₦airaland Forum

Bros, leave that thing, its a simple fact in life that you should miss someone you like - especially when she is gone, but it is also maturity to know you can't have it all.

I could understand that you never thought much of the fact that you are from different religions when you started dating, this is obviously because you never thought the relationship would get any serious.

From what you said am not sure if the relationship was any serious, it was simply intimate, and you will forget her the moment you meet another "intmate girl"

And next time don't go for an imam's daugther

This age thing is most pronounced when couples are young, but as they grow older their age difference becomes negligible.

Tribe and religion are greater agents of division in the country, but it sure might be different with Nigerians in diaspora,

If these couples were listening, and would take an advice, mine would be for them to continue if they have true feelings for each other,

It sure is a sad story, and as you have noticed with all these responses, death is something that happens like by the minute, it takes the good, the bad and the ugly, and it would be madness to assume the good ones die first, because I know lots of good guys (and babes) that are still alive.

You are only missing her because she is dead, and if anything you should thank your stars you only met her briefly, treasure the nice things you know about her (and am guessing they wont be that much) and let it end there, don't deceive yourself she does not have a bad side, partying is not a very good attribute, for one, and it has a way of attracting strings of not so good attributes, drugs, illicit sex, you name it.

Find someone else, and do not ever make the mistake of comparing the new one you will get to meet with the dead one, they will be two distinct individuals, and one is DEAD.

She is certainly not a virgin

@LiquidMind

I no say you go tell us this better way na

If a hard-to-get babe all of a sudden starts showing interest in a guy that had spent time (and most likely money) trying to win her over, such guy may assume that:

(i) she has been dumped by a guy she was initially dating

(ii) compared another guy and new guy and decided new guy is better

(iii) just discovered something about the guy that she finds attractive

Any way you look at it, such a guy may want to get his pound of flesh, that is if he does not have outright hatred for the girl. Yet my advice to such a lady is to place herself in the reach of the guy once again, that should not be difficult for a girl that is about town

E get as e be o, I can assist a friend with HIV, you know, sit with him, talk with him and all that, same goes for a brother or family member, but for a lady i ought to spend my life with and allow to have my children!!!!!!, e get as e be o,

Lead us not into temptation , because i am not incapable of falling o

Witches dey o, them dey boku!!!!! Maybe they don't fly in their broomsticks, just may be they don't wear the funny cone hats and have gap tooths, but they sure are around and in our midst.


If you are a Nigerian you would have heard series of confessions, fetish-ly or "church-ily" induced. we heard of the chap that was found at this high tension wire in Benin.

DBN, Lagos carried a story of another guy that was beaten to death after confessing his deed,

It would be stupid to assume they don't exist, but it would be really scary to believe they are too powerful

Like Mickplus said this is a serious issue and no matter how "modern" we try to make ourselves look like, with it comes to the basics, we are Africans and we certainly are tribalistic!!!!

May be am sorry to say this (may be am not) but am very welling and ready to have relationships with like any and every one, but when it comes to marriage, am kindda choosy o, Amongst other things I would greatly favour a lady that can cook very well, especially one that cooks native dishes!!!

Sincerely speaking I have had a few girls prepare dishes and most are only good with the rice etc, It takes a "home" girl to prepare good dishes and it takes a girl of your tribe to make that very dish you desire, I don't think I want to compromise on that!!!

I believe in not having all eggs in a single basket, but that should only happen in a relationship that lacks committment. In other words, where you are only dating.

But the moment you are getting serious, my dear you should as a matter of urgency drop all your runz.

The two directions Whitelex explored are truly relevant, especially the second, I don't think I would dump a girl just because i find her outside discussing with a guy, and as to the extent of compromise they may have expressed, For God sakes they were outside, they could not possibly be doing that MUCH outside na, abi?

I think the guy was looking for an excuse and you provided him with one, its best you just forget you and him as an item. May be you fit try finish watin u start with the other guy

Thanks Ehin, but as you already know am a guy so I cant down grade my fellow guys, have fun

I dont think Black Mamba was wrong with what he said and am completely sure he understood the meaning of the word, what he said is that some girls say lots of stuff during sex and true to what he said, it adds spice to love making.

If you ask me, I think that girls will agree deep in their hearts that there are lots of good guys around, but as Man eater rightly pointed out its easy to compare reality with the glamour of Hollywood

Keep it up Man - eater, and to y'all omoges, you are welcome to say a few nice words about your guys or guys in general, I promise you it wont hurt you, just try it.

When you start this superiority talk you bring the worst of each other, i would have expected this topic to be a learning process that was why I refused to contribute all the while - because me wan learn and know how for take impress you know who the more.

There are so many impressive attributes that seem aboundant in our ladies besides their shape, their sense of humour came out very clearly in this discussion and am impressed.

Most of the negative attributes listed in this discussion are not exclusive to men and y'all know that - cheating for one, clueless for another, and oh dirtiness and laziness! Haba its an endless list.

On the issue of pregnancy and fertility, haba, it takes two to tango - if one part did not properly participate, the other part will not make a child - and please drop the test tube and artificial insemination story  - thats completely un - African.

