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By Janet Bloomfield

As an outspoken critic of feminism, I have quite a bit of experience interacting, both online and IRL, with feminists, who tend not to take even the mildest criticism of their ideology kindly. The recent events at the Calgary Expo, where an anodyne critique of feminism as “too eager to embrace victimhood” resulted in a female comic-book creator and her colleagues being banned for life from all expos across Canada run by those particular organizers, offers proof that feminists cannot tolerate the slightest critique of their ideology. But, as Tyrion Lannister observed, “when you tear out a man’s tongue, you are not proving him a liar; you’re only telling the world that you fear what he might say.”

Here are seven critiques in particular feminists hate hearing and fight to silence:


1. Feminists say one thing and do another

Feminists absolutely hate when you point to evidence of feminists actively, enthusiastically opposing equality. NOW opposes shared parenting? Lol! Feminists believe in equality! Hilary says women are the primary victims of war, all while women are still protected from the draft? Giggles. Feminism is about equality! It’s okay to cut the genitals of babies, as long as the babies are male? Tee hee, it’s totally not the same thing! They will hold the dictionary in one hand and stuff cotton wool in their ears with the other while screaming la-la-la I can’t hear you! And then suggest you Bleep off, which is always charming.


2. Women are just as, if not more, violent than men.
Fact:

men on average are bigger and stronger than women. Fact: women who get in physical fights with men tend to get the shitty end of the stick. Fact: the Violence Against Women Act uses a set of standards to evaluate domestic violence that almost always result in the man being arrested, no matter who started it. All these things can be true and still not foreclose the reality that women are, on average, more violent than men. They overwhelming tend to prefer beating up and even killing children, who can’t fight back, but they don’t really hold back when it comes to beating on men, either. Remember the feminist writers and editors at Jezebel who gleefully recounted beating up their boyfriends? 70% of domestic violence, in which only one person throws a punch is carried out by women. Men allow women to hit them because they know if they fight back, they will be the ones arrested, charged and jailed.



3. There is institutional sexism against men:

It is an oft-repeated truism that one cannot be sexist against men, because there are no institutional forces that discriminate against men for no reason other than that they are men, but related to the above, if legal discrimination vis-à-vis domestic violence is not institutional discrimination, what is? Men are far more likely to be charged, convicted, and jailed (at disproportionately longer rates for the exact same offense) than women. If the criminal code and its application are not institutional powers, what is? Schools discriminate against boys (and some girls) by forcing them to take psychotropic medications to participate in female-centric education. The Board of Education is not an institutional power? Men’s healthcare is globally underfunded. The World Health Organization is not a global institutional power? In their relentless quest to pursue the cult of victimhood the edges of the known universe, feminists will deny that men face institutional biases that make sexism not only possible, but inevitable.


4. Most feminists haven’t read any feminist theory and have no idea what they are talking about:

As the recipient of an undergraduate degree in Film Theory (women’s studies and cultural Marxism, by stealth), I am extremely well-read in most feminist literature. I have read the older, misandrist feminists like Dworkin and Mackinnon, and of course we were assigned the S.C.U.M. Manifesto to read when we studied Andy Warhol (his films suck, don’t bother). For those unaware, Solanas shot Warhol as feminist statement. I have read modern feminists like Gilligan, Flax and Haraway, and I’ve even waded through the unintelligible gibberish of Butler, Irigaray and Kristeva. In fact, Kristeva was the keynote speaker at my graduation and she nearly caused a medical emergency when the entire cohort lapsed into a coma listening to her “fashionable nonsense”. Kidding, obviously, but damn she was boring and she droned on forever. I have yet to meet a feminist who can coherently discuss any one of those theorists, or the many, many others I slogged my way through. Ask a feminist to debate feminism and you will be told to go Bleep yourself.


