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The accent tend to originate from Country of Eastern Africa,  Probably KENYA or UGANDA.  Back to topic, Such is Life,  We win some and Loose some

Agluvs9ja:
Thread re-opened.

As much as i agree with most Part of your post, Still i perceive sarcasm in some Part. Nobody deserve to be illtreated, But some people Must learn it hard way. Some immature minds (Male & Female alike) may apply this wrongly in the name of Trying to be visible in a Relationship.

I doubt if it is Just about differences in their Christian faith, I feel there is more to it than the eye can see,  But then some Human beings are weired,

Isn't Life funny, Between the Devil and Deep Blue sea,  They say!

I Just got this from Another Forum, I Thought is worth discussing here too,

I was shocked when I got a phone call yesterday from a friend in Naija that his mother wants to drink acid if he insists to marry the girl he love after they have dated for 4 years.

When I call his mother she said to me and I quote “you know I am a Christian mother in the Mary league in our church, I can’t stand the insult of him marring a girl from so called Pentecostal church. And I asked, mama you know they have been dating for 4 years now? And she said “I thought it was just ordinary friendship, it can’t be marriage, over my dead body she said.

Pals  I need help

I Have seen the Sweet and Bitter sides of a relationship and i have learn from them, Positively but in a Hard way and it has made me a Better Person. It hurts my person every-time a Retarded Person comes here slagging off the opposite gender for Their misfortunes.

If you want to live a happy life, Dont expect too much from Human being and see that anytime they disappoint, you will never be hurt. Anything you do, Example Relationships: Always Hope for the Best BUT Expect the Worst.

I dont believe that Our opposite gender is always the villain, if you look inward, you will see that Human nature is unpredictable. If you are hurt by A doesn't imply automatically that B is wicked.

A mature Mind should understand that wickedness has nothing to do with Gender, rather the Nature of who we all are. I might cheat on Girl A and be faithful to Girl B.

Be enlighten enough to know that you will never find a perfect person, If it doesn't work with A it might work with B

I Place my Fate in God

The truth of the matter is that most of this so call Girls doesn't have Men the call their own, Same goes to all the Weak Men (BOYS) that comes here bragging of How to Handle Women.

What that works for A might Not work for B, Some people like it Wild while some loves it Cold. Love/Relationship/Marriage is like a double edge sword, Relationship is not a Book that will always end the same way. Some people have to learn it the hard way while some will Learn in an easy way, 

In Conclusion: No-matter what you do, don't forget to learn a lesson from it whether Good or Bad.

Peace,

ITbomb:
^ Translation

Was meant for the OP, He states in is Profile that he resides in The Netherlands, Maybe he will understand

@ohaechesi, waar woont je, Welk stad woon je? ik woon in Den Haag! Spreek je nederland?

You are the sugar in my Tea,
Cockroach in my drawer,
Pant on my west,
The ink on my paper,
Hmmm I Love you tire, Will you Love me back? lol

This is nothing more than a Scammer trying to earn a Living, Dont be fool, The Devils offer nothing for free

There is nothing i wish more than this, I Pray a better opportunity shows itself, I am tired of the western Life yet I dont really see myself surviving in the Jungle call Nigeria without earning above average, I Love my Country, I Love Nigeria

MRbrownJAY:
^^^^^dont you think that it all depends of what that person's aspirations are? how can someone miss something they have never experience and have NO chance of experiencing?!

automatically believing that a 30yr old woman is more mature and ready for marriage than a 20yr old would have you fail because some women at 30 (or even 40) have also YET TO SEE WHAT THE WORLD HAS TO OFFER
btw: is a woman who've "seen what the world has to offer" better than one who hasnt?!

as for your 99% claim, its all down to maturity. some people marry at 18yrs old and live wonderful lives, just because most 20yr old you meet want to sell their coochie for a BB, doesnt mean they are all like that. i would rather say its a 60%.

@MRbrownJAY, This is my take on this, Why i put that statistic at 99% is that, At 20, most of the girls are fragile in Heart, They are yet to distinguish Love and infatuation. The will want everything that the see and in some cases will succumb to any fella that can convince them of providing.

