after marriage. But am thinking it is wrong to have a sweeping response like that, I think first of all a relationship is between two individuals and as such how long they would stay before making love, if they would (before marriage) is entirely up to them.

I thus suggested that it would be best that before a real relationhip commences, sexual active individual should ensure they are dating their kind.

In as much as I want to agree with you that the body should be kept holy and that God has given you sufficient grace to keep yourself, I doubt very much if you will be disappointing your friends and spouse if you had sex before marriage.

I do not think that its always the case that if someone really loves you, that he would always wait for you where you keep saying no to him.

As you know love is like a flame, it requires heat to ignite it and fuel to sustain it. So it may be true that you meet and fall in love with an individual. You talk together, share your dreams together - these are things that could sustain love, but if one party requires, and is denied of physical gratification, frustration sets in. He / she  does not want to go out, because that would be cheating, he starts wondering why you keep refusing him, that is called complaining. Eventually he does one of the two: (i) breaks up or (ii) gets a secret lover.  Now I don't think you would want any of these.

My advice here is that if a guy is at the verge of dating a girl, these things should somehow me made clearly. If they say birds of same feather flock together, then a girl / guy that is SO NOT into having sex should make the guy / babe know her opinions about these things. It saves the world a lot of grief.

i HAVE AN ACCIDENTED CAR FOR LESS THAN THAT, ITS A 307 PEUGEOT CAR, REALLY NEW EXCEPT FOR THE FRONT BUMPER THAT IS FULLY DAMAGED. OH THE ENGINE IS KINDDA FAULTY TOO AND IT TAKES LIKE 500K TO GET A REPLACEMENT ENGINE - TOKS O!!!

STILL WANT IT?

@eyoeyo: Who do you expect would call you?, me?, certainly not. It takes more than this to get a job, haba, you should know that.

If you wish to apply online, then you do so ON THE WEBSITE FOR PROSPECTIVE EMPLOYER and sincerely the organization will call you if you meet their criteria. I got my present job on-line, so yes on-line application does work, but the employers are not prowling through sites looking for school leavers who left off just their email addresses and gms numbers! God!!!

Nduleme has spoken

I am truly sorry am not not going to sound cheery today and destroy your future tomorrow. It is best you get sad today and get over it.

have you heard of the word Sacrilege?,

It is serious and brings along with with deadly consequence. Make a change, NOW,

@orinkala: make you no try post any yeye picture here o, I no wan see ojuju

@mamaput: It appears you date more than one guy that is why liver no let you talk again, you dey fear say Man1 no go fit relate your story with what he did with you, just like other Eves that will never mention names when they give shoutouts on TV.

Marriage is a sacred institution and you should respect it. Since you have decided to marry this lady am assuming you love her enough to make her your wife.

Your parents are human and they are liable to mistakes in judgment. Now they say your wife is arrogant, its your duty to remind them she is your wife and not their child, and thus not their responsibilty. I wonder how they would feel if their daughter is being driven from her marital home by her parents-in-law.

You have to make your parents see that you are married, and she is your choice. You owe this to your wife and child, to the stability of your young family and to your future.

If them bone, then make you too bone them, after a while una go return back to the negotiation table. In a few years or less it will be over.

My last on this issue is that she should apologize for any wrongs she may have done to your parents (real or imaginary) and beg for their forgiveness. This way they may never truly forgive her, they will certainly not forget, but they will learn to tolerate her and thats a start.

Nduleme has spoken

If you do that then you are expressing two things:
(i) There will be an impression you don't know what you want in a woman
(ii) If the second girl discovers that you are only coming to her because you were rejected by the first, I doubt if she would be too willing to accept.

If a guy is attracted to 2 friends, my advice is that he finds out first which among them would most likely accept him before making a move. He can do this by:

(i) finding out if any has a relationship - and how strong the relationship is

(ii) their likes - he may share lots of similarities with one of them - movies, travelling, studies etc

But where the guy had made a move and gets rejected, my humble advice be say make e fash,

Might have been in use for a while but I think it does some good to someone's spirit

Appear naked

Am really sorry, but I could not help saying that.

Baby face, every guy is unique, guys like different things and their level of appreciation differs with who is offering the gift. Where the giver is the girlfriend, then the depth of their relationship also matters, and also importantly the period you are offering the gift.

If you are just starting off with a guy (a new guy in your life could still put you on top of the world na) then something practical would do - a packet shirt, a tie, a really good movie, or a good book - the age and status of the guy also matters o, a tie or a packet shirt may not appeal to a first year student o.

But where you have become more intimate, you would then know the things he has been longing for, you could get those for him.

If it was a romantic period, say val, and both of you have been dating for a while then something romantic would be best, something intimate, undies.

My dear do not try to over spend in getting him a gift, as far as I know its the thought that matters not the item, so for me I would be happy with what ever she gives me as a birthday gift, val gift etc.

Nduleme has spoken

Something tells me we are about to give Baby face some personal advice here

My dear, most often than not young girls who wanna be are most concerned about their boobs, and its for a good reason because naija guys are boobs - crazy, and am also guilty of that.

