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Reex12:
if you dont have what motivates you in life already until you enter a rationship for a hoe to validate you, then you have no direction

Readers are leaders, you didnt bother reading my post so I have nothing else to say to you.

SmellySperm:
he's a modafvcker bro....

how tf can a real man's motivation depend on these hoes? tf

You guys need to read. Read and learn.

Walkee:
you will understand better when you are older and more exposed

Another assumption, I go soon post my date of birth here o.. lol

Walkee:
You sound like an upcoming

Lol. Na you know that one.

Reex12:
so dating a female being gives you extramotivation,if she then cheats on you and leaves you,your extra motivation will die a natural death till you find another female to latch unto for extramotivation.
Sounds too me like your codependent,needy, emotional

English is hard indeed. Why would I date someone WHO ADDS NOTHING TO ME? YOU MUST ADD SOME VALUE OR BRING ONE. if I gain nothing from dating you, you are LEECH, A PARASITE and not useful.

I am highly motivated but motivation no get end point, some people can inspire you for more greatest, just choice them wisely.

odinson1:
The love,care,support,advice your Girlfriend gives to you are all useless,baseless and Intangible when it comes to Solving real life problems

You and I well Know that Women DO NOT love(it is Actually impossible,and the only Variants are Mothers to their kids)

As for the Care support and advice,she takes care of you with what? Your own money you give her to Cook for you?

She supports you with what? Unending bills,nagging and stupid requests?

As for the Advice,it's the only Beneficiary thing(Apart from cooking and cleaning) Nigerian girls offer in relationships

You assume a lot. I don't date low income girls, never did, my family wont allow it. That is why I said whatever SHE MAKES I WANT TO MAKE A 100 FOLDS.

She has her money and buys me gifts when its necessary or as a surprise. Her advice may not all be useful but I have benefitted from at least a couple. They were good financial pointers, I personally wished she could give me such advice regularly but I guess she was lucky in those instances to stumble on such tips.

So get your facts straight.

odinson1:
You expect your Girlfriend to be the backbone for your success?
If someone has to Motivate you in order for you to succeed,then you are not ready to Succeed at all.
Also,you shouldn't miss Business With Pleasure,don't expect your Girlfriend to grow with you in business or Give you financial Advice that will benefit You solely

English isn't hard, please get your facts straight. I clearly said, I AM HIGHLY MOTIVATED, JUST LIKE MY FATHER. LIKE FATHER LIKE SON. dating any girl only gives me EXTRAMOTIVATION.

I getting advice doesn't mean I'm now in business with anybody, we arent business partners. Or you mean to say the experts I sometimes pay for financial pointers ARE NOW BUSINESS PARTNERS WITH ME?

odinson1:
Nigerian girls are useless...All of them

Including your Past,current and future Girlfriends

Girls who want to be feminist and still hold down traditional feminine roles and privileges ARE USELESS. They are neither truly this or that and A PAIN TO A MAN.

odinson1:
All Those you listed Are Intangible and Inconsequential When it comes to Real Life Situations.
you can easily get those from Family or friends And it CANNOT be compared to What A man provides in a Relationship or marriage

That being said,Nigerian girls are Useless...All of them

Not necessarily intangible. An advice can be on any issue, even business related and if its financially sound and brings in GOOD MONEY, so it isn't intangible. I sometimes pay people for financial pointers, experts that is.

I can talk about the others but not yet.

odinson1:
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How much you go sell that space?

Barbiturate:
It is not advisable to marry someone of similar character with you. It has to be the opposite.

Werey man + sane woman = good
Werey woman + sane man = good

Werey man + werey woman = dicey
Sane man + sane woman = dull.

I prefer go with someone who understands you or can tolerate you. When a werey man what's to go clubbing at midnight but his sane woman wants to sleep like normal sane people, that's a sign of future problems cause the 2 must work as 1. If almost everytime when the sane one wants to relax the werey one wants to go out it will cause a rift and vice versa if the werey one is a woman and the sane one a man.

So just go with someone that can tolerate your excesses and join you in them.

Who is 501one?

5. Advice: I get tons of it from her, especially unsolicited ones. I listen though because YOU LEARN ALOT ABOUT A PERSON BY THE KIND OF ADVICE THEY GIVE, plus IT'S FREE.

purples25:
Lots of women marry broke guys by the way.