It is only in rear occurrence that a girl at that age will agree to settle down except for Family pressure or to escape poverty as in Most African Cases or pregnancy.

A girl at 20 needs to experience life, Love and probably be hurt to understand the true nature of Human beings, It is at some point she will understand the difference between Love and infatuation. It will be very hard for you to date and marry a girl at that age that doesn't really experience life to live with you till death do you part without cheating or Causing you pains.

Why do you think most (Married) Mature Men go after young girls, because most of them didn't have time or money to experience that in their youthful age.

My Brother, there is time for everything and no amount of money can buy that experience. As i said before, it is in rear occurrence will you find a Girl at under 21 in this present world that will love and be faithful for the rest of Her Life.

Then again, i didnt i say at 30 they are automatically Mature, It is about experience and Most 30 have gotten the experience to have a happy home than 20

99% of under 21 doesn't know what they want out of life. It is even with the grace of God for them to understand what they want between 25-27. Depending on what you want, under 21 can make your life tantalizing BUT never think of settling down with them at that age otherwise they will make your life a living hell.

Why because they are yet to see what the world has to offer.(The Sweet and Bitter side of Relationships)

Still battling with that feelings, I Love her with all my heart but things doesn't just seem right, How do i let go? It is a horrible feeling, I Pray every day to God to change our destiny and make things work out as we both planned or give me the grace to work away without hurting her or myself, I am becoming even more confuse with every passing day, How do i be at peace with myself after loving someone for four years, where do i start from? yet i have this feelings that if we force ourself to get married, we may be in for a rough ride for the rest of our Life, God i am so confuse

Where is the OP, Did you finally spill the bean or not?

On a second thought, Isn't your Profile status on FB states that you are single and still searching? I am a little Bit Curious here, Can you defend this?

190.:
^^
and where did u see his GF from amongs the 872 friends he has on FB

@190, Look well and you will see her girl, Leopard doesn't hide colour

@Panoma, Your situation is a difficult one yet not impossible, From your story they Guy is really into you and will damed the consequence and do everything to marry you with the believe it will go well later.

But before you decide, put yourself in the Man shoes, loving and taking care of another person for eight years with the believe that you'll end up together but one day he/she tells you that you aint good enough for marriage but good for your money.

I am not suggesting you go into a union that may cost your life or his, It is better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage. Tell the New Guy to give you a break while you sought things out with the Old guy.

Find time to talk with the old guy, Plead with him if need be, explain how you feel and the future of you together, dont tell him that you are leaving because he is not good enough or that you want to marry the other Guy(This is if he knows about him), Talk with him with respect(Expect any insult from him or even slap, but remain calm), Make him feel loved and admirable (He has certainly lost his self esteem).

Make sure he doesn't see you with any other person while the rehabilitation goes one, this with time will make him to rediscover himself and the fact that his once beautiful relationship has ended. Do not rush into any other union.

Take your time, avoid both men as much as you can until things settle down, then ask yourself if you still love the other Guy(It is possible you are loving the other Guy because you need and escape rout from your relationship)

Love is a difficult game to handle, the people that you love may not love you the way you think, Be careful

Just thought i should share me ideas with you,

Anyway, i wish you all the best and may God be with you and Guide you with your decision,

Mr Cork:
CUpid, bro can u quickly send me a picture of yo Girl friend.

I want to inspect her

Check his Facebook, you will see the young girl, She looks very young and certainly has some grow up to do. @Poster, Next time she is angry about your remarks, just tell her that Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, Tell her that complementing her beauty only makes you to love her and NOT necessarily that she is Agbani Darego or Beyonce Knowels,

I which you success,

Useless story from a useless dude, NA ONLY CALABAR you sabi, MUMU

See who is talking about indecency, How did it end in your Possession? You scumbag, Be it now or later, it will be on the Net, That is where the scandal always end,

@Poster, How do i believe you are saying the truth, Can i see a copy? ludovic@minister.com