5. Feminists deny that women sexually objectify men:

Michael Buble recently met with a storm of controversy after posting an image of a woman with her ass cheeks hanging out the back of her shorts.

https://instagram.com/p/1bzcAAJSy0/

The feminists were very upset at Buble’s “sexual objectification” of the woman. Tweet after tweet asserted a woman’s right to wear whatever she wants without being judged or objectified. Oh really, feminists? Really? And I suppose rocket scientists who wear shirts made for them by their lady friends will be extended the same courtesy?

The hypocrisy of feminists is rarely more evident – bring up the topic of sexual objectification and feminists will turn cartwheels trying to explain why it’s wrong for grown men to admire the fit, tight bodies of young women, but perfectly okay for grown women to openly express sexual desire for underage vampires?


6. Feminists don’t understand what “no means no” means:

When women like Shailene Woodley, Kelly Clarkson, Katy Perry or even the Holy Feminist Matriarch Madonna herself says she is not a feminist, feminists react by calling these other women stupid, ignorant, male-attention craving traitors. Because nothing is more likely to convince other people of the merits of your argument than calling them dumb and ill-informed, right? I can’t count the number of people have tagged me on social media with their rapey insistence that I must accept feminism (come on baby, you know you want it). But when challenged to actually discuss the merits of an actual feminist theorist, they invariably run away crying and report me for harassment. It would almost be funny if it were not true. Consent, feminists. Learn what it means.


7. Women are capable, confident and able to defend themselves and no, that’s not “victim-blaming”:

Nothing sends feminists into a ragefest quite like a demonstration of women refusing to hold others accountable for their own safety and well-being. Make it clear that you can hunt? Post evidence that you know how to fight? That you’re packing heat? Stay aware of your surroundings at all times and assume responsibility for your own security? You are a victim-blaing rape apologist and feminists will let you know. Everything from the ‘teach men not to rape” campaigns to “don’t be that guy” to “listen and believe” assumes that women are not and cannot be responsible for their own actions, must not be asked to offer evidence for their claims and ultimately, men are responsible for the safety of women. Remember, it’s #HeForShe, not #WeForAll. How empowering. If men are responsible for my actions, should they vote for me, too? Assume responsibility for my financial affairs? My education? Sounds an awful lot like the mythical patriarchy to me….
When feminists create “safe spaces” for adult women replete with Play-doh, coloring books and cookies, I seriously question why any woman would identify as a feminist. Feminists literally treat adult women like three year olds. How does this empower you to make smart choices about your life? How does this embolden you to go after what you want? Play-doh? Really?

If feminists followed the dictionary, they wouldn’t fear #WomenAgainstFeminism and work so desperately to exclude them from the conversation about gender and equality. They would engage in debate and offer evidence for why feminism is better than whatever else is being proposed. But they don’t. They file false reports, claim abuse and harassment where none took place and ultimately, expose the heart of fascist, intolerant, hateful darkness at the core of feminism.

Maybe #WomenAgainstFeminism just need to offer feminists cookies and sippy cups?


Magnoliaa

By Janet Bloomfield


I’ve been a bit vocal lately on how feminism negatively affects men and fathers and encourages them to behave in ways that ultimately undermine themselves, women and relationships. In the interest of fairness and equality, today I would like to point out how feminism insults and demeans women. Feminists claim to represent and promote the interests of women, but if you scratch the surface, you’ll find that feminism embraces a streak of misogyny to make the ancient patriarchs green with envy. Here are six ways that feminism insults, belittles and demeans the women it is supposedly supporting and encouraging.

1. Yes Means Yes
The new Yes Means Yes affirmative consent law in California achieves a few astonishing feats: it turns normal, consensual sex into rape and it strips the accused of due process by requiring confirmation of consent at all stages of sexual encounters. Consent must be enthusiastic, ongoing and affirmed. Not only does this turn sex into a decidedly unsexy, legally fraught encounter, but it also implicitly requires men to obtain consent from women and not the other way around. I have yet to have a feminist give me a clear answer to one simple question: “I have never, ever once requested permission from a man to have sex with him—am I a rapist?” What underlies the whole affirmative consent program is the idea that women are emotionally crippled, fearful, insecure and immature weaklings who cannot possibly make their thoughts and desires clearly known to adult partners.

