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BronzeMajik:
Second scenario, I'm siding with my dad.. I Will not be caught asking who wronged who..
I'd apologize to my boo later on

And the first ?

habsydiamond:
what will make one or both to see u as a weak man is if u try to judge them publicly... Doing it privately will make u feel like a king without breaking anyone's feelings.

It's okay. Fair enough

habsydiamond:
Why would I be the judge when I no study law or constitution in school... Best thing to do is to talk beg them both first. Later converse with them privately... But don't play the blaming game.... If u are to blame, do it stylishly without anyone being hurt

So you dont mind to be seen as a weak man? Or called a weak man?

healthbing:
Yes..it won't be nice for a man to raise his voice on his mother in the front of the wife and vice-versa..I have brothers and I know how it will feel if they raise their voice on my mother because of a woman knowing fully well what she went through for us..
Its better you rebuke them privately that's respect and honor..

Besides I don't subscribe to parents living with their children especially if the marriage is still young..unless she's coming for holidays, medical trip or omugwu..

Good take, you tried

healthbing:
I will beg everyone ooh..when everyone is calm and at peace then I will address the issues individually..
I won't rebuke my husband in the presence of my father neither will I rebuke my father in the presence of my husband..
I will just talk to them individually..

It's like begging is the new trend .

What if it was the other way round, will you be happy your husband begs you and his mother equally without taking sides?

Nazgul:
I disagree...by begging I meant this.

I'll tell my mum and her to make peace regardless of what cause their issues, I'll activate my emotional blackmailing skills by telling them both that their fight will only lead me to an early grave making her (my wife a widow and my mum without a child) when I'm done with my begging I'll take them out for lunch and case solved.

What caused it will no longer be necessary, I didn't take anyone's side I stepped in and absorbed the blame so the two will be fine.

Judging like I stated earlier will make the guilty party hate you...no matter how much you try to point it out to her that she was wrong she will always blame you for siding with the other party against her.

These are not regular friends we're talking about here, they're the two most important women in your life who love you with everything in them. So sperating an argument between them has to be done with wisdom or else you'll end up creating a problem that wouldn't be solved in your lifetime.

I see your point, nice take, really nice.

Your approach is slightly suited more to your mother though.
Your wife may be expecting she takes first preference though.

Nazgul:
I will beg everyone o...I can't come and kill myself untop woman matter, and I don't even have the strength to start judging their issue, cos the problem about judging is that there will always be a guilty party. That guilty party who will either be your wife or mum as the case might be will hate you for taking sides with the other person. That that will spark the beginning of hostilities in your house.

I think this is tagged at onlyfacts. But if you only beg and the issue is not addressed, hostilities will still exist between mom and wife. Your indecisiveness may even earn you some too.

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Tough questions about relationships, can you answer it. The rules are simple. Whatever options you picked in scenario one, you must pick in scenario two, you can't switch, so are you ready?


Scenario 1

Let's imagine you are married to a woman you love. You get along fine with her and your family. One day in your absence she gets into a verbal exchange with your mother while you are at work.

She calls to inform you before you return so you can have her back cause you are her husband. So as you get home, you wife is outside to welcome you and lead you inside, your mom is waiting for you patiently in the living room, as soon as you walk in she begins to call out your wife in your presence while your wife nudges at you to confront her on her behalf, what will you do?

(A) confront your mom and defend your wife as a lover boy?

(B) side with your mom as a mommy's boy?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight and be seen as a weak man?

(D) rebuke everyone including your mother and wife and become the NEW VILLAIN as the disrespectful man?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive, as the heartless man?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, and be seen as A JUDGE and not a CARING SON or LOVING HUSBAND?


Scenario 2.

You have been married to your husband, who has been such a blessing. One day you go to the market and before you can come back your husband calls you on the phone and started complaining bitterly about the heated argument he and your father just had at your back and that it is still on going. You quickly rush home. At the door your husband is waiting for you, in the dining room your dad is waiting for you also. And as soon as you walk in with your husband he begins to tackle him again in your presence, while your husband nudges at you to confront him on his behalf, what will you do?

(A)confront your dad and defend your husband as a lover girl?

(B) side with your dad as a daddy's girl?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight?

(D) rebuke everyone including your dad and husband and become the NEW VILLAIN?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, even if it's your husband or father?

Seun
Rocktation

sonmvayina:
Yes i would, just like what iron man did in end game. Death is just an illusion anyway...

So you stuck with the principle of the greater good. Good to know

Lucrativress:
Ehn give your own na on the matter

Why is mine the ISSUE HERE smart pants

Lucrativress:
I need answer

No right or wrong answer like I said, this is just to simulate your thinking

Lucrativress:
Oya what's your own answer to all those your scenario's?

Wahala o . Smart pants you have come again

Lucrativress:
My answer is centering around me not being the sacrificial Lamb.
I'm not interest in them erecting a monuments afterwards, mbanu

Yeah, we are still saying thing. The good thing is no wrong or write answer. it only test if we can follow a certain principle all of the time whether in different circumstances.