Rich people are very few around here.

"When the desired is not available, the available becomes desired" - anonymous

StacyO:
1) They'll surely agree to it. Just make their mouths oily enough.

2) Correct. Perdoñ the wrong use of English.

Its okay. What's the topic about?

StacyO:
1) A retirement plan will be convenient enough.


2) Once he get's the power, he can demand for a change in the constitution which would be attended to quickly than when a common man makes such demands.

1. Retirement plan is good but ONLY if they agree to it.

2. Just like I said but it wont come as a DEMAND but a SUGGESTION, cause there is division of POWER between the EXECUTIVE and LEGISLATIVES.

Both points raised above is in an ideal DEMOCRACY.

Nazgul:
1. As a president the first thing I'll do is to clean my house. Let's assume I get elected under APC, I must rid APC off corrupt elements if I'm to succeed.

Obasanjo did this in 1999 when he was elected, he retired all the generals that rigged him into power.

I'll make every old school politician in my government politically useless, if the make noise I'll send the efcc after them, freeze their account...etc. once I've eliminated the threat if godfatherism, I will be free to concentrate on my job as the president.

2. Pare down parastatals. Take it or leave it, there are over 500 government agencies in Nigeria, most operate as ghost agencies, and have become channels for embezzlement. For example I'll merge FRSC, EFCC, ICPC...into the police force. Every other parastatal that looks irrelevant will be closed down. Monies given to these parastatals must be accounted for or else heads will roll.

3. Tame white elephant projects. I remember the Lagos ibadan express way, more than 3 presidents budgeted millions for that roads, but year in year out, the road was still in progress. White elephant projects will not exist in my government, every project that is awarded to a contractor must be completed as complete funds will be made available for them. Projects under my leadership will not be an avenue to siphon funds.

4. Security. Experienced, tested and trusted generals will head the country's military, the police force will be reformed as well. And before I forget, I'll issue a law that anyone found with a gun who isn't a security personnel will face firing squad, the law must be enforced by relevant security operatives,

5. I'll work on the country's debt. Under the obsanjo administration, Nigeria was granted debt relief.

Truth is the balance sheet of the 36 states are sinking deep into the red, In a decentralized federal system like Nigeria’s, state budgets typically affect the lives of ordinary citizens more than federal spending does. State borrowing are very risky and must be addressed ASAP.

6. Infrastructure, Health Care, Education, Sports...I'll appoint seasoned hands with a history of success in that field as ministers, and support them with whatever they need to move their various ministries forward.

I'll stop here for now.

1. Your point one, I don't think you have the powers to retire a civil servant unless his new post is by appointment.

2. You can't just close down agencies, they are established by decrees and Acts which are in the Nigerian constitution. So your executive powers cant work there, only the national assembly at your suggestion can look into the matter and lawfully review the constitution to strike of such decrees or Acts.

I cant type too long so I wont touch the other points.

FreeSpirited:
What if she breaks up? Will you lose your motivation? Stop being responsible? Have no more company and good pictures? If yes, u need to discover yourself

English comprehension is truly hard. Please calm down and read again for clarity.

PoliteActivist:
Someone to pretend u have to consult if you want to say no

Lmao.

If it doesn't directly involve her I dont tell her. Unless it will affect her then she will know.

taiwoowiat:
The Person Who Says "he Who Find Wife Find Happiness" Has Apologized ���

Lmao

PoliteActivist:
Children?

Too regular

Many girls don't know what they offer in a relationship aside sex and it's sad though.

I don't believe in feminism, so I don't expect a girl to offer the things I am suppose to offer in a relationship. For those that are feminist, I BELIEVE YOU SHOULD OFFER THE SAME THINGS LIKE GUYS IN A RELATIONSHIP. Can never date one though.
So let me relate from personal experience what women have offered in my life and still do aside the regular-like sex, cooking, washing and other menial stuffs.

1. Extra motivation: I am highly motivated. My dad is a no nonsense man and he is strongly traditional and believes it's a man's duty to provide for ALL the needs of his family, no matter how little. And he has been doing that for close to 3 decades- so like father like son. But with a woman I seem to get extra motivation- whatever she makes I want to make more in 100 folds. So I do alot of businesses aside my job to meet up and keep meeting up.