Feminist laws about consent turn grown women into slobbering, babbling toddlers who must be interrogated at every stage of the game to see what their thoughts might be, rather like trying to figure out which underpants your two-year-old wants to wear when he has forgotten the words “Incredible Hulk.” My, how empowering. No thanks.

2. Trigger Warnings
Trigger warnings are the most ridiculous, patronizing and infantilizing creations ever to come out of feminism. The general idea is that individuals who have experienced some particular issue (rape, fat-shaming, street harassment, papercuts, etc.) might confront an article called “I Got a Papercut and Was Fat-Shamed by a Street Harasser Two Days After I Was Raped,” have absolutely no idea what the article might be about, proceed to read said article and subsequently require medication to deal with the PTSD triggered by the memories of the traumatic event(s). Exactly how pathetic do you have to be to confront words describing situations you might find upsetting and require authorial permission to stop reading? Know what I hate? Reading about adults who kill infants. It makes me feel sick to my stomach, so when I see headlines like “Mother Microwaves Baby,” I don’t read them.

In the era of clickbait journalism, it’s incredibly rare to see headlines like “Unusual Situation Happened Last Night” or some other misleading or elusive headline that downplays the actual events. Quite the opposite. But feminists adore trigger warnings because it reinforces the idea that women are ruled by their emotions, are incapable of recovering from trauma and are just generally hysterical nitwits unprepared to confront adulthood and reality. How encouraging! How supportive! No thanks.

3. Domestic Violence and the Duluth Model
One of the most frustrating things about watching feminists deny that women can be and are violent in their personal relationships is that feminism is in essence denying that women are fully human. In order to perpetuate the narrative that men are violent monsters who must be controlled by women lest we all end up chained in basements, feminists deny the full humanity of men and women. The goal is undoubtedly to create a climate of fear that discourages women and men from creating loving, trusting relationships with one another beyond the control of the state or an ideology. But in dehumanizing men, feminism also dehumanizes women. Men are left with strength, power, agency and responsibility (which of course they abuse), and women are left with weakness, powerlessness, resignation and defeat.

The Duluth Model—which emphasizes that no matter what injuries a woman has inflicted on a man, the man should be considered the perpetrator—also reinforces the idea that women are equivalent to children who must not be held responsible for their actions because they lack the maturity and rationality to understand what they are doing. You don’t arrest a child for kicking her mother, but you do arrest a mother for kicking her child. When it comes to domestic violence, feminists consider the women children. Gee, that’s not infantilizing at all. The trouble with being human is that sometimes humans suck and they act like deranged, violent assholes and, sorry, feminists, but men do not have the market cornered on that at all (*cough* Hope Solo *cough*).

4. Affirmative Action for STEM Programs
Affirmative action programs were born out of a time in which black students in particular were denied access to higher education for no reason other than the fact they were black. They had the abilities, grades, achievements and skills to be in a particular discipline and were denied the opportunity because of the level of melanin in their skin. Those were worthwhile programs that needed to happen, but then feminists got hold of them. They began to change programs from ones designed to address real, actual prejudice and promote a meritocracy into ones designed to force access for the un- or under-qualified simply because.

Interestingly enough, affirmative action programs that push qualified black students higher up the academic chain are more likely to result in those students dropping out, since being perfectly qualified to compete in a B-level school but getting shoved up to an A-level because someone thinks superficial diversity is a good idea means that a competitive student is suddenly facing adversaries he or she is not qualified to compete with.

This is the exact impact that pushing women into STEM careers is having. Women are encouraged to ignore what their natural needs and wants are, enter careers that they are only nominally qualified to be in and guess what happens? The vast majority of women with STEM qualifications are not working in the field at all. Money and time wasted, all because feminism thinks women should be forced into ideologically defined roles (Engineer! Astrophysicist! Chemist!) that meet their fantasies of “equality.” Feminism insults women by telling them that their natural interests are wrong and they are too stupid to know what’s good for them. No thanks.