I don't know if this is true, but i hear touching contributes to its size now if this is true, make your guy do more touching na, otherwise you go lose am o, and if he is touchophobic, then you might recruit me.  

But sincerely speaking if a guy desires you basically because of the size of your breast, a feature you most likely can not change, then may be he is not meant for you. And if this is any compensation, a girl with rather large boobs is most often seen from one perspective alone, you don't need me to say that, do you?
Nduleme has spoken!!!!

Queen2 what i saw there is certainly not flower and perfume,

want me to put words to it?

You are welcome Heavenlee,

What are you guys saying, the pix at heavenlee's profile is simply superb, I love it and any guy in love with art would say the same. Now if you ask me what that pix deserve for Valentine, I would tell you straight away - a huge hug.

As for me I got an all nite call because she is not in town, and she could not come around because her exams are approaching, and as y'all know i no be playboy

I think she is doing a good job, she has struck gold and would milk till its dry, or till she dies, go on gal

I completely agree with LadyT, in a situation like this its more important to sort things out rather than laying blames. Its best medical attention is sorted, and if per adventure the mum and child are negative, then its well and good, otherwise both husband and wife should start on the retro-viral drugs,

The woman should bear in mind that infidelity is not the only means of acquirng HIV

Nice theory, Just that it certainly does not apply to every guy. but if i want to dwell for a minute on your beautiful theory then i may end up punching it, here and there.

one: I would have tot a wifey is more homely and as that does not dress that well as she would be too concerned with the homely things and not spend time on herself, otherwise why would the guy make a move for another?

two: your theory takes for granted that ALL guys double date, this is not only unfair, its absolutely not true, even where a guy may have like "babygirl" besides his "wifey" i honestly think it stops there, except you are referring to kids and calling them men.

three: your description of a "baby-girl" stings. If you ever have a girl that you truly like and attend her parties, take her on hols and show off to friends, then am doubting if she would play "master of disguise" when she finds you with another. A "side piece" should fit a master of disguise more because from her name, and characters she appears to be a fun thing.

four: what is the difference between a side piece and a jump off?, God almighty, if you are good at theorizing, why not come up with a theory on why a guy would want to leave a girl for another, it could be a first step towards resolving conflicts, abi you no think so?

How can you give her a second chance?, she would probably introduce you to your new father - in - law the next time.

My dear sweep bad radiance with a fine broom, and no forget collect the car key o!!!

I know this is not the right time for self - examination, but how far? If a girl can confidently bring in a guy and introduce him as her brother it means:

(i) You did not marry her well, how can you marry a girl and you don't know her family members?, bros., open your eyes

(ii) May be you don't satisfy her at all, otherwise she wont have the time to bring home a substitute

(iii) you brought a slot home, otherwise she would at least respect the institution (marriage) she now belongs to and respect you as a person, and take her acts somewhere else (that is if she has to)

Now am just wondering, if both you and the "brother" works in same office, na which time both of them go dey together? when you and the bros most likely leave home same time and leave office also same time, its just me asking some of my silly questions

Which kin advice be that?, the guy did not mention money na,

Its best you get it right as early as possible, Love at first sight truly exist and I believe its happening to you, you said in clear terms that you don't love girlfriend one, I believe you, because if you do, you wont completely fall for girlfriend number 2.

Sha, hurt girlfriend one now!!! Its better than having her on a string for a while and allowing her to " catch" you in the act.

Tell her its over, don't do tomorrow what you can do today, shekina!!!!!!

Just a silly question, are you advicing one to give the real reason for the break-up or the "official" reason, because there are some reasons you will give that would only compound somebody's woes, want examples?


What would a lady say if you told her you are calling it quits because you just discovered another girl that is hotter in bed, or one that is better educated, or is more refreshing to be it, or is more adventurous?

Best you revert to the good old lines "I don't think am good enough for you"

Though I completely agree with you in that its best someone knows his / her short falls, it sure would come in handy when dealing with a new relationship,

She has said it all - her relationship went through the following stages:

stage one

Guy chyked her, told her all the love terms in the books, and some that are not in the books, 

stage two

Girl agrees to "try" guy out, and a relationship ensured

stage three

Girls gets too involved in the relationship (this would be off-scene anyway, so she wont tell us) and guy feels choked 

stage four

Guy picks up a fight and walks away

stage five (present stage)

Girl whines, and generalizes that all guys are the same

I like your spirit, girl, and I would be the last guy on earth to discourage courage. You are positively courageous and may be you will get your reward.

My advice: When its time for testimonies, come to the pulpit and say " I want to thank the lord for all his mercies in my life. Last sunday after the Pastor prayed for all desperate girls in church, the lord revealed to me that I should date the pastor not minding the fact he is married. The lord also told me that it would not be counted as adultery should the pastor decide to sleep with me"

If Christ was tempted 3 times by the devil himself, then its a small price for a pastor to be tempted once by a desperate busy body, Am sure the Pastor will survive it, otherwise he is not worth his salt. Amen

It is difficult to live with deceit, so if a lady has been lying to me over the paternity of a baby, I may have to let her go, love is a feeling that can die, and deceit is a potential love killer, same love can be ignited with someone else.

I would move on.