2. Responsible: with a woman by my side, I get more respect from men and women alike (I dont mean runs girl o, I mean a girl with a good portfolio that you can introduce to friends and family). People respect you if you have money but if you are engaged or married people think you are responsible and mature.

3. Company: for most part I like my own company. I'm a social media person, so I am never unoccupied but with a woman especially an eloquent one is talk-talk-talk. The quality of the conversation may not always be top notch but sometimes human interaction beats social media engagements.

4. Pictures: I take the best pictures when I am with her. I don't like taking pictures personally, cause I dont seem to remember. My best pictures on my phone were taken by her except I go to the photo studio which I rarely do.

If I remember others, I'll drop it.

purples25:
My price is love and affection, and something that is going somewhere. But sex is the thing that most guys want.

Lol. Okay

StacyO:
Ever wanted to clean your ear and the next thing that pops into your mind is making use of a feather??
This practice isn't quite common but, those that have tried it can give a testimony of how this works.

Research has if that it is quite unhealthy and doesn't even clean the ear properly.

We have a lot of methods used in keeping the ear clean.

This methods include::

[color=TEAN]1) Cotton buds:: The use of cotten buds is highly accepted cause, the cotton according to research poses no harms to the ears and can equally clean the ear without leaving any germs.
Research equally has it that when you push the cotton bud into the ear, it actually shifts the wax deeper, thereby blocking the ear drums.

2) Matchsticks:: Second instrument of extreme enjoyment. This pose a high risk cause there's every tendency the match stick might mistakenly reach a breaking point inside your drum of dirt.

3) Feathers:: This doesn't wipe the ear completely clean and might actually attract more germs or foreign harmful substances into your ears. There's no doubt, you reach a level of ecstasy when you make use of this medium



I've tried all cause practically I'm a fan of clean ears. But, there was no other experience that matched the one I witnessed when I made use of the feather.

It can make you cry and scream I love you to hades [/color]

Which do you prefer?

In romance section dear?

Nazgul:
Well said.

Hunger and greed is what has made relationships terrible, most girls just keep longing for what will destroy them.

Only a foolish girl will accept to date a successful guy whom she rejected when he was still struggling. Such relationship will definitely have no future cos the guy will make sure he bangs her brains out then kick her off and still mock her, some guys can be that childish.

Very true, but most ladies wont complain if it is worth her time in MILLIONS

purples25:
I just stopped laughing.

Something I'm used to happened today. A guy that I had politely refused last year came to me this morning. He immediately told me he has a job now. Told me the full name of the company and everything else. Then he started asking me aggressively about where I have reached in life and all that.

I chatted normally with him, I told him I was happy for him. Later, he asked if he could call me at a certain time. When I told him he could, he started saying that it was not so before, that before, my anthem was that he cannot reach me for various excuses.

I laughed, because, I now understood the whole issue. He believed it was because of money that I didn't allow him access to me anyhow. I just told him that he shouldn't worry because my phone was bad. He continued to reply in a sour tone. The funny thing is that I have no business with his money, because I am sure that none will land in my palm...so why would i be tripping because he got a job?

Another guy I rejected politely acted normal at the time. But after years he came back, asking me with full spite about my marital status and my job. Lol. He told me how he has a company now. I knew that was true because I had seen evidence of it growing and info about it in public over the years. He insisted that we should be dating now. But it couldn't happen because i knew he was just bitter, and thought that i should fall now because he has made it.

Guys, its not all about the money. Some women don't use your money to survive. Some have parents and don't really care to be bound in chains because of indomie and egg, credit, or sharwama. There are more serious issues. E.g the relationship should be going somewhere. Sometimes its tribal or religious, maybe she knows her parents wont accept you. Why would a woman smell what she won't eat, just because of your feelings?

Guys, take a chill pill.

If you are truly CONTENTED then I commend you, cause most girls aren't contented with what they have or what their parents have, or even with what their partners have.

In another scenario, maybe you havent seen the MONEY or GIFT that would move you. While sharwama, indomie and eggs and those little things may not move you, a guy buying you a G-wagon worth millions, gifting you a duplex on the island or giving you millions in your account to be his girlfriend or wife MAY move you. I imagine if these was what those your admirers offered when they returned it would have been a BIG TEST FOR YOU, cause if you turn them down some OTHER GIRL will gladly accept them with open arms.

lastburn:
My girlfriend and I had dis talk about what she consider cheating in a relationship. Guys you should ask your girlfriends or wife and you fit shock! She said what she consider as cheating is sex! So long as you guys didn't have sex then its not cheating no matter what you guys are doing!!!! I weak... As for me? If you play, you play to win!

If you want her to learn and see your point, start doing EXACTLY LIKE HER. Keep lots of female friends and bestie and do things with them aside SEX, and watch how her understanding will suddenly become clear.

She keeps those guys for what she can gain from them which most times is money related, only problem is some guys will have their way with her for the money.

Preciousgirl:
The young men of today love older women
What is the reason or motivation?
What is attractive about older women?

Me I don't, only one ever caught my fancy. Thought she was 23 but turns out she was 36, omo I was shocked. So it's still NO.

stanliwise:
You just instantly agreed to my previous post. Some People never learned to control their impulses.
Anyone who tells you he/she cheats because of just money or some material stuff didn’t tell you the full story.

You still dont get my stance. Been GREEDY is an impulse that if not controlled can turn to a bad habit. Many ladies growing up never LEARNT to be CONTENTED with whatever means they have or their families can provide. They CAN'T resist MONEY even if it is from a SOURCE they shouldn't collect it from.

Now since GREED is now part of their habit, when someone who looks EXPENSIVE offers to spoil them, whether he us SINGLE or NOT, the GREED in them will kick in and they will act on it to the extent of having sexual relations.

They know MOST RICH AND SUCCESSFUL MEN can never be truly single but the GREED in them wont allow them reason ALONG that LINE.

BareFacedLies:
Monogamy is against natural order

Like you havent seen animals that practice monogamy, having one mate for life?

If polygamy is the way, then it means going by animal nature- no female should be faithful to a man, cause females in animal kingdom can mate with several males during their life time.

Also after mating some female animals especially insects like the spider and mantis eat their Male mates after sex ( so they can kill us after sex or later in marriage when their emotions flare up), or is it the sea horse that abandons her children for the Male to raise while she goes in search of another Male mate ( should women behave like this too?).

See nature is not the answer to this cheating issue.

stanliwise:
To be verbose, cheating is at the core of every human. The brain see anything it likes and goes for it but being civil we work by conscious thought and experiences and then by our law.
In Our primitive nature there is no such thing that you must stick to one partner but over time we could train our mind to behave in a particular way.

Now that aside our sexual Orientation works in several ways, some people are highly active sexually simply because their libido level is very high, that is one. Secondly, some people have wide range of sexual fantasies that even their partner can never meet, also some people just like varieties of different sex pattern (bisexual most especially). Some are purely just for adventurous, the act of cheating is the reward rather than the cheating itself. If they could fake it they can even go such extent just to get same drama.

But everything all boils that to self control and using the brain to do thinking rather than acting out of mere emotions and pleasures.

So in-conclusion there is a limit to how much external influences has on cheating, gender isn’t a very big part of them, nor material stuffs, take time to check the character of the person. Most time they choose to act out of primitive nature.

I dont agree with you. Do you know how many impulses people have while growing up? You want to take what is not yours, you are tempted to jump off a high building or bridge, you are tempted to play with fire, you are tempted to run away from home when your parents offend you and any other wild thoughts that may cross peoples head while growing up. Those impulses dont DEFINE your ORIENTATION, those impulses are just A TEMPORARY reaction of your senses to different environments and emotions. The frontal part of your brain over time should be able to control such impulses ONLY if you dont INDULGE in them.

People who have weird fantasies where those who failed to control their impulses in their developmental stage. They are addicts now to their impulses in adulthood. So nothing, no character is inbuilt in a child, it is rather taught or learnt as they grow up and explore.

stanliwise:
Cheating is a character. If only you understand then you would stop worrying too much when people cheat.
If cheating ain’t your thing, you wouldn’t be interested too much in it. It could happen but it would be very rare.

"Cheating is a character" like it was inbuilt in some people. Nobody had cheating inbuilt into their character, rather people started to cheat for various reasons and after a while they became addicted to it, like any bad habit formed.