5. Microaggressions
If trigger warnings are the dumbest thing to come out of feminism, microaggressions are a close second. The very definition of pettiness, microaggressions are teeny-tiny irritations that women are encouraged to nurture into long-standing grudges until they spill out into hysteria and mania. Did you once go for coffee with a guy and it led to sex? Any time a guy asks you for coffee, it automatically means he wants to Bleep you! Were you one time slightly uncomfortable in an elevator with a guy you sort of knew but not really? Men on elevators will attack you! Did a guy on an elevator ask you for coffee? Sexual harassment! Alert the presses! Asking women for coffee is a way to remind them that elevators are perfect places to rape!

What feminists refer to as microaggressions, the rest of us sane adults call life. Getting cut off in traffic, having someone snap at you because they’re having a shitty day, a socially awkward moment with a colleague, a stranger rushing past you and inadvertently bumping your coffee—these are not things meant to point out your meaningless existence and your powerlessness in the face of others. They’re just life.

The concept of microaggressions encourages women to think that every single thing in the world is, or should be, about them. It encourages breathless levels of narcissism, solipsism and just plain delusion. You know who else thinks that everything in the world is about them? Two-year-olds. Feminism encourages women to believe that they have the same reasoning and coping abilities as toddlers. No thanks.

6. Street Harassment
When researchers at Loyola University asked men and women whom they preferred to make the first move, 83% of men and a whopping 93% of women preferred that men do the asking. Any man who reasonably expects to initiate a relationship with a woman had better be prepared to suck it up and put himself out there to risk rejection, and potentially very humiliating rejection.

Is it really any wonder that some men, particularly those of lower socioeconomic standing, might mitigate against rejection by injecting some levity or a degree of inappropriateness into their approach? Poor men, and poor men of color in particular, are of the least social value to women. Women still want rich guys. Big surprise. And women want men to approach them. Now take a white woman and have her stomp through economically deprived New York neighborhoods with a scowl on her face, acting like she owns the damn place, and what do you think happens? She gets a few comments. And then promptly begins to shriek about street harassment.

Street harassment is the trifecta of feminist insults to women. Women are presumed to be racist, classist and sexist all at the same time but still encouraged to imagine themselves the victim. It is sexist for women to expect men to make the first move in establishing contact. It is racist for women to enter public spaces dominated by people of color and then sneer at those people for attempting to initiate contact. It is classist for women to enter lower socioeconomic neighborhoods and then behave contemptuously towards the people who live there. That street harassment video was especially infuriating for promoting a cluelessness in women that relentlessly insults and degrades poor men of color, all the while encouraging women to exult in their own victimhood status.

Women are perfectly capable of understanding race, class and sexism and acting in ways that perpetuate none of those things. Women are more than capable of understanding which situations afford them privileges and not to take advantage of those privileges in a way that dehumanizes and abuses other people. Once again, feminism insists that women are toddlers and whoever takes the sippy cup from their hands is mean and wrong.

Women as children, women as hysterical, women as irrational, women as incapable, women as selfish, women as unaccountable—these are all accusations that feminists throw at the so-called patriarchy. But when you put down the dictionary and look at what feminism actually says and does, who is it that insults, infantilizes and demoralizes women?

The broader culture treats women as adult humans capable of making choices and dealing with the consequences of those choices, just as we expect all men to do. Feminism is the social movement pushing to treat women as large children who need protection from their own actions.

The earliest waves of feminism fought long and hard to give women all the rights and some of the responsibilities of adulthood. I would like to see women achieve full equality by accepting all the same responsibilities that men do. The only thing standing in the way of equality that I can see is feminism. And we don’t need a movement that undermines women’s agency and adulthood.

We don’t need feminism.

Magnoliaa

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