Lucrativress:
You're not getting my answer na
You asked 2 different questions in the same option
If I chose B,will I leave one man to die? Which is (A)
I said yes and gave my reason's
You went ahead to say if I chose that (A) and I could be by the side of the track and die in their stead,will I do it,and I said nope,cause I'm not Jesus

You got it confused. Young lady look at it closely again. Option A has two questions, although two different scenarios. And both question involves killing 1 to save 5.

Lucrativress:
I'm not Jesus so I won't drag places with Him so nope

So you changed your stance on sacrificing 1 to save 5. Well no right or wrong answer.

Lucrativress:
The word is Euthanasia

Good you found it.

Lucrativress:
(B)
I will choose B
Because we all have the right to live and there is a code of conduct with organ donation that surpasses sentiment,which is "consent"
We are all born to die,so if the healthy man won't give his consent,and none of the ill patient's won't give theirs,then I'd either leave them alone or wait and check the weakest of situations with an 80% probability of dying and just tell him,his case is too severe,will he rather choose,now I've forgotten the name of that thing where they do (the right to die,through a painless death or something, injection) I will tell him this or convince him to give out his organs so parts of him can keep living since he will die soon anyways

I think HOSPICE is the word you are looking for.

Lucrativress:
Scenario A
I will pick the intersection and make just 1 man die
Why?
Because I will live to tell the story and a next time I'll carry a piped organ to blow so loud since I've been in that situation before, I don't think any other person will know that than me.

Nice one, you havent answered the second part of the question.

If you picked A can you answer this. Suppose you were standing at the side of the Track before the rail intersection and you are sure if you jump into the track, the train will KILL YOU but stop moving therefore SAVING 5 or 6 rail workers in the process will you go ahead with it seeing your SACRIFICE WILL BE SAVING 6 LIVES? if yes why and if not, why not.

sonmvayina:
We really face tough decisions in this life...i guess i will go with the lesser of the evil...i can try ans live with that on my conscience...

Or i will just scream "blood of jesus and apostle sulieman, the train will just be transported to ilorin by magic....

End of story..

Lol na wa you didnt answer the other part.


If you picked A can you answer this. Suppose you were standing at the side of the Track before the rail intersection and you are sure if you jump into the track, the train will KILL YOU but stop moving therefore SAVING 5 or 6 rail workers in the process will you go ahead with it seeing your SACRIFICE WILL BE SAVING 6 LIVES? if yes why and if not, why not.

Lucrativress:
There's a but
If the Lady has never been into any relationship, it is possible cause she won't miss what she doesn't know..

So what if she had a bad experience in it? Will she still miss it?

What if a guy had a bad experience in it too, will he still want to go back?


Why do single teenage boys and girls feel they are missing something without dating despite having no previous relationship?

phodoraz:
I don't think so

Okay if that's your honest answer, then its valid too.

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Lucrativress:
Judging from my view
"I don't"

Okay, your answer is valid if you truly believe it. Let me not go any deeper.

phodoraz:
A time will come when you will want more. Enjoy this phase

Do you believe a young independent woman can live HER BEST LIFE WITHOUT A MAN? if you do, why are you guilt tripping that innocent man?

If you dont, then I get your objection.

So which is it?

Lucrativress:
I give you one to two years from now, depending on your present age and work load

Hello young lady,

Do you believe a young independent woman can live HER BEST LIFE WITHOUT A MAN? if you do, why are you guilt tripping that innocent man?

If you dont, then I get your objection.

So which is it smart pants?

culf:
1. No, I haven't met you before, though I know what I'm taking about. let me leave it that that..

2. Those seeking their right, are they not Nigerians? Have you met honest and sincere retirees beginning for food because their entitlement has not been paid? Have you seen or heard of retirees that died because of delay in payment of their entitlement and so also because they don't have alternative means of survival? Are they not Nigerians? Let's not be bias.

You havent met me ,so been more patriotic than me is only an assumption.

This is about people in active essential services. All retired personnel can go on strike for whatever they are owed by government, it doesnt affect essential services or what I am referring to in my post.

capitalzero:
Denial. Do you have copies of labour act, trade dispute act and international labour convention?
If you don't have them, try to search for them.

I know labour laws and that is where I got the ESSENTIAL SERVICE PRINCIPLES in strike action. They never totally go off completely on strike. Yours I never heard off, so if you have the facts drop it here and educate me. Nobody is above learning.

capitalzero:
It depends on patients load in each hospital. Some hospitals still attend to some emergencies. You don't take new patients if you don't have human resources to take care of them.

No old patients are even kept, all have been discharged or referred.

capitalzero:
You can search Google. I should not be spoon feeding you

Such laws dont exist, nothing like been spoon fed here but if you have them I am open minded to look at that.

capitalzero:
Go through labour act, trade dispute act, international labour convention etc. You are just being sentimental.

Please show me the laws you mean, the sentence or statement used there. Let me see. thanks

capitalzero:
Skeletal services are being rendered.

Not true, patient are been turned away from the A/E and the wards are vacant. No HO's on ground and consultants won't do anything without HO'S and residents.

Only outpatients that have routine drugs to pick up can get them or if they have consultant clinics to attend as outpatients.