This na my contribution

There is something you must like so much in your best friend for him or her to me your best friend, and more often than not people compare their dates with their best friends of the opposite sex and if these dates are found wanting, well such relationships don't last. Perhaps this accounts for a lot of break - ups.

I don't think there is any thing wrong in dating a best friend, infact its said that you should make a friend of a girl before you date her, now why would we say that if we are not ready to act on it?

But a note of caution - If you don't have that special feelings for her then its best you remain friends otherwise act NOW

Why not call their corporate office and hear from them

Strategy are certainly not inter – changeable, in fact at most occasion they are seen as world apart, because while a strategist is seen as a man ever prepared, a man with luck is seen as lazy. You could get far with luck, especially when you have all the god-fathers, nice legs, good smiles and right names!!! But believe me most times a dull guy with lucks eventually noticed when he gets at the top. The office suffers because he lacks the ware withal to deal with the exigencies of his position.

But when you talk strategy you are talking long - term plan to succeed. A strategy to move on in your office may be acquiring professional certificates, it may be understudying an individual that you know if destined for the top. A good strategist will not give room for luck, rather he tries to acquire all the skills necessary to attain and remain in a position he intends to acquire. Success from strategy depends entirely on the out - come of a good strategy.

When strategy is met with luck, it’s a bonus, think of a man acquiring skills to become the head of am organization, only for the present head to move on, this is luck with good elements of preparedness, because if this happens he will be well equipped to handle the situation

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[/its guessing. what we call taking a chance. i used the coke analogy, which doesnt require any lottery form filling. so if i buy a bottle of coke without knowing wots under the coke, that is strategizing   in any case how many people DAILY fill out lottery forms and end up disappointed? because they arent lucky?]

The coke analogy those not quite fit with the lottery, because with the coke you have no idea of what is under the bottle but with a pool (lottery ) you have some knowlege of what had transpired

Now that Val has come and gone, I am curious to know who made out with who in the Nairaland

I have a slightly different view from what i have seen here, as much as i agree that lots of Nigerian guys appear to make more money than our girls there by creating the impression that money flow in the country is "mono - directional", i will not fail to say that i have chatted with numerous Nigerian male, and sorry to say this, but some had clearly asked me for financial assistance!!!

Like earlier said some girls may not be able to provide cash, but some have ways of reducing the flow from the pocket. Thank God I have someone that is very good with money, if anything i spend less now, so yes some girls are good for more than what they have under the skirt

I got this girl that spent a few days making out with me, to my surprise she started calling me DADDY, God i was irritated beyond redemption, and call it quit!!!!

I am a little surprised with the kind of response this dialogue has attracted. For me I consider it weak that a present day guy should use “you look like Tyre Banks” approach. It is week, but it is so easy to accept the part of the girl taking a lift home. I mean this one happens like every day. I stay in Kubwa in Abuja and make you come see the number of babes and guys hanging at Banex junction waiting for a taxi or bus or kabu – kabu to pick them. To God a babe will not need a “line” to jump into your car o……………………infact na she go use eye ask you!!!!

Though I think Don was kindda fast and I also think the babe kinnda feel for him too, otherwise she is easy.

For me I get my ways and it certainly wont include “you look like……, ” nor would it include “come know my place” but it may include a ride o…………………, cos its like a fast track to being alone with her

Hi,

I find it a little surprising that a girl should be the one struggling for what to say with a guy. I have always thought it’s a guy's headache.

Well personally am wondering how you got to know each other because if anything you can start and end discussion with discussion revolving around those things.

If for example you met in school then you can talk school and results and what ever people do in school. If you knew each other in Nigeria before “jamming” in the UK then you can talk about old friends – like how is Nike doing; I heard Kunle is now married to Ifeoma; you believe who I came across yesterday etc.

But sincerely honey, I must let you know am not pleased that a girl is burning her candle out to keep a conversation going, if you too truly like each other then you wont lack a word when you are together.

Make I kuku ask you sef, na watin you like about this bobo?, that might even be a nice way to start off……………, tell him what you think about him……………….i don try, abi

Hi all,

I think it is a nice idea to meet new friends and all that especially if you are in a new city. For me i just moved over to Abuja and I won't mind one bit in catching up with nice people in the city.

Though my 4 months here have been very eventful, i know it would only get better. email is nduleme@yahoo.com

wish u guys the best as u await celtel recruitment, wishin all of u a warm and most interesting val,

In Kubwa, Abuja light dey erractic o, times e be like say NEPA forget say them give us light, and they would allow us use it for 2 to 3 staright days, at other times (on their bad days) they ensure we dont have a 20 minute uninterrupted supply. all in all i should say its fair here

It really depends on who is writing, cos me too i was suprised when i "play" enter unilag the other day and was supposed to go see a friend on a day the hostel was observing their week, i was asked to pay "because i be aristo"!!!

well in all truthfulness i think lots of girls abuse the "freedom" that comes with staying in the hostel. In as amuch as a girl has the right to accept a guy of her choice irrespective of age, its annoying to see a girl moving out with a guy like twice her age, a married guy and one she obviously has zero feelings for and sadly, a guy she would dump in another two weeks for another of same age range!!!